Steph and Tom's PJ!1/3/10-WP/WHR/AAP/ITALY-We won Best Love Story! Thanks for voting.

[Chilly]

That sucks

 

[Lorelei528]

I am totally SUBBING!!!!

C'mon!! How many brunettes from Rockland whose favorite color is Purple (I really need to start posting some wedding pics!) are Disney Brides?!?! Besides, we're practically related!!

Please PM me your dress!!!

Everything looks great so far!!

 

[Stephie77]

i still think it is too much! i will DEF check out angeliques pictures on facebook when i get home. i just tried calling my friend melissa whose husband is good friends with anthony to tell her-this is just too funny!!!

 

[Stephie77]

thanks for the hugs claire! i keep telling myself once we are all in disney it will be ok.

 

[Stephie77]

So August 1 was our date for all responses to come back. We have gotten almost all of them back but still waiting for answers from some people. One person is one of my BFFs who keeps saying she is coming but does not know about her husband. i need to know since we have the WHR&P we can't go over 50. I think even if her husband comes we will be fine with the numbers though. i just hate when people are not honest and i know that she is afraid to talk to her husband-he is not the greatest person in the world-but we will see. she was suppose to talk to him 2 nights ago and i have not heard from her yet. i understand she has a money situation but me and my friends all did the destination bach. party for each other (this particular friend we actually took to disney 4 years ago for hers) so being i am the last one for mine i told them instead of dest. bach just come to my wedding. this way they are not spending alot of money twice. this friend pulled the same type thing for my other friends bach. party in the bahamas last year and ended up not going b/c of her husband and his refusal to watch their child for a long weekend. sorry to vent but just so frustrated with people. i do everything for everyone and then when it is mine turn it is a big deal. am i being bridezilla????

so another wrench thrown at me-its always something :lol we have this great idea for favors. we want something that we think people will use again, so we were going to order the mickey egg rings and then i was going to tie it in ribbon with our names and date of wedding and maybe add a mickey charm to them. i think it will be really cute and different. so tom goes to order them yesterday online and they advise they are discontinued! so i run on my lunch break to the disney store on 5th ave in NYC(luckily i work 3 blocks aways and they only have 19 of them loose but none in the boxes. they are seriously the nicest people and called the warehouse for me. they did not have any there so the CMs said they will keep checking for me and contact me if they do come in. i then called disney directly and was told they are discontinued but they have an inventory for 148 of them online. of course they are not on the website-the women said maybe they are in transit so i have to keep checking. i hope i get them or it is back to the old drawing board....

 

[Stephie77]

so i just spoke to my friend. she called to tell me she is not coming to my wedding. she and her husband are not doing well and don't really have the money. they also have to leave on the night of my wedding which is the end of the holiday weekend due to her husband's contract at work and the flights that night are like $400 a person. now i understand because it is hard times for everybody but i took her to disney for her bachelorette party and spent altoghther for everything(dress, shoes, bridal shower etc.) (including my half of the bach. party) around $2000. i asked her if she can come without her husband but she won't fly alone even though our other friend said she would fly down with her. i am trying not to be a selfish ***** here and say well i did it for you...and i won't becuase it is not right since they are supposedly having major money issues. i told her i am not mad but upset and disappointed of course since she is one of my oldest and dearest friends. DF says the only thing i can really be mad at is she did not tell me sooner but our response dates were aug 1 and after that i pressed the issue. oh well i am more sad then mad since we have been friends for 20 years but is it wrong that i am a little mad...?

 

[malibustacey]

WOAH you have every righ to be mad- if she has been your friend for years and years then why cant she be honest with you at the start- it will only hurt more the longer she takes to tell you!

I think most people are having a tough time at the moment, and the best she couls have done was said to you, right at the beginning ''we are having problems in our relationship, we are having trouble with money so im letting you know now that its a 50/50 chance we can come''. My mum and family are pretty damn poor and somehow- they will manage to make it to my wedding. They will work their hardest to save up every penny they have to take the 4 of them to Florida for 1 week (which will cost about £3000-without spending money). Both my mum and step dad do not have a job, so i know its gonna be a stuggle for them, and i just think, your friend should have found some way (if possible) to try and make it, or if she knew she wouldnt have been able, to tell you as soon as she could.

I am exactly the same with people and family here- i spend SO MUCH on people and do not get anything in return. I have thrown big birthday parties for past friends and organised the lot and paid for it and got nothing when it came round to my birthday. I even get the same treatment from my family sometimes, altough they cant help it- they just cant organise anything or have the money to throw big surprises.

I dont know what to say to make you feel better. Its such a bummer. Considering the amount of money you spent on her, and the other parties she has managed to go to...

Big hugs

 

[Mrsdisneyb2b]

I would have been mad. I lost alot of friends during the wedding process...its sad but you know what, its for the best... on my part at least.

One of my oldest friends didnt even rsvp to the bridal shower, and then, for the wedding, emails one of the groomsmen (she didnt realize he was in our bp!) to tell him shes not going to my wedding because she cant bring a guest (Shes single, and knows tons of our friends who werent invited with guests) and then proceeds to never rsvp and then when i said something to her... she says she never got the invite but she guesses shell try to make it to the church? Crazy people in the world...

And this was someone who I literally have beenthere for every dumb minute of her life...thoughout all her cheating (on her fiance) and such...

Some people I just dont get... And i know its bothering you. Trust me. I know how it feels. BUt you know what?

Once the wedding is over you'll forget all about it because it FLIES and there are much more important things to do...

LIke meet up and get coffee one day

Hugs steff

 

[PrincessShea]

Gosh reading these boards aggravates me sometimes. I cannot believe what some brides have to deal with If that were my friend I would probably cut her off and never speak with her again, but I am a crazy horrible person. Her husband sounds like a real loser too.

As far as your sister, there was someone here who had a very pregnant MoH and I don't recall reading about any problems in her TR. Unfortunately I don't remember her name. If you ever see her signature I think she is a laying out on a chair. She had her hair up and a lace dress.

 

[Stephie77]

thanks stacey and jenny! you guys are great and so glad jenny is back. we can meet for coffee this weekend jenny if you are around.....its one of those stuck between a rock and a hard place. i can't say anything b/c i am not going to kick her when she is down that i am little mad. it still sucks. i mean between all the drama with my mother and then this. i am so close to literally having a breakdown. my mom keeps starting crap and it is not her place esp. since she is not giving us one dime towards the wedding. nothing but headaches. it really hurts that my mom is not supportive MENTALLY- thats hurts. as to my friend-i do understand that with a destination wedding this happens but if i told you the money i spent on her wedding (and i was not making a lot back then) you would freak out. i can't be that way though even though it is hard not to be. i can't wait until my wedding and the palnning and madness is over. i just want jan 3 to come and i am walking down the isle seeing tom. oh some fun news-my bachelorette party is sept 12-so excited. i don't know the plans yet just that it is somewhere in the city....i am going to soho (which is a part of manhattan stace) to get a cute dress for it today. can't wait. retail therapy always makes me feel better.....

 

[Stephie77]

Gosh reading these boards aggravates me sometimes. I cannot believe what some brides have to deal with If that were my friend I would probably cut her off and never speak with her again, but I am a crazy horrible person. Her husband sounds like a real loser too.

As far as your sister, there was someone here who had a very pregnant MoH and I don't recall reading about any problems in her TR. Unfortunately I don't remember her name. If you ever see her signature I think she is a laying out on a chair. She had her hair up and a lace dress.

Hi katie-thanks for reading and the hugs. congrat to you on your wedding-i subbed a little adn you looked beautiful-I am looking forward to reading about your wedding(hard to do at work-:lol. it is such a hard situation you know. i know things will never be the same again with her. it just sucks. we have been friends for over 20 years now.

as for my sister-the difference with my sister and most others is that mine is mean and selfish. she will try to make my wedding along with my shower and bach. party about her in some way. it is not that i care that she got pregnant, it is how she does things. calling me in the midddle of my PS to tell me. there is other stuff i do not know about that has been going on with my shower and bach. party. she is just not nice and as my df says-likes to stir the pot. we will see -i am just keeping my head up and at least i have a great fiancee adn great friends who support me 100%. they have been my rocks.

 

[Chilly]

Just concentrate on the positives. Less guests means you can have WHR and more money to spend on yourself, and a fat I mean pregnant MOH just makes you look even better in your dress. Your friend is ultimately the one missing out if her marriage isn't as good as yours will be.

 

[Stephie77]

Just concentrate on the positives. Less guests means you can have WHR and more money to spend on yourself, and a fat I mean pregnant MOH just makes you look even better in your dress. Your friend is ultimately the one missing out if her marriage isn't as good as yours will be.

i love you english girls-you are so hillarious!!! thanks for the advice! you are so right. i hope she is a big roly poly-hehehehe!!!!

 

[Chilly]

i love you english girls-you are so hillarious!!! thanks for the advice! you are so right. i hope she is a big roly poly-hehehehe!!!!

 

[Mrsdisneyb2b]

DRESS
Where is it? Can we see??

I cant even remember if I ever put pictures of my bach party up but omg it was fun to dress shop!

I am doing so for my MOHs bach party...and I think I found a cute one from macys...

This weekend I may be free! We are going to build our pantry saturday and order our TV from best buy but I think sunday may be good?? Ill definitely let you know. Do you need any baileys for that coffee?

I promise you though there is going to be so much drama and the second you walk down that aisle... you are going to say to yourself "Why was I allowing this to ruin my life" you know?

And we will all be here waiting for pictures of course!

 

[malibustacey]

yes madam where is your dress!! let us see!! hehe

there will always be drama.. i think there is no such thing as a wedding without any drama but you know, we are here so you can let out all your angers and be a punch bag and we will support you and make you feel better!

You should meet up with Jenny and have a coffee (with baileys?) and let your hair down a bit and have some fun and a good chat. Sometimes all the wedding stuff can get to you so its good to forget about it for a day or two and free your head.

And with your sister- not in a mean way- but just dont concentrate on her and let her go about what she wants to do. The last thing you need to be doing is thinking about her and the way she is acting or the things she is doing to upset you, and whatever you do- dont let her get to you. You need to concentrate on YOU and Tom and YOUR wedding.

We have a Soho in London- its a prozzie area, and you get lots of drunk celebs falling out of bars there! hah - your Soho is probs much better! I dont even know if i am having any kind of Hen (Bachelorette) party here... i dont have any friends haha!! I might just go out to a restruant or something with the females that are going to the wedding.

I wanna see your dress!

 

[Stephie77]

DRESS
Where is it? Can we see??

yes madam where is your dress!! let us see!! hehe

I can't post it on here b/c tom will see. i thought i sent you both a pic months ago when we first started talking on here. i will PM it to you girls.


I cant even remember if I ever put pictures of my bach party up but omg it was fun to dress shop!

you never did post them. where did you go again? post pics!!



This weekend I may be free! We are going to build our pantry saturday and order our TV from best buy but I think sunday may be good?? Ill definitely let you know. Do you need any baileys for that coffee?

baileys sounds good to me!!! yeah let me know. i should be around also. jsut email me



there will always be drama.. i think there is no such thing as a wedding without any drama but you know, we are here so you can let out all your angers and be a punch bag and we will support you and make you feel better!

Thanks Stace.


And with your sister- not in a mean way- but just dont concentrate on her and let her go about what she wants to do. The last thing you need to be doing is thinking about her and the way she is acting or the things she is doing to upset you, and whatever you do- dont let her get to you. You need to concentrate on YOU and Tom and YOUR wedding.

that is what i keep telling myself-it is about me and tom. she can p-i-s-s up a rope-

I dont even know if i am having any kind of Hen (Bachelorette) party here... i dont have any friends haha!!
ohhh-Come to the US and will have one for you in NYC!!!

 

[malibustacey]

oh yes you did send me the email of your dress (in the shop!) sorry!!

i still have the email i just looked! again- i love the dress, its a PERFECT dress. You will be Toms princess!

 

[Stephie77]

oh yes you did send me the email of your dress (in the shop!) sorry!!

i still have the email i just looked! again- i love the dress, its a PERFECT dress. You will be Toms princess!

thanks! i am so so so excited for it to come in already. i wish the shoes i want would go down-i can't even find a knockoff of them. they are on like pg 6 or 7 of my PJ. the stuart weitzman ones. tom is looking to see if he can get them retail since he is in the shoe business because they are $335.00!!!

 

[malibustacey]

eek that is a lot for shoes ... they are lovely but i agree - a smaller price tag would be better. I will have keep a look out if i see any similar for ya!