Sad 4th of July...

[JESW]

The 4th of July used to be my favorite holiday until this year. We always had a big celebration with a cook-out at our house and a birthday party with lots of balloons, cake and whatever else.

We celebrated the 4th and we also celebrated my Dad's birthday - last year he turned 90. There is no party this year because my Dad passed away on January 27th. He lived a good long life, but I miss him so much. The 4th of July will never be the same for me. When I was growing up he told me that all the celebrations were for his bd and of course I believed him.

So instead of celebrating, ds & I will be going to the Humane Society where I volunteer on Monday's and help out with the cats.

Hope everyone enjoys their day - great weather this morning in MA.

Jill

 

[C.Ann]

I'm sorry..

 

[shortbun]

I know how you feel. Try to celebrate your Dad's life instead of grieving so much today. It's my mother's favorite holiday and I just 'talked' to her wishing her "Happy Fourth of July, Mom" and decorating the house with some of her stuff. I have her special patriotic hat and I'm wearing it today. It's been two years since my mom died and it gets easier every year to celebrate her instead of mourn her. I'm just saying that making some part of today positive would be good.

 

[livie1205]

so sorry...my dad (67) had his 3rd heart attack yesterday (my ds 14th bday) so today he is having heart surg AGAIN ! I am so worried he wont make it through...I know what you mean about not enjoying the holiday...IF the worse happens I dont think I would either. I stayed in his room all night so my mom could go home....so I am tired.

 

[Christine]

I'm sorry!

It's really tough when your whole life changes like that.

When my grandmother was alive, every celebration was surrounded by her because she had 6 kids and they all made it a point to get together for her. It made my childhood and young adult years GREAT for holidays.

She passed away a long time ago but, ever since, none of those days are same because no one does anything anymore and they aren't interested to boot (guess my aunts/uncles don't really enjoy each other that much).

So I know what you mean--those times, which were great, will never be had again and it can be downright depressing!!!!

Hang in there and enjoy your day with the animals today.

 

[jaminmd]

The 4th of July used to be my favorite holiday until this year. We always had a big celebration with a cook-out at our house and a birthday party with lots of balloons, cake and whatever else.

We celebrated the 4th and we also celebrated my Dad's birthday - last year he turned 90. There is no party this year because my Dad passed away on January 27th. He lived a good long life, but I miss him so much. The 4th of July will never be the same for me. When I was growing up he told me that all the celebrations were for his bd and of course I believed him.

So instead of celebrating, ds & I will be going to the Humane Society where I volunteer on Monday's and help out with the cats.

Hope everyone enjoys their day - great weather this morning in MA.

Jill

I'm so sorry. The animals are lucky to have you to take care of them.

so sorry...my dad (67) had his 3rd heart attack yesterday (my ds 14th bday) so today he is having heart surg AGAIN ! I am so worried he wont make it through...I know what you mean about not enjoying the holiday...IF the worse happens I dont think I would either. I stayed in his room all night so my mom could go home....so I am tired.

I went through that with my father. Hugs to you.

 

[JessicaR]

I'm so sorry. Celebrate the memories you have of your Dad, he would like that.

 

[java]

I'm sorry. Maybe try something small today. Like watching fireworks in memory of your Dad.

 

[simba20]

The 4th was also my brother's birthday. This year he would have been 42. He passed away on July 2, 2006 two days before his 37th birthday due to complications from diabetes. It's always a bittersweet holiday for me.

 

[JESW]

Thanks everyone for your kind replies.

We have a surprise (for the kids) trip to Disney in 4 days for 4 nights to celebrate dh's bd on the 10th. I knew I would need something special this year so that was one of the reasons we planned the trip - that and the fact we had DVC points that were expiring..

Jill

 

[Stitchfans]

so sorry.

 

[Poohforyou]

I'm so sorry for your loss but maybe celebrating the holiday the way your dad liked to would help you feel he is with you in some way. Your dad had a long and hopefully happy life I doubt he'd want you to be so sad today.

 

[Planogirl]

It is so kind of you to give of yourself when your heart is aching. That is one amazing way to honor your Dad's memory.

 

[Val]

I know what you mean. Tomorrow, the 5th, would have been my DH's 53rd birthday, but he died of a massive heart attack on 10/10/10. We always had a big 4th of July/Birthday party at our house every year. This year, DD13, DS15 and I are doing nothing except driving 2.5 hours each way to pick up my DD19 from her China trip....will even miss the fireworks. I did call DD23 and she was feeling the same way. Just can't seem to get into the holiday spirit. This is almost as hard as our first Christmas without him.

 

[Nancyg56]

I am so sorry for your loss. I understand how the Holiday is sad, we lost my wonderful Brother IL this January. Evey 4th of July, which is my sister's birthday, my DSis and DBIL threw a huge party complete with fireworks to end the day. My sister took her DMIL and two of Mike's cousins and headed to Niagara Falls for the long weekend. Sometimes it is better to just get away. This is a somber day for all of this this year.

 

[d's do disney]

I'm so sorry for you...

 

[Boston Tea Party]

I am reminded of when my grandfather passed away on December 6. My aunt asked my grandmother, his wife, about Christmas plans. (We have a big traditional family Christmas every year all together.) My grandmother said she just wanted something different. But my aunt disagreed, saying he would want us to continue with our traditions.

I am so sorry for your loss and hope that you find peace with the day.

 

[WDWJonasGirl]

I'm so sorry to hear this

 

[czycropper]

I know exactly how you feel......we always celebrated my Dad's birthday on the 4th even though his actual birthday is on the 6th....he passed away on April 12th and this year he would have been 93. He would have wanted us to continue with our normal traditions so we're still having a b-b-q and I've made his famous German potato salad to keep him in our thoughts.

He lived a full life (3 DD, 8 grandchildren & 9 great-grandchildren) but after my Mom passed away last Oct. he just gave up since he had no one to take care of - my Mom was his 2nd wife, had altzheimer's & heart problems & she was 18 years younger than him, so now they are together and enjoying watching us - that's what I've told my DDs

 

[mrsstats]

I am so sorry for your pain. Try to remember all the good times you had.