NancyLuvsMickey
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My miles guess is 3972... 
"Personally, I think I would make a great stripper!" 8/10 The End
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mousetravel
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Just cathing up on your TR. We were at Disney last week, so I'm all caught up now! I also sent you a PM!
My guess on the miles is 3003.
My guess on the miles is 3003.
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Have to tell you guys about my 2 days.
Yesterday, between doc appts, I took my Dad in his wheelchair to a nature center and pushed him in his wheelchair.
The bridge we were on was made of wood planks and uneven, his wheelchair front wheels got stuck in a rut and he dumped forward as the chair halted and tipped forward as well.
He landed on his amputated "stump" and was screaming in pain and it took awhile for us to get him down, fully on the ground and then back into the chair.
I am shortening this up but it was bad. Scary and bad.
Today - we had a mtg with the staff at the transitional care place my father is in to decide the rest of his care, the rest of his stay etc.
I almost took out the physical therapy person. I need to get into boxing.
Lynn, the Physical Therapy person, was talking about her wanting my Dad to be more consistent with time at the gym there for re-hab.
We all agreed, and I asked if they work on falling situations so he would know how to fall appropriately and safely.
She laughed at me and said, "Fall safely?" In a snide tone.
I went from 0- to 120 in 2 seconds.
I said, "Yes fall safely because there has been 2 situations in the past 2 weeks where he has fallen, yesterday being the worst. There is right and wrong ways to fall out of a wheelchair if you can help it, or roll when you are falling so you do not hurt your wrists, for him to protect his stump, etc."
"Even falling when he is using a walker and could trip, he needs to know how he should fall given uneven terrain or what he should do in water should he fall in. Does he ditch the prosthetic when he has one? Is he better using his arms and not counting on his legs etc."
Lynn, then starts looking at me like I am an idiot. "There is no water around here I believe minus the drinking fountain so I do not believe it is realistic to think he will fall in water. Second of all, the wheelchair he has is fine for smooth areas so he will not need to worry about it."
I said, "Hate to tell you this Lynn but yesterday if he would have dumped left or right as we were on a walking bridge, he would have been in the water and I thought the purpose was to transition him into normal life. So he will be at soccer fields, rugby fields, parks, etc., where he will need stability or more than knowledge on how to walk in the nursing home."
All she said was, "Can I ask where the water was?"
Like she did not believe me.
So I told her where we were, and then she said in a total, snot filled teenage attitude voice, "So do I have permission to dump you out of your wheelchair so you can practice falling?"
I lost my nut at that moment.
Literally, I leaned forward in my chair, had one of those out of body, light headed moments and explained that maybe he does not like physical therapy because she is not meant to work with people. That maybe she should have a job pushing papers because any therapist worth their weight will understand motivation of people and that having a negative attitude towards an adult is not going to produce positive results. That telling him he needs to go to therapy is about the "why." And then when you have his kids telling you his drive, what he needs to motivate himself past this point is a life outside of the confines of his room he spends 90% of his day in, and you laugh and dismiss it like they are stupid and so is he, that she is lucky she doesn't have someone waiting outside for her in the parking lot.
I told her if she ever threatened him again, I would not worry about taking her license away, I would worry about her breathing through a straw.
I tell you what. It made me mad and it made me feel better. All the sense of helplessness I felt yesterday went raging through me and I was not going to let her take away his dignity or any hope for a different future.
She said, "I did not mean to be disrespectful, and then she left a few minutes later.
The social worker and the head RN stayed and we decided therapy at 2 pm 6 times a week and start over from here. I know they spoke with her after I left.
My sister was in the room (the social worker not the PITA youngest one) and she starts laughing when we got my Dad back in his room.
She goes, "Your eyes were seriously scary and I thought you meant you were going to beat the fruitcake out of her."
I said, "she dumps him out of his wheelchair and I will."
So, adrenaline is pumping and I feel better!
I am normally even keeled but that cage fighter just wanted to come out.
I will say - I held quiet for about 10 minutes before I lost it.
I am actually glad I have the weight I have in this situation. I don't think if I had been 125 it would have been as intimidating!
The best is - I had made shirts for our last trip and I was wearing mine. Don't want to spoil everything before we get to that part of the trip - but on the back, it says, "I am going to beat your pancreas with your spleen!" from Bolt.
I am sure I looked certifiable!
Yesterday, between doc appts, I took my Dad in his wheelchair to a nature center and pushed him in his wheelchair.
The bridge we were on was made of wood planks and uneven, his wheelchair front wheels got stuck in a rut and he dumped forward as the chair halted and tipped forward as well.
He landed on his amputated "stump" and was screaming in pain and it took awhile for us to get him down, fully on the ground and then back into the chair.
I am shortening this up but it was bad. Scary and bad.
Today - we had a mtg with the staff at the transitional care place my father is in to decide the rest of his care, the rest of his stay etc.
I almost took out the physical therapy person. I need to get into boxing.
Lynn, the Physical Therapy person, was talking about her wanting my Dad to be more consistent with time at the gym there for re-hab.
We all agreed, and I asked if they work on falling situations so he would know how to fall appropriately and safely.
She laughed at me and said, "Fall safely?" In a snide tone.
I went from 0- to 120 in 2 seconds.
I said, "Yes fall safely because there has been 2 situations in the past 2 weeks where he has fallen, yesterday being the worst. There is right and wrong ways to fall out of a wheelchair if you can help it, or roll when you are falling so you do not hurt your wrists, for him to protect his stump, etc."
"Even falling when he is using a walker and could trip, he needs to know how he should fall given uneven terrain or what he should do in water should he fall in. Does he ditch the prosthetic when he has one? Is he better using his arms and not counting on his legs etc."
Lynn, then starts looking at me like I am an idiot. "There is no water around here I believe minus the drinking fountain so I do not believe it is realistic to think he will fall in water. Second of all, the wheelchair he has is fine for smooth areas so he will not need to worry about it."
I said, "Hate to tell you this Lynn but yesterday if he would have dumped left or right as we were on a walking bridge, he would have been in the water and I thought the purpose was to transition him into normal life. So he will be at soccer fields, rugby fields, parks, etc., where he will need stability or more than knowledge on how to walk in the nursing home."
All she said was, "Can I ask where the water was?"
Like she did not believe me.
So I told her where we were, and then she said in a total, snot filled teenage attitude voice, "So do I have permission to dump you out of your wheelchair so you can practice falling?"
I lost my nut at that moment.
Literally, I leaned forward in my chair, had one of those out of body, light headed moments and explained that maybe he does not like physical therapy because she is not meant to work with people. That maybe she should have a job pushing papers because any therapist worth their weight will understand motivation of people and that having a negative attitude towards an adult is not going to produce positive results. That telling him he needs to go to therapy is about the "why." And then when you have his kids telling you his drive, what he needs to motivate himself past this point is a life outside of the confines of his room he spends 90% of his day in, and you laugh and dismiss it like they are stupid and so is he, that she is lucky she doesn't have someone waiting outside for her in the parking lot.
I told her if she ever threatened him again, I would not worry about taking her license away, I would worry about her breathing through a straw.
I tell you what. It made me mad and it made me feel better. All the sense of helplessness I felt yesterday went raging through me and I was not going to let her take away his dignity or any hope for a different future.
She said, "I did not mean to be disrespectful, and then she left a few minutes later.
The social worker and the head RN stayed and we decided therapy at 2 pm 6 times a week and start over from here. I know they spoke with her after I left.
My sister was in the room (the social worker not the PITA youngest one) and she starts laughing when we got my Dad back in his room.
She goes, "Your eyes were seriously scary and I thought you meant you were going to beat the fruitcake out of her."
I said, "she dumps him out of his wheelchair and I will."
So, adrenaline is pumping and I feel better!
I am normally even keeled but that cage fighter just wanted to come out.
I will say - I held quiet for about 10 minutes before I lost it.
I am actually glad I have the weight I have in this situation. I don't think if I had been 125 it would have been as intimidating!
The best is - I had made shirts for our last trip and I was wearing mine. Don't want to spoil everything before we get to that part of the trip - but on the back, it says, "I am going to beat your pancreas with your spleen!" from Bolt.
I am sure I looked certifiable!
njtinkmom
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OMG Dawn you poor thing. First you feel awful about what happened to your dad then you have to deal with little miss sarcasm, I know it all and you don't know jack.... You are right that sometimes venting your anger on the appropriate person is very refreshing. I remember when my dad had a trach cut and was in a nursing home, fully sedated and tied to the bed, the Head Therapist met with me about his "action plan" for rehab. Clearly what a joke! How can you expect someone to learn how to eat when you have them so doped up they can't wake up. It was insulting and I certainly let her know my feelings. She kept saying, I understand how you feel - I told if she said that once more she was going to understand just how my dad felt! She left at that point, and the other admins tried to make excuses - b.s. if you will. Well sad to say he passed about a week after the bimbo gave me her action plan, and while we had no proof we still blame them..... So you vent and you fight and you will get the best care for your dad and you will never regret it not once - because you did everything you could. These people are meaningless nothings, and certainly do not have the same emotional connection that you do. I am proud of you - give em he**!!
Call me if you need to vent some more - it takes my mind off of mess! Misery loves company
....
She left at that point, and the other admins tried to make excuses - b.s. if you will. Well sad to say he passed about a week after the bimbo gave me her action plan, and while we had no proof we still blame them..... So you vent and you fight and you will get the best care for your dad and you will never regret it not once - because you did everything you could. These people are meaningless nothings, and certainly do not have the same emotional connection that you do. I am proud of you - give em he**!! Call me if you need to vent some more - it takes my mind off of mess! Misery loves company....
Mndisneygirl
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Like I said in the other thread - you were 100% right to call that woman on her attitude and rudeness. How do they expect the people they are working to help to cope when they are treated like they don't even matter?!
Good for you! I would have been scared silent if you said that to me!
Good for you! I would have been scared silent if you said that to me!
YukiPhnx
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I CANNOT believe someone in her profession was talking like that? And it was just between you and her, even though there were other people in the room. Did they ever speak up?
It's appalling when I hear about people acting like that in the helping profession. It makes me wonder how people like her even got in.
Ok, I'm going to answer my own question, cause therapy is actually one of the easier programs to get certified in, since your marks don't need to be great. I want to be a social worker (like your sister!), and the girls I see in my class are typical of the unmotivated type that just kind of "fell into" this program cause it was the easiest program to get into. Those girls don't really care much about other people, but don't have anywhere else to go and have parents that expect them to go to school. They basically go to school to party and be away from their parents (the university I go to is made up of out-of-towners)
It really boiled my blood to hear about your situation.
She deserved the tongue lashing you gave her
It's appalling when I hear about people acting like that in the helping profession. It makes me wonder how people like her even got in.
Ok, I'm going to answer my own question, cause therapy is actually one of the easier programs to get certified in, since your marks don't need to be great. I want to be a social worker (like your sister!), and the girls I see in my class are typical of the unmotivated type that just kind of "fell into" this program cause it was the easiest program to get into. Those girls don't really care much about other people, but don't have anywhere else to go and have parents that expect them to go to school. They basically go to school to party and be away from their parents (the university I go to is made up of out-of-towners)
It really boiled my blood to hear about your situation.
She deserved the tongue lashing you gave her
disneyaddicted
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Holy cow girlfriend! I'm glad you gave it to her. She was so rude and insensitive, I bow to your physical control!
Yay for Carysn going to prom. Jimmy isn't going to his, he doesn't even want to walk at graduation, I would love to see him go through the whole ceremony but he just isn't into it.
I'm hoping to have better luck with Reese, but she is already planning her anti-prom party for next year.
the whole piercing and tattoo thing, I let jim get snake bite piercings last summer, he ended up letting one of the piercings close, and now just has the one lip ring. He is talking about getting a Tattoo for his 18th birthday, less then a month to go, he is thinking something Coast Guardish.
When Kent and I got married we weren't going to be the traditional wedding ring wearers, one reason being he can't wear rings in his line of work, safety hazard. So we got tattoos, mine is a love bird on my ankle with his name. His is a ball and chain with a rose intertwined through the chain and it has my name at the bottom. He was so proud that he designed it himself. I said, PHEWEY!
It's funny now but back then I was freakin gout, "Ball and chain! Really? a ball and chain? I'll show you a ball and chain!"
I'm glad you gave it to her. She was so rude and insensitive, I bow to your physical control!Yay for Carysn going to prom. Jimmy isn't going to his, he doesn't even want to walk at graduation, I would love to see him go through the whole ceremony but he just isn't into it.
I'm hoping to have better luck with Reese, but she is already planning her anti-prom party for next year.
the whole piercing and tattoo thing, I let jim get snake bite piercings last summer, he ended up letting one of the piercings close, and now just has the one lip ring. He is talking about getting a Tattoo for his 18th birthday, less then a month to go, he is thinking something Coast Guardish.
When Kent and I got married we weren't going to be the traditional wedding ring wearers, one reason being he can't wear rings in his line of work, safety hazard. So we got tattoos, mine is a love bird on my ankle with his name. His is a ball and chain with a rose intertwined through the chain and it has my name at the bottom. He was so proud that he designed it himself. I said, PHEWEY!
It's funny now but back then I was freakin gout, "Ball and chain! Really? a ball and chain? I'll show you a ball and chain!"
tlenzendorf
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Wow! I cannot believe she had the nerve to act like that! If you acted like that here at the UW Hospital you wouldn't have a job after a day! Good for you for standing up for your dad and taking charge. I would've had a long time holding it in as long as you did.
I cannot believe she had the nerve to act like that! If you acted like that here at the UW Hospital you wouldn't have a job after a day! Good for you for standing up for your dad and taking charge. I would've had a long time holding it in as long as you did.
DisneyJo
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That and I've started entering tons of competitions so I have less DIS time!Dawn said:
Mileage Guess (I still think you're totally crazy but you know that
) ------ 4,730 
Sorry about all the stress you've had, your Dad is lucky he has someone to stand up for him
OMG Dawn I must commend you on not tearing that chicks arm off and beating her with her own arm (sorry I have anger issues and a detailed imagination 
). I think you handled that really well given what a &#$!^# that lady was, I can't believe someone who is in a job that involves helping people could have such a bad attitude. I hope your dad doesn't listen to her or even better if he could have a different therapist, PT is hard enough without a snotty therapist.
). I think you handled that really well given what a &#$!^# that lady was, I can't believe someone who is in a job that involves helping people could have such a bad attitude. I hope your dad doesn't listen to her or even better if he could have a different therapist, PT is hard enough without a snotty therapist.
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Now these are amateur compared to yours I'm sure, since I used Kraft Peanut Butter and cheap vanilla
I love Kraft Peanut Butter. We don't get it in the States, though. I usually smuggle a jar or two home with me when I visit my family. When the Kraft stash runs out, I go back to my Skippy Natural... I seem to eat a lot of peanut butter.
But cheap vanilla? Ugh. Life's too short . =)
teedee
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OMG, I am so sorry you had to deal with that psycho therapist! I'm glad you told her off too, she definitely deserved it. And it is important for amputees, or others in a wheelchair to learn how to fall. My dad lost his leg up to his knee from diabetes and learning to fall was one of the things they taught him in the rehab hospital he was in before he came home.
Terri
Terri
dgthree
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Yay for Carsyn - I'll bet she's thrilled. =)
Not surprised at the low number of videos watched - the way you described Baylor's happiness at getting the Xbox, I didn't think he was going to let anything else show up on the video system in the Booger.
And... my guess for the contest is 4,099 miles.
SRUAlmn
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Oh my gosh, Dawn! That's awful. When I was 16 my dad passed away from cancer. He was sick, and in and out of chemo and hospitals, for 2 years before he passed and I can tell you that my mom had a few moments like that too. I know that medical 'professionals' (and I use that term loosely!) have MANY people they deal with and those people aren't as important to them as they are to their loved ones, but geesh people! A little bedside manner and consideration for these 'patients' as PEOPLE would be nice 
eliz991
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Guess on miles is 4000 even.
Yay for Carsyn! For whoever's son doesn't want to go to prom: I never went to prom, and contrary to Pretty in Pink I did not wake up in my 30s and regret it. Gosh I never even went to Homecoming with a date. I guess I was a dork.
I have a kanji tattoo that is supposed to say "enjoy yourself." A masseuse once told me it meant "enjoyment" so that was close enough for me (I asked her after she commented on it because I always wondered if it said "stupid American!"
And more for your dad and the idiot rehab lady. Bless her heart.
Yay for Carsyn! For whoever's son doesn't want to go to prom: I never went to prom, and contrary to Pretty in Pink I did not wake up in my 30s and regret it. Gosh I never even went to Homecoming with a date. I guess I was a dork.
I have a kanji tattoo that is supposed to say "enjoy yourself." A masseuse once told me it meant "enjoyment" so that was close enough for me (I asked her after she commented on it because I always wondered if it said "stupid American!"
And more
for your dad and the idiot rehab lady. Bless her heart.
Pollito916
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Ugh, you took my guess! That's what I get for being late.
So my new guess is 3950.
Good for you for standing up for your father Dawn!
Yay for Carsyn going to prom with a good guy!
kmpprg
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Hi Dawn, Wow! You are the kind of friend I would like in my corner. I am a big wimp, and rarely say what I want to. I hate confrontation and avoid it at all costs. Lucky for me, Paul loves a good debate or telling off someone. People constantly amaze me with how stupid and uncaring they can be. Especially in a position where they should be no. 1 sensitive and careful with their words.
My daughter is going to the prom in May too. Last year all three of my kids went-My son was asked by a good friend even though he was in college. This year my Christina wanted to get a dress before she had a date! She said don't worry, someone will ask me. We looked through the yearbook looking for options which was hysterical!
My daughter is going to the prom in May too. Last year all three of my kids went-My son was asked by a good friend even though he was in college. This year my Christina wanted to get a dress before she had a date! She said don't worry, someone will ask me. We looked through the yearbook looking for options which was hysterical!
I completely understand Dawn. When my dad was sick, i had to fight for him tooth and nail. He was hard of hearing, so i think that gave the "people" who worked with him ideas that they could bulldoze my dad.
I distinctly remember the day i walked into the Physical therapy nursing home and lost my mind and words on no less than 5 people. by the end of the day i was talking to the head of the administration and 3 people were written up. i left with many warnings. don't mess with my family, I mean I'm a redhead! Are you nuts???!!!
Seriously, they are old and sick people! Just be nice....
this is for you
KIM
I distinctly remember the day i walked into the Physical therapy nursing home and lost my mind and words on no less than 5 people. by the end of the day i was talking to the head of the administration and 3 people were written up. i left with many warnings. don't mess with my family, I mean I'm a redhead! Are you nuts???!!!
Seriously, they are old and sick people! Just be nice....
this is for youKIM
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