Online Dating

[La Tomate]

There really should be a nice DIsney dating app, I mean that's one thing in common.
I have single friends and while the women seem to like to get dressed up and go to bars the normal guys do not seem to be there. They complain and I spend a lot of time wondering why they don't get a part time job at Home Depot and get dressed cute to go get coffee every day the same time at WAWA because THIS is where all the regular men seem to be around 8 in the morning.

I agree re: Disney dating app... There's mousemingle, but it's terrible.

 

[La Tomate]

What does one do when they’ve gone through all the guys on the dating sites and not found anyone?

I try a different app or take breaks... Granted, this last break has been the longest thanks to le pandemic.... But everytime I decide to jump back in, I try and not bring my jadedness with me and approach it with the same.positive attitude I started with 6 yrs ago I have learned a lot though, I'm not as wide eyed and naive as I was. So there's that?
I have days where I'm sure I'll just be alone, which makes me sad ... So I climb back on the proverbial horse.

 

[LuvOrlando]

I agree re: Disney dating app... There's mousemingle, but it's terrible.

I remember lightly looking for my kids when we were chatting about them hoping to meet people who grew up going to Disney but I totally got the creeps with the whole adults picking a character thing to the point I didn't even mention it to them.

 

[disneychrista]

I try a different app or take breaks... Granted, this last break has been the longest thanks to le pandemic.... But everytime I decide to jump back in, I try and not bring my jadedness with me and approach it with the same.positive attitude I started with 6 yrs ago I have learned a lot though, I'm not as wide eyed and naive as I was. So there's that?
I have days where I'm sure I'll just be alone, which makes me sad ... So I climb back on the proverbial horse.

If anything good can come from my experiences it is that I have learned from them. Someone of those lesson I forget or ignore, though.

 

[La Tomate]

If anything good can come from my experiences it is that I have learned from them. Someone of those lesson I forget or ignore, though.

Absolutely, it's the only silver lining I take away from it. "I learned something". It may be about me, it may be about blokes, it may be about dating. But there will be something.
As for forgetting/ignoring some? You wouldn't be human if you didn't :-D

 

[Buzz Rules]

Not just you!

I agree.

 

[disneychrista]

Is it just me, or is anyone else feeling that some people posting in this thread, get along really well, and should, well ……date each other?

Not just you!

I agree.

I throw this out there again. Anyone in Mendo, Lake or Sonoma that want to meet for coffee, a drink or even ice cream send a PM.

 

[Rick195275]

I throw this out there again. Anyone in Mendo, Lake or Sonoma that want to meet for coffee, a drink or even ice cream send a PM.

Other side of the country here. If none of us are geographically close it might just call for a Dis singles meet up in Disney ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

 

[Scouter]

Haha. The last guy I was chatting with practically had us living together and we hadn’t even met in person yet.

I won’t lie. I WANT that. I want someone to share my life with. Someone who I fall asleep with at night and wake up with in the morning. Someone to share the good, the bad and everything in between.

What does one do when they’ve gone through all the guys on the dating sites and not found anyone?

I've had the opposite, 2 long term relationships where it was never going to move forward into moving in together or getting married.
Sigh.
I think of all those wasted years when I wish someone had told me to wake up and smell the coffee.


What do we do if we don't find anyone? Well just keep trying and keep an eye out but don't make it into a need. I think it's good to know you'll be OK either way and
maybe when we're not really looking, it might happen.

There's always, the "be careful what you wish for" thought. It could be worse.

 

[Scouter]

I agree re: Disney dating app... There's mousemingle, but it's terrible.

Sounds like Furries! Not into that!

 

[La Tomate]

Sounds like Furries! Not into that!

BWAHAHAHAHA! I don't blame you there - it's not my cuppa tea either... But no it's just a really badly designed app with like 3 active users on it.

 

[La Tomate]

There's always, the "be careful what you wish for" thought. It could be worse.

OH. YES. It can ALWAYS be worse. Been there, done that - got the T-shirt.

 

[disneychrista]

I've had the opposite, 2 long term relationships where it was never going to move forward into moving in together or getting married.
Sigh.

As I’ve mentioned I haven’t even gotten to a “relationship” status in very long time let alone a long term or serious one. That was all just talk / fantasy on the guys part, in the end we never even had a date.

 

[Mysterian]

Anyone want to get in a suspicious white van and go to Denny's? And by "Denny's" I mean some reservoir.

^There- Just add that to your dating profile, and you will be swamped with requests.

OOPS! Wrong window, this post was meant for the Hearts for Hobos forum. I've been moonlighting as matchmaker.

 

[Scouter]

OH. YES. It can ALWAYS be worse. Been there, done that - got the T-shirt.

Wait, t-shirts were given out? I didn't get mine!

 

[La Tomate]

Wait, t-shirts were given out? I didn't get mine!

DAMN! I also got a car with it (there's a backstory there)

 

[Scouter]

DAMN! I also got a car with it (there's a backstory there)
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You can spill, we'll listen.

 

[La Tomate]

You can spill, we'll listen.

haha! Jings, um... may seem like an anticlimax now ... Condensed version (all the details aren't fitting for here, I think); a few months after my X left - my mum gave me enough $$ to get a (new 2nd hand) car and literally labeled it as a "Congratulations on losing 200lbs" gift.

Oh, there is dating relevance... it then became on of the oddest, but nicest? first dates I went on. Had been chatting to a dude, and mentioned that I need to go car shopping - but was wary because I am a female and didn't want to be taken advantage of by a shady sales person. He offered to come with. I went back and forth on it... and then agreed to it.
And we only had one and a half dates. The half was because he wanted to be there when I went back with the cheque and to sign the paperwork, and I said "I'd rather you didn't, I'll have my kids with me" and he was like "No, it'll be fine - I won't make myself known" ... and I was skeptical... but he turned up, the kids didn't notice him because he literally waved and got right back in his car "I have to go and get groceries" ... never heard from him again
I still have the car, her name is Maud.

 

[La Tomate]

I think of all those wasted years when I wish someone had told me to wake up and smell the coffee.

FTR: nearly 2 decades wasted with my X - so I hear you! trust me - I can go down a rabbit hole of thoughts about it. [[hugs]]

 

[Rick195275]

haha! Jings, um... may seem like an anticlimax now ... Condensed version (all the details aren't fitting for here, I think); a few months after my X left - my mum gave me enough $$ to get a (new 2nd hand) car and literally labeled it as a "Congratulations on losing 200lbs" gift.

Oh, there is dating relevance... it then became on of the oddest, but nicest? first dates I went on. Had been chatting to a dude, and mentioned that I need to go car shopping - but was wary because I am a female and didn't want to be taken advantage of by a shady sales person. He offered to come with. I went back and forth on it... and then agreed to it.
And we only had one and a half dates. The half was because he wanted to be there when I went back with the cheque and to sign the paperwork, and I said "I'd rather you didn't, I'll have my kids with me" and he was like "No, it'll be fine - I won't make myself known" ... and I was skeptical... but he turned up, the kids didn't notice him because he literally waved and got right back in his car "I have to go and get groceries" ... never heard from him again
I still have the car, her name is Maud.

Ok I have heard some odd dates before but I think car shopping might have moved to the top of the list So he turned up when you went to finalize your purchase after you said you would rather he didn’t? And then he just disappeared never to be heard from again? This thread has at least taught me I’m not alone in awful and odd dating experiences lol.