Online Dating

[Kathryn Merteuil]

I can tell that DH really isn't a big fan of my cat, but hey she has been around a lot longer than he has. We kind of have this thing where he tolerates my cat and I tolerate his dog.

I don't dislike dogs really, but sometimes they can be a bit much. They are so needy and demanding. My cat can be very assertive, but she is much more subtle in her approach.

 

[Scouter]

Single dog guy here! We don’t all dislike cats! I’m just really tall and have huge feet so I’m wary of cats and small breeds dogs. I think the cats can sense it and aren’t my biggest fans but I love all animals ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I get that. My cat, (as well as others and my ferret) is always getting under my feet, especially when I'm trying to feed him.

I totally get this, my daughter is younger but much of my time has been devoted to raising her for the last 10+ years. Dating has and always will take the backseat until she’s older. I think also plays a role in how I end up online dating, don’t have a ton of free time, wouldn‘t want to date within my daughters school community so though to even meet people at times. So where do you meet someone? Probably wouldn’t have many dates if it wasn’t for online dating honestly.

When my son was about 7 or 8 he used to come home from school or after school activity and tell me about what dads he knew were single.
At that point I wasn't even looking and I kept telling him so. But I think he might have really wanted a father. Come to think of it, so did I.

 

[Scouter]

Since I didn't really date or meet potential dates until I started online dating I'd have to agree with this. I imagine dating with young children would be tricky. No matter how you find them.


I have a good friend that has very different religious views than mine. It has never been an issue. I think, the person I am dating would have to be extreme views on one side or that other for it to be a big issue.

It seems that religion isn't as big of a divider as politics doesn't it though?

 

[Scouter]

I can tell that DH really isn't a big fan of my cat, but hey she has been around a lot longer than he has. We kind of have this thing where he tolerates my cat and I tolerate his dog.

I don't dislike dogs really, but sometimes they can be a bit much. They are so needy and demanding. My cat can be very assertive, but she is much more subtle in her approach.

First of all, love your avatar! That's me every night with my cabernet sauvignon.

I don't dislike dogs either but don't want one for that same reason, but also others.

 

[Rick195275]

First of all, love your avatar! That's me every night with my cabernet sauvignon.

I don't dislike dogs either but don't want one for that same reason, but also others.
It seems to me.... I'm sure I'm going to take a lot of push back on this one, but here goes....
That dogs are kind of needy like( many, not all) men are and women are more independent like cats are and I tell my male friends that they love dogs because they want someone to unconditionally love and obey them.
There I said it.

I actually think I’m a lot of cases dogs take on some of the characteristics of their owners. Both of my dogs have been pretty laid back, low maintenance dogs, feed them and take them outside and they are happy, anything else is a bonus.... pretty sure that actually applies to me also My sister on the other hand is a stressed out, high strung person, her dogs reflect that, one of them is even on doggie Prozac lol. I can definitely see what you mean in general though! Cats are 100% lower maintenance and more independent as a rule, I’m not sure I can agree with the men V women aspect, I’ve definitely always been the less needy in my relationships but maybe that’s just me. I enjoy my alone time and independence, always have and most be why I’m still single.

I get that. My cat, (as well as others and my ferret) is always getting under my feet, especially when I'm trying to feed him.



When my son was about 7 or 8 he used to come home from school or after school activity and tell me about what dads he knew were single.
At that point I wasn't even looking and I kept telling him so. But I think he might have really wanted a father. Come to think of it, so did I.

My daughter was actually the opposite at that age! She told made a deal with me that she wouldn’t date if I didn’t. I of course agreed to that one haha.
I worry a cat or toy breed dog under my size 18 foot might not be around anymore

 

[Scouter]

I actually think I’m a lot of cases dogs take on some of the characteristics of their owners. Both of my dogs have been pretty laid back, low maintenance dogs, feed them and take them outside and they are happy, anything else is a bonus.... pretty sure that actually applies to me also My sister on the other hand is a stressed out, high strung person, her dogs reflect that, one of them is even on doggie Prozac lol. I can definitely see what you mean in general though! Cats are 100% lower maintenance and more independent as a rule, I’m not sure I can agree with the men V women aspect, I’ve definitely always been the less needy in my relationships but maybe that’s just me. I enjoy my alone time and independence, always have and most be why I’m still single.

Ah, you caught me before I deleted that as I felt I'd be hated for that comment!
Sorry. Took it out anyway.

 

[Scouter]

My daughter was actually the opposite at that age! She told made a deal with me that she wouldn’t date if I didn’t. I of course agreed to that one haha.
I worry a cat or toy breed dog under my size 18 foot might not be around anymore

Very funny and yes so opposite.

Wow, really? I didn't know sizes went up to 18!
Everyone in my family is short. My son's father's family too. My son is lucky he got to 5'6"!

 

[BrianL]

I have a good friend that has very different religious views than mine. It has never been an issue. I think, the person I am dating would have to be extreme views on one side or that other for it to be a big issue.

I think the trick these days is finding people without extreme views on many topics.

 

[Scouter]

I think the trick these days is finding people without extreme views on many topics.

This!

 

[shawthorne44]

On religious/political views, what I think is VERY important is same values. People can have the same values and a different views on things, particularly if they have a different knowledge base. Heck, I've had opposing views on abortion. Although, friends and spouses are entirely different. For a friend my requirements are they aren't a psychopath or a felon (without a good excuse) and fun to hang out with. With a spouse that has the same values, life is just so much easier. You're both pulling in the same direction.

 

[Rick195275]

Ah, you caught me before I deleted that as I felt I'd be hated for that comment!
Sorry. Took it out anyway.

No hate here! World would be a boring place if we all thought and felt the same love hearing others differing thoughts and opinions on things! To that point I feel the same way about the religion and political question. I don’t lean strongly one way or the other politically and can get along with both parties as long as they are willing to have a discussion. It’s the ones who are so strongly bonded to their party they can’t have an open discussion and mind on things which turn me off. Same is true for religion.
And size 18s aren’t in stores in the US anyway, everything has to be ordered online, so no trying anything on before. Forget trying to get pretty much anything other than athletic shoes too. Luckily I’m not what would be considered fashionable and don’t really care to be

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

I’m just really tall and have huge feet so I’m wary of cats and small breeds dogs.

My husband is over 6ft 5 inches and wears a size 13.

Honestly we're all just careful about small animals because they can have a uncanny knack for deciding to just lay right in the middle of the room or under the table where your feet are.

Frankly in our house the thing I trip on is my husband's shoes

 

[La Tomate]

Yeah, I've gotten pickier too, but then you get older and you know what you want and what you don't and some things are just not negotiable. I'm fine with staying single

We're not picky - we're discerning

I have my days where I'm OK with it being the kids and I - long term though? I don't want to be alone... I'm an immigrant with perhaps 1 or 2 close friends. When the kids get more independent/leave home, I don't want to be completely ALONE. I will still want to camp, do comiccons, and Disney stuff etc etc... and these are things I'd rather share with someone. I am a crusty ol'Gen-X'er - but I still like hugs and making blanket forts.

 

[disneychrista]

We're not picky - we're discerning

I have my days where I'm OK with it being the kids and I - long term though? I don't want to be alone... I'm an immigrant with perhaps 1 or 2 close friends. When the kids get more independent/leave home, I don't want to be completely ALONE. I will still want to camp, do comiccons, and Disney stuff etc etc... and these are things I'd rather share with someone. I am a crusty ol'Gen-X'er - but I still like hugs and making blanket forts.

Exactly. When my kids were young they were my focus, we did all the typical family things together. Not having a partner wasn’t really an issue or concern for me.

Now they are grown and have their own lives. I don’t let being single, not having someone to do things with stop me from enjoying life but it sure would be nice to have someone to share these things with. I won’t lie seemingly being the only single (solo) person in the room, gets lonely.

 

[La Tomate]

Exactly. When my kids were young they were my focus, we did all the typical family things together. Not having a partner wasn’t really an issue or concern for me.

Absolutely - at times though I would like someone to share my day - if that makes sense. Someone to share some banter with, and know that there is another adult somewhere out there - that kinda gives a crap and digs me?
I have never had any intention to jump into blending families, and I know that's been an issue for chaps.
There's almost like this urgency that "Well, we've been on a few dates and all - so - shall we talk about moving in?" ... Uh, no. steady on!!!

 

[DianaMB333]

I relate with many comments here… we can enjoy the single life, we have the privilege/right to be discerning (lol), while it is also ok to look forward to meeting a nice/fun companion (hopefully to Disney around the world) that truly represents a lift over the single life…

Carpe Diem

 

[disneychrista]

There's almost like this urgency that "Well, we've been on a few dates and all - so - shall we talk about moving in?" ... Uh, no. steady on!!!

Haha. The last guy I was chatting with practically had us living together and we hadn’t even met in person yet.

I won’t lie. I WANT that. I want someone to share my life with. Someone who I fall asleep with at night and wake up with in the morning. Someone to share the good, the bad and everything in between.

What does one do when they’ve gone through all the guys on the dating sites and not found anyone?

 

[Welsh_Dragon]

Is it just me, or is anyone else feeling that some people posting in this thread, get along really well, and should, well ……date each other?

 

[LuvOrlando]

There really should be a nice DIsney dating app, I mean that's one thing in common.
I have single friends and while the women seem to like to get dressed up and go to bars the normal guys do not seem to be there. They complain and I spend a lot of time wondering why they don't get a part time job at Home Depot and get dressed cute to go get coffee every day the same time at WAWA because THIS is where all the regular men seem to be around 8 in the morning.

 

[Hook326]

Is it just me, or is anyone else feeling that some people posting in this thread, get along really well, and should, well ……date each other?

Not just you!