Teresa Pitman
Disney Grandma
- Joined
- Aug 29, 2005
I also think of the house as "our house" and that we work together to figure out how we can all get along.
And re: risk of rules that are too strict. I live in southern Ontario, where Paul Bernardo kidnapped and killed several young girls. One was a young teen whose parents were trying to use "tough love" with her. They told her that if she got home after curfew, the house would be locked and they wouldn't let her in. They'd also called her friends' parents to tell them not to let her come over. So when she got home after curfew, she had nowhere to go. Bernardo found her, and she was raped repeatedly and killed. It may have sounded like a good idea to the parents at the time - their house, their rules, you break the rules so you can suffer a bit by sleeping in the backyard - but the outcome was terrible. Please never let rules get in the way of your relationship with your child and your child's safety.
And re: risk of rules that are too strict. I live in southern Ontario, where Paul Bernardo kidnapped and killed several young girls. One was a young teen whose parents were trying to use "tough love" with her. They told her that if she got home after curfew, the house would be locked and they wouldn't let her in. They'd also called her friends' parents to tell them not to let her come over. So when she got home after curfew, she had nowhere to go. Bernardo found her, and she was raped repeatedly and killed. It may have sounded like a good idea to the parents at the time - their house, their rules, you break the rules so you can suffer a bit by sleeping in the backyard - but the outcome was terrible. Please never let rules get in the way of your relationship with your child and your child's safety.