Moms to Be Part 3

[justhat]

A couple very quick thoughts:

1. If my wife was set on a name that I didn't like, I suppose that I would come around to accept it, but it would make me a bit sad that she wasn't willing to keep looking for one that we could both agree on.
2. I would hope that my vote on the name would count higher than my daughter, mother, sister, or mother in law, all of whom really don't have a vote.
3. In my mind, there are only two voters on this; the mother and father. They should each have an equal vote. Therefore, if one disagrees with a name, no majority is attained and the search should continue.

I partially agree with you, but the problem is there is no girl name we both agree on, so point one is sort of not valid. This was proven when we had our first daughter. The ONLY name we both agreed on was Madison, which we obviously used. Middle name was a struggle. We both made a list of names we liked and 2 overlapped-Alyssa and Julia. Alyssa flowed better with Madison, or at least we thought so, so we went with that as her middle name. Julia was fine for me as a middle name, but I don't want it as a first name because I do not at all like the nicknames of Jules or Julie. And whether or not I chose to use them will not matter as other people will. My daughter is and has always been only Madison, yet many camp counselors she's had, my FIL, and random people we meet often call her Maddie. Madison even tells them she's Madison, not Maddie, but it continues.

So that was the only other name we both agreed on, but it's out for me as a first name. At least that's where I am right now with it anyway. So either way one of us is compromising. That also sort of covers point 3, simply cause I haven't encountered a name I like yet that my husband also likes, so no majority can be attained at this point.

The 2nd point, no, no other family members get votes persay, but if they all told me they thought the name was horrible I would seriously reconsider using it. So that's why we told our family our choices because if a bunch of people say it's terrible then I'd look for something else.

Our daughter though, she does get somewhat of a vote in that she is part of the immediate family and we want her to be involved as much as possible. Granted her opinion isn't the most influencial factor by far (her true choice is Rose, as in Briar Rose, her favorite princess), but she does get to help in the decision somewhat. Our son is too little to say anything meaningful, so he hasn't been included. I'm sure his preference would be to name her pirate or firefighter. Actually, he just told me he wants to name her Henry, shows what I know!

The name thing still isn't set in stone, but I know my husband will want to come to an agreement sooner than later cause he's dying to buy a plane ticket for her for next summer with miles before that flight is sold out (of miles flights that is). We can't get the ticket without her first name, so there's that motivation to pick something soon.

 

[fabumouse]

I partially agree with you, but the problem is there is no girl name we both agree on.

Fortunately, your husband is not freakishly over-involved with your pregnancy and should therefore be persuadable.

I did note that you forgot to mention *my* vote, which should settle matters in your favor.

 

[sbell111]

I partially agree with you, but the problem is there is no girl name we both agree on, so point one is sort of not valid. ...

Of all the jillions of names out there, you can't agree on one? Ooooh. Jillian. That's a good one right there.

The 2nd point, no, no other family members get votes persay, but if they all told me they thought the name was horrible I would seriously reconsider using it.

I'm not trying to fight with you, but you are kinda saying that if other family members hated it that you would reconsider, but your husband doesn't get the same consideration.

 

[MommaMouse411]

hello mommy's to be...I'm new in this thread but not new to disboards (however still only a mouseketeer) lol...I'm n ormally in the creative boardfs...I am now 8weeks preggers..second child..and I'm already trying to see how I can take two kids to disney without struggling...Its hard with one kid and carrying the stroller and cooler and diaper bags (i have pass my kids father doesn't-so I go alot).but anyways...My son is 17months...he is already a disney freak like his momma...he loves Pooh and Mickey Mouse. So my due date is April 17th...which my son is born April 11th...go figure..my son's/baby father is April 3rd...all aries...

Im excited but feeling very nauseated and sick all the time..my first wasn't like that at all...

and I'm hoping for a girl..

 

[sbell111]

Fortunately, your husband is not freakishly over-involved with your pregnancy and should therefore be persuadable.

I did note that you forgot to mention *my* vote, which should settle matters in your favor.

How could a husband be 'over involved' in a pregnancy?

 

[justhat]

Of all the jillions of names out there, you can't agree on one? Ooooh. Jillian. That's a good one right there.
I'm not trying to fight with you, but you are kinda saying that if other family members hated it that you would reconsider, but your husband doesn't get the same consideration.

Well yes, we can, and did, on 4 names, but on 6, that's tough. My husband hasn't given me any suggestions so far, other than the aforementioned Julia, and has vetoed all of my suggestions. So no agreement thus far.

I would reconsider the name if all of our family hated it for a valid reason. Like if I chose something that everyone said "OMG, everyone will tease her because the names rhymes with smelly" or something equally dumb. Or "No one will be able to spell or pronounce that". Those are valid points. If they just said "Are you serious about that name?" like they said about Madison, then no, I wouldn't change it.

And unfortunately Jillian won't work either.

 

[sbell111]

Julia??? That's a great one.

Seriously, I could never imagine giving my child a name that my wife didn't like.

 

[DMickey28]

I can't wait to find out what we are having!! It's driving me nuts. DH is convinced it's a boy again and I am convinced it's a girl. He keeps telling me that's because I want one so badly!!

The names we are talking about so far:
Boy - Ryan, William, Oliver
Girl - Alison, Amelia, Charlotte and Sera

Who knows ... nothing sticks with me like with DS. We both just KNEW he was a boy from day one and he was. We had his name set within a hour after our big U/S. He is Alexander Stephen.

 

[sbell111]

I can't wait to find out what we are having!! It's driving me nuts. DH is convinced it's a boy again and I am convinced it's a girl. He keeps telling me that's because I want one so badly!!

The names we are talking about so far:
Boy - Ryan, William, Oliver
Girl - Alison, Amelia, Charlotte and Sera

Who knows ... nothing sticks with me like with DS. We both just KNEW he was a boy from day one and he was. We had his name set within a hour after our big U/S. He is Alexander Stephen.

Not that you need my opinion, but I really like Ryan, Alison (or Allison), and Amelia.

I'm not a fan of William because I don't much care for Bill or Will and absolutely loath Billy and Willy. Oliver's kind of nice, but Ollie frightens the bejeebers out of me. Charlotte isn't bad. I don't care for it for purely personal reasons. (You know how you hate a name because it reminds you of a dreadful person that you once knew?) I like Sera, but I think the confusion with Sara will drive you insane. (That being said, our little girl will be Sarah Grace, so the Sara people are going to bug us, also.)

 

[yellowfish78]

Anyone have any suggestions for a middle name that goes with Kendra? Our only veto is no Marie.

 

[justhat]

Sbell, the idea is that my husband will grow to like it before the baby is born. And odds are that will be the case. If he still hates it by then, which I doubt, then we'll have to think of something new. He has no alteratives though, so hard to say "I don't like the name you picked, but I have no suggestions." And, as hard as it is to believe, there is no other name we agree on at all. Like I mentioned a few days ago, there is no middle name at all on the table cause neither of us have a name the other likes. The first name though, I just love it and wanted to name my son Tierney had he been a girl. Nothing else jumps out at me, certainly nothing enough for me to push it as a middle name at this point.

My friend's husband told her with their first that the name she liked wasn't even a name. By the time the baby came he couldn't imagine her with any other name. I think the more you say and hear the name, the more it just becomes the baby.


DMickey - I'll be pulling for a girl for you! Not that I have anything to do with what you get, but I totally get wanting a certain gender. I love all the names you have picked out too. Oliver was another boy name I really liked and Amelia is one of my son's little girlfriends and she is adorable. Another friend has an Emilia, but I prefer spelling it with an A too. Do you know when your ultrasound will be?

Bedtime here, a late night since my daugther's dance class ends at 5:30.

 

[christym]

Hi all. I'm about 9 weeks pregnant with baby #2 right now. And feeling yucky, but pretty excited. This one's due about half a month before my DS's b-day. Which is good timing cause it's the end of the school year and gets me extra maternity leave with the least amount of problems. We were going to take DS to Disney this summer, but I'm thinking with a newborn that's not going to happen until the summer after. Which really stinks because I'm having withdrawls now. We haven't been since '06. Our timing just keeps getting blown out of the water, so to speak.

 

[justhat]

Congrats and MommaMouse and ChristyM

Maggimus ... due September 14 ... It's a boy!
yellowfish78 ... due September 15 ... It's a surprise!
Candid ... due September 21 ... It's a girl!
helloirishkitty ... due September 23 ... It's a boy!
IHeartTink04 ... October 1 ... It's a surprise!
Linzybrooke ... October 9 ... It's a boy!
Adi12982 ... October 16 ... It's a girl!
KristEn87 ... due November 19... It's a boy!
CandleontheWater ... due November 19... It's a surprise!
sbell111 ... due November 26... It's a girl!
PrincessNevaeh’sMom ... due December 1.. It's a girl!
Worm761 ... due December 2... It's a girl!
ecteacher23 ... due December 3... It's a surprise!
POOHDRMR ... due December 28... It's a boy!
Jenny-momof3 ... due January 17... It's a surprise!
Cappygirl ... due January 20... It's a surprise!
apress ... due January 23... It's a surprise!
amandaluvsgoofy ... due January 25... It's a girl!
BabyTigger99 ... due January 30... It's a surprise!
HerdEar ... due January 30... It's a surprise!
justhat ... due February 3... It's a girl!
trmcguire ... due February 14... It's a surprise!
hulagirl87 ... due March 5... It's a surprise!
arubio0801 ... due March 8... It's a surprise!
karenj2 ... due March 14... It's a surprise!
DMickey28 ... due March 30... It's a surprise!
christym ... due April... It's a surprise!
irisbud ... due April 9... It's a surprise!
MommaMouse411 ... due April 17... It's a surprise!
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BTW, Yellowfish, I meant to say I had that swelling with my 1st and it was miserable so I feel for you. I just hated that tight feeling when bending my legs and such. Hopefully your little one will be here soon so the swelling will go away. Oh, and I only know 1 Kendra, my husband's friend from work, and oddly enough, her middle name is Marie! How about Isabel/le? (Another name my husband dislikes, but I think it's pretty.)

 

[sbell111]

Anyone have any suggestions for a middle name that goes with Kendra? Our only veto is no Marie.

You might find something that you like here.

 

[Adi12982]

I heard on the new mom's thread that Maggie posted on her facebook (or maybe it was myspace) that she had her baby. . .

CONGRATS MAGGIE - Can't wait to hear about it!

 

[yellowfish78]

That means I'm next! Woo Hoo!

 

[justhat]

I was hoping her absence meant she was having her little boy! Can't wait to hear the news from her and hopefully see some photos too.

 

[KristEn87]

Well I had my fetal echo today and the Cardio Doctor said that everything looked normal so I'm very happy about that. Also in the beginning before they scanned his heart they noticed that he was facing up so the awesome ultrasound tech switched on the 4D imaging and let us see our little boy! That was something that I was not expecting, but I am so thrilled she did that for us! We have two great shots of his face and it's looking like he has my nose. I am so completely in love with this little boy . I don't have a scanner, but I'm going to have someone can them for me and then I will try and upload them.

Well off to finish his room. The crib came wednesday and was put together last night so off to do the finishing touches before the baby shower on sunday!

I hope we hear from Maggie soon about her little one.

 

[trmcguire]

Hey all!

Things are going good here- my nausea has gone away and I have most of my energy back. Its crazy being pregnant this time when I have a nine month old to chase after! I have only gained 1 lb so far, and I think I was way ahead of that last time in my pregnancy! I guess it helps that I am not sitting at a desk all day and don't have time to eat junk all day! ) I know though that now I will probably start gaining a ton of weight since I said something! .

We go Oct. 1 for our anatomy ultrasound, and I a so excited! I knew my son was a boy the whole time, this one I am not so sure. I was thinking girl, but not as strongly as I was last time. I have tons of boy names I like, and no girl names! It's going to be tough if its a girl!! I'm open to suggestions!!

Hope everyone is doing well!

 

[Linzybrooke]

Do those Maternity Belts help with something like this?
Thanks!!

I got the same one you wound up with, the solid elastic, and it really did help a lot! Good luck with it!

Glad to hear the internal wasn't bad. . . I dunno when they start at the place I go to. . . If it is next week (next Friday) at my 36 week appointment then I am SURE there will be nothing happening down there yet, lol!! I know I get the Beta Strep test next week, did you get that done too?? Was it very invasive or just a swab?? Hopefully you get to have that extended maternity leave

I had my 36 today and Beta Strep today, and it was just a swab. We did my first internal today as well, that was a bit more uncomfortable!

Oooh, I am going to need to look into a baby belt. I plan on teaching my dance classes (nothing major, for our rec department) up until the baby is born, if I can. Baby just doesn't fall at a good time for my dance classes, since our recital is only 4 weeks after my due date! Yikes!

You are a brave one! I have been auditioning kids for our HS production of Beauty and the Beast all week, and am exhausted from just watching them! Call backs all next week...yikes!

Not that you need my opinion, but I really like Ryan, Alison (or Allison), and Amelia.

I'm not a fan of William because I don't much care for Bill or Will and absolutely loath Billy and Willy. Oliver's kind of nice, but Ollie frightens the bejeebers out of me. Charlotte isn't bad. I don't care for it for purely personal reasons. (You know how you hate a name because it reminds you of a dreadful person that you once knew?) I like Sera, but I think the confusion with Sara will drive you insane. (That being said, our little girl will be Sarah Grace, so the Sara people are going to bug us, also.)

Oddly enough, a friend and I were talking about the name William today, she has a family member who uses it as the family name, and they just had William the 5th. All the men use a different nickname for William, and this little guy is Liam, which I NEVER thought of as a nickname for William. But, I love it!

Anyone have any suggestions for a middle name that goes with Kendra? Our only veto is no Marie.

I think Kendra Brook or Kendra Shea sounds pretty.

I heard on the new mom's thread that Maggie posted on her facebook (or maybe it was myspace) that she had her baby. . .

CONGRATS MAGGIE - Can't wait to hear about it!

Awesome! Congrats to Maggie!

Well I had my fetal echo today and the Cardio Doctor said that everything looked normal so I'm very happy about that. Also in the beginning before they scanned his heart they noticed that he was facing up so the awesome ultrasound tech switched on the 4D imaging and let us see our little boy! That was something that I was not expecting, but I am so thrilled she did that for us! We have two great shots of his face and it's looking like he has my nose. I am so completely in love with this little boy . I don't have a scanner, but I'm going to have someone can them for me and then I will try and upload them.

Well off to finish his room. The crib came wednesday and was put together last night so off to do the finishing touches before the baby shower on sunday!

I hope we hear from Maggie soon about her little one.

What a wonderful surprise!!! We can't wait to see them!

We had our 36 week ultrasound and appointment today, and Connor is measuring at 8lbs 3oz already! So, we are seeing a specialist next week to get a second opinion on his size, and if he concurs we are going to have to consider options for delivery, which has me pretty aprehensive. But, I'm 5'2 and small hipped, so the likelyhood of being able to safely push out a baby who, if we went to 40 weeks, would likely be around 10lbs is not happening! So, it looks like Connor will be early, they are pretty sure I will deliver this month instead of next! Scary!!!!