Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[Dee & Greg]

OMG Lis- she is SO lucky she will be living with you all! She might scare the bejeezus out of Yeti at first! Yeti will be looking at you like, what are you doing to me mom?!

People make me so mad when they get a pet and do not think it all the way through! Yes- you need to take into consideration- your pet MAY get large- that is why you RESEARCH! I think in situations like that- they should leave the pet in the nice, cozy, warm house and -rehome- the dopes who got the pet- rehome them to a cold shelter to see what it is like!

We foster Great Pyrenees for the Indy Great Pyr Rescue. The newest Pyr that came to the rescue was an owner-release... she said the dog pooped in the yard too much! Oh come on! The Dog weighs 100 lbs.! Should have taught the dog to poop in the house?

Congrat on your new "baby"... our last rescue made his way from Indiana to Long Island via a "puppy express"

 

[Liisa]

We Love Great Pyrenees! Actually, we are partial to any big hairy dogs, newfies, pyrenees, st. bernards, tibetans (my poor vacuum)!

TM Rescue has used "trains" in the past to get dogs around. It didn't work out this time, but they are a much better way to go. Tibetans are still a rare breed, so our resources are a bit smaller in terms of people to form the chain.

That is great that you foster. We've only had the chance to foster one Tibetan... she was a pup we named Mika. It was awful to give her up even though she was going to her "forever" home.

 

[Liisa]

By the way, I just found out that my Pari's full sister will be competing at Westminster. I'm hoping she gets through the breed ring so I can see her on TV in the Group competition. Pretty exciting. I feel like we know a celebrity!

 

[plgrn]

Popping in to say hi! If you remember, DH and I were the fencesitters who decided to TTC. Apparently, I can get pregnant just by washing DH's underwear but can't seem to stay that way! After a miscarriage (that was really sad and disappointing...don't get me wrong) I feel like I've been given a second chance! I can see us having one child maybe in five years or sometime in our 30's, but we're back in the fencesitter category for now. I'm all about enjoying life without a child right now and forever how long that lasts, I want to be around people without kids either!

I've missed intelligent conversation about something other than sippie cups, potty training, and ball practice!!!
Can I rejoin ya'll for a while? It's for my sanity!!

We joined our local No Kidding chapter (completely up front about our fencesitter status) and have our first get-together in a week and a half. I'm so excited!

How has everyone been? I have a lot of posts to catch up on.

 

[Hixski]

Popping in to say hi! If you remember, DH and I were the fencesitters who decided to TTC. Apparently, I can get pregnant just by washing DH's underwear but can't seem to stay that way! After a miscarriage (that was really sad and disappointing...don't get me wrong) I feel like I've been given a second chance! I can see us having one child maybe in five years or sometime in our 30's, but we're back in the fencesitter category for now. I'm all about enjoying life without a child right now and forever how long that lasts, I want to be around people without kids either!

I've missed intelligent conversation about something other than sippie cups, potty training, and ball practice!!!
Can I rejoin ya'll for a while? It's for my sanity!!

We joined our local No Kidding chapter (completely up front about our fencesitter status) and have our first get-together in a week and a half. I'm so excited!

How has everyone been? I have a lot of posts to catch up on.

Welcome back!!! You know all of us.......we are not the awful, terrible, selfish people that some of them make us out to be.

Sorry to hear about the miscarriage. We will try to cheer you up here.

 

[maddhatir]

Popping in to say hi! If you remember, DH and I were the fencesitters who decided to TTC. Apparently, I can get pregnant just by washing DH's underwear but can't seem to stay that way! After a miscarriage (that was really sad and disappointing...don't get me wrong) I feel like I've been given a second chance! I can see us having one child maybe in five years or sometime in our 30's, but we're back in the fencesitter category for now. I'm all about enjoying life without a child right now and forever how long that lasts, I want to be around people without kids either!

I've missed intelligent conversation about something other than sippie cups, potty training, and ball practice!!!
Can I rejoin ya'll for a while? It's for my sanity!!

We joined our local No Kidding chapter (completely up front about our fencesitter status) and have our first get-together in a week and a half. I'm so excited!

How has everyone been? I have a lot of posts to catch up on.

Hey! Welcome back- sorry to hear about your miscarriage

You can hang with us as long as you want!

Just a kid story from my Mexico trip last week-- One day we sat near this family with one little girl, she may have been about 4? The entire time we were laying there- (It was hours) The father had to comment on every single thing the kids did, and the father had a very loud voice- and not only that, the little girl talked the entire time! (it reminded me of listening to 100s of seagulls squawking)Both her and her father's voice were searing my brian! I wanted to scream JUST SHUT UP! Why must you comment on what your kid is doing every 5 minutes!

I was not feeling great so I was laying in the shade. DH came back from snorkeling and I was making one of my "OMG!" faces so he moved me to another spot further away from the chatty family! Get this- the little girl walks up to the people that were the next "beach hut" over and she started talking to the woman- and the father did not even tell her to come back over with them! The kid was there for a very long time. I looked over and it seemed like the woman was reading to the child and the woman's husband was laying there with his eyes closed- I guarantee he just didn't want to be bothered!

I am sorry- I know everyone here has to say- "it's not like I do not like kids......" But guess what- I don't! I don't want a stranger's child hanging out bothering me on the beach or anywhere else for that matter- I could not even imagine what I would have done if the kid came over to me and was hanging out in "my space"

Why do people think you do not mind their kids bugging you! My SIL is like that with her kids. My niece will go up to anyone and my SIL just laughs, hello SIL- maybe those people do not want to be bothered!

Sorry for the vent. But I am back!

 

[Hixski]

Welcome back Madd!!

Just for the record I am one that says I don't hate kids but.......I don't want to entertain the little buggers so their parents don't have too!!!

 

[TKDisneylover]

Popping in to say hi! If you remember, DH and I were the fencesitters who decided to TTC. Apparently, I can get pregnant just by washing DH's underwear but can't seem to stay that way! After a miscarriage (that was really sad and disappointing...don't get me wrong) I feel like I've been given a second chance! I can see us having one child maybe in five years or sometime in our 30's, but we're back in the fencesitter category for now. I'm all about enjoying life without a child right now and forever how long that lasts, I want to be around people without kids either!

I've missed intelligent conversation about something other than sippie cups, potty training, and ball practice!!!
Can I rejoin ya'll for a while? It's for my sanity!!

We joined our local No Kidding chapter (completely up front about our fencesitter status) and have our first get-together in a week and a half. I'm so excited!

How has everyone been? I have a lot of posts to catch up on.

So sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I hope that everything works out okay for you and your DH in whatever decision you make in the future. Welcome back by the way! I have never heard of a "No Kidding chapter" before and I'm assuming it's a group for people w/o kids, but just curious, what does this chapter do?

Hey! Welcome back- sorry to hear about your miscarriage

You can hang with us as long as you want!

Just a kid story from my Mexico trip last week-- One day we sat near this family with one little girl, she may have been about 4? The entire time we were laying there- (It was hours) The father had to comment on every single thing the kids did, and the father had a very loud voice- and not only that, the little girl talked the entire time! (it reminded me of listening to 100s of seagulls squawking)Both her and her father's voice were searing my brian! I wanted to scream JUST SHUT UP! Why must you comment on what your kid is doing every 5 minutes!

I was not feeling great so I was laying in the shade. DH came back from snorkeling and I was making one of my "OMG!" faces so he moved me to another spot further away from the chatty family! Get this- the little girl walks up to the people that were the next "beach hut" over and she started talking to the woman- and the father did not even tell her to come back over with them! The kid was there for a very long time. I looked over and it seemed like the woman was reading to the child and the woman's husband was laying there with his eyes closed- I guarantee he just didn't want to be bothered!

I am sorry- I know everyone here has to say- "it's not like I do not like kids......" But guess what- I don't! I don't want a stranger's child hanging out bothering me on the beach or anywhere else for that matter- I could not even imagine what I would have done if the kid came over to me and was hanging out in "my space"

Why do people think you do not mind their kids bugging you! My SIL is like that with her kids. My niece will go up to anyone and my SIL just laughs, hello SIL- maybe those people do not want to be bothered!

Sorry for the vent. But I am back!

Welcome back home! So how did the trip go other than the annoying child? Did your DH's meds kick in so he was feeling better by the time you arrived at your resort?

By the way, had that child came over by me I would have kept telling her that her daddy is calling her and she'd better get going quickly. I've been known to make things up when kids do that type of thing, especially when I'm not in the mood to deal with them! Sometimes I feel like W.C. Fields and want to say, "get away from me kid, your botherin' me!" And I don't hate kids either, but like you said when your sitting on the beach you definitely do not need a child bugging you while your relaxing!

I hope the rest of the trip went smoothly for you.

 

[PhotobearSam]

Welcome back Madd!!

Just for the record I am one that says I don't hate kids but.......I don't want to entertain the little buggers so their parents don't have too!!!

Amen...But I seem to only like the kids that I care about (Nieces, nephews, friend's kid, etc) and the odd child who is doing something cute at the time...but I don't like kids talking to me. I am missing the gene that allows me to understand child speak and I usually can't get a word they are saying and I find it annoying.

I don't hate kids but I don't like strange kids I don't know either...I am just built this way.

As for fence sitting, it's hard for me to understand. I think I have always known that I did not want kids...My Barbies never had kids, they owned bars and restaurants. I have always been sure. I guess I am just lucky that way. (Not that fence sitting is bad, I just have never been there so I don't get it)

 

[zima-cheryl]

I don't hate kids but I don't like strange kids I don't know either...I am just built this way.

Heck - I don't like most strange people I don't know, be they kids or adults

 

[zima-cheryl]

I have never heard of a "No Kidding chapter" before and I'm assuming it's a group for people w/o kids, but just curious, what does this chapter do?

We have a No Kidding group here in W. Mass. & it is all about the food for us. About once a month we get together at a different restaurant for good food & conversation. Last month was an Indian restaurant, I think next month is German food.

 

[Shyvioletisme]

Amen...But I seem to only like the kids that I care about (Nieces, nephews, friend's kid, etc) and the odd child who is doing something cute at the time...but I don't like kids talking to me. I am missing the gene that allows me to understand child speak and I usually can't get a word they are saying and I find it annoying.

I don't hate kids but I don't like strange kids I don't know either...I am just built this way.

As for fence sitting, it's hard for me to understand. I think I have always known that I did not want kids...My Barbies never had kids, they owned bars and restaurants. I have always been sure. I guess I am just lucky that way. (Not that fence sitting is bad, I just have never been there so I don't get it)

I'm the same way! I like my niece and the occasional kids...heck I have to be able to handle them...I substitute elementary school. So I can't say I hate kids...I just have a VERY strong dislike...like you...I can't really understand the fencesitting. I think you either are a kid person or not. I don't understand not being sure, but maybe just because I've always be SO sure I never wanted kids.

 

[plgrn]

Hey! Welcome back- sorry to hear about your miscarriage

You can hang with us as long as you want!

Welcome back!!! You know all of us.......we are not the awful, terrible, selfish people that some of them make us out to be.

Sorry to hear about the miscarriage. We will try to cheer you up here.

So sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I hope that everything works out okay for you and your DH in whatever decision you make in the future. Welcome back by the way!

Thanks guys! It feels good to be back. After the miscarriage, my midwife recommended a very simple solution to the problem...we're not talking in-vitro, Clomid, ANYTHING like that. So, normal people would have jumped right on the opportunity and continued trying to make a baby. Me and DH?? It just put us back on the fence and out of the game for a few more years. And thinking "maybe we were being stupid and this is God giving us a second change to ENJOY LIFE!" We are so screwed up and indecisive.

The other side of the fence is soooo scary (see my little siggy looking frightened out of his mind?)

 

[plgrn]

We have a No Kidding group here in W. Mass. & it is all about the food for us. About once a month we get together at a different restaurant for good food & conversation. Last month was an Indian restaurant, I think next month is German food.

Ours is brand new and we are meeting at a Nothing But Noodles. I can't wait to meet people who like to talk about travel, furbabies, education, careers, and anything else intelligent! Anything but cartoons and ball games!

So how many people do you have in your group and how long have you been going?

 

[plgrn]

Amen...But I seem to only like the kids that I care about (Nieces, nephews, friend's kid, etc) and the odd child who is doing something cute at the time..

I don't hate kids but I don't like strange kids I don't know either...I am just built this way.

Exactly!

My Barbies never had kids, they owned bars and restaurants.

That is adorable!

I'm the same way! I like my niece and the occasional kids...heck I have to be able to handle them...I substitute elementary school. So I can't say I hate kids...I just have a VERY strong dislike...like you...I can't really understand the fencesitting. I think you either are a kid person or not. I don't understand not being sure, but maybe just because I've always be SO sure I never wanted kids.

That must be such a luxury to "just know" I've got to get off this fence at some point. I'm getting a wedgie.

 

[plgrn]

Just a kid story from my Mexico trip last week--

So how was your trip? Did you cruise or fly? What part of Mexico?

DH and I took a Carnival cruise to Cozumel and Progreso back in September for our 5th anniversary. Progreso was so charming and we loved the ruins. I guess we should have done a shore excursion in Cozumel b/c all we saw was the crappy, touristy shopping area that we HATED. The water was pretty though.

And...there were like 6 kids on the whole ship. It was freaking awesome!

 

[zima-cheryl]

Ours is brand new and we are meeting at a Nothing But Noodles. I can't wait to meet people who like to talk about travel, furbabies, education, careers, and anything else intelligent! Anything but cartoons and ball games!

So how many people do you have in your group and how long have you been going?

See - it is all about the food!

The NK group here has been around since '04. DH & I got involved about 2 or 3 years ago. It ranges from 4 to 12 folks, mostly couples, but the occassional single, at any given get together.

DH & I make it about 4 or 5 times a year. And you are right, it is so nice to talk "grown up" for an entire evening. We usually have lots of talk about other restaurants to try, furbabies (pictures required), travel and home projects. It is a lot of fun.

 

[Hixski]

My Barbies never had kids, they owned bars and restaurants.

My Barbies had a thing for my brothers GI Joes! They thought Ken was a bit metrosexual!

Come to think of it my Barbies never had babies either!!!! They had the house and and cars though!

 

[plgrn]

They thought Ken was a bit metrosexual!

He is! I can remember finding a Marine Corps Ken and being so excited. The Barbies all fought over him of course.

 

[Shyvioletisme]

DH and I took a Carnival cruise to Cozumel and Progreso back in September for our 5th anniversary. Progreso was so charming and we loved the ruins. I guess we should have done a shore excursion in Cozumel b/c all we saw was the crappy, touristy shopping area that we HATED. The water was pretty though.

And...there were like 6 kids on the whole ship. It was freaking awesome!

how did you like Carnival??...I hear both good and really bad things about the ships..ie..cleanliness, the unfriendliness of the staff...but they have such good deals....DH and I are really looking into taking a cruise, but are finding it hard to pick a cruise line...