Looking For Control Freaks & Worry Warts - We're still here!

Status
Not open for further replies.
tough weekend here too. Sorry Tammie! Max dislocated his hip. Tim dropped him for the van when we got to the lake. Tough and long weekend for the dog. went to the emergency vet. got some meds that didn't cut the pain for him. Now back to the regular vet. They will tell me if he needs surgery or not. I'm guessing probably yes. We've decided that we won't do it. Hip replacements are not good on small dogs and ten years is a long life. I'm just hoping we can keep him comfortable until it is his time. I know that time is really close though. :(

I'm so sorry for you. Pets are so apart of your family!



SAD :guilty: We might be cancelling our trip. I'm so sad. I don't even know what to say. I can't evn get excited about going because DH is making me crazy about money!!
 
Haven't read up yet, but had to post this...... I am SOOOO mad I'm shaking right now, so bear with me if I have some typos....

Just called photopass about the missing photos on BSIL's account. Guess what???? Yup! They were "manually deleted" according to the gal at photopass. So she reinstated them, I emailed BSIL and said, "per photopass the photos were manually deleted. So I had them put back on."

That's all I said. Then I emailed her back a few minutes later.....
"On second thought, delete them again if you want. I'll order them separately if I want them. And can you please mail us the check for your parents gift last year and the flowers for your mom's surgery that Jeff ordered. It's been over a year on the gift and 4 months on the flowers. Thank you."

Too nasty? I'm so pissed right now I can hardly stand it. I told Jeff I am 100% done with her and her vindictive, nasty ways. DONE!!!!! She is no longer welcome in my home, and for holidays with Jeff's family? Haven't decided yet. YEs, I am THAT pissed!
 
Oh, and she hasn't responded at all. Probably sweating cause she's gotten away with this crap for years and nobody's ever called her out on it. Until now.
 

Laura - :headache:Poor Max. I'm so sorry. Lydia is right, when it is time to make the call - it is so very, very hard. Definately the hardest day of my life, and still I wonder if I should have done it. I'm saying mega prayers that all is okay and he will be fine with no surgery.

Tina - I know what you mean. Times are tough and it is so hard to drop a trip based on finances. I may be right there with you soon. :sad1: I do hope that all works out well for you guys and you get to go. :flower3:

Kara - GOOD FOR YOU! You know me, and I think I would have called her out on that one, and I've thought she should've been called out on the skipping money long ago. Tell Jeff you are a SAINT for putting up with it for this long. :angel:

I've very curious what her reply will be when she gets up the guts.
 
OK, so the BSIL story is really heating up.

I emailed her and told her to just delete our pics, right? So she emailed me back telling me I had an attitude, and just really went on the attack! I never attacked her. I was a bit curt in my email, but I just stated facts, never attacked her. Then she came at me and it went back and forth for awhile. Her final email included, "my family gets one trip a year, how many times do YOU go to Disney?" That just proved to me exactly what I said from the beginning. She is bitter because of our proximity to Disney and the fact that we go so often. Remember her outburst last year on our last day in Disney? She freaked out in line for Peter Pan and yelled at everyone because "this is it for us!" when we tried to get everyone to leave one hour early to go visit Jeff's cousin in Orlando on our way out of town.

I'm telling ya, the way she responded just basically showed her guilt. And then she changed her story from what she told me last week. But being the anal retentive person I am, I kept her old emails and forwarded them to Jeff for "proof."

I do feel bad for Jeff because he doesn't know what to do. I don't feel bad at all though. I"m angry. But I feel absolutely no guilt. I have Disney Photopass on my side. They told me the photos were manually deleted. BSIL can say whatever she wants..... after all, last week she admitted that she "moved them to another folder." Uh huh. Then this week she denies it. Nice try!

OK, just read a bit and want to respond to Laura and Tammie

Tammie - I am sooo sorry for you! I can't imagine what you're feeling right now. Not speaking for Lindsay, but maybe Mark is wanting to cut ties quickly so he doesn't dwell on it. Guys express themselves in some pretty warped ways. Just enjoy your time now, and know that you are very lucky to have had this time with your grandkids, too. I know my inlaws were hurting when we moved to FL, but it takes everyone to try to make it work from there. Hopefully they will soon realize what you and Jim have sacrificed for them and they'll be more appreciative. Have you suggested letting them move themselves to Texas and you'll go visit them a few months later? Bet that would make them stop and think.....

Laura - any news on the dog? Oh, I know how tough that is..... hopefully a dislocation isn't as bad as a fracture.

Speaking of dogs...... at the rehearsal dinner, I was "babysitting" the groom and Jeff (let's just say that they both stayed at my inlaws house the night before the wedding, but neither of them remember getting there......) and there were only a few of us left after most people left. This shepherd/lab mix dog came up to us, skinny, sweet dog. She laid under our table outside (the party was at the golf clubhouse where Jeff's parents live) all night. So sweet. She was licking the plates as the caterers were taking them out to their van. My heart was breaking for her. Ally saw her at one point and burst into tears that "that dog doesn't have a family."

Jeff also fell for this dog. I told him I would look for her the next day and take her to the vet, ask them to keep her until Sunday and then take her home with us. Then someone suggested that she could stay on Jeff's parent's screen porch for the night and I could take her to the vet in the morning. His mom wouldn't allow it cause the dog might have mange (which she did have) and they didn't want their precious little princess to get it. So I COULD have saved a dog's life, but heaven forbid anything minor happen to their stupid dog. Can you tell how much we hate their dog??? :rotfl2:

So the next day Jeff said the dog ran alongside his cart for 15 holes while he played golf!!! On the 15th hole someone came out and asked about the dog, and brought her food and water. I looked for her the rest of the weekend but didn't see her. I feel so bad. I should have taken her that night and driven straight to the vet or the pound. She would have made a good sister for Bucky. I'm actually gonna talk to some friends who live there and if they can catch her and get her to a vet, I'll pay them back and go pick her up. I really want this dog.

But I think she's an older dog, maybe 7-10 years old? Not that I care. I think someone dumped her cause they couldn't afford her anymore.
 
/
CA Jul 2008, our Youngest DS Mark, DDIL Lindsay, Londynn and Myles

100_1872.jpg


Toontown

July08Vacation64.jpg


Wondering who made the designs for the above shirts? The baseball heads and the pirate heads/girl pirate heads, please let me know if you can?
I have looked at alot of designers on here and can't find any of these.
Thank you.

I'll PM you my word file for these, Alison
 
tough weekend here too. Sorry Tammie! Max dislocated his hip. Tim dropped him for the van when we got to the lake. Tough and long weekend for the dog. went to the emergency vet. got some meds that didn't cut the pain for him. Now back to the regular vet. They will tell me if he needs surgery or not. I'm guessing probably yes. We've decided that we won't do it. Hip replacements are not good on small dogs and ten years is a long life. I'm just hoping we can keep him comfortable until it is his time. I know that time is really close though. :(

So sorry Laura. It is so hard to face "that time" with your pets. He is part of the family. :hug:

I'm so sorry for you. Pets are so apart of your family!



SAD :guilty: We might be cancelling our trip. I'm so sad. I don't even know what to say. I can't evn get excited about going because DH is making me crazy about money!!

Oh Tina! He does that to you every time:headache: I think you should save up money without telling him - when you have almost enough, tell him you are going with the girls, you have the money and if he would like to come along, he can!:thumbsup2

Oh, and she hasn't responded at all. Probably sweating cause she's gotten away with this crap for years and nobody's ever called her out on it. Until now.

Oh Kara - I am so mad for you!:mad: I think it is so funny that you were able to get proff from Disney. I'm glad they were able to restore the pics. I would have done the same thing you did. Just give it some time, and then be polite at holidays for Jeff's sake and for his mom. I know when my kids weren't getting along, I felt like I didn't have a family. I definately would refuse to EVER vacation with that woman again, though. And she should get her own gifts from now on. She probably can't even figure out how to do something nice for someone else.

Thanks for your comments. Now Mark says he doesn't want us to come for Christmas - they want to have their own quiet family Christmas. I'm not even hurt. I know exactly how they feel, and I would probably feel the same way. He said we could come right after Christmas and be there for New Year's. We're good with that - we just want to see the kids.

I said I am going to have Jim take me somewhere for Christmas - I do NOT want to have Christmas with no kids- I'm too young for that! Mom and I were talking about going down to my DB in Bakersfield and to Solvang, a scandinavian town - like Norway in Epcot only bigger!

Sounds like everyone is having crappy days...hugs to all of you!

Thanks, Lydia! Back at ya!:grouphug:
 
YIKES on the BSIL issue. It sounds like she's a major B***H. I can't stand people like that. Why would she hurt you and your memories over something petty.

I'm not going to talk about our Disney trip anymore. I'm hoping to sweet talk DH with Disney wishes and other things:rolleyes1 so he'll change his mind.

It definitely is turning into a nasty Monday all around. My girls are fighting - DD9 is being a royal (um) princess and her nasty attitude will send her straight to her room like Cinderella if she keeps it up!!
 
Erin - sounds like you have been busy over across the pond! Always lovely to hear what is new with you and CJ.
Erin! Sounds like you're busy over there!

Man we really have been but we've had such a great week off school, the sun has been shining and we have had so much fun, unfortunately tomorrow we go back to school for 7 more weeks until summer hols start!!!


tough weekend here too. Sorry Tammie! Max dislocated his hip. Tim dropped him for the van when we got to the lake. Tough and long weekend for the dog. went to the emergency vet. got some meds that didn't cut the pain for him. Now back to the regular vet. They will tell me if he needs surgery or not. I'm guessing probably yes. We've decided that we won't do it. Hip replacements are not good on small dogs and ten years is a long life. I'm just hoping we can keep him comfortable until it is his time. I know that time is really close though. :(

Sending you hugs Laura it's a hard thing to be dealing with :hug:

Haven't read up yet, but had to post this...... I am SOOOO mad I'm shaking right now, so bear with me if I have some typos....

Just called photopass about the missing photos on BSIL's account. Guess what???? Yup! They were "manually deleted" according to the gal at photopass. So she reinstated them, I emailed BSIL and said, "per photopass the photos were manually deleted. So I had them put back on."

That's all I said. Then I emailed her back a few minutes later.....
"On second thought, delete them again if you want. I'll order them separately if I want them. And can you please mail us the check for your parents gift last year and the flowers for your mom's surgery that Jeff ordered. It's been over a year on the gift and 4 months on the flowers. Thank you."

Too nasty? I'm so pissed right now I can hardly stand it. I told Jeff I am 100% done with her and her vindictive, nasty ways. DONE!!!!! She is no longer welcome in my home, and for holidays with Jeff's family? Haven't decided yet. YEs, I am THAT pissed!

No way was that too nasty Kara she is a complete nutjob and an appalling person! Well done on mentioning the money she owes you too!!

Tammie huge huge hugs for all that is going on your end with the move i really do feel for you, i can't imagine cj and i living that far away form my folks, my mum would not cope at all so i really do feel for you :hug:

Hi to everyone else am gonna read back properly now :flower3:
 
Any recommendations for ADR's for our trip in September? It'll just be me and DH and we don't need fancy places, rather, fun and interesting food we wouldn't normally eat...

We are staying at BWV and BLT.
 
Lydia - ADR recommendations - my favorite is Ohana, but get it your ADR right before the Wishes show at MK for a special surprise. I also like Tony's Town Square for a Lady & the Tramp feeling! LeCellier is the best at Epcot, this year we're trying Nine Dragons and I hear the dining at Morocco is belly twisting! I also like Cape May Cafe at BC - but only if you like seafood - the dinner buffet is good - a real NEngland clam bake.


Our Disney DVD arrived yesterday!! The girls are watching it right now! DH is finally on board about going. He was mad at me last night because I was asking DD9 would she want to go to Disney or to SL/SV. He wasn't very happy with me at all. I can't wait to do the Toy Story ride!! Plus I set up LIVE365 on my computer at work so I'm listening to Disney all day!!! Okay I'm finally excited about out trip!

How's everyone else's Tuesday going!! We're in June!
 
Lydia - my favorite dining experience at WDW is Flying Fish, on the BW. Also, maybe a fireworks dinner at Cali Grill? One of my faves overall, just for fun and great food, a pleasant surprise, is Raglan Road at DTD. Been twice and great both times.

At Epcot I love Le Cellier and Tutto Italia for the food, San Angel Inn for the atmosphere, Marrakesh for the fun.

At DHS, Sci Fi is fun for lunch, never been to 50's primetime or HBD, and Mama Melrose is okay food, but nothing like Tuttos's at Epcot.

Nothing exciting at MK.

Loved Jiko and Boma both at AKL. Jiko is a signature restaurant, Boma is buffet but the best buffet at Disney, imho.

Also great food but not much publicity is Artist Point at WL. The cedar plank salmon and the buffalo both very good.
 
i'll second what Kara says. After all she lives at Disney--hahaha

okay here is the dog drama. I've been chronicling it on FB. I'm cutting and pasting my updates;

4210_1151223149016_1480747779_365436_4523774_n.jpg


Max has a dislocated hip. They don't think they can get it back in without surgery. He's in a TON of pain. I don't think he is long for the world. Such a good dog, ten great years.

Max jumped out of Tim's arms and on to the ground and started to whimper immediately. We took him to the emergency vet in St. Croix Falls and they xray'd him and things didn't look good. They gave him some meds to hopefully make it thru the weekend (they didn't touch the pain :) ) We are headed to our regular vet tomorrow to see what is new.

whats the risk if they do surgery?? or is it a lot of $??

e life quality will not be good. We have neighbors at the lake that have done hip surgery on two labs. The poor pups aren't the same. They can't run and be active and are on pretty much the same meds they have max on now. Max loves to run and play with the kids. And the surgery is lots $$$. he's ten. its a real tough spot to be in. Bichons have a 12-14 year life expectancy. so we won't be getting another 10 years out of him if we did it.

he's at the vet right now. They are evaluating if they can get the leg to stay in the socket. He will be put under so they can push it back in. Sounds yucky. If they can't then they want to cut the top the bone off, the part with the ball that fits into the hip joint. The one good thing is that this surgery is much better than the one that the vet in WI was recommending. Still don't know if we will do it or not. Hoping that they are managing his pain better.

Well bad News. The leg went back into the socket really good, too good. There is no muscle control to hold in place. Surgery is the only option for him to recover and it sounds like that will only get him back where he was before he fell. We still have to deal with the other bad hip and the bad knees and the growing fatty tumors. We've decided not to do the surgery. We want to keep him comfortable and then decide if he needs to be put down. Worst thing to have to decide.

okay bad night last night. Pain is not under control. all he wants to do is hide. I think he's telling me something isn't right. I'm hoping that when the vet office opens this am we can get his something stronger and make him happy. I just can't kill my own dog.
 
Kara - You know how I feel about BSIL. I think all you did was FINE and Jeff can't get mad at you telling her the TRUTH - yeah you were too the point - but that is IT - that is the only even somewhat negative about your. She busts out her "DONE" and makes you sound like she is minding her own business, you attacked her and it just becomes really obvious. :confused3

As for the dog - I'd be the SAME! Exact same. I hope you find her! :wizard:

Laura - Thinking of you and Max today. I'm hoping the leg stays in place where it needs to be. The best advice I got from my vet (keep in mind she was on vacation for a week at the beach and called me daily after we had to put ours to sleep) was it was a QUALITY OF LIFE issue that you need to address. How is Max's, how is yours. Would you want to be in Max's shoes, and what would you say to someone if you were and how would you feel if the only communication you had was hiding under the bed? I'm not saying that anything needs to be decided now, but that was just helpful advice to keep in the back of my head until the moment came. KWIM? But there still is a chance that he'll recover right --?

Tammie - I think you should get away this Christmas. I kinda get the Christmas thing too, but I think it is great you get to go after and stay to New Years! Besides, kids don't "get" days yet. :hug:

Lydia - Well, Maya Grill gets good reviews. We ate there 3 times :rotfl:. I only bring it up because a lot of people call it the "best in WDW". It was good, but I wouldn't travel out of my way to eat there. :confused3

LORRIE UPDATE- Well, still no decisions are made. It is official thought that the WDW weekend in Nov and the beach weekend would cost the same. After all the discounts, I'd be OOP about $850 for each. We have to decide by Friday.

Carlos is leaning toward the beach. I asked if BF and I could go in Nov - he said pick one - not all three - and actually acted a smidge put off that I'd go without him. Humm.... maybe he liked WDW more than he put on. :)
 
Okay, so I wasn't going to post about this, but it is really eating at me.

So, I don't think I've shared that while at WDW, my Mom's job got cut - so BOTH my mom and DSF are without work. He got downsized in Dec. Well - my mom wants him to make X in order for her to not have to work. He got an offer for $10K less than that.

My mom doesn't want him to do it because she'll have to work. I said he should take it - like he said - and keep looking while working. Insurance and parking are paid for by the company completely - so that can really make up for that $10K offset too.

She is mad at me for siding with him. It is frustrating. She thinks I'm telling her she has to let go of the not going back to work dream and that I just dont' want her to be like me and get to stay home.

:headache:why does this have to be so hard? I just have their best interest at heart. It is tough out there - and with news yesterday that another establishment is closing, we'll be flooded with people looking for ANYTHING.

I hate getting perceived as being mean when I'm only trying to help. :sad1:
 
OMG Laura! You poor thing!!! I so feel for you right now. Let me just add my $.02 real quick. We had a hip replacement done for our black lab when he was a year old. We took him to the Ohio State vet clinic and it was 1/2 the cost as any vet around us. So maybe check into UM vet school? Do they have one? Also, he was a new dog when he was done. I think he was so severely inbred because when they went in to drill into his bone, the entire thing shattered - they basically had to rebuild his leg bone. Funny part is several years later our vet took on a new associate - it was one of the vet students that remembered operating on Fulton!!!!

So don't rule it out just yet, but I so hear you - the age thing would be a big deciding point for me, too. If he was still young, absolutely you do what you can for him, but at his age.... and I'm sure recovery would be a lot tougher for him at this age.

You know we're here for you - good luck with your decision.....:hug:
 
Lorrie - uh, um, I think it's a no brainer for your SF to take the job!!! Maybe your mom could just work part time??? As for the $10 making up for insurance, we pay $9600 a year in insurance!!!!!

I just told Jeff we need to drop to the lesser coverage plan I think. I mean, even without insurance we would not have spent that much last year. And that is with Ally's little surgery!

So yes, I think that anything in his field he should take at this point. It ain't easy out there right now. And better to take it now than to still be looking in 6 months...... Cause then they will BOTH be working double shifts at Waffle HOuse just to pay the bills!!!!!
 
Lorrie - uh, um, I think it's a no brainer for your SF to take the job!!! Maybe your mom could just work part time??? As for the $10 making up for insurance, we pay $9600 a year in insurance!!!!!

I just told Jeff we need to drop to the lesser coverage plan I think. I mean, even without insurance we would not have spent that much last year. And that is with Ally's little surgery!

So yes, I think that anything in his field he should take at this point. It ain't easy out there right now. And better to take it now than to still be looking in 6 months...... Cause then they will BOTH be working double shifts at Waffle HOuse just to pay the bills!!!!!

That is EXACTLY what I said to her - find something you LOVE to do - do it part time and make the money. She got mad - got off the phone, and isn't taking my calls. :confused3

Two people in the family off at the same time is a completely different ball game than one.

And no to the Waffle House - it closed last year. :rotfl: I just don't get her. The job is via his old boss - so hopefully it will work out.

My poor DSF is having major self esteme issues. He worked at the company for 19 1/2 years and not finding anything is really affecting him. I just want to see him happy again. He's so tied to working - kwim?

Hopefully, she'll get unmad at me in a week or so. :confused3
 
Status
Not open for further replies.

PixFuture Display Ad Tag












Receive up to $1,000 in Onboard Credit and a Gift Basket!
That’s right — when you book your Disney Cruise with Dreams Unlimited Travel, you’ll receive incredible shipboard credits to spend during your vacation!
CLICK HERE














DIS Facebook DIS youtube DIS Instagram DIS Pinterest DIS Tiktok DIS Twitter

Back
Top