Just need to vent.......

[JerJan]

Thanks so much for your mostly helpful comments from MOST of you who truly seem to care.....You know I must say that a FEW of you are VERY MEAN people! I was just venting and when I asked what people thought it wasn't for your NASTY comments. I DO INDEED have a life! It is truly AMAZING to me how SOME people can always seem to turn things (a simple comment) NEGATIVE...YOU are the ones who need to "GET A LIFE!" Have you nothing better to do than to try to P--- people OFF? If you have nothing nice to say....PLEASE don't say anything at all. I could understand it if you were joking but I honestly believe that you were just being MEAN!

 

[Doctor P]

At the time that we originally purchased (direct from Disney) we were ASKED who should be listed as the primary contact for the contract and then the papework was prepared that way even though both of us are full, deeded owners. At least in our case, I know that the assumption was never made that it would be in my name (perhaps because we have a wonderful, female Guide). In our case, I do almost all of the reservations and paperwork, but I have made reservations for my wife three different times and they are always mailed to me as the primary contact, but only contain her name as the registered guest. And I was told the first time it happened that all "official" documents, including confirmations, get sent to the primary contact on the account. In our case, we are both at the same address, but I see how this could be a problem with joint owners who have different addresses.

 

[Y-ASK]

I have no idea why women would think this such a terrible crime. To the OP: You must be very young and now you have learned a very valuable lession! Every contract to purchase something that requires a title in the US has a place for the Owner and the Co-Owner. If it means that much to you to have your name listed on any correspondence then, in the future, make sure you put your name as the Owner or Purchaser, not as the Co-Owner. My wife (also very young at the time) got upset over the title of the 1st car we ever bought together that she was going to drive because my name was 1st. She put her name 1st next time around and after the 3rd and 4th car it didn't matter any more. We both know who's car is who's . Oh, in case it makes you feel any better, your husband will not be able to sell your DVC or Car if both your names are on the title without your signature.

Y-ASK

 

[JerJan]

Firstoff, no I'm not very young (not that it matters) My issue if you read the original post was why his name was on the ressie as it being confirmed for him when he never called and isn't even going. I know it belongs to both of us as co-owners, thanks very much for input though.

 

[DVC Jen]

That is not true. Someone is pulling your leg. Both my DH and my names are on our DVC contract and I am the only one who makes the ressies and the confirmation always comes to ME in MY name.

Sounds like someone is being a bit chauvenistic.

 

[Y-ASK]

Sorry I meant no offense about the young part. Maybe I should have said newly married but that might not be right either. The only point I was trying to make was about the Owner/Co-Owner distinction. I didn't understand why my wife got upset at the time as well and as I said after a few years she understood how the process works and then after a few more years she really didn't care. She opens all the mail any way . One more lesson from this is to make sure that you put the Primary name of the person checking in on the reservation. Don't let them assume it's your husband and ask once or twice while you have them on the phone just to be sure.

Have a great day!
Y-ASK

 

[spiceycat]

call your guide - ask her to make sure your name is first on all future correspondence.

also call MS back and ask why when you make the reservation - it was address and confirmed for your husband - bet they can't answer

Men you don't understand because you have never been treated as second class citizen by this country. Women have been.

Stand up for your rights - lady!!! If you don't know do it won't be done. (like others things in life)

 

[Y-ASK]

Both my DH and my names are on our DVC contract and I am the only one who makes the ressies and the confirmation always comes to ME in MY name.

Sounds like someone is being a bit chauvenistic.

How dare they not put your husband's name on the correspondence! This is an outrage! Who wears that pants in this country any way?


Seriously, is your name 1st on all the paperwork?

Y-ASK

 

[Kelly&John]

JerJan,

I totally understand where you are coming from. I kept my name. It's a good name. However, when I re-financed our mortgage ... and I do mean I... my husband got listed first and the mortgage interest statement comes in HIS social security number. That burns me because I am the one who actully pays the mortgage and we file separately for Federal tax purposes. I put MY name first on all the documents to sign. I guess the person taking the application was just "old school".

I understand your need to vent.

 

[Tine731]

ressie came through for VB 6/19 & 6/20 for an Ocean View Inn room

I hate to bring this up but I wish someone had let me know about the "ocean view" rooms at VB. I just spent May 15-19 at VB and had reserved (and used pts) for an ocean view. When we checked in the CM confirmed that we had an ocean view and gave us room 2231?? which faces towards the north not the east towards the beach. I called the front desk and asked about our ocean view....he said we had one...you just had to stand on the balcony and crane your neck to the right. He was very pleasent and explained that the rooms that face north and south are considered ocean view. He says he gets disapointed guests all the time and are hoping that they will change the rating for these rooms. We kept the room and decided that we were not going to let the disapointment of the "view" ruin our great stay, and It was a truly wonderful relaxing stay.

 

[Y-ASK]

Men you don't understand because you have never been treated as second class citizen by this country. Women have been.

The key words here is "have been". It's not like that any longer. It only comes across like that when women (and men for that matter) are not aware of how the process works and then take offense because they think that they are being treated as 2nd class citizens and really they are not. Want to feel like you have complete control, make sure your name is 1st on every form you and your husband ever sign together.

Once you learn how the system works you will understand that it's a computer thing and not personnal.

Y-ASK

 

[Stimpy]

All reservations are sent to the primary contact for the contract, regardless of who made the reservation or for whom the reservation was made. That is part of the safety valve they have put into the system. In our case, member mailings seem to alternate between my wife's name appearing first and mine appearing first, and about 50% or more of the time if our guide calls she will leave the message for my wife or on my wife's mailbox.

That is not true in our case! Right from the start, we told our guide and he put down all MY contact info as the primary contact. But everything comes in his name. It's been a real annoyance to me too. DH still doesn't even understand how DVC works. I do all the ressies, add-on paperwork, credit card payments etc, yet it comes addressed to him. All the mailings we get from DVC is in his name. Since he throws alot of stuff out without even looking at it, it's a good thing I usually get the mail first. We also have different last names and it's not alphabetical either because I'm before him.

BTW, everything from DCL comes addressed to him too. (Same thing there too, I make the ressies, pay on my cc, etc)

 

[Geyser Gazer]

Just gotta ask.

JerJan wouldn't happen to stand for Jerry/Janice would it?

 

[Y-ASK]

Hhmmm, Maybe I could be wrong. Maybe Disney is more of a traditionalist company that I would have thought. I find it hard to believe that they would go out of their way to put the Man's name 1st but I've been wrong before. And if that is true, I just don't know what to think....

Y-ASK

 

[pat-rick]

Where is the problem ?

I make most of the reservations but the reservations always come in my DW's name .
We both are on the deeds and have our own DVC cards to show when we get there .

But what is funny is the Bills always come in MY NAME or at least MY NAME FIRST.

I'm just glad DW lets me go !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Maistre Gracey]

At the time that we originally purchased (direct from Disney) we were ASKED who should be listed as the primary contact for the contract and then the papework was prepared that way even though both of us are full, deeded owners.

I also remember my guide asking this question, although I'm not sure "primary contact" was the given title.
I can't remember now, but the way he explained it there was a very good reason to have one person designated as such.

MG

 

[lllovell]

The key words here is "have been". It's not like that any longer. It only comes across like that when women (and men for that matter) are not aware of how the process works and then take offense because they think that they are being treated as 2nd class citizens and really they are not. Want to feel like you have complete control, make sure your name is 1st on every form you and your husband ever sign together.

Once you learn how the system works you will understand that it's a computer thing and not personnal.

Y-ASK

Whose name is first doesn't matter to hubby and I. In GA, car tag fees are related to birthday, so we put the car in the name of the person whose birthday is furthest away.

As far as your comments, Y-Ask, you are looking at this from a "one time" deal perspective. When it happens time and again, you do feel second class, but as a man, I suspect it rarely happens to you. The group that is not discriminated against (typically) cannot ever understand why others get so upset over "simple" things.

If the name thing is so important to you, I agree with calling MS and seeing if there is something they can do. I bet a simple switching of the names in the system would determine who the letter is addressed to. Funny thing is I have never noticed nor do I care, but I don't think its crazy if you DO care to try to do something about it!

 

[cristbaby]

It doesn't matter to DH or myself whose name is on the ressie. But I do understand the OP reason for being so upset. Call MS and make sure it is corrected. And by the way, have a great trip!

 

[JerJan]

OK.... Here's the reason this is a problem. I don't care if the paperwork comes to the house addressed to BOZO THE CLOWN..... my point is I made the ressie for ME and my FRIEND, then the ressie comes in DH's name. If I hadn't looked at it carefully we could have had big problems upon trying to check in as our last names are different. I know how the "SYSTEM" works it always get addressed to the "MAN" we have been married for 10 years and we have owned multiple cars and real estate holdings, his name always appears frist even when we request that my name be first on certain things that we have purchased. Just because that's always the way it's been done, doesn't make it right. In this age of technology you can put the names anyway you want them, the "INDUSTRY" chooses not too, just my honest opinion.

 

[JerJan]

And I forgot GEYSER GAZER it stands for Jerry/Jan, you were so close!