Is it rude of my daughter's boyfriend

[jaye614]

to leave as soon as I get home without saying hello? He leaves by another door than the one I am coming in. I know he treats her good and I want to say something to my daughter but don't want her to get all defensive about it - I just don't like it.

 

[TimeforMe]

Yes, that is definitely rude and I'll go one step further and say disrespectful as well. I would absolutely tell my daughter--surely she can see your point, no?

He needs to know that he needs to respect you as adults and as her parents.

 

[Robinrs]

 

[sunni]

very rude!

Next time catch him off guard and come in the other door! Then would be a good time to have a word with him as well. Might be better taken than if you go through your daughter.

 

[faithinkarma]

To me this sounds like a kid who does not have a good relationship with his own parents and is very uncomfortable around adults. Talk to your daughter, and do force the issue. Once he sees that you don't bite, you may actually alter his perception of adults in general.

Or you may find out that I am full of it, and this kid is just someone you do not want around your daughter. Either way, I think you have to get to know him better.

 

[Beth76]

Yes, it's rude, but not really for you to say. Do you see him at other times? Have you ever really talked to him? If not, maybe he's just shy or nervous. Have him over for dinner and get to know him (if you don't already). Maybe then he'll be more inclined to stick around after you get home.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Maybe he's shy. But I think I would at least say hello and then dart out.

 

[trishy]

rude

 

[alecam]

TERRIBLY RUDE!!<a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_13_4.gif' alt='Annoyed And Disappointed' border=0></a>

 

[katerkat]

Is he and your daughter alone in the house before you come home?

 

[chadfromdallas]

Originally posted by jaye614
He leaves by another door than the one I am coming in.

Me being one who has messed around with many daughters....

The boy is messing around with the girl

Chad knows this...

And sure, it s a little rude.

 

[Keli]

As the mother of a teenage dd I have to tell you that this boy's behavior is setting off all kinds of warning bells for me. I would definitely look into this situation. There is a reason the bf is avoiding you so completely and it might be, as someone else suggested, that he has a bad relationship with his parents but really, I think it's likely to be something else and you need to look into it.

 

[disneyjunkie]

Very rude.

I would also wonder what's going on while you aren't home.

 

[Jeanny]

I agree with Beth, he's shy,& he's just afraid of you... maybe he was treated rough by a former girlfriends family and is just afraid... I know "my kids" at school are very quiet around me until they get to know me... I usually yell out "Hey ='insert name' " when I see them around campus-- it amazes them that I even know their name. A lot of them tell me that when they first meet me, they were afraid of me, because of my position in our department, but once they get to know me, I'm like a second Mom to them.

Hopefully, they're not messing around if they're alone in the house before you come home...see, that's the Mom in me to wonder!!!

 

[Saffron]

Next time catch him off guard and come in the other door!

LOL! Sounds like a plan to me!

It's rude and disrespectful. I'd be wondering what was up too -- like is there something about me he is trying to avoid or is he's just plain ol' rude and disrespectful to everyone or what.

 

[DSNY FN]

He is probably hiding a big bite mark onhis neck from playin around when mom and dad are not home. He is trying to avoid being confronted I think there is more going on that you know about sorry you probably didn't want to hear that but just a gut feeling I now I never wanted to be confronted by mom or dad coming home after having sex with their daughter while they were out.

 

[Jungle Skipper]

WHOA! very rude...I must agree with some others here..sounds like more might be going on...makes me wonder what exactly is going on when I'm not home...hmmm.....

Personally, if i were a dad, Id becoming home with a shotgun so DDs BF would be running out the door not just leaving!

Jungle Josh

PS: no i don't own a shotgun, nor am I a redneck...Id just be an over protective dad! --JJ

 

[Blueeyes101817]

i agree with everyone else.....
i would try talking to your daughter and seeing what she says...

in my family, i went out with the same guy for 2 years..he was considered part of the family, but was never over when no one was home.....if he was leaving as mom was coming in..id be in trouble!!

 

[disneyjunkie]

Originally posted by Blueeyes101817
if he was leaving as mom was coming in..id be in trouble!!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

If some kid did that I would think he had something to hide. No way would I allow that in my home!

So my answer is that is more than rude but suspicious on top of that!