Is it rude of my daughter's boyfriend

[minniecarousel]

Has he been to the house for a "family dinner" - if not, it sounds like it's time! Try to get him comfortable around you. I'd probably not be comfortable with one of my teenage sons having a girl over while I wasn't home - so it may be time to talk to your DD about that.

 

[pw2pp]

Sounds very suspicious. Why is it that he can't look you in the eye?
Why are they alone together in your home anyway?

 

[Blueeyes101817]

this makes me think of something funny...when i was going out with the same guy,,we didnt have our licenses yet , so my mom was dirving us to the movies...she was driving and started a sex talk right there in front of the boyfriend....it was quite interesting, but after that, he never was shy in front of my family again!

 

[Bonnie40]

I have to agree with most of the posters...big red flag to me and I've got a teenage daughter so I know all about boyfriends...

I wouldn't tolerate that kind of behaviour once, let alone on a regular basis. You didn't say how old your daughter is, but I certainly would let her know that it's unacceptable behaviour and if I were you, I wouldn't allow them to be home alone...just my 2 cents!

 

[GoofItUp]

WHAT IN THE WORLD ARE THEY DOING HOME ALONE?! I think that would be my first concern. Home alone + ducking out as soon as you get there = TROUBLE!

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

The OP never said if they were home alone or not.

Lori

 

[epcotfan]

WHAT IN THE WORLD ARE THEY DOING HOME ALONE?!

Just because they are home alone doesn't necessarily mean they are doing something bad. Gosh, my mother had to work when I was a teen and I was home alone after school. I certainly didn't need a babysitter. And yes, my boyfriend did come over. I guess what it comes down to is how old they are and if you trust them or not. Just because they have supervision at home, doesn't mean they aren't going to mess around somewhere else.

 

[onecoolmama]

I had a guy friend..not boyfriend...who did this. My mom told me...very nicely like a friend. She said.."Gosh, do you think that is a little rude? He doesn't say Goodbye to me...I would never do that. " Not mean, like I said...more like a friend saying it. I took no offense and just said to him.."My mom finds it rude that you dont say goodbye to her. You need to start doing that." Again, not rudely...and he did. All was right in the world again!LOL!

Just tell your daughter you it comes across as rude. Heck..it is your house....your rules!

 

[DSNY FN]

I agree try talking to her maybe there is something going on maybe not but until you sit her down to talk you will never know and honeslty not knowing and speculating is far worse as your mind starts to think of every possible bad thing you can imagine.

 

[Mimi Q]

RUDE. I'd talk to my daughter and let her handle it.

 

[wdwdvcdad]

He would immediately become my daughter's EX-Boyfriend if:
a) he were in the house while I'm not home
b) did not show me the proper respect at all times.