ok, I stopped reading this thread after my post on page 15 or so, because I was really getting the heebie-jeebies!! But the funny thing is, I didn't subscribe to it, and it keeps popping up in my In-box in my email. And I hadn't revisited it for a long time, and the emails always say "this will be the last one you get till you revisit the thread" or something like that. And I haven't revisited, but I keep getting them, and this doesn't happen with any other threads!!! Is there a ghost in my 'puter?????

(but i'm really serious!) So I came to read it today, and I just had to respond to this one...
"Well mum I chose to come to you and dad, I knew Grammie and Auntie from before but I did not know you."
My aunt, who is very into astrology, physics, reincarnation, etc, has a belief that we all are always re-born into the same family line and we have had a relation in a past life to the people who are in our lives now (gender doesn't matter - a man could have been someone's grandma, etc). So what your ds said would make sense along this line of thinking.
And along this line, I have 2 stories... my brother and his wife met when they were in their 30's (one of them answered an on-line ad), and brother says that when he walked into the restaurant for their first face-to-face meeting, it was *instant recognition* for him. He looked at her, felt as if he's always known her in a way he's never felt before. They hit it off, and were married a few months later, and it's been 9 years or so now. And she looks SO much like my father's family - she looks just like my grandmother and aunt (but maybe that's part of brother's instant recognition)... AND she and I have the same birthday (different year though). He just really feels as if they had a prior connection, and he's never felt like this before. And boy, does she fit right into our family. we're all very, very close, like we were all meant to be together in this time of our lives.
And me... when I met one of my first serious boyfriends when I was a teen, I always felt a different kind of connection with him than I've ever felt before. It wasn't an "i love you" connection, but just something that's hard to explain... it's just a connection... not good or bad. We dated on and off for a few years (he actually lived overseas and would visit the US, we'd write to each other and call, I went to england to visit him once, and we got pretty serious, but I then met my dh and started dating him, and it was like I was meant to be with dh). Anyway, fast forward to now... this ex and I hadn't been in touch since I was 22yo or so (I'm 40 now), and he looked me up on classmates dot com last year just for ha-ha's, and we got back in touch. I mentioned in one of my emails about my aunt's belief, and that I felt a connection years ago with him that might fit into aunt's belief, and he wrote back that he had also felt something weird, but would never want to admit it (and he's the typical type of guy who would laugh at stuff like this and say how totally silly it is), and that he had felt an 'attraction' to me when he first saw me, that he's never felt before or since. And not like a "she's so attractive" attraction, just something's he's never felt before. so who knows. But it's like we weren't meant to be in each other's lives in *this* life for some reason.
I remember my aunt also saying if you've ever met someone and felt an instand 'bad' feeling about them, but couldn't explain why, it could be someone who did something bad to you in a past life, and you just happen to cross paths again. interesting stuff...