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[JaxTeach]

I'm so sorry to hear that Vanessa. I can't imagine what Kris is going through now. You will definitely be in our thoughts.

 

[noochez]

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

 

[helloirishkitty]

I'm sorry for your loss... you both are in my prayers...

 

[lurkyloo]

Oh, I am so, SO sorry for your loss. Kris is very lucky to have you to support him.

We are remembering my mom by playing her favorite song during a pause in the processional....

 

[MariaLovesJon<3]

Sorry for your loss ...

I completely second Lurkyloo's suggestion on what to do to honor his father during the ceremony...it would be a very sentimental touch!

 

[Keira1387]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

 

[HolyCowImADisneyBrde]

I know you can't say it enough, but I'm so sorry for your loss. Will be thinking of you guys

 

[DigitalLove]

Hiya!

I've just spent the last hour or so reading through your PJ and was really saddened to read your latest entry... Thoughts for your DF, yourself and your family. My FFIL died this past March from a massive heart attack and I too have been thinking of various ways to have him remembered at our wedding. My DF is the last of his 7 children to get married and its the one wedding he won't physically be at, but will be with us in our hearts. He would have been so pleased with our news about getting married as he was forever telling me how thrilled he was that Mark had finally settled down. I'm thinking of having him mentioned during our unity ceremony when we are lighting our candles, and also having a vacant chair for him next to DF's mum with a single rose and a name place card on the chair. We really would have loved to have 'left a legacy' at EPCOT for him whilst we are there, but alas that is no more

Huge hugs and positive thoughts to you all at the very sad time

Christina

xxx

 

[cryssi]

 

[allie_to_you]

So sorry to hear about Kris's dad. It's always hard losing anyone you love, but especially a parent.

 

[figmentfan814]

Thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers. It was a really tough week, but we are slowly making our way through it. There is still a lot more to deal with and I know the wedding will probably be one of the toughest things. Thankfully everyone in the family has been extremely supportive.

 

[figmentfan814]

Wow - I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My DF's father passed away this year as well. He had cancer and lost his battle in April. It was so hard for DF to deal with the fact that he won't be at the wedding.

To honor his memory and keep him a part of our wedding, we are having the guys (3 of 5 are DF's brothers) wear their father's favorite flower (which is what he wore on his wedding day) as a boutinere. So the boys will all be wearing stefanotis flowers with a rose. I wonder if you can do something like that.

We are also having a memory candle lit for our whole ceremony for DF's father as well as my sister and the other people that we have lost (its been way too many for us being so young).

Oh, another idea - for my sister who passed away in 2004 my girls are all wearing yellow in memory of her because her nickname was "sunshine".

Again - you and your DF are in my thoughts.

These are some really great ideas, this gives me some great starting points as we start to decide what we want to do at the wedding. Thankfully for Kris' family this was the first person in 31 years to pass away on their side; unfortunately in my family (like yourself) I too have had a large number of losses so I completely understand what you have gone through.

We are already having empty chairs in the front row with flowers for our grandparents (we only each have one left) so maybe we can incoporate his dad into this too only using a different flower to distinguish his seat.

 

[figmentfan814]

Oh, I am so, SO sorry for your loss. Kris is very lucky to have you to support him.

We are remembering my mom by playing her favorite song during a pause in the processional....

Thank you, that is a great idea too. Once things settle down a little I am going to have to sit Kris down to go over all the different suggestions.

 

[figmentfan814]

Hiya!

I've just spent the last hour or so reading through your PJ and was really saddened to read your latest entry... Thoughts for your DF, yourself and your family. My FFIL died this past March from a massive heart attack and I too have been thinking of various ways to have him remembered at our wedding. My DF is the last of his 7 children to get married and its the one wedding he won't physically be at, but will be with us in our hearts. He would have been so pleased with our news about getting married as he was forever telling me how thrilled he was that Mark had finally settled down. I'm thinking of having him mentioned during our unity ceremony when we are lighting our candles, and also having a vacant chair for him next to DF's mum with a single rose and a name place card on the chair. We really would have loved to have 'left a legacy' at EPCOT for him whilst we are there, but alas that is no more

Huge hugs and positive thoughts to you all at the very sad time

Christina

xxx

Thank you Christina As you know from your experience nothing quite makes up for their absence and I know that deciding on a way to honor his father is going to be one of the most difficult decisions of the planning process. Our wedding had really brought Kris and his dad a lot closer and it's going to be so hard not having him there.

 

[figmentfan814]

I ordered my invitations last week. Yes, I know this should have been months ago, but I had yet another problem with a vendor creating my invites. I had been working with Jennifer from Sassy Designs who came highly recommended. We started in July working on a custom invitation that used some of our Disney engagement pictures along with some Disney touches.

Anyway, after 3 months of working on things she emailed me in November telling me that she was overwhelmed after their birth of her son earlier this summer and that she was sorry but she couldn't do my invitations anymore. I was shocked, I wish she would have told been more honest 3 months earlier

So, I thought maybe I could have a local printer follow a similar design to what I wanted, however after talking to a few people I wasn't too pleased, so I ended up ordering from the Image Gallery through Rexcraft. The main color we have for the background and text is called azure.

This is the main picture on the front:

The three smaller photos on the inside are as follows:

They should actually be here by the end of this week. I guess we'll be addressing invitations over Christmas
We are sending them out right after the holiday and will give our guests a month to respond. Almost everyone has their reservations already, so even though we're cutting our Disney deadline close we should still be okay.

I included a reception card that has the details about the dessert party on it. I am going to make a separate card that outlines the rest of the wedding weekend activities- the Welcome Party, Bridal Tea, etc. What did everyone include this type of information in- was it sent along with your invitation? I'm thinking about sending a separate postcard with this information... any opinions?

 

[Kristen14]

A lot of girls have made newsletters and included everything on it. I'm sending out a separate invitation for my rehearsal dinner (because not everyone is invited). For the welcome party and bridal luncheon i'm using good ole word of mouth

 

[figmentfan814]

That's a good idea about the separate invitation for the rehearsal dinner because we're also not inviting everyone. I never even thought of doing something for that; I'm glad you metioned it I have been doing newsletters (three so far) but I'm afraid some details might get lost since I don't think people are reading all of them. Even DF's mom was asking me about questiosn that were outlined in the newsletters

 

[Kristen14]

i know what you mean about the newsletters... i didnt send any, but my own parents were asking questions that were answered in the INVITATION!

 

[a_sailor's_wife]

I just read your entire planning journal! I'm not exactly sure why I ventured over to this board as I'm alread married, but I did.

First off I am so sorry for your lose. DH's mother was killed when he was a young child. When we married last year, we had a special flower arrangement on our table made of her favorite flowers to remember her by. We also had a slide show of us growing up and in the end we had a picture of her and it let everyone know that the flowers on our table were for her. Your DH may also want to carry something in his pocket of his father's or maybe wear cuff links that belonged to his father. A number of things can be done to honor and remember him by.

Good Luck!

 

[figmentfan814]

I just read your entire planning journal! I'm not exactly sure why I ventured over to this board as I'm alread married, but I did.

First off I am so sorry for your lose. DH's mother was killed when he was a young child. When we married last year, we had a special flower arrangement on our table made of her favorite flowers to remember her by. We also had a slide show of us growing up and in the end we had a picture of her and it let everyone know that the flowers on our table were for her. Your DH may also want to carry something in his pocket of his father's or maybe wear cuff links that belonged to his father. A number of things can be done to honor and remember him by.

Good Luck!

Thank you for sharing your ideas. I think Kris is going to wear his dad's nice watch. Also, when we are having a special flower with a picture of him sitting on the front row. I'm sure we will add more things as we get closer.