Family Photographs with an Ex “significant other”?

[HannaBelle]

Where can we all donate more lemons for her to suck?

LOL

I won't actually tell her to suck lemons, just wanted a gut check.

My mother has all of her extended family photographs in separate albums, she brings these to the family reunions for everyone to flip through. She does not have them hanging in her house, so they are out in "public" when on display.

Over the past couple of days, I have been posting past reunion pictures on Facebook, in albums, by year. I have posted 10 years worth of reunions, probably 1,200 to 1,500 photographs. There were exactly 2 photographs of this ex in the 2004 album. I posted them, my mother tagged my cousin, the photos with the ex popped up on my cousins wall, then his current GF used his phone to call my mother and confront her.

I have had an overwhelmingly positive response to the photos, I don't think it was mistake to post them. I just wanted to know if I was being insensitive to her feelings. I have not been divorced and I don't have any tragic ex stories, I don't care if my DH has old photos with his ex, so I cannot really relate. I think this is more about her issues than our family history.

 

[Lynne M]

I posted them, my mother tagged my cousin, the photos with the ex popped up on my cousins wall, then his current GF used his phone to call my mother and confront her.

I have no words. Other than: yikes.

I think this is more about her issues than our family history.

Yup.

 

[aaarcher86]

LOL I won't actually tell her to suck lemons, just wanted a gut check. My mother has all of her extended family photographs in separate albums, she brings these to the family reunions for everyone to flip through. She does not have them hanging in her house, so they are out in "public" when on display. Over the past couple of days, I have been posting past reunion pictures on Facebook, in albums, by year. I have posted 10 years worth of reunions, probably 1,200 to 1,500 photographs. There were exactly 2 photographs of this ex in the 2004 album. I posted them, my mother tagged my cousin, the photos with the ex popped up on my cousins wall, then his current GF used his phone to call my mother and confront her. I have had an overwhelmingly positive response to the photos, I don't think it was mistake to post them. I just wanted to know if I was being insensitive to her feelings. I have not been divorced and I don't have any tragic ex stories, I don't care if my DH has old photos with his ex, so I cannot really relate. I think this is more about her issues than our family history.

Wow. Cheeky little tart. I can't even imagine the peach she must be to call someone else's mother as a distant girlfriend to moan about pictures.

Their breakup is going to be full of clothes burning and car keying.

 

[sbtrfly74]

This GF has some big ones to call and throw a tantrum. Dude should run now.

If it was a wife different story... kinda. I asked my parents to take down my family pic of my ex while we were going through our divorce. Mistake now that its hindsight, probably- for the kids.

My sister is going through a nasty divorce and I was at my parents house on Sunday. Her family picture has her soon to be ex cropped out of it now with just her and the kids.

Now at my uncles house that still has a family photo with my ex in it. I would never in a million years ask him to take it down.

 

[aprilgail2]

Yup, in their home and on their Facebook page. If the girlfriend doesn't like it she is free to not look at it.

LOL

I posted them, my mother tagged my cousin, the photos with the ex popped up on my cousins wall, then his current GF used his phone to call my mother and confront her.

I have had an overwhelmingly positive response to the photos, I don't think it was mistake to post them. I just wanted to know if I was being insensitive to her feelings. I have not been divorced and I don't have any tragic ex stories, I don't care if my DH has old photos with his ex, so I cannot really relate. I think this is more about her issues than our family history.

I would be giving my cousin a phone call for sure telling him to keep his psycho girlfriend from calling my mother and bothering her too that is for sure!

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

Hand her a lemon. Some people are just silly. Give her a few days and she will find a new crisis, she sounds like the type.

 

[chiefmickeymouse]

After 6.5 years, my SO's mom was finally unable to exclude me from a group photo. Previously I was not welcome because we weren't married. Except other marriages have come and gone in the time we've been together. I agree that such photos are a snapshot of the family at that time. And no, I'm not cleansing my fb photos if a couple breaks up.

20 years ago DH's mother had a family photo taken an didn't want any spouses in it. I thought it was weird and rude. Funny thing is, I'm now the last spouse still married to one of their kids, so at least they have that photo that they can still display without making anyone angry. I still think it was rude, though.