Facebook "UnFriending" question

[m&m's mom]

I went to write something on a friends wall and he was no longer listed on my friends list. I was confused so I searched for his name on FB and found him. We used to have at least 20 mutual friends but now just his brother is a mutual friend.
Does this mean we all for Unfriended? If so was there some notification I missed or do they just disappear from your list?
We are all confused.
I had emails from him in my FB in box and sent him an email before I figured out I was unfriended. Will it still go to him? I do not see any reason he unfriended us but don't want to cause any problems.

 

[SC Minnie]

you will not get a notification when you have been unfriended. They just disappear from your list. You can still send them messages but you can't post on their wall or see their info if they have it set to private.

I had at least one person unfriend me- there may have been more but I haven't missed them. I went to school with this person and had chatted on FB with them. Not sure why I was unfriended. Her DH still has me as a friend. She may have been cleaning out her friends and only wanted to keep it as really close friends and family. Not sure but not overly concerned about it

 

[m&m's mom]

Thanks! I guess I will never know.
Appreciate the quick response.

 

[sbell111]

Thanks! I guess I will never know.
Appreciate the quick response.

If he's a 'real' friend, give him a call and talk to him about it.

 

[ohiomom28]

It's happened to me as well. Neither of us actually did it. It just happened. FB issue I suppose.

 

[belle&sebastiansmom]

Could be a FB issue, as a pp said. I've noticed that my friend count will go down a number or two, then in a couple of days it will be back to the original number. A lot of FB people I know are also downsizing their friends, keeping only current and good friends, not contacts from high school, college, etc. I try to figure out who "defriended" me, but that's tough, especially if they never do anything on FB to begin with.

 

[maroo]

I had the opposite happen on FB. I went into my Hotmail contacts and sent EVERYONE in my contacts that was also on FB a friend request. Including work contacts and one person that I would not have ever sent a request to.

Eventually it worked out. I defriended one of those people and the rest are still my FB friends. I figure why not...I don't put anything that I don't want people to see on mine.

 

[DWGal210]

As PP have said, if you unfriend someone they don't get any sort of notification.

I unfriended someone last week. It was a "friend of a friend." This gal I work with has a BIL that she was trying to set me up with; met him once when he came into town. Not my cup of tea but seemed like an OK fella so when he friended me a few weeks later, I said OK, no prob.

But then (and I thought this was SO WEIRD) my sister sends me a message and asks, "Who is Joe Blow?". Turns out, he had friend requested HER. Now keep in mind this is a man in his 30s and he is friending the 18 year old sister of a person he has met ONCE. AND he had never met my sister. SO WEIRD!! I immediately unfriended him.

Sorry to hijack your thread, OP. Not comparing my situation to yours at all, but it was nice that I could unfriend him and NOT have to explain to him (or our mutual friend) why I thought it was odd that a 30-year old man would friend my 18-year old sister. But if she asks me, I'll for sure tell her why.

 

[Rora]

Like others have said, you don't know when someone's defriended you but you can still send them messages. Sorry this happend, OP!!

The real problem occurs when a defriended friend messages you and asks "Why did you defriend me!?".. Awkard!!

 

[dakcp2001]

I had a facebook issue where I had to delete my page and make a new one, so i lost a few friends that way. People were offended, but it was not on purpose, I just didnt remember all the people I had before.

Just ignore it and let it go.

 

[DebbieB]

A friend told me she knows someone at work who posted a comment on facebook that got back to her boss and casued alot of trouble. You really have to be careful. Someone may not be your friend but if you post on a comment that a friend of theirs made, they will see it too. Maybe your friend decided to keep it more private.

 

[CaliforniaDreamin]

I was unfriended by this girl I have NEVER talked to. I don't know if something I wrote upset her, but I'm careful what I wrote so as not to offend anyone. I worried about 2 days, but I never cared for her anyway. So it's no big deal. I have had to unfriend 2 people. One who I got in a major political arguement and he wasn't playing by the rules by being civil. Just a lot of name calling. The other person kept spamming me about their new book, and I kept hitting the ignore button, and the next day, more spam. So unfriended!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I had a friend unfriend me. We don't see eye to eye on a specific topic banned on the DIS--but to suffice it to say, I'm totally glad b/c her umm...opinions--were these huge tirades and often she had profanity laced postings and I was just honestly sick of it.


She was a moody individual anyway and she coveted when people kissed her behind and placated her mood swings.

I wasn't really into that, so I got the boot.

I had already unfriended her once over something she said and she came back and groveled but never fully explained herself.

I actually think she expected the same of me and ummmm---I already graduated high school.