As most of you know I originally intended to have a DFTW with just my fiance and I, things changed and my mom is now coming for the first week to see us get married. Due to this change, I invited my brother and his new wife along (they got married last year) They declined saying firstly they couldn't afford it, secondly it was too hot at the time of year I'm going and thirdly the queues would be too long for the rides. I was slightly disappointed but fine. I found out yesterday, through my mom that he and his new wife are going to Orlando, but in May! 3 months before our wedding. Now normally I wouldn't have a problem with this, but my brother has always had a competitive streak with me and has already said that we are trying to outdo his wedding (we are not) I have always wanted a Disney Wedding, this is my dream coming true My question is I do I have the right to be upset? I am feeling really let down by him and sort of like he's trying to step on our toes. He wants my mom to be excited for him yet he has shown no interest in our wedding and is not excited for us. My mom agrees and feels it is cruel. Out of all the places in all the world, I don't understand why he picked the same destination we have. She has been to Orlando a few times before and I know my brother really wanted to go to Australia as we both grew up there and have loads of family there. I just feel like he wants to go before I do, he has always said that because he is the older brother it is only right that he does things first (marriage, children, career etc) He even went to study Law and Management, when i had always expressed an interest to study Law when I graduated. I am now studying Law and I bet he'll feel like I'm copying him! I'm sorry, I'm venting but I feel so mad. I know I have no control over where they spend their vacations, but I feel he copies me all the time. I mean this is my Wedding, and it feels like he's trying to show me up. I know him and he'll come back with opinions and say to my mom and I "Oh, don't go here, it's not worth it" "Oh, you wouldn't like that" We ate here, but it's really expensive and you can't afford that" AAAAHHHHHH! So tell me, am I being unreasonable?