Daughter not excited

[dzorn]

I wouldn't leave her at home. She is the whole point of the trip. Maybe she will get more excited as it gets closer. I guess she's just spoiled she's already been on 1 cruise this year and to the beach for 10 days. We usually go on 3-4 vacations a year and usually let her pick where we go for 1-2 of them so i don't think she was trying to hurt my feelings but just saying she'd rather go on a cruise.

Bingo we have a winner!

Denise in MI

 

[stamot]

This made my blood boil. Im a mother of an only child and she is 9yo. I love her but I will never let her decide where we are going on vacation. If my daughter says she dont care then I will be happy to tell her that she can stay. If you show that you can continue the trip with out her maybe she will change her mind. But to me it sound she get her way a lot. My dd wants to go to a cruise. But we want to wait and we talk to her about it and she is fine. If she is not fine I wont be bother by it because at the end who pays for the trip is my husband and I.

From the bottom of my heart I whish you good luck. If she has this mood at this age you are in to a long run when she becomes a teenager.

 

[ilovezach33]

I would tell her, "Okay, Daddy and I are going on our own then. We will have a babysitter arranged." If she doesn't change her mind then, she will right before you guys leave.
If she's going to complain about a vacation, then take it away.

I'm 16 and I've never been on vacation. I've never even been out of Texas!
She definitely needs to be taught that she should be grateful for everything - especially a Disney vaca!

 

[kaligal]

Oops.

Duplicate.

Fwiw, I wouldn't trick the child into agreeing to go...I wouldn't make offers that she can accept or decline. Yes, she is appeased, but she is still being spoiled.

The only way to unspoiled a child is to let them know that you don't care what what they want. They don't have to like something, but they do have to do it.

 

[Brittmarie04]

What an awful attitude to have! Maybe you should sit her down and tell her how lucky she is to be in a family that can afford a vacation to Disney and tell her that you can cancel if she would rather not go anywhere.

I agree with this 100 percent. I told her she's lucky. I more than 3/4 of her classroom has not been to Disney and that she's extremely we are able to afford to go.

 

[ToddyLu]

Ah, the joys of trying to rationalize with an 8 year old.

 

[POOHsie]

We could never afford a cruise, and a Disney cruise is even more expensive. In a case where my DD wanted something we just couldn't afford, I would sit down with her and sympathize with her wish. I would explain that there wasn't money in our budget for that, but there were alternative things we could pick from, and that maybe sometime in the future we could do the "dream" thing. It didn't solve the problem exactly, but it gave my DD choices so that all was not lost.

 

[Brittmarie04]

I guarantee she'll have a good time once she gets there.

Take her on as many boat rides as you can and tell her, "This is your Disney cruise!"

Lol that made me laugh

 

[juliebug1997]

I agree with this 100 percent. I told her she's lucky. I more than 3/4 of her classroom has not been to Disney and that she's extremely we are able to afford to go.

OP,
Did she just shrug and say "So?"? If that's the case, then I would be leaving her at home and going with DH.

I am a teacher and it's getting harder and harder to deal with children who are never told "no" and who expect things just to be handed to them. Call her bluff, OP.

 

[kaligal]

I agree with this 100 percent. I told her she's lucky. I more than 3/4 of her classroom has not been to Disney and that she's extremely we are able to afford to go.

You can't talk your way out of spoiled. You must do the work. When she yells, "But I said..." or "But I want..." you have to say, "I know you want that. I don't care."

It's going to take some time and work before she realizes that she isn't the center of the universe and that her desires aren't important enough to make others scurry about...but she will get there.

Of course you will always like your child, spoiled or not.

But you want other people to like her, too. And nobody likes a brat.

 

[Brittmarie04]

I'll throw my two cents out there as the parent of an "only child" also .....

while I can't say that she would have a problem with a DisneyWorld trip - I will say that she has been wanting to go on the Disney Cruise.

I think what happens is we try to please ourselves by getting that oh so good feeling from the reaction of "happiness" out of our children. It sounds like you are not getting that feeling and so now you are wondering if you should cave in to her "demands".

I say that since you have this trip planned, you should go ahead and go -- but if its possible - try to pick some things to do that you all normally wouldnt do. I hate to play the devils advocate here but, if you are a budgeter and do the same things over and over when you go - it can become redundant (especially to a child)
Maybe some special ADR? Or go to the Bippidi Bopiddi Botique? Pirates League? Or if your going around a special party like mickeys not so scary halloween party or mickeys very merry christmas party.

Id say make the next trip a cruise -- switch things up a bit.

I don't think it's that she has a problem with the Disney trip it's just that she would rather go on a cruise bc she had been to Disney before.

We are planning on going to MNSSHP and also have a appt at The bippidi boppidi boutique on the day of the Halloween party to get her all done up for the party. Ultimately I think once were there she will have a blast. Thanks for ur thoughts!

 

[Brittmarie04]

OP,
Did she just shrug and say "So?"? If that's the case, then I would be leaving her at home and going with DH.

I am a teacher and it's getting harder and harder to deal with children who are never told "no" and who expect things just to be handed to them. Call her bluff, OP.

Absolutely not. After I told her that she thought about it and said I hope they get to go one day.

She is told no all the time. There's lots of things I tell her no to. Just because she is spoiled does not mean I never tell her no.

 

[Brittmarie04]

You can't talk your way out of spoiled. You must do the work. When she yells, "But I said..." or "But I want..." you have to say, "I know you want that. I don't care."

It's going to take some time and work before she realizes that she isn't the center of the universe and that her desires aren't important enough to make others scurry about...but she will get there.

Of course you will always like your child, spoiled or not.

But you want other people to like her, too. And nobody likes a brat.

No no no she does not yell " but I said so" or "but I want" she will sometimes whine go get her way but after I say no and she knows I'm serious she stops.

She is spoiled but she is not a brat. I mean she might be a brat sometimes but what 8yo isn't?

 

[juliebug1997]

No no no she does not yell " but I said so" or "but I want" she will sometimes whine go get her way but after I say no and she knows I'm serious she stops.

She is spoiled but she is not a brat. I mean she might be a brat sometimes but what 8yo isn't?

THAT is a true statement.

OP, I hope your daughter comes around.

 

[danijake]

I'm so happy to be child free, lol!

 

[Planogirl]

You seem to go a lot so she is probably just taking this trip for granted. Just tell her that she is going.

 

[srferson]

I'm curious. She gets to pick one vacation a year. Is WDW the one she picked this year and now she's changing her mind? If she doesn't feel like doing WDW, how were the plans decided in the first place?

 

[Brittmarie04]

THAT is a true statement.

OP, I hope your daughter comes around.

Thanks I think she will

 

[Brittmarie04]

You seem to go a lot so she is probably just taking this trip for granted. Just tell her that she is going.

Yes I'm trying to make her realize how lucky she is to be bad to do all the things were able to do.

 

[Brittmarie04]

I'm curious. She gets to pick one vacation a year. Is WDW the one she picked this year and now she's changing her mind? If she doesn't feel like doing WDW, how were the plans decided in the first place?

Yes we booked it back in march. I brought up the idea of going there again this yr and she was all about it until recently.