Cheerfully child-free. Anyone else?

[mollygirl13]

Dh and I (VERY happy not to have children!)

Our beautiful daughter Katie

Our handsome son Buddy

I am so glad I found this forum!! DH and I have been married 8.5 years, together for 17. We have never wanted human children, just furbabies!!
I am glad that people who know me have stopped asking that dreadful queation, "When are YOU going to have children?"
I'll take my doggies over kids anyday!

 

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

Dh and I (VERY happy not to have children!)

I am so glad I found this forum!! DH and I have been married 8.5 years, together for 17. We have never wanted human children, just furbabies!!
I am glad that people who know me have stopped asking that dreadful queation, "When are YOU going to have children?"
I'll take my doggies over kids anyday!

Hey Mollygirl I noticed you're from PA and are wearing an OC shirt. Might that be OC, NJ? I graduated from OC in 93!

 

[mollygirl13]

Hey Mollygirl I noticed you're from PA and are wearing an OC shirt. Might that be OC, NJ? I graduated from OC in 93!

Yes, you are correct!!! DH and I LOVE OC. It is our favorite place to be except for WDW!!
This picture was taken on the Ferris Wheel at Wonderland in Ocean City, NJ last summer. We have a house in OC, 30th and West.
Do you miss OC????

 

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

Yes, you are correct!!! DH and I LOVE OC. It is our favorite place to be except for WDW!!
This picture was taken on the Ferris Wheel at Wonderland in Ocean City, NJ last summer. We have a house in OC, 30th and West.
Do you miss OC????

Yes and no. I do miss OC for sure but I don't miss high school! My dad still works in OC.

But, I think I've adjusted very well to the southern life. My dad asks if I ever get homesick but to tell you the truth there are tons of Jersey kids who go to school at Clemson and everyday I see Jersey tags. Today, I saw two cars in a row w/ Jersey tags. For some reason, it doesn't seem so far away then.

 

[LisaZee]

I'm so glad that so many new people are stopping by to our little thread! (Not that I don't love all you oldies and moldies... ) I feel like we are so popular - on page 1 so often these days!

 

[Suzibrat]

I'm so glad that so many new people are stopping by to our little thread! (Not that I don't love all you oldies and moldies... ) I feel like we are so popular - on page 1 so often these days!

This little thread has really grown! It was an excellent idea and I was so glad I found it! I'm just glad no one has stopped in to smack us for being not so child friendly... but I look at it this way: not all people like animals, right? So not everyone HAS to like children! Some of us just choose our children to be a little hairy and not have the ability to grow into back-sassing teenagers. Although my Maggie has been known to bark at me when I tell her "no" but I choose to believe she's saying "you're ever so right mother..couldn't agree with you more" instead of being argumentive

 

[Mickey'sMainMami]

I just wanted to stop in and say that I am torn in my decision, or lack thereof. Let me explain, DH and I have been happily married for 5 years, and we are dealing with fertility issues. I can get pregnant, I just can't carry them, in the last 5 years, I have lost 5 pregnancies, 2 of those progressed to almost 6 months along. With that being said, I love having no responsibilities, I love to sleep, and if I don't get enough sleep, watch out! Yet, I do yearn to be a mother, to feel that unconditional love, to see what it feels like to wear my heart outside my body. I also have been made to feel by people that I am almost not a whole woman because I am not a mother, and that I just don't get it. Almost like every mother is in some type of club and they are looking down on the rest of us who aren't. Even my own brother, who has been there thru everything DH and I have gone thru trying to have a baby, still makes these remarks that are hurtful about having kids, they are digs, and I don't think he is doing it deliberately, he still says things. I am torn, on one hand I want to have a child, but I almost feel it's like I have to because it is what society tells you to do, ya know?

I completely understand both sides of the coin on this one, and I think if you just aren't into children, then don't have any, like most of the decision that you have all made. It's better than having kids and deep down inside not really wanting them. Shoot, I know a couple of woman that should NEVER have been allowed to have kids. Anyway, I say, do what makes you happy, and don't judge anyone else!! Good luck to all of you!

 

[goofygirl]

This little thread has really grown! It was an excellent idea and I was so glad I found it! I'm just glad no one has stopped in to smack us for being not so child friendly... but I look at it this way: not all people like animals, right? So not everyone HAS to like children! Some of us just choose our children to be a little hairy and not have the ability to grow into back-sassing teenagers. Although my Maggie has been known to bark at me when I tell her "no" but I choose to believe she's saying "you're ever so right mother..couldn't agree with you more" instead of being argumentive

Yes, my cats "say" all great things too! LOL!

Pets love you unconditionally.

The biggest misconception people have about cats is that "don't care if you are around or not." Mine do care very much! I have one cat that will cry like a baby at me until I sit down. She wants me to sit down so she can sit on me! It's like the kitty version of "Mommy, pick me up!" If I leave the room for too long, she cries then too.

 

[Shyvioletisme]

Yes, my cats "say" all great things too! LOL!

Pets love you unconditionally.

The biggest misconception people have about cats is that "don't care if you are around or not." Mine do care very much! I have one cat that will cry like a baby at me until I sit down. She wants me to sit down so she can sit on me! It's like the kitty version of "Mommy, pick me up!" If I leave the room for too long, she cries then too.

mine too. Although, his favorite whine is "no" he says that one A LOT. lol. he's very vocal these days. Mine has to be in my lap anytime I am on the couch or else he's not happy.

 

[maddhatir]

I'm so glad that so many new people are stopping by to our little thread! (Not that I don't love all you oldies and moldies... ) I feel like we are so popular - on page 1 so often these days!

I still cannot believe I have never came across this thread! I am always over on the other CF thread http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=914101 and PhotobearSam told everyone to come over and share pics of their babies!

I am surprised we have never seen any of you over there!

I know what you mean about not being comfortable around kids- I have nieces and nephews and even with them, I get a little.....bored... they are adorable but after while playing I say to them- I have to go talk to the big people They move on and forget about me after that!

But this is how uncomfortable I feel- I posted this over on the other thread- I am sure some of you can relate-

Hi peoples-

Had to go to the Gyn today for my annual exam and found out I have an ovarian cyst- blah blah- nothing serious, anyway....

Not sure if you all get this at your Gyns office, but there are always new moms there, pregnant women, yes- I know it is also an OB office anywho- today a mom walks in with her daughter maybe 9 and in comes her DH holding their one year old- I know b/c the 9 year told the woman that worked there.....

It's all quiet and the dad is holding the baby- well, the baby now is bored and wants to walk around....near me I am the only other one besides them in the waiting room.

I am "pretending" to watch the TV and out of the corner of my eye, I see him....eeeek...... coming closer! Now is the time in your head you are hopping he will ignore you *go away kid*, but NOOOoooooo- he looks at me, bhaaaa I can't ignore the kid.

*great what do I say, hello? the kid is one- like he cares...hello, that is SO stupid* *smile? no that is not enough, he will want more than a smile* *great he might want baby talk, ugh! I am NOT playing with this kid* *please call my name, please call my name*

In the meantime- the dad and the sister are just looking at him like, oooo, you are so cute staring at that lady *PLEASE come and get this kid!* *call my NAAAAAME!*

(pretty bad that I would rather be in stirrups than make eye contact with a kid)

Finally- I put my big smile on... "hey, and how are YOU?" was my opening line. He was happy with it- seemed impressed by gift for gab *oh GOD- he is slobbering and walking near my NEW Sailor Jerry handbag- step away from the bag kid...OMG It is dripping from his little mouth someone please catch it!*

*ugh- thank goodness- he is going back to dad*

"Maddhatir, the doctor will see you now" *great-where were YOU when I needed you?*

 

[maddhatir]

This little thread has really grown!

Suzi- I LOVED your wedding gown- My cousin was having an Oct wedding and I went crazy looking for a velvety looking goth dress- I ordered a few from the Catalog Pyramid Collection http://www.pyramidcollection.com/ do you get it? They have some great clothes in there. Anyway ordered a few dresses from there and was not happy with them- went to a few stores up in New Hope PA- still not happy. I gave up.

I see you like Slip Knot , just wondering if you like Marilyn- DH and I went to see him and Slayer in Camden NJ in the summer- we were RIGHT behind the Pit and I got some awesome shots of him- here are a few. I got lucky- just, zoom, hold up the camera and shoot....

 

[KRIS10420]

Everyone has such beautiful furbabies. I have a few of my own.
This is Kelso, he is 7 yrs old and currently weighs around 20lbs (big boy). He is a very sensitive cat that likes to be pet only on his terms and spends most of his days hiding under a blanket.
http://i107.photobucket.com/albums/m317/kris10420/kelso08.jpg
This is Kelso when he was a baby, so cute.
http://i107.photobucket.com/albums/m317/kris10420/kelsobaby.jpg

This one is Bodie, he is 4 yrs old and full of personalitly. He doesn't sleep as much as most cats as he thinks he is going to miss something. He is a very social cat and an attention magnet. I actually think he is a dog trapped in a cat's body as he loves to have his belly rubbed, fetches and walks on a leash. I often call him "My little dog Spot" as he has one white spot on his chest. He has no fear of other cats or even dogs and I have even caught him picking a fight with large dogs. He says "No" at appropriate times and also says "Mama", usually when he is looking for me. (I don't have a baby picture of him as I didn't own a camera when he was a kitten)
http://i107.photobucket.com/albums/m317/kris10420/body08.jpg

 

[Diznygrl]

maddhatir, your story about the doctor's office is me to a tee! Whenever there's a threat of a small child wanting to interact with me, I suddenly get anxious and feel like I want to crawl out of my own skin and hide. The interaction with kids that seems to come so naturally to other people (baby talk, playing, etc.) feels completely foreign to me. In fact, talking to a small child makes me feel about as awkward as if I were dancing around the room naked in front of strangers. LOL, I know it's weird, but that's just the way it makes me feel! Yet at the same time, playing with my cats and talking to them in a babyish voice comes completely natural to me and I feel no shame in it.

 

[Aunt Michelle]

Evening Ladies!

maddhatir/diznygrl - Your posts made me laugh! Do you ever feel like you are some sort of child magnet? It's like those people who really don't like dogs and dogs LOVE them.

 

[GypsySue]

but I look at it this way: not all people like animals, right? So not everyone HAS to like children! Some of us just choose our children to be a little hairy and not have the ability to grow into back-sassing teenagers. Although my Maggie has been known to bark at me when I tell her "no" but I choose to believe she's saying "you're ever so right mother..couldn't agree with you more" instead of being argumentive

 

[maddhatir]

Evening Ladies!

maddhatir/diznygrl - Your posts made me laugh! Do you ever feel like you are some sort of child magnet? It's like those people who really don't like dogs and dogs LOVE them.

Since I became an Aunt for the first time in 2001- I became a little more comfortable and aware of other kids around me BUT- If I do not have too- I take all avenues to avoid talking to them! I do not find it necessary to goo-goo at a baby like most people do.

I have to admit when I do not get to see my nieces and nephews I DO miss them! Sometimes I just have to go over there and squish them!

Just yesterday- Me and SIL started taking about planning a Disney trip maybe in August with just me, SIL and my 6 yr old niece. SIL also has a 4 yr old son- but that is too much drama- strollers, whining, naps. My 6yr old niece is a cool chick.

It will just be us 3 "big" girls having a fun and silly time in Disney! I am laying down the rules when I see them at dinner tomorrow-

Rule#1- we MUST wake up in the morning and jump up and down on the beds and scream we are in Disney!

Rule#2- since it will be Aug- expect rain- we MUST put on our ponchos, stay out in the rain and run and jump in puddles! and run through the raindrops!

Rules#3- giggle all the time and be sure to make up a Disney dance beforehand so we can all do it while in the parks!

No boys allowed- so we can all be goofy this time!

 

[plgrn]

Since I became an Aunt for the first time in 2001- I became a little more comfortable and aware of other kids around me BUT- If I do not have too- I take all avenues to avoid talking to them! I do not find it necessary to goo-goo at a baby like most people do.

I have to admit when I do not get to see my nieces and nephews I DO miss them! Sometimes I just have to go over there and squish them!

Just yesterday- Me and SIL started taking about planning a Disney trip maybe in August with just me, SIL and my 6 yr old niece. SIL also has a 4 yr old son- but that is too much drama- strollers, whining, naps. My 6yr old niece is a cool chick.

It will just be us 3 "big" girls having a fun and silly time in Disney! I am laying down the rules when I see them at dinner tomorrow-

Rule#1- we MUST wake up in the morning and jump up and down on the beds and scream we are in Disney!

Rule#2- since it will be Aug- expect rain- we MUST put on our ponchos, stay out in the rain and run and jump in puddles! and run through the raindrops!

Rules#3- giggle all the time and be sure to make up a Disney dance beforehand so we can all do it while in the parks!

No boys allowed- so we can all be goofy this time!

Sounds like so much fun! Spoil her rotten and send her back for the parents to deal with. That's the best part of being an aunt and always my goal when around my nieces.

 

[Aunt Michelle]

Since I became an Aunt for the first time in 2001- I became a little more comfortable and aware of other kids around me BUT- If I do not have too- I take all avenues to avoid talking to them! I do not find it necessary to goo-goo at a baby like most people do.

I have to admit when I do not get to see my nieces and nephews I DO miss them! Sometimes I just have to go over there and squish them!

I feel the same way. I have seven nieces and one nephew all under the age of eleven! I see them most every week. It's sort of cool, when I arrive at my sister's house on Sunday mornings for brunch, they all come running and slam into me with big hugs.
Of course, I am sure that knowing I can go home without them makes my tolerance much higher!
I am taking Sis# 2 and her family (3 nieces - 11, 8, and 6) for their very first trip to WDW in May. I am looking forward to it - I have booked a room just for me, of course!

 

[woogal]

Hello everyone ... well this thread was made for me and the DH! We've never done anything but Disney Cruises. We're always asked, "Why Disney? It's not like you have kids! Aren't there kids EVERYWHERE?" First, we do DCL because we're spoiled and EXPECT the kind of superior service that only DCL offers. You'll never be treated better! Second, there aren't kids everywhere because the ships are set up so that we can choose to spend time in the adult areas (and they are strict about keeping kids out). It's all Disney magic and it's been thought out expertly. Plus we do late dining so that people with little ones have a better chance at getting early seating.

So now we're doing our first solo WDW in April. Again the question ... "Why Disney? It's not like you have kids! Won't there be kids everywhere?" Sheesh, we're not monsters! We're just not parents (Well, we are to furry children!!!). Again, you don't get a better experience or service than anything Disney. So that's what we choose.

I think the hardest thing is convincing other childless couples and empty-nesters to do Disney at all. Anyone who hasn't done DCL is so missing out!!

Here are our kids, past and present ...

GUIDO MacARTHUR (1991-2007)

SAMBINO J "Sammy" (1994-2005)

DUESENBURG DAY BINO "Duesey" (born 9/1/07)

 

[maddhatir]

Sounds like so much fun! Spoil her rotten and send her back for the parents to deal with. That's the best part of being an aunt and always my goal when around my nieces.

The BEST part is, her mom is going too! So if there is a meltdown- she can deal with it!

I don't think there will be if it is just us 3 on the, PRINCESS- NO BOYS ALLOWED TOUR!