Cheerfully child-free. Anyone else?

[ckay87]

I know you all do not necessarily want parents on here, but I poke in every now and then because I find yours to be an interesting perspective.

And as the parent of a teen and a pre-teen, I completely relate with not being all that interested in babies. In our family there are tons of very little girls. At get togethers, my boys (12 and 15) are bored out of their minds and completely ignored because the little ones are oh so cute. I would much rather have an intelligent conversation with an older kid, but the aunts, uncles, grandparents say they just don't know how to relate to them . Well I, for one, don't know how to "relate" to a group of 3 year old princesses, but that's just me.

And then there is the assumption that I long for the days of having babies in my life. I get "oh don't you want to change your neice's diaper?" (NO!!!!) or "Oh don't you want to try for a girl" (oh HECK no!) So you see, people never can stay out of your business. I'm a parent, and I still get nagged about having kids. So stand your ground and enjoy your life as you've chosen it.

Carry on.

 

[2bemarried]

ckay87....thanks for the support DH and I are child-free due to medical issues and we're so over people nosing into our business. We're okay with being child-free and I've turned the would be nursery into a reading room My cats are my kids.

DH has seen ads recently for the couples only resorts and that's really peaked his interest. He had no idea we could go to a beach/island where kids under 16 weren't allowed.

I would love to hear thoughts/recommendations from anyone that has experience with resorts of this nature.

Thanks.

 

[mollygirl13]

We are 72 hours away from a 4 day cruise (not Disney)... already I am starting to worry about screaming kids running around the pool. But I researched this trip pretty carefully, and it doesn't look very child-friendly (It's Celebrity Cruiseline)
I also thought that end of Feb isn't close to Spring Break for anyone.
Of course, that won't stop some couple from bring "Precious" with them and thinking it's perfectly okay for Precious to have the run of the ship.
Oh please, let this trip be quiet and fun!
I'll let you know how it goes!

Here's hoping you do have a quiet and fun trip!!
If it were me, I would bring my iPod with me to the pool. That way, if you happen to encounter the occasional screaming/not behaving child, you can wipe out those sounds with those of your favorite songs!

 

[PrincessKitty1]

So you see, people never can stay out of your business. I'm a parent, and I still get nagged about having kids.

So true! All my friends with kids are constantly having people ask them things like, "Don't you want to have more children so your child won't be an only?" or "Don't you want to try for a girl?" or "Now that you're getting remarried, don't you want more children?" etc. etc.

I have been guilty of this myself--a co-worker was getting back together with the father of her youngest child (she has 2 kids), and the co-worker is only 30, so I said (thoughtlessly, I admit! ), "so, are you going to have more children?"

She said "NO! No! No way!" (Shame on me for asking that question...we are friends, though, but obviously I was a tacky friend! ).

 

[Dee & Greg]

Please remember if a child is there, their parents have paid their way and they have as much of a right to enjoy themselves as you do. Their presence is not intended to disrupt you in any way.

I hope you have a wonderful time.

This is why I need a vacation...

 

[UConnJack]

Has anyone here seen the movie Idocracy? I know its just a movie, but everytime I listen to people discuss their decision not to have kids (assuming the can) I can't help but think of this movie. So if you are on the positve side of the IQ curve, please consider popping a few kids out. We have to balance out procreative propensity of KFed and the like!

 

[Shyvioletisme]

Gotcha. 'Cause adults never ever yell/scream/be loud or run around the pool when they are having fun...

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Hey, adults being loud and obnoxious annoys the H*** out of me too. It's not just kids. I understand when I go places like that, that all these people have payed money as well, I just don't understand how they feel that gives them the right to act like a fool and be loud and ignore all those around them. That includes kids acting this way...anyway..rant over.

BTW, about not feeling right around kids..>I totally feel that way too. Little kids look at me or try to talk to me and I just don't know what to do or say...it just does not come naturally to me at all. And no I don't want to hold your baby..lol. Case in point...I LOVE my niece(who just turned 3) but there is only 1 picture of me holding her as a baby...I think I may have held her only 1 or 2 other times...lol. Just don't feel right when doing it.lol.

 

[Mozart]

Has anyone here seen the movie Idocracy? I know its just a movie, but everytime I listen to people discuss their decision not to have kids (assuming the can) I can't help but think of this movie. So if you are on the positve side of the IQ curve, please consider popping a few kids out. We have to balance out procreative propensity of KFed and the like!

You forgot to mention that this message was brought to us by Carl's, Jr.

The first time I saw that movie, I yelled for my wife who was upstairs and said "Come Here! You have got to see this! It's so true!" Clevon is the epitome of some parts of this country. I know. I live in one of them.

 

[TurboKitty]

This is why I need a vacation...

Perhaps you do if 40 year old women posting wishes for a nice trip for you, give you a headache.

I was just worried that you might want to consider that you are setting youself up for a bad time, most especially if 72 hours beforehand you are worrying about someone else's behavior over all the other things you could be thinking/planning.

I gotta admit, I don't understand the open hostility toward children. You don't have to like them, true but the need to put down others with a differing viewpoint is..ironically enough, pretty juvenile. IMO.

 

[PhotobearSam]

This is not going to be good.

We don't have hostility towards children...We just hate the way some parents allow them to act in public and ruin it for others...Not all kids are bad but these days, we see a lot of them and it's no fun.

 

[disneydave2003]

We are 72 hours away from a 4 day cruise (not Disney)... already I am starting to worry about screaming kids running around the pool. But I researched this trip pretty carefully, and it doesn't look very child-friendly (It's Celebrity Cruiseline)
I also thought that end of Feb isn't close to Spring Break for anyone.
Of course, that won't stop some couple from bring "Precious" with them and thinking it's perfectly okay for Precious to have the run of the ship.
Oh please, let this trip be quiet and fun!
I'll let you know how it goes!

hopefully there wont be any obnoxious drunks running around being loud that might ruin your precious vacation either.

 

[PrincessKitty1]

hopefully there wont be any obnoxious drunks running around being loud that might ruin your precious vacation either.

I think "precious" was the rhetorical child, not the vacation.

 

[Aunt Michelle]

This is not going to be good.

We don't have hostility towards children...We just hate the way some parents allow them to act in public and ruin it for others...Not all kids are bad but these days, we see a lot of them and it's no fun.

Well said.

 

[disneydave2003]

I think "precious" was the rhetorical child, not the vacation.

yeah i know but thanks anyway.

FTR i don't have kids and dont know that i ever will want them so no i'm not a parent who thinks my "precious" is the end all be all. sorry to intrude. carry on.

 

[TurboKitty]

This is not going to be good.

We don't have hostility towards children...We just hate the way some parents allow them to act in public and ruin it for others...Not all kids are bad but these days, we see a lot of them and it's no fun.

You know what? I apologize. Not all post in this thread read as hostile. I am sorry if it appeared I was trying to say that when I was not.

But, a few posts here read (to me) as very hostile toward children, and not just to those who are misbehaving or have inattentive parents.

I also think that your emotions and reactions are on you, as an adult. As an adult, I'd hope you wouldn't allow the actions of someone else to ruin your vacation.

 

[daisax]

I did a Celebrity cruise once -- there were probably children on it but I don't recall, which means there couldn't have been many!

It's kind of bizarre -- you go through a buffet line taking what you want, and then a uniformed person takes your tray and walks you to a table. They call it service but I found it kind of smothering. There were some hot Nordic guys on the crew, though!

 

[mollygirl13]

Perhaps you do if 40 year old women posting wishes for a nice trip for you give you a headache.

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Hey, I wished her a great vacation and I am no where near 40!!

 

[PrincessKitty1]

yeah i know but thanks anyway.

FTR i don't have kids and dont know that i ever will want them so no i'm not a parent who thinks my "precious" is the end all be all. sorry to intrude. carry on.

Dave, I was just teasing, really!

I am childfree, and if I was going on a cruise, I personally wouldn't be worried about kids. Generally speaking, I really like kids and rarely find them to be obnoxious. I WOULD, however, have a complete fit about smoking (which is reason enough for me to not go on a cruise!).

Everybody's different. I don't have a problem with "obnoxious kids" and I'm sure there are plenty of people who wouldn't have a problem with "obnoxious smokers." Cruises are a somewhat confined space and I suspect I would not be suited to one at all.

 

[Jennasis]

Uh oh...just remember, everybody has an opinion and is entitled to it (even if we don't agree). Even vehement child "haters" are entitled to their feelings. Nothing anyone says about how "wrong" that opinion is, will be likely to change that opinion. And of course, I'm not saying that opinion (or any) is wrong...or right for that matter. It's just the way that person feels.

Let's keep it nice and airy!

Hope the poster enjoys their cruise and it isn't disrupted by anyone or anything.

 

[mollygirl13]

Well said.

Ditto!