VandVsmama
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Mar 28, 2011
In an ideal world with perfect family dynamics, if the parents can afford the extra cost and they don't hold anything passive-aggressive over their adult kids' heads and if the parents WANT to pay for their kids to go with them, then sure! Invite them with you.
However, the situation is often not that simple.
However, the situation is often not that simple.
- If the adult child starts to EXPECT it / DEMAND it, then no, you shouldn't invite them along with you every time.
- If inviting the adult children would result in everyone having a miserable time, then don't invite them. For example, your 20-something-aged kids' idea of a great time is to stay out late and drink heavily and go to clubs and you & your spouse like to go to bed early, get up early, and hit the parks at rope drop and your idea of a perfect family vacation is when you all spend every waking moment together.
- If the parent(s) are inviting the adult kids because they want to recreate the family vacations from when the kids were little. It will be much different than that.
- If the parents(s) say that they'll only pay for the adult kids', but not their spouses, significant others, kids, too. It's all or nothing. You can invite them, but tell everybody that you pay for your own way, including food, airfare, incidentals, etc.