staley7580
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i think i'm pretty similar in style to my mom. i think we all try to continue what we think our parents did well, and 'break the cycle' of things we think they did wrong.
dh grew up getting pretty much any toy he ever asked for, but his parents didn't have a lot of time for him. he is a very hands-on father, though imo he is also over-indulgent with the toys.
i never heard my parents say 'i love you', and we say that constantly to the boys. constantly! it's very important to me that they know this. we also say it to each other, and make sure to say it and show it to the boys. i think kids get a feeling of security from knowing that their parents love each other. some people (my sister included) think it's ridiculous, it's just words, but words have power, and i think that's something very basic we can give our kids.
Totally!! My mom spent very little time with me.. My dad always did, but not so much my mom. But I knew I was loved.. My mom and I have similar personalities.. I think thats why we fight all the time. But I have a FAR BETTER grip on things then she does.
One of my things is having more then just the one kid. I wanted more then one kid, and I wanted them close in age. I grew up as an only child, and it was BORING. I hated it. I have a very limited relationship with my sister.. which we have just started building in the past couple of years. I wanted my kids to have a play buddy. I wanted them to have someone to go to.. If something happens to us, I dont want them to be alone.. My kids are SUPER close. Mikalah will run to her brother to take care of her problems.. and he will solve them. I have seen the child bust open a can on the playground because someone messed with his baby sister.
They get along great, and I couldnt be happier about it! THAT was my big thing that I wanted to change.