an 18 year old wants to take a 25 year old to a prom

[Papa Deuce]

poll coming.....

http://www.capitalnews9.com/content/headlines/?SecID=33&ArID=211630

 

[mommasita]

I did...I was 16, and took my BF of 24

 

[mylilnikita]

I date a 25 yo when I was 17. Didn't go to prom, because I always didn't like school dances. Plus the girl is an adult.

 

[Hedy]

I don't think it's any of the school's business.

 

[Papa Deuce]

I date a 25 yo when I was 17. Didn't go to prom, because I always didn't like school dances. Plus the girl is an adult.

See, that is the point on why I say "no"..... not all the attendees will be adults, and some may be made uncomfortable by the 25 year old's presence.

 

[lulugirl]

How did the school even know how old her boyfriend is?
Absurd IMO

 

[Papa Deuce]

I don't think it's any of the school's business.

State law limits the age to 21, in this case.

 

[helenabear]

I didn't realize schools would look into that kind of thing. I don't think we ever had to name our dates to our prom (or even if they went to our school or not) She's an adult, let him go. I doubt anyone would even notice or care that he was there.

 

[lulugirl]

See, that is the point on why I say "no"..... not all the attendees will be adults, and some may be made uncomfortable by the 25 year old's presence.

Why would a bunch of high school age young adults be uncomfortable in the presence of a 25 year old?

 

[helenabear]

State law limits the age to 21, in this case.

to those who are enrolled in the school... not specifically to a dance. What if a 21 year old student wanted to take her 22 year old date? Sounds rediculous now doesn't it?

 

[mommasita]

I think it is insane. It is a PROM, a PARTY, not a wedding..

I am glad I went with my BF at the time, and nobody asked his age. I think it was obvious though, and he was a "well known" person.

Seriously, who cares.

 

[Papa Deuce]

Why would a bunch of high school age young adults be uncomfortable in the presence of a 25 year old?

I don't know. I'm just putting it out there... but here is one thought... say a 16 year old girl is attending, and this guy takes notice of her too often, maybe she wonders about the creepy older guy?

EDIT.... not just THIS guy, but any 25 year old guy, is how I meant it.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

She's 18 and her parents are comfortable with it. I just don't see it as a big issue. Also, if the school claims they've had to tell other people that their older dates couldn't attend, then it should be a clue to them to have put it in writing by now.

 

[Sleepy]

Why would a bunch of high school age young adults be uncomfortable in the presence of a 25 year old?

I would think it would be the other way around. 25 just seems a little too old to feel comfortable going to a dance with 18 year olds. (Just my opinion).

 

[Dakota_Lynn]

See, that is the point on why I say "no"..... not all the attendees will be adults, and some may be made uncomfortable by the 25 year old's presence.

Part of growing up is learning how to deal with things that make us uncomfortable. My daughter is a lesbian and I'm sure when prom time comes, she'll want to take a girl. And I'm sure that some people will be uncomfortable. Some students may wish to take a partner of a different race or ethnicity and again, somebody will be uncomfortable with that. And somebody might want to take somebody with a physical or mental disability. Certainly that will make some people feel awkward. It's just life. Unless somebody wants to bring a partner that poses some danger to the other students, I see no reason why the other students can't grow up and get past any minor discomfort they may experience. I mean, if somebody wanted to bring a registered sex offender or a paroled convict to the prom, I could certainly see the problem. But things like age, disability, race, ethnicity or sexual orientation should be non-issues. Some people have personal problems with these things, but that is their problem to work through; nobody else's. No one person should be denied their right to take who they want because somebody else needs to grow up and deal with their own prejudices.

Now if the question were should a 14 or 15 year be able to bring a 25 year old to a prom, I'd have a different answer. But an 18 year old? That person is an adult. And most of the attendees of the prom are going to be at least 16, so I really can't say that I see an issue with it.

 

[Stucas]

When I went to prom my boyfriend (now fiance) was 24. Nobody had a problem with it. However the following year my friend was in the exact same age situation as me and the school put a 21 age limit. I felt bad for her but was so thankful I got to take my date. Now I can tell my kids I went to the prom with their dad I also don't see why this would be a problem, especially since the girl is 18. It shouldn't be anybodys business but her own.

 

[azgal81]

Most states/schools do have rules in place for those guests attending prom that they must be within a certain age. This school/state is no exception. They can't just bend the rules for one person who does want to go with some one older. I don't see the big deal with it but I can understand why the school said no because the age limit is there.

 

[JadenLayne]

Why is he creepy? When I was 18 I hung out with plenty of people who were 25 or older. I don't see a problem with it and don't think it's the school's business. I have a friend who started dating her NOW HUSBAND when she was 16 and he was 24. He went to all of her proms/dances with her (of course there was some picking that went on about HIM going to the dance but he loved her). They are married now and have a gorgeous daughter who is six years old.

 

[Papa Deuce]

Why is he creepy?

No, I didn't say HE was creepy. But if a 25 year old guy ( any guy, not just him ) decided to leer at a 16 year old girl at a prom, maybe SHE would think THAT guy is creepy.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

No, I didn't say HE was creepy. But if a 25 year old guy ( any guy, not just him ) decided to leer at a 16 year old girl at a prom, maybe SHE would think THAT guy is creepy.

Nah, girls at that age only think guys over thirty leering at them are creepy.