Would you let your teen daughter dress like this for Halloween?

[Vickie46]

No Way!

 

[smartestnumber5]

What I DO know is that there was a direct correlation between the girls who dressed that way in their high school. Those girls were generally the ones who were sexually active, and often times at a younger age.

Even if this anecdote did represent statistical fact, it would only justify stopping your daughter from dressing that way if a causal connection from dressing that way to being sexually active at a young age could be drawn such that dressing that way causes one to be sexually active.

But who's to say the causation doesn't go the other way around? Maybe being sexually active at a young age causes girls to want to dress that way. If so, then there's no reason to tell your daughter not to wear such an outfit if she wants to--the simple fact that she wants to indicates that she's already having lots of sex!

 

[hidmickey:myantidrug]

Ok explain this to me. These are real high school chearleader uniforms from a cheerleader outfitting cataloug. How are these any better than the costumes that the OP posted? And yet thousands of TEENAGE high schooler's wear these same exact outfits to school ALL DAY on game days (some even show the midrift). The costumes the OP is talking about are meant for ONE NIGHT when everyone else is going to be dressed that way anyway. Please, I would like someone to explain to me the logic in this. If it's OK to wear these "uniforms" to SCHOOL than why is it not OK to wear something similar for Halloween? And don't tell me that is not what cheerleader uniforms look like, I have seen them first hand at many different high schools.

Ok, I was going to stay out, I swear I was but now I have to chime in with this. Here, it is MANDATORY to wear the PROVIDED "swish" pants (or w/e they are called) under the skirt as part of the UNIFORM and underarmor is required to be worn under the top if it is below a certain temp. (I can't think of what it is off the top of my head) during game days in school. These pants, underarmor, and jacket are provided as part of the UNIFORM. There are obviously more on the minds of those ordering than the provocative nature of some of the uniforms.

The part that I bolded I think is BS! I have seen numerous age appropriate costumes! For the last 4 years of my t-o-t experience, I was dressed in a full length big 'ole Tigger costume. So to say that everyone is dressed like that is just an incorrect generalization.

 

[KristiKelly]

I voted no. They look like strippers. Maybe without the thigh highs some of them might be kinda cute (maybe). The way the look in the picture they should be heading to a bachelor party.

 

[WIcruizer]

Even if this anecdote did represent statistical fact, it would only justify stopping your daughter from dressing that way if a causal connection from dressing that way to being sexually active at a young age could be drawn such that dressing that way causes one to be sexually active.

But who's to say the causation doesn't go the other way around? Maybe being sexually active at a young age causes girls to want to dress that way. If so, then there's no reason to tell your daughter not to wear such an outfit if she wants to--the simple fact that she wants to indicates that she's already having lots of sex!

Right, that's why I said correlation instead of causation.

 

[beck0321]

Depends on the uniform. There are cheer uniforms (and cheer routines for that matter) that are not appropriate, IMHO. But the ones you posted look fine.

I'm not saying they DON'T look fine, I was comparing them to the OP's costumes. How are they any DIFFERENT? Maybe the costumes are more low cut at the top, but just as long as you aren't wearing a push-up it's still not going to show anything. As for the costumes that consists of the "short skirts," I can tell you from actually owning one, that it covers up WAY more than most cheerleading uniforms do today. I'm not saying it's wrong, I'm just saying it's the same thing. If someone is going to let their daughter wear a cheeleading uniform where it cuts off just below the butt, then what is the big deal with letting her wear one of those Halloween costumes? It shows JUST AS MUCH if not more skin when someone is wearing a cheerleading uniform. Please correct me if I am wrong.

*I'll tell you this though. I was in standing in back of a local highschool cheerleader at the Saints game the other day and I must say that I could see all the way up that skirt and I wasn't bending down. I thought it was a BIT inappropriate for someone so young to be showing the world her fanny, but most other high schools have the same exact uniforms.

 

[cardaway]

What I DO know is that there was a direct correlation between the girls who dressed that way in their high school. Those girls were generally the ones who were sexually active, and often times at a younger age.

The point is not as much about what the girls who always dress like that are doing. It's more about the incorrect perception that they girls who dress differently are any different.

The others are just as sexually active, and the ones what are not, are not going to change their ways because they where something liek those costumes on occasion.

IMO a parent who expresses that they have a good kid, but would not let them dress like that on occasion, is sending a mixed message.

 

[punkin]

I didn't vote because the choices were so wrong. I think the outfits are cute and I would have no problem with DD13 wearing any of them. However, I would NEVER let her wear some of those shoes. She could break a leg with heels that high. I bet with flats (and no push up bras) those costumes would look a lot less kinky and much more appropriate for a teenager.

 

[WDW Poly Princess]

I think age plays a big role- there's a big difference between 13 and 18.

I didn't think the costumes pictured were that bad- the skirts are a bit short, but otherwise they aren't much more revealing than what teens wear to school.

 

[cardaway]

FWI I agree about the majority of cheerleader uniforms. Is there really any question to what going on there? A sex sells situation every way you look at it.

 

[TurboKitty]

I didn't vote because the choices were so wrong. I think the outfits are cute and I would have no problem with DD13 wearing any of them. However, I would NEVER let her wear some of those shoes. She could break a leg with heels that high. I bet with flats (and no push up bras) those costumes would look a lot less kinky and much more appropriate for a teenager.

Welcome to the gray area, punkin! The place where we, as parents can guide our kids toward more age appropriate choices and still let the idividual child have some input.

Too bad some will see us as the weak parents of sluts, tho'.

 

[beck0321]

Ok, I was going to stay out, I swear I was but now I have to chime in with this. Here, it is MANDATORY to wear the PROVIDED "swish" pants (or w/e they are called) under the skirt as part of the UNIFORM and underarmor is required to be worn under the top if it is below a certain temp. (I can't think of what it is off the top of my head) during game days in school. These pants, underarmor, and jacket are provided as part of the UNIFORM. There are obviously more on the minds of those ordering than the provocative nature of some of the uniforms.

The part that I bolded I think is BS! I have seen numerous age appropriate costumes! For the last 4 years of my t-o-t experience, I was dressed in a full length big 'ole Tigger costume. So to say that everyone is dressed like that is just an incorrect generalization.

Ok fine, "...when there will be a lot of people dressed like that anyway."

Anyway, I'm not sure how these costumes are NOT age-appropriate. I got the Strawberry Shortcake one last year. It was listed under "sexy" costumes and was cut the EXACT same way as the Red Riding Hood costume on the first page. I looked nothing like SEXY in it, but I DID look JUST like Strawberry Shortcake (which was very CUTE). The skirt cut off mid-thigh, just like a normal summery skirt would. I didn't feel exposed in it at all.

 

[hidmickey:myantidrug]

Ok fine, "...when there will be a lot of people dressed like that anyway."

Anyway, I'm not sure how these costumes are NOT age-appropriate. I got the Strawberry Shortcake one last year. It was listed under "sexy" costumes and was cut the EXACT same way as the Red Riding Hood costume on the first page. I looked nothing like SEXY in it, but I DID look JUST like Strawberry Shortcake (which was very CUTE). The skirt cut off mid-thigh, just like a normal summery skirt would. I didn't feel exposed in it at all.

Ok, I appologize for my bad wording. I'll change age appropriate to "age appropriate" because, as clearly shown here, different people have different ideas of what is age appropriate. I'm going to post my opinion later when I have more time but that was my opinion on that.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

Absolutely not!

but i will say about 3 of those costumes were on teens at MNSSHP on 10/5! i couldn't believe it!

 

[WIcruizer]

The point is not as much about what the girls who always dress like that are doing. It's more about the incorrect perception that they girls who dress differently are any different.

The others are just as sexually active, and the ones what are not, are not going to change their ways because they where something liek those costumes on occasion.

IMO a parent who expresses that they have a good kid, but would not let them dress like that on occasion, is sending a mixed message.

Two points. First, I didn't look at all the costumes on the web site. There are others out there that are similar, but even worse IMHO. I saw an article on this the other day, and they showed examples like the French Maid costume I mentioned earlier.

Secondly, you seem to only care about what you think is appropriate. We all live in the real world. This discussion alone tells you many, many parents would judge a girl (and her parents) if they showed up at a party wearing some of those costumes. Now you can say they have no right to judge. You can say you don't care what other people think.

Personally, I DO care how people in my community view my daughters. And I care how we are viewed as parents. As this board reminds us all the time, that doesn't mean all of our decisions will be accepted by 100% of my community 100% of the time. With that said, I wouldn't risk people looking down on her because of what she wore to a Halloween party. There's 100s to choose from, why not pick something else?

Looking back, one of our daughters had a Halloween party years ago when she was 14 I believe. One of her friends dressed like a "bad cheerleader." Her parents thought it was a cute idea, and it was in a way. The problem was in the details. Now admit it or not, we make judgemnets about people based on what we know. We didn't know this girl or her parents very well. What kind of first impression did that make?

 

[The Mystery Machine]

My 10yodd is going as "The Grim Reaper" ...... My girls will be "goth".

 

[MosMom]

If you watched "Dead Like Me" she could just dress in normal clothes and be a reaper. Nobody would get it though and she might get Taco Bell hot sauce in her bag instead of candy.

 

[beck0321]

Two points. First, I didn't look at all the costumes on the web site. There are others out there that are similar, but even worse IMHO. I saw an article on this the other day, and they showed examples like the French Maid costume I mentioned earlier.

Secondly, you seem to only care about what you think is appropriate. We all live in the real world. This discussion alone tells you many, many parents would judge a girl (and her parents) if they showed up at a party wearing some of those costumes. Now you can say they have no right to judge. You can say you don't care what other people think.

Personally, I DO care how people in my community view my daughters. And I care how we are viewed as parents. As this board reminds us all the time, that doesn't mean all of our decisions will be accepted by 100% of my community 100% of the time. With that said, I wouldn't risk people looking down on her because of what she wore to a Halloween party. There's 100s to choose from, why not pick something else?

Looking back, one of our daughters had a Halloween party years ago when she was 14 I believe. One of her friends dressed like a "bad cheerleader." Her parents thought it was a cute idea, and it was in a way. The problem was in the details. Now admit it or not, we make judgemnets about people based on what we know. We didn't know this girl or her parents very well. What kind of first impression did that make?

This is the problem I have with this. If, say, a 15 year old showed up to a party looking like the girls in the picture, of course that would look bad. I'm 24 and if a girl MY age showed up at a party looking like THAT I'd feel kind of awkward myself. BUT you're judging those costumes on the fact that 25 year old curvy busty women are modeling them and TRYING to look slutty. On a normal teenager those costumes wouldn't look like that. They would most likely be quite cute. You can't really judge them until you've seen them on a normal 15-17 year old. I could wear any of those costumes and if you'd see me out in them, you'd probably be thinking to yourself. That's really cute on her, not WOW SHE"S SO SEXY AND THROWING HER SEXINESS IN MY FACE! I just wish I has pix from last year's Halloween so I could compare what that costume looked like on the model and how it actually looked on me. I was kind of hoping it would be sexy and, well, it wasn't.

 

[cardaway]

This discussion alone tells you many, many parents would judge a girl (and her parents) if they showed up at a party wearing some of those costumes. Now you can say they have no right to judge. You can say you don't care what other people think.

People can care what people think and still let their kids do what they find acceptable. In some cases people refuse to allow a few others to run their family.

 

[mommaU4]

Sure I would. Although I didn't vote cause I didn't like the reasoning that went with the answer.

But then again my DH and I are packing up our four kids (3 girls and a boy) and moving to "Sin City" next summer. Lot's of people wouldn't do that either. Guess I'm just not a very good mom.