Would you let your teen daughter dress like this for Halloween?

Would you allow your teen to dress in one of these Halloween costumes?

  • Yes, but only because it's one day and I don't want her ostracized by her peers.

  • No. There's no way I'm letting my little girl out of the house looking like a 'ho.


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As a past high school valedictorian who went out on a lot of dates and wore the occasional sparkly clingy top to accentuate the merchandise,
I can honestly tell you that I have a hard time imagining any daughter of mine as a naive sexual victim.
If anything, I think I'll feel some compassion for the guys. She will be a hurricane. No one who knows me doubts it.

:)
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my4kids said:
Ok agreed, I completely agree with A and B. But why is it wrong to also want my child to have modesty? Can't I teach her to be modest AND teach my son to respect all women? Whatever your argument, there is still nothing wrong with modesty. It is not caving into what is wrong in society with men treating women wrongly based on their dress. Although these men (or people) ARE wrong, I'm not going to have my daughter fight that injustice by dressing in a manner I consider to be crude, just to show her rights. I will have her fight it with her words, and her intelligence.

I can't argue with the modesty arguement.

I was a very mosdest and humble kid and teen. I wasn't shown respect and had negative self esteem/confidence issues, so I freely admit I want to instill those qualities in my kids over modesty. My failing, I'll admit. I want my kids to be able to speak up for themselves. Because I couldn't.
 
smartestnumber5 said:
I've been thinking along the same lines. It amazes me how easily adults on the DIS throw around derogatory names for women--imagine if people threw racial epithets around like that! I mean, what exactly is a *****? Traditionally the word means a prostitute. In broader terms the way it's used tends to pick out women who are excessively sexual, always available for sex, and who are thus condemned. That is what some of you have been implying about any girl who would want to wear such costumes (hence about some of the posters here and probably about some of your own daughters as well).

And it's exactly these types of names that get thrown at women during rape trials for the exact reasons given here--her outfit showed too much leg or cleavage. Thus, she must have been available for sex. And historically this defense in actual trials has been amazingly effective. Women have been humiliated as every detail of their outfit, body, and sexual history is torn apart on the stand. We had to institute rape shield laws to prevent women from being treated this way, though outside of the trial the media still manages to do a good job of humiliating women and sometimes parts of one's sexual history can still be admitted into evidence at trials. The "she's a *****--or at least, she was dressed like one" defense still works to some extent. Why does the extent work? Only because the term ***** and the connection btw women's dress and her sexual availability still holds currency for the average person.

Thanks for pointing that out. If most of us young women were judged by the way we dressed up for Halloween, people probably would be calling us w***** or s****. Thankfully a good bit of people know that a Halloween cosutme isn't an acurate indicator of someone's personality and lifestyle. Well at least the people who are out having a good time do.
 
I won't vote because I don't like the way the poll was worded, but I do not think so.
 

Those costumes would likely look nothing like the picture on teens. They are probably pinned to be tight and they are being worn by adult women who are posing provocatively with all of the trashy accessories to titilate even more. A few have explained that the outfits actually run big and fit nothing like what is seen in the picture.

As for calling girls who dress a bit provocatively for Halloween all kinds of names, what is up with that? That seem awfully judgmental IMO.
 
most of those costumes aren't really that bad. they actually cover up. the only thing that shows on half of those are legs, and those are covered by stockings/thigh highs anyway.

when i was 16 i started doing the "sexy" halloween thing. my mother didn't really care, and i don't/didn't normally dress like that everyday.

and i think i turned out just fine thank you. and i STILL dress up like that for halloween!
 
AKLRULZ said:
Copied the text from the radio website.

Anyway, I really don't care what the occasion is, I'd never let my daughter out in any of those - fine for an adult to choose but definitely not for a teen girl. Call me prude, I'd rather not have my daughter showing off skin.

Curious to hear from dads on this - the radio show was talking about how moms are typically more liberal when it comes to provocative dress then dads. Maybe I'm more cautious knowing what boys think when they see girls dressed like this?


well considering you'd never let your daughter out in any of those.......she won't go out in any of those. she'll dress like a little perfect angel......until she gets to the party and busts out wearing one of the above costumes.

and don't say "she would never"......because we've ALL lied to our parents about one thing or another.
 
I would let her wear those costumes but not with the reasoning you meantioned in your poll (I didn´t vote).
 
LiLIrishChick63 said:
well considering you'd never let your daughter out in any of those.......she won't go out in any of those. she'll dress like a little perfect angel......until she gets to the party and busts out wearing one of the above costumes.

and don't say "she would never"......because we've ALL lied to our parents about one thing or another.

Not all teenage girls desire to wear revealing clothing - I feel sorry for people who think that all girls will "go wild" and cave to the pull of the MTV culture. That is a huge sign of weakness.

I'll raise my daughter to the standards I believe in and hope she makes right choices - if she chooses not to then her mom and I will always be there to support her, but also to help her learn from her mistakes.

Thanks for being concerned, though.
 
Planogirl said:
Those costumes would likely look nothing like the picture on teens. They are probably pinned to be tight and they are being worn by adult women who are posing provocatively with all of the trashy accessories to titilate even more. A few have explained that the outfits actually run big and fit nothing like what is seen in the picture.

As for calling girls who dress a bit provocatively for Halloween all kinds of names, what is up with that? That seem awfully judgmental IMO.


I don't think anyone was calling girls dressing in those costumes for Halloween any names. I think the "W" word was thrown out in reference to the costumes looking like they are Hooker costumes, not little bo peep etc. As in "they look like they are dressed like a _________". I am going on the record right now that I never intended to call any young girl that name or imply that the way she dresses has anything to do with her sexual activity level. I just don't understand why they would want to emulate that type of person.
 
TurboKitty said:
I can't argue with the modesty arguement.

I was a very mosdest and humble kid and teen. I wasn't shown respect and had negative self esteem/confidence issues, so I freely admit I want to instill those qualities in my kids over modesty. My failing, I'll admit. I want my kids to be able to speak up for themselves. Because I couldn't.


Wow. See, I think that is the greater and true injustice in todays society. That a girl would not be treated with respect for not dressing in a provacative manner. That a girl would think to have self - esteem she had to dress this way. That a girl would feel to have a voice she would need to look "cool". This is todays media and culture ruining our young girls self-esteem. No wonder anorexia and teen-age sex are on the rise. Girls are taught by the entertainment industry and clothing manufacturers that they are worthless if they don't look a certain way. I am fighting this with my daughter daily.
 
Planogirl said:
Those costumes would likely look nothing like the picture on teens. They are probably pinned to be tight and they are being worn by adult women who are posing provocatively with all of the trashy accessories to titilate even more. A few have explained that the outfits actually run big and fit nothing like what is seen in the picture.

As for calling girls who dress a bit provocatively for Halloween all kinds of names, what is up with that? That seem awfully judgmental IMO.

Well said. The perfect parent issue takes another turn, as in some saying my kids would never wear that, or would want to wear that, and your child is a ***** if they do.

I see now they are backtracking since they are getting called on they way they were describing people who would buy or wear these costumes.
 
I wouldn't even think to bring that home because I know darn well my parents wouldn't have let me out of the house in that!! My dad's classic line is "ok.... where's the rest of it?" :)
 















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