Would you let your teen daughter dress like this for Halloween?

[va32h]

We can all qualify our statements by saying the costume could be modified or what if she's 18, etc. But just look at it on face value. A younger teen girl dressing as a sexy nurse or French Maid. Do any of you really believe that's appropriate?

Um,....no, I don't think it's appropriate at face value, which is why I included the qualifiers.

 

[Keli]

Nope, I wouldn't let my teenage dd wear any of those costumes.

 

[cardaway]

We can all qualify our statements by saying the costume could be modified or what if she's 18, etc. But just look at it on face value. A younger teen girl dressing as a sexy nurse or French Maid. Do any of you really believe that's appropriate?

Your daughter will act different based on what she is wearing that night. Yes or no?

Your daughter will forget everything you ever taught her about right or wrong because of what she is wearing. Yes or no?

 

[ChrisnSteph]

Some of those aren't that bad. I would draw the line at the thigh highs. I think those are what make a lot of these costumes look hoochie mama, and my dd would have to wear full coverage tights instead. I don't think it's safe for young girls to walk the sidewalks at night wearing sexy lingerie!

However, if you're an adult and want to dress like a "ho" (as some have so eloquently put it) for a night, then go for it! As a conservative jeans and t-shirt kind of gal, I'm looking forward to it!

 

[AKLRULZ]

I'll be ordering one for DW today

Copycat.

 

[va32h]

This board amazes me on another thread they have a fit if a 12 yr old rides their bike around the block by themselves or stays overnight at a party where they haven't met every member of the extended family. and then they feel it is ok to let their 14 or 15 yr old wear these outfits. That makes a lot of sense keep the kid in a bubble till 13 then all bets are off go dress like your selling something and since you've never had to make any decisions on your own you will just instinctively know how to deal with the responses you'll get from these outfits.

Welcome to DIS logic, where everything you do is probably wrong.

For example,

If you take your children with you to any office, facility or function that is not specifically for children, you are lazy and rude and ruining it for everyone else. If anything remotely unpleasant happens to your child during this time, it's your fault in the first place for bringing them. You will get replies from posters who are completely mystified as to why anyone would ever have to bring a child to a grocery store, doctor's office, or laundromat, since their child's grandparents live just around the corner and love their grandchildren enough to watch them for any length of time at a moment's notice.

However, if you hire a babysitter to watch those children so you can attend the adult function in peace, you are irresponsible and have your priorities out of whack, because you allowed someone else to care for your children. Your children were probably being molested the entire time you were gone, and just haven't found the courage to tell you yet, because your relationship with them is so distant (as evidenced by your willingness to abandon them for an afternoon). You will get replies from people who have NEVER left their children in the care of anyone else, ever, including their own spouses, possibly even going so far as to deliver their subsquent children at home in the bathtub so as to spare the older ones even a few seconds in the care of someone other than mommy.

 

[WIcruizer]

Your daughter will act different based on what she is wearing that night. Yes or no?

Your daughter will forget everything you ever taught her about right or wrong because of what she is wearing. Yes or no?

That's not my point at all. Would your daughter act differently if she had 168 piercings on her face and had a tattoo covering her entire face? Not necessarliy. But that doesn't make it appropriate. And sending out your daughter in a sexy maid's outfit is sick. Whether she acts differently misses the point. It's how other parents, kids would view her (and her parents), not to mention any pervs who might be around.

 

[cardaway]

That's not my point at all. Would your daughter act differently if she had 168 piercings on her face and had a tattoo covering her entire face? Not necessarliy. But that doesn't make it appropriate. And sending out your daughter in a sexy maid's outfit is sick. Whether she acts differently misses the point. It's how other parents, kids would view her (and her parents), not to mention any pervs who might be around.

Interesting how hard it is for some people to answer yes or no questions.

Also interesting how people will brag to high heaven about how well they have raised their kids but it would be out of the question to allow them to wear something like those costumes. Maybe they are not as confident about their daughters upbringing afterall.

 

[holycow]

My friend and I were just having this discussion the other day. Halloween shouldn't be the day that your kid gets to dress up like a "street walker" or whatever you want to call it. It is wrong and shouldn't be done. Teach your children to have some respect for themselves.


Va32h:

 

[WIcruizer]

Interesting how hard it is for some people to answer yes or no questions.

Always interesting how people will brag to high heaven about how well they have raised their kids but it would be out of the question to allow wear something like those costumes. Maybe they are not as confident about their daughters upbringing afterall.

Nice try. My daughters were brought up fine and they're doing very well, thank you. I didn't brag about that did I? No. I never mentioned it. Interesting how some people can debate a statement that was never made. I know it's a fun trick for you to raise questions that divert the discussion, and then cry foul when someone has no interest in answering them. My response was quite clear, and I don't feel the need to answer questions that are off point.

Finally, I thought about this after I posted. I can address one of your questions. Would my daughter act differently? I don't know becuase when they were younger I never would have let them dress that way. What I DO know is that there was a direct correlation between the girls who dressed that way in their high school. Those girls were generally the ones who were sexually active, and often times at a younger age.

 

[ChrisnSteph]

Interesting how hard it is for some people to answer yes or no questions.

Also interesting how people will brag to high heaven about how well they have raised their kids but it would be out of the question to allow them to wear something like those costumes. Maybe they are not as confident about their daughters upbringing afterall.

I don't think that has anything to do with it. Anyone who doesn't allow their girls to wear these costumes is doing something right! Just because you wouldn't allow your dd to wear a revealing costume doesn't mean that there are concerns with her behavior, good grief. My main concern would be all the pervs and disgusting adult men who would be oggling my dd all night. There could be a potential risk there, since you never know who's out prowling the streets on Halloween night. Now personally I don't think of those costumes are that bad, especially with a few alterations (like I said earlier, eliminating the thigh highs).

 

[jenr812]

I don't like it - It wasn't too long ago that the only place you could buy outfits like that was at the bad little stores on the bad side of town. Then you started seeing them on adult women in halloween shops, around the last 2 years you started seeing them on the teen models for halloween costumes and most disturbingly, they are now showing the same type outfits for little girls age 6-10. They have them on the same same site the OP mentioned but I am too stupid to know how to copy a picture here. There is a devil one and a chamber maid one and a kitty cat one in particular.

Someone said that it is one day for pretend. I ask my daughter why would you want to pretend to be that kind of girl. Who are the woman you want to emulate? The sooner they start dressing like that (even if just for halloween) the sooner they start doing something else that is too provacative. Maybe I can't stop my daughter from doing what other girls do when she is out of my sight, but I am darn well not going to condone it letting her walk out of my house dressed like a wh@r%.

I agree

 

[jenr812]

I don't think that has anything to do with it. Anyone who doesn't allow their girls to wear these costumes is doing something right! Just because you wouldn't allow your dd to wear a revealing costume doesn't mean that there are concerns with her behavior, good grief. My main concern would be all the pervs and disgusting adult men who would be oggling my dd all night. There could be a potential risk there, since you never know who's out prowling the streets on Halloween night. Now personally I don't think of those costumes are that bad, especially with a few alterations (like I said earlier, eliminating the thigh highs).

Very well said!

 

[beck0321]

Ok explain this to me. These are real high school chearleader uniforms from a cheerleader outfitting cataloug. How are these any better than the costumes that the OP posted? And yet thousands of TEENAGE high schooler's wear these same exact outfits to school ALL DAY on game days (some even show the midrift). The costumes the OP is talking about are meant for ONE NIGHT when everyone else is going to be dressed that way anyway. Please, I would like someone to explain to me the logic in this. If it's OK to wear these "uniforms" to SCHOOL than why is it not OK to wear something similar for Halloween? And don't tell me that is not what cheerleader uniforms look like, I have seen them first hand at many different high schools.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

I don't have any kids, but there is no way in **** that I would let me daughter wear something like that. If she wants to dress up like a *****, she can do it when she is an adult and out of my house.

 

[BillSears]

13 no way. 16 or 17 probably. 18 or 19 sure, go have fun.

I didn't vote because the 2 choices are pretty squed towards the original posters bias.

 

[Buckalew11]

No, I wouldn't. And I hope she wouldn't have the desire to dress that way--on Halloween or ever.


But, the question about "if your DD did wear an outfit like that, would she act differently?" is quite interesting.
Do we act differently in different types of dress?

StephandChris said she was a conservative type jeans and tee shirt kind of girl who was looking forward to dressing up. I think most women have worn lingerie and felt more sexy in it than in a flannel gown or Mickey PJs.
Now I doubt that a DD would turn into a slut just because she was wearing a "slutty" costume, but I am thinking it might make a difference about how she felt about herself or carried herself or her sassiness.
So, yeah, I think clothing does affect you more than one might think. I doubt men understand that as much as women do because men's clothing doesn't change too much but women's certainly does. (jeans/tees, dresses, gowns...)

 

[WIcruizer]

Ok explain this to me. These are real high school chearleader uniforms from a cheerleader outfitting cataloug. How are these any better than the costumes that the OP posted? And yet thousands of TEENAGE high schooler's wear these same exact outfits to school ALL DAY on game days (some even show the midrift). The costumes the OP is talking about are meant for ONE NIGHT when everyone else is going to be dressed that way anyway. Please, I would like someone to explain to me the logic in this. If it's OK to wear these "uniforms" to SCHOOL than why is it not OK to wear something similar for Halloween? And don't tell me that is not what cheerleader uniforms look like, I have seen them first hand at many different high schools.

Depends on the uniform. There are cheer uniforms (and cheer routines for that matter) that are not appropriate, IMHO. But the ones you posted look fine.

 

[MagicalMom]

It doesn't matter if I would or not, I know she wouldn't wear it. I can hardly get her to take off the Tshirt over her bathing suit. She's too embaressed of her slim, 5' 5" size 7 frame.
I just hope she doesn't wait until she's 40, chubby & in the middle of a mid-life crisis to start showing some skin.

 

[beck0321]

13 no way. 16 or 17 probably. 18 or 19 sure, go have fun.

I didn't vote because the 2 choices are pretty squed towards the original posters bias.

I agree that the question is a little funny. He/she should have just put yes or no and then "explain in your post why."
I voted yes, but it wouldn't be because I wouldn't "want her to be pressured by her peers." I think that is BS. I've never worn a Halloween costume because I though it's what I HAD to wear to impress people. I pick something out that suits my tastes and that I think is cute. I don't really care if other people think it's the most hideous thing they've seen. I'm 24 and that has not changed since I was a teenager. Maybe the fact that I think it could win a costume contest might influence my decision.