Worst wedding presents ever....

[mombrontrent]

Apparently a basket of food is a really bad idea...

http://www.thestar.com/life/2013/06...ntrol_after_bride_demands_to_see_receipt.html

WOW! This deserves a thread of it's own. The more I read the more shocked and appalled I became

 

[kjpotter]

We registered for camping gear!

 

[goofinoff]

Apparently a basket of food is a really bad idea...

http://www.thestar.com/life/2013/06/19/wedding_gift_spat_spirals_out_of_control_after_bride_demands_to_see_receipt.html

I can't even begin to imagine a.) sending a text like that to someone I chose to attend my wedding and b.) receiving a text like that from a friend who invited me to her special day. Disgusting act of greed!

 

[crashbb]

A fire extinguisher and a flannel stadium blanket.

Talked about how strange it was forever, until one day someone said, "Maybe it was meant to put out the 'fire' that would happen under the blanket".

Still a strange and dumb gift regardless of what the meaning was supposed to be.

Guess I give strange dumb gifts.

I've given a fire extinguisher, smoke detector and/or carbon monoxide detector a couple of times (especially when the couple were moving into a new place). This weekend, I visited one pair to whom I gave such a gift and my friend very proudly showed me where the fire extinguisher was hanging. Another sent me a picture of the smoke detector (properly installed) shortly after the wedding.

What can I say? I like to think that my friends are safe in their homes.

 

[Janepod]

I can't even begin to imagine a.) sending a text like that to someone I chose to attend my wedding and b.) receiving a text like that from a friend who invited me to her special day. Disgusting act of greed!

Worse for the gift giver to share the emails with the media, IMO. And to make rude remarks about same sex marriage, too:

"it's obvious you have the etiquette of a twig, I couldn't care less of what you think about the gift you received, "normal" people would welcome anything given, you wanna have a party, you pay for it, DON'T expect me to, I don't care what you or anybody thinks, you should just be happy your sham of a marriage is legal dude!"

http://www.thespec.com/news-story/3845206-have-your-say-about-the-wedding-gift-firestorm/

 

[LSmith]

Guess I give strange dumb gifts.

I've given a fire extinguisher, smoke detector and/or carbon monoxide detector a couple of times (especially when the couple were moving into a new place). This weekend, I visited one pair to whom I gave such a gift and my friend very proudly showed me where the fire extinguisher was hanging. Another sent me a picture of the smoke detector (properly installed) shortly after the wedding.

What can I say? I like to think that my friends are safe in their homes.

Personally, I think the fire extinguisher/smoke detector and carbon monoxide detector are AMAZINGLY thoughtful gifts.

My brother in law is a fire captain and has taught us that you can never, ever have too many of any of those. In fact, he says you should have a smoke detector in every single room!

 

[LSmith]

Worse for the gift giver to share the emails with the media, IMO. And to make rude remarks about same sex marriage, too:

"it's obvious you have the etiquette of a twig, I couldn't care less of what you think about the gift you received, "normal" people would welcome anything given, you wanna have a party, you pay for it, DON'T expect me to, I don't care what you or anybody thinks, you should just be happy your sham of a marriage is legal dude!"

http://www.thespec.com/news-story/3845206-have-your-say-about-the-wedding-gift-firestorm/

But you failed to quote the nasty text by the bride that preceded this.

 

[Janepod]

But you failed to quote the nasty text by the bride that preceded this.

Not relevant to me. Guys crapping on gay marriage suck. I didn't think I'd be Team Bride but ... here I am.

 

[design_mom]

Sounds like neither party with the food basket incident is choosing to take the high road.

My "bad gift" was for my shower. DH's grandma gave me a set of towels she'd collected (stolen) from hotels. (They had the name of the hotel printed on them in a "so you won't steal this towel" way. Apparently Grandpa used to bring them home from business trips and she collected them.) Hoping to save Grandma some embarrassment I did not take the towels out of the box, but just thanked her for the Gift of towels. But Grandma said, "Take them out! I can't remember which hotel I gave you." Apparently she had several collections because SIL got a set (different hotel) when she got married. Grandma was really a sweet woman, but that was an ODD gift.

My weirdest wedding gift experience was with my cousin. She married a very pretentious guy who has always seemed to think our (extended) family are a bunch of country bumpkins. Some of us probably are, but not all of us. They came to our wedding, but did not give a gift. They dropped off a gift several months later and my cousin said "We wanted to see what kind of wedding you were having before we decided what to spend, and etiquette says we can take up to a year to send one." I guess the wedding met with their approval because the gift was actually quite generous. But I thought it was really weird to TELL me that the wedding gift amount was related to their perceived value of the wedding. It was almost like "you passed our test. Here's your prize." (I had never heard of the "cover your plate" tradition until I came to the DIS, so maybe that was in play, although as far as I know neither my cousin, nor her DH, are from "cover your plate" areas.)

 

[LSmith]

Not relevant to me. Guys crapping on gay marriage suck. I didn't think I'd be Team Bride but ... here I am.

Actually you were from the beginning. Might as well own it. It should be very relevant. And by the way my wonderful step sister is married to a woman so don't bother going there.

 

[Janepod]

Actually you were from the beginning. Might as well own it.

Not true at all.
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Janepod
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Rudest bride ever AND crappiest wedding gift ever.

I guess I'm on the gift giver's side? Hard to tell. They're both awful.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

Personally, I think the fire extinguisher/smoke detector and carbon monoxide detector are AMAZINGLY thoughtful gifts.

My brother in law is a fire captain and has taught us that you can never, ever have too many of any of those. In fact, he says you should have a smoke detector in every single room!

Add me to the list of those that think this is a great gift!

 

[LSmith]

Not true at all.
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Janepod
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Rudest bride ever AND crappiest wedding gift ever.

I guess I'm on the gift giver's side? Hard to tell. They're both awful.

So you were on the fence.

 

[Janepod]

So you were on the fence.

Sure, if that's what "I guess I'm on the gift giver's side?" means to you.

 

[mrsheppo]

Personally, I think the fire extinguisher/smoke detector and carbon monoxide detector are AMAZINGLY thoughtful gifts.

My brother in law is a fire captain and has taught us that you can never, ever have too many of any of those. In fact, he says you should have a smoke detector in every single room!

My DH would have loved this as a wedding gift. In fact, the very first gift he gave me after we started dating was 2 smoke detectors as he said I did not have enough in my house.

 

[LSmith]

Sure, if that's what "I guess I'm on the gift giver's side?" means to you.

Followed by 'hard to tell. They're both awful'?

 

[discnewbie]

I got some inexpensive gifts, but all of the guests meant well and I thanked everyone for each gift. However... two of my best friends got not-so-nice gifts. One was told by her MIL that she hadn't found the gift with the right 'tone' and she would give them this extra special gift shortly... it's been three years. The other friend received a blanket from an aunt. A used blanket. Not an heirloom or anything like that --the aunt is apparently an auctions addict. Oh, and did I mention that the blanket reeked (yes, reeked) of cat urine?

But I agree with others on here.. MIL as a gift takes the ultimate prize.

 

[Jaya]

Oh, I agree. The present (or would that be "presence"?) of the MIL takes the cake. A friend got a similar present; she and new husband returned home from a 3-day honeymoon to find his ex-wife sitting in a car in the driveway with his three year old son and four year old daughter, and all their possessions were piled on the porch. Ex-wife took the kids out of the car, said "they're yours now" and left. My friend raised the children.

 

[Lemonademouth]

My boss gave us a camping tent. She also thought that wedding gifts were too "girl" centered and she knew I disliked camping and husband adores it and camped all of the time. One of the better gifts we got, actually.

We had put a tent on our registry! Guess we are weird. Those who bought us gifts stuck to our registry. We tried to put things of all price ranges as we were poor, and so were our friends. The only reason we were able to get married at all was because my aunt is the gm of a hotel in Baltimore and helped pay for everything, including our week at universal/seaworld. We got an even mix of gifts and checks, and we appreciated everything! The weirdest thing we got, was not so weird. my great uncle is an artist, a pretty decent one too, as well as a photographer. My wedding gift from him was, he photographed our rehearsal dinner and my bridesmaids and me getting our hair and makeup done the morning of. When we got back to Baltimore from Florida there was a box from him waiting for us. It was a painting he made of a sailboat out on the ocean right after the sun goes down. It is really beautiful. It is currently hanging in our downstairs 'guest bath'.

 

[Andtototoo]

I've never comprehended that guests are supposed to pay for their dinner when they are invited to a wedding.

And I've never comprehended that guests are supposed to buy their own beverages at a wedding.

Just goes to show that different areas have different cultural rules.