Again, your examples are off. For your first class example to apply, Disney would have to build "upgraded" ride carts for those who pay more to ride. Same ride, plushier ride vehicle. They don't do this, nor should they. But that would be about equivalent to having first class on an airplane. Same ride, better seat. That wouldn't affect another guests wait time or ride experience. I would look at people paying more for a cushier Winnie the Pooh seat like I do those on first class, "what a sucker", but, "Good for them"
The football example also isn't applicable. For it to work, the 50 yard line people would be able to get in unencumbered by the noisebleed seats, until 30 mins before kickoff. This doesn't happen nor should it.
Disney already offers premiums for purchase - dinner cruises, dessert parties, and the halloween party. No, I shouldn't be against the party. Disney owes no one extended park hours. 9-7 is a reasonable park operating time. Also, one enjoys less crowds during "party days" so its a trade off, one could argue better for the person not attending the party, an improved experience even. The point you are missing, is that these extras Disney offers does not affect the average customer's theme park experience that day. They aren't made to wait longer because of the actions of those who paid more. That's the crux of my argument and belief. Disney feels the same way. Last night, I saw a commercial for Disney showing "for only $80 per person per day" vacation package. Who is that geared towards? I believe their target market is that middle ground. That's why the POP has 4 times the amount of rooms as the Contemporary.....(estimate)
The examples are completely comparable.. you're missing the point.
First class airfare: One of the biggest perks, is that you get to board the airplane first, you get off first. You don't have to wait in line!! Just like fastpass. You also get a better overall experience, just like fastpass. Remember, waiting in line is part of the attraction, in the sense that its part of the time commitment for the attraction.
So first class passenger, gets a much more relaxing trip... boarding the airplane first, getting to enjoy a glass of wine, getting to sit back. While a coach passenger has to stand in a long line to board the plane, dealing with cramped space.
Fastpass "passenger" -- gets to get on the ride immediately, getting to enjoy whole benefit of the attraction. So Splash mountain -- they get 17 minutes of enjoyment. While the "coach" non-FP "passenger" has to spend 40 minutes of the hour in line, only getting to enjoy the last 17 minutes.
You are missing the 50 yard line point -- It is delivering a DIFFERENT experience based on price. Nothing to do with who enters first.
And just like faspass -- I've been fortunate enough to use a luxury box at Madison Square Garden, I've had premium seats to baseball stadiums -- And just like fastpass, I get to avoid the crowds, I get to use special entrances.
Now based on your logic, you should be totally against the parties where only limited numbers of people "who pay extra" are allowed to attend.
It absolutely affects my guest experience if I have to leave the park at 6 or 7 pm, while other people get to stay until midnight!
Sounds like you are pretty selective about the types of "perks" that are okay with you, and those that aren't. Just the ones that you personally dislike, are the ones you are against.
But since you don't mind "exclusive hours" like parties and EMH... So you don't object to the carving out of hours?
So how about... Off site guests are allowed to ride attractions only from 9-11am, and 2-7pm. They aren't kicked out of the park, and they are free to see the parades, eat in the restaurants.
Deluxe on site guests are allowed to ride the attractions from 8am - 11pm.
Value and mod on site guests are allowed to ride the attractions from 9am-noon, and then again from 1pm-10pm. (so 8-9, 12-1 and 10-11 are reserved only for deluxe guests).
Now, this type of "perk" fits entirely with your logic -- You don't mind carved out hours.
Or you could make it even simpler: Off-site guests only get entry into the park from 10am - 4pm.
These types of arrangements would certainly cure the line issue for deluxe guests, and they fit your objections perfectly.