Why do people feel good when they report posts?

[Schmeck]

People like to be tattle-tales or rats or snitches or whatever you want to call it because they grew up in an environment where that's okay. For instance, the neighbor who calls the cops on a noise complaint instead of just respectfully talking to you themselves. You see a lot of this in suburban neighborhoods...believe me, I know...I grew up in Long Island. People must learn to deal with their own problems instead of telling on everyone else and getting them in trouble.

We have been told by our local police department to never go to a neighbor and complain, to always call the police. It's just never safe to confront someone on their property.

Snitches get stitches

Wow, that's what bullies say at our school. If a student said this, they would be in the office, and a parent would be called for a conference. It's taken as a threat. I'm thinking you were not trying to be threatening though. But what would your point be?

Except here where they get rewarded.

When is reporting inappropriate behavior considered a negative behavior in itself?

 

[minnie mum]

I replied in a thread today and know for sure who reported me. It is actually kind of funny considering what the topic of the thread is about. Hope that person feels good about reporting me....I find it humorous actually.

So have you ever reported a reply to a post you made where you felt you were getting picked on, bullied or called a name???
I admit I have reported a couple of threads only where it was the obvious spam type post....
Figure here we are all adults and don't need to go tattle when someone is mean to us but ..... guess not.

So 'fess up. How many people took a look at the OPs posting history to see just what it was that sparked this thread?

As several posters have pointed out- there is no way of knowing if you were reported by the poster you took aim at, by another Diser who was reading your reply, or by a moderator who was monitoring the thread. So you are making an illfounded assumption. And if your post was blameless, then you would not have been contacted by a moderator.

I seriously doubt that anyone reports a post in order to make themselves feel good. And since posters don't always hang around the same thread for hours on end, it isn't always the recipient of the offending post that does the reporting. I have never reported someone who has leveled a shot at me- my skin is too thick for that. But I have, in the past, reported someone for a vile and uncalled for attack on another poster. It doesn't happen often, but I've seen some pretty nasty and disgusting things posted on the Dis.

The posting guidelines are there for everyone to see. Some posters, unfortunately, forget in the heat of the moment or do not think that they apply to them. And the mods can't monitor every thread 24/7.

 

[jrmasm]

We have been told by our local police department to never go to a neighbor and complain, to always call the police. It's just never safe to confront someone on their property.



Wow, that's what bullies say at our school. If a student said this, they would be in the office, and a parent would be called for a conference. It's taken as a threat. I'm thinking you were not trying to be threatening though. But what would your point be?



When is reporting inappropriate behavior considered a negative behavior in itself?

When the inappropriate behavior doesn't involve break the law or causing physical injury. Even my kids know that.

 

[barkley]

We have been told by our local police department to never go to a neighbor and complain, to always call the police. It's just never safe to confront someone on their property.

we've had that where we've lived as well, and at one point in our current neighborhood any call that came in to normal dispatch was immediately routed to 911(they knew which homes there were issues with/were armed)-

Wow, that's what bullies say at our school. If a student said this, they would be in the office, and a parent would be called for a conference. It's taken as a threat. I'm thinking you were not trying to be threatening though. But what would your point be?



When is reporting inappropriate behavior considered a negative behavior in itself?

seriously, and I for one have seen no evidence of 'finster fairies' sprinkling or gifting special snitching tags.


the board has it's rules, if someone believes a rule has been violated there is a mechanism to report, that someone avails themselves of using that mechanism is not an inappropriate behavior.

 

[TifffanyD]

I seriously doubt that anyone reports a post in order to make themselves feel good.

I have gotten PM's that stated otherwise

 

[scrapquitler]

I replied in a thread today and know for sure who reported me. It is actually kind of funny considering what the topic of the thread is about. Hope that person feels good about reporting me....I find it humorous actually.

So have you ever reported a reply to a post you made where you felt you were getting picked on, bullied or called a name???
I admit I have reported a couple of threads only where it was the obvious spam type post....
Figure here we are all adults and don't need to go tattle when someone is mean to us but ..... guess not.

I have reported a couple obvious spam type posts over the years. But don't think I would even consider reporting anything else because it's just a post on a board, I don't care much if someone does't like what I say or calls me a name. Some people just can't deal with it, I guess.

 

[bookgirl]

I'm always amused by threads that complain about tattling, especially when they are started by someone who posted something that was reportable.

Don't have any sympathy for someone who breaks a rule then complains because they got busted for it.

I've been reported, I deserved it and sucked it up, I didn't whine that 'someone told on me' or that a mod saw it.

 

[Schmeck]

When the inappropriate behavior doesn't involve break the law or causing physical injury. Even my kids know that.

Where does verbal bullying fall into the above equation?

 

[aaarcher86]

We have been told by our local police department to never go to a neighbor and complain, to always call the police. It's just never safe to confront someone on their property. Wow, that's what bullies say at our school. If a student said this, they would be in the office, and a parent would be called for a conference. It's taken as a threat. I'm thinking you were not trying to be threatening though. But what would your point be? When is reporting inappropriate behavior considered a negative behavior in itself?

Are you beings serious? It was a joke in regards to needless tattling and I for one find the saying hilarious.

Around here bullies say much worse.

 

[aaarcher86]

Where does verbal bullying fall into the above equation?

Depends on your definition of bullying. Kids are going to argue and/or say mean things to each other. Does that need to be reported? No. And it isn't bullying.

Escalating that to FB messages with threats, tweets, constant attacks in the hallway... Yes.

 

[Schmeck]

Are you beings serious? It was a joke in regards to needless tattling and I for one find the saying hilarious.

Around here bullies say much worse.

I guess I'm just more sensitive about these sayings because we have gang members in our school, and we take verbal threats very seriously.

Also, just had another teacher killed by a student today, this one very local to me:

http://www.myfoxboston.com/story/23...-schools-closed-wednesday-due-to-police-probe

Sorry if I don't find the humor in some statements, and seem to take things more seriously than other people do.

 

[pioneer89]

"It is not enough merely to win; others must lose."

Anyway, I don't have enough posts here to have ever been reported (that I know of).

My attitude is while I do care what people here think, I have much more limited concern over how people feel about my posts. So if someone wants to report me for something witch is not an actual infraction, then whatever.

 

[aaarcher86]

I guess I'm just more sensitive about these sayings because we have gang members in our school, and we take verbal threats very seriously. Also, just had another teacher killed by a student today, this one very local to me: http://www.myfoxboston.com/story/23764248/2013/10/23/danvers-schools-closed-wednesday-due-to-police-probe Sorry if I don't find the humor in some statements, and seem to take things more seriously than other people do.

Well, our worlds are different. I've been bullied, stalked, and jumped and don't find that statement the least bit concerning.

Certainly you're entitled to your feelings about it.

 

[aaarcher86]

"It is not enough merely to win; others must lose." Anyway, I don't have enough posts here to have ever been reported (that I know of). My attitude is while I do care what people here think, I have much more limited concern over how people feel about my posts. So if someone wants to report me for something witch is not an actual infraction, then whatever.

I'm reporting this.

 

[LSmith]

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[Schmeck]

We are talking about adults and cyberspace here. Not murders or breaking the law in anyway, shape or form. One giant leap.

Not all are adults. I was responding to 'snitches get stitches', which is a threat to harm someone who informs about a situation that is not appropriate. Who knows where a threat could go here, or why some kid killed a teacher in Sparks, in Danvers? Where do you draw the line to how far someone can bully, or threaten? The DIS sets pretty straight-forward rules. Where does one draw the line about when it is OK to break a rule, or not?

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

People like to be tattle-tales or rats or snitches or whatever you want to call it because they grew up in an environment where that's okay. For instance, the neighbor who calls the cops on a noise complaint instead of just respectfully talking to you themselves. You see a lot of this in suburban neighborhoods...believe me, I know...I grew up in Long Island. People must learn to deal with their own problems instead of telling on everyone else and getting them in trouble.

Fortunately, this has never come up. We've always had good neighbors. But if we didn't, I'm certainly not going to confront a bunch of loud obnoxious partying drunks at my neighbor's house at 2 in the morning. You can bet I'm calling the cops to do it. I look at it this way. If I go over there and they start something, I'm going to jail because they'd all claim it was my fault. If the cops end up in a confrontation, the drunks are going to jail.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

When a poster gets points, the blame lies with the poster and the poster alone. While we're talking about adults and what they do, the adult thing to do is take ownership of one's posts. Blaming others or poking fun at those that report posts is not the adult thing to do. And there is no way to know who reported a particular post or even if anyone did unless they tell you. There are myriad reasons a mod's attention may be drawn to a thread. It may be they liked the topic. It may be another post was reported and they decided to read through. There may be multiple reports on multiple posts and the mod in question decides to bonk some heads. The bottom line is a person is responsible for their own posts. If one doesn't want points, don't cross the line. It really is that simple.

 

[manning]

If I got upset with every post I didn't agree with I would have perpetual heartburn. I would either respond respectfully or ignore it and move on.

There are forums here that doesn't interest me at all and I just don't go there. Who am I to be policeman. Got other better things to do.

 

[jrmasm]

Where does verbal bullying fall into the above equation?

I'll worry about it when people learn what the word bullying means.


And since this thread is about behavior on a message board, I'd say never. Don't like what some one says? Get off the computer, no one has to be here.