Who here is not in the "clique" like me? Part 4

[DznyFan]

I just reread my post and it didn't have the everything I wrote. He's only 9, so he is very excited. He's hoping they are off for weeks.

Only 5 counties are "striking" (everyone called in "sick"). There's talk they will be going back tomorrow. I'm not sure what will happen.

Actually - it could have been my fault for not reading the post thoroughly, or perhaps having forgotten that you had a young brother if you had mentioned it before... I'm kind of sleep deprived today (4 hours...) So he's excited about no school... OK, makes sense to me!

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

Actually - it could have been my fault for not reading the post thoroughly, or perhaps having forgotten that you had a young brother if you had mentioned it before... I'm kind of sleep deprived today (4 hours...) So he's excited about no school... OK, makes sense to me!

No, it was my fault. I typed everything out, but I guess I deleted it? I wrote a whole paragraph and it's missing! (maybe the snack bandit has moved onto stealing posts? )



How did the play go?

 

[pozey]

It was awesome! Not a single missed line, not a single flat note.

Awesome!!! (thumb)

(we almost had a Janet Jackson moment, though.)

Hopefully, it wasn't Erin who almost had the "waredrobe malfunction".

 

[DznyFan]

Awesome!!! (thumb)

thanks!

 

[MI mom of 3]

yep. Danced and sang thru almost an entire number holding her skirt together/up in the back with one hand.

OH NO!! poor Erin!! But I'll bet she carried it off and no one really noticed!!

Tell her CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

I came home for lunch today...it was that or stay and kill a kid!! If one more snarky little 7th grader throws F-bombs at me, I'll explode!! I am so sick of these kids who think no rule applies to them and as long as they think it's funny everyone else should too.

We have an autistic program housed in our school. Some are in reg Ed classes, with a para and all eat lunch with the other kids. 2 boys at lunch decided it would be fun to have Sir (yes that's his name) knock into other kids while they were eating. Of course Sir doesn't really understand that it is wrong, he just knows that the 'regular' kids are paying attention to him.

Ok I have to eat and go back...I just needed to vent a little. Thanks

 

[pozey]

OH NO!! poor Erin!! But I'll bet she carried it off and no one really noticed!!

Tell her CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

Ditto from me!!

Way to go Erin!!

Colton and I are going to try to come to the performance on Thursday.

 

[luvdzne]

I glad everything went well for Erin! It's great she was able to keep it all together even though she was trying to avoid losing her skirt.

Michele.....Sorry your having a bad day! This is the exact reason I don't volunteer all that often at the middle school! I actually have one of those, thinks they know everything, adults rules are stupid, I don't have to listen to anybody but my friends, kids at home!

Speaking of which, please tell me if I'm being to strict.......Brittany listens to everything her friends say, they seem to have a huge influence over her right now! If they tell her not to like someone, then she doesn't like that person. They say you should wear your hair this way, Brittany wears her hair that way. They say don't wear that, I don't like it, so Brittany won't wear it again. My point being, she does not seem to be able to "think" for herself. She has such poor self esteem and wants to fit in so badly that she will do anything that she thinks will help her fit in. Now they are not bad kids, their parents seem very nice, and they seem to come from good homes. However my worry is that it starts with the clothes and hair, what happens later down the line when it is something much worse. I am trying to nip it now before we get there. I told her that I don't trust her to think for herself and make good decisions and be able to say no to things she doesn't agree with, or just plain thinks they are wrong. I told her until she shows me that she can think for herself, we are keeping the leash on her a bit tighter. Her friends tell her that I am too strict and that I don't let her do things, so this has become a huge battle. Am I being too hard on her? I don't want to be one of those over baring parents that never let their children do things, I know I can't control everything she does, but am I going overboard?

Sorry for rambling!

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

I don't think you are being too strict. If she is blindly listening to her friends that isn't a good thing. It's hard when you have low self esteem to realize that you don't always have to do what your friends want.

I have always done what I wanted, not what my friends wanted me to do. I never cared what they thought, because if they didn't accept me they weren't true friends.

One of my brothers is the complete opposite. He would (and still does) what his "friends" do. This lead to a time where he moved to VA to be with his girlfriend and ended up doing crystal meth (he's now off, thank god). Still, he did this to fit in with her and her friends. I know that's an extreme, but it happens.

 

[sewer]

So, he checks me out “Small World”

I bet he did!

 

[DznyFan]

OH NO!! poor Erin!! But I'll bet she carried it off and no one really noticed!!

Tell her CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

I came home for lunch today...it was that or stay and kill a kid!! If one more snarky little 7th grader throws F-bombs at me, I'll explode!! I am so sick of these kids who think no rule applies to them and as long as they think it's funny everyone else should too.

We have an autistic program housed in our school. Some are in reg Ed classes, with a para and all eat lunch with the other kids. 2 boys at lunch decided it would be fun to have Sir (yes that's his name) knock into other kids while they were eating. Of course Sir doesn't really understand that it is wrong, he just knows that the 'regular' kids are paying attention to him.

Ok I have to eat and go back...I just needed to vent a little. Thanks

That's just plain cruel! I hate the way kids treat other kids - they think they're being cool and funny and they're just being miniature jerks that will some day grow up and be full grown jerks.

Speaking of which, please tell me if I'm being to strict.......Brittany listens to everything her friends say, they seem to have a huge influence over her right now! If they tell her not to like someone, then she doesn't like that person. They say you should wear your hair this way, Brittany wears her hair that way. They say don't wear that, I don't like it, so Brittany won't wear it again. My point being, she does not seem to be able to "think" for herself. She has such poor self esteem and wants to fit in so badly that she will do anything that she thinks will help her fit in. Now they are not bad kids, their parents seem very nice, and they seem to come from good homes. However my worry is that it starts with the clothes and hair, what happens later down the line when it is something much worse. I am trying to nip it now before we get there. I told her that I don't trust her to think for herself and make good decisions and be able to say no to things she doesn't agree with, or just plain thinks they are wrong. I told her until she shows me that she can think for herself, we are keeping the leash on her a bit tighter. Her friends tell her that I am too strict and that I don't let her do things, so this has become a huge battle. Am I being too hard on her? I don't want to be one of those over baring parents that never let their children do things, I know I can't control everything she does, but am I going overboard?

Sorry for rambling!

Ramble away! That is such a tough age, I think especially for girls. I remember DD going through the same thing - and she got to the point where she wanted to be one of the "popular" kids that she would do just about anything to fit in. It really takes kids quite a while, I think, to find their 'being' -their personna - where they 'fit in'. It doesn't help if you have one with low self esteem (been there, done that, too). I wish I could tell you there's a magical way to fix it, but there's just not. Sometimes they just have to ride it out until they realize that their peers or at least the ones they thought were cool, really aren't. We got lucky - as she grew older, she realized she had less and less in common with those she was wanting to emulate. We just stayed the course, supported her, let her make mistakes and hopefully learn from them, and when we found her 'niche', everything turned around - the confidence abounded, the attitude got better, and she got to where she really didn't think (as much...) about what everybody else thought. What you can do is maybe ask her how it's working for her - not 'liking' a person any more just cause she was told to; or you noticed that she wasn't seeing ________ anymore, what happened? How does she feel about that? Get her to use some introspection about the decisions she's making and why.

Good luck, Lesa!!!

 

[Linzybrooke]

Good afternoon everyone. Did the boards go down last night or was it just me?

Our printer decided last night to just stop working, at 10:30 while I was trying to print out my new resume. I was so angry! But, my angelic husband drove to the nearest 24 hour Kinkos and printed it there while I figured out what to wear to my interview. He's the sweetest guy. I think I am going to make him dinner tonight if I can figure out what to make.

Anyway, my interview was very promising. They have no current openings but are anticipating 4 vacancies at the end of this school year, 2 middle school, 1 high school and 1 senior high. I really want to do this, particullarly the senior high position, so keep me in your prayers if you can spare them! They asked me if I was interested in an upcoming long term sub position that could turn into permanent if the teacher leaves for next year, and I said I was provided I would be able to suppliment my income through summer. We shall see, they were thrilled that I could teach scenic design and costuming, as well as direct and choreograph a musical.

Michelle, I can't believe how cruel kids can be to each other. It makes me sick.

Lesa, I don't think you are being to strict. Dznyfan gave some great advice about turning it around on Brittany, my mom used to do that to me and it helped. It also helped when I realized that some of my "friends" didn't want me to be friends with others, or wear certain things because they were jealous of me. The hierachy (sp?) of friendship is very confusing.

Dznyfan, glad the show went well and congrats to Erin for being able to get through a song with her skirt coming off!

Sewer, nice to see ya!!!!!!

Angela, have a wonderful trip!!!

Minnie seems to be a little better today, so I am going to hold off on the vet. She can put some weight on it and still isn't acting like she is in physical pain so I'm guessing its a sprain or twist and there won't be anything they can do anyway. So, if she is still limping tomorrow I might take her in.

 

[YourMajesty]

That's just plain cruel! I hate the way kids treat other kids - they think they're being cool and funny and they're just being miniature jerks that will some day grow up and be full grown jerks.

awesome!!

Ramble away! That is such a tough age, I think especially for girls. I remember Erin going through the same thing - and she got to the point where she wanted to be one of the "popular" kids that she would do just about anything to fit in. She quit Campfire (but went back to it) because it wasn't "cool". It really takes kids quite a while, I think, to find their 'being' -their personna - where they 'fit in'. It doesn't help if you have one with low self esteem (been there, done that, too). I wish I could tell you there's a magical way to fix it, but there's just not. Sometimes they just have to ride it out until they realize that their peers or at least the ones they thought were cool, really aren't. We got lucky - as she grew older, she realized she had less and less in common with those she was wanting to emulate. We just stayed the course, supported her, let her make mistakes and hopefully learn from them, and when we found her 'niche', everything turned around - the confidence abounded, the attitude got better, and she got to where she really didn't think (as much...) about what everybody else thought. What you can do is maybe ask her how it's working for her - not 'liking' a person any more just cause she was told to; or you noticed that she wasn't seeing ________ anymore, what happened? How does she feel about that? Get her to use some introspection about the decisions she's making and why.

Good luck, Lesa!!!

First of all...yeah for ERIN! Glad all went well last night. DznyFan...you make some great points. It's nice to hear from someone that is a step ahead. We are already running into problems with DS in third grade. It is the most competitve class. I like the the introspection/questions...I always seem to have too much emotion. Getting them to think is the key. One big lesson for DS is that he can be popular but that's not 'who' he is...unlike a few kids that 'who' they are...all they have.

Donna...that was a nice breakfast.

Lin and 2xcited...glad you enjoyed my "Plum Fun"!

Linda...yep I remember that your DH does not like Tubby. Does he think if they loose they will fire him?

Michele...you must have an abundance of patience. Good that you went home for some lunch to regroup(group therapy on the DIS).

Hey Angela...the itinerary looks good.

Yolanda...you do sound busy. Time is going to fly over the next several months...hope all goes well.

Well...by the time I made on last night to DIS they had shut the boards down for upgrading...I'm mean how dare!

I finally made it to the Y today after taking about a year off from exercise. I'm sure I will be whining tomorrow about how sore I am. My DH mentioned a 5K "family" race coming up...sounds like a good goal.

 

[Tinkerbell_Girl]

Good Afternoon!

Thanks for the advice everyone! I'm still not sure if I will end up quiting or not. I need to think about it.

Lin- I'm glad the interview went well! I hope Minnie feels better!

Dznyfan- Poor Erin!!!!

Lesa- I remember those years.

 

[pozey]

I bet he did!

Well, I am quite a catch!!

 

[2xcited2slp]

good afternoon everyone!!

I went to post more last night after the "Plum Fun", but the boards went down for updates, so I was left speechless.......who knew.

Anyway, didn't want to be put on anyone's ignore list for only responding to one thing.

I am over at my mom and dad's right now-----going out to dinner-----so I will try to check in later this evening.

Have a good day kiddies!!!!

 

[MI mom of 3]

good afternoon everyone!!

I went to post more last night after the "Plum Fun", but the boards went down for updates, so I was left speechless.......who knew.

Anyway, didn't want to be put on anyone's ignore list for only responding to one thing.

I am over at my mom and dad's right now-----going out to dinner-----so I will try to check in later this evening.

Have a good day kiddies!!!!

Have fun at dinner...

I would never ignore you!!

 

[hellokitty86]

I tried to post this last night but the board was down...so here goes




Lin, Oh I hope Minnie is ok!!! I have to take Ruby to the vet Saturday for her shots. Give her kisses for me!! And what a good idea about writing to corporate (thumb!) I always get things across better in writing.

Lyzziesmom, I'll be the 3rd or 4th to ask, are you gonna call????

Nicole, I'm so sorry about that stupid MK lady!! I agree, I would tell her, "yanno I'm just not as committed to this as you think I need to be, if you are going to keep calling and harassing me perhaps I shouldn't sell" Then you could have another leader or whatever its called and sell things how you want to!!!

Angela!!! I am so excited for you!! I hope you have a wonderful trip. Take lots of pics (I know you will!) Have a safe drive if I don't get to talk to you before then!!

 

[luvdzne]

Ramble away! That is such a tough age, I think especially for girls. I remember Erin going through the same thing - and she got to the point where she wanted to be one of the "popular" kids that she would do just about anything to fit in. She quit Campfire (but went back to it) because it wasn't "cool". It really takes kids quite a while, I think, to find their 'being' -their personna - where they 'fit in'. It doesn't help if you have one with low self esteem (been there, done that, too). I wish I could tell you there's a magical way to fix it, but there's just not. Sometimes they just have to ride it out until they realize that their peers or at least the ones they thought were cool, really aren't. We got lucky - as she grew older, she realized she had less and less in common with those she was wanting to emulate. We just stayed the course, supported her, let her make mistakes and hopefully learn from them, and when we found her 'niche', everything turned around - the confidence abounded, the attitude got better, and she got to where she really didn't think (as much...) about what everybody else thought. What you can do is maybe ask her how it's working for her - not 'liking' a person any more just cause she was told to; or you noticed that she wasn't seeing ________ anymore, what happened? How does she feel about that? Get her to use some introspection about the decisions she's making and why.

Good luck, Lesa!!!

Thank you! I struggled a lot at this age, so I have trouble giving her advice. I know how "I" want it to be. One huge problem I have and I'm really trying hard to work on, is letting her make the mistakes to learn from. I want to prevent her from making the mistake to begin with. I guess I have a control issue! Like YM said, I have too much emotion. It's hard to watch her quit everything and stop talking to her friends trying to be part of a clique. You gave some really good advice, and it was very helpful. Thank you!

2x....You would never be put on anyone's ignore list! I take that back, if you spread any of those nasty rumors about Tusker house closing, I might just have to add you to mine! J/K Have a great dinner!

Lin....I'm glad you interview sounded promising! I will definitely keep you in my prayers. Here's a little pixie dust to go with it. That was sweet of your DH to take your resume to get it printed. A quick question, are teachers not allowed to work somewhere else during the summer?

Well I'm off to muster up some dinner. Maybe we can go out!

 

[Linzybrooke]

Lin....I'm glad you interview sounded promising! I will definitely keep you in my prayers. Here's a little pixie dust to go with it. That was sweet of your DH to take your resume to get it printed. A quick question, are teachers not allowed to work somewhere else during the summer?

No, they are, but it would require me to quit my full-time job which I had planned to keep until the start of the new school year, so I would be without income from the last day of class til my contract started. I could find something part-time but I doubt it would be what I am making now. I would have to get an offer and then figure it out from there.

 

[maddiesmommie]

Listen, I have been mostly lurking for the past four years (even back when the debate board was around), rarely post, except about vacation stuff....I am definitely not in the clique but I still love THE DIS!!!