What is your opinion on this?

[kadaten]

Originally posted by Rollwithit
I can see how the woman wouldn't want the memorial on her property, but I also believe there's a part of her yard right along the street that doesn't actually belong to her, it belongs to the city.

Tough spot to be in.

Nope! It belongs to her, but the city has an easement to use so much of it for purposes such as utilities, curbs, sidewalks, etc... But it belongs to the her!! Been there, done that with the city....

 

[BibbidyBobbidyBoo]

Originally posted by kadaten
Nope! It belongs to her, but the city has an easement to use so much of it for purposes such as utilities, curbs, sidewalks, etc... But it belongs to the her!! Been there, done that with the city....

Exactly what I was going to say. And even on the area the city can use (easement for utilities/etc. as you stated) they have rules and such on how that area can be used- which is why, for example, that even on poles here you can't put up signs (like say for instance for a yard sale, selling puppies, etc.) If you do- they'll be taken down and you'll be fined (found by the phone number or address you have on the sign to contact you).

The area the city can "use" is actually still owned by the property owner and the city can only use it for certain things... they can't use it for anything they want and it doesn't make it public property to be used as any person would like to use it either.

I agree that it's wrong to want to put any type of memorial, cross included or not, on someone's personal property. I know I am a Christian and yet even *I* would not appreciate a cross memorial put on my property to remember a person who died there.
I also don't like the increasing trend around here to put these type of memorials up all over the roads... I see more and more of them and it's definitely a downer for the sensitive types. You HAVE to think about the fact that someone died there when you see that- and there isn't any way in the world that kind of thinking could NOT be a downer.

 

[EltonJohn]

It's her property, and she has the legal right to do what she wants with that property. I would not let someone put a memorial on my property, I don't want to be reminded that someone died on my property neither would I want the value to go down on that property. If people kept putting things on my property then I would contact the proper authorites and complain. Instead of angering this woman why don't they stop antagonizing her and pray for her? There are plenty of other ways that you can memorialize somebody.

 

[poohandwendy]

I think the family needs to back off and realize their grief doesn't supercede the rights of others to not be constantly reminded of the death of a stranger. Very sad story, but they are totally in the wrong imo.

I cannot believe they wouldn't ask permission first and respect her wishes. Sheesh, that is really ignorant.

 

[ripleysmom]

This woman certainly has the right to not allow a memorial to be set up on her property. At this point what his family is doing is harassment and she has every right to ask the police to intervene.

 

[kilee]

Definelty not in my yard. Too me it has nothing to do w/ religon but I don't want it in my yard. Knowing the tragedy even happended there is enough.

I'm really suprised as harsh as it sounds, that she can't get a court order prohibiting them from doing this-- I mean if they are going to be so over the top about it.

There's another thread in regards to a similar topic and I posted there that another town in our county is beginning to ban roadside memorials. The town is making a claim they are too distracting and unkept after awhile. So, they are tearing all of them down. Some families are battling w/ the town (of course)--- so we'll see what happens.

 

[pjlla]

Originally posted by CajunDixie
Accidents ending in death are tragic yet I'm so sick of seeing all these crosses all over along the roadways. It's one thing to maybe put a cross at the site and let people place flowers around it for a week or so but after that get rid of the mess. Cemeteries are the place for mourning.....not our roads and streets. If this keeps up every intersection, road, and street will have these memorials. How depressing is that? I'm not an Athiest but I wouldnt want a memorial on my property either.

Not only depressing but DISTRACTING to the drivers!! I find myself trying to read the signs or whatever at these roadside markers!! I'm going to be needing the next memorial if I am not careful!! .......................P

 

[goofygirl]

I agree with the lady. Its HER yard! Her yard is not a cemetary!

Likewise, a roadside, a utility pole, a sidewalk, etc is also not a cemetary.