What do you think about this?

[Desnik]

Can we get over the price of the wedding? Seriously this thread is not asking what anyone's opinion is on how much a parent should spend on their daughters wedding. I was just wondering what others thought about someone calling off their wedding 2 weeks before over the phone and not in person.

And of course there is another side to the story but in my opinion a decent person would have at least told her in person. Yes I agree better he did it now and yes she is better off but common courtesy would be to have a heart to heart in person discussion with the person you had planned on spending the rest of your life with, no?

 

[Swan4Me]

Also, they both have really good jobs and were just about to go to closing on a townhouse they were purchasing on their own. Luckily they were able to get out of it but at what cost I am not sure.

If "the Call" was only a couple days ago-how did they already get out of the Townhouse Deal already? wouldnt they BOTH have to go and sign papers?

 

[ChattaAlley]

Nope Sorry . . .

 

[castmemberb4]

I do feel bad for the Bride and her family. Wheather she had any inkling that something was wrong or not it's not an easy situation to be in.
This guy is a huge coward for not telling her in person AND telling her while she's driving ! I hope someone was with her.

If there is another story it will come out in the end, just speculating based on my two experiences.

My BFF had virtually the same thing happen years ago, two weeks before the wedding he told her he didn't want to get married. They had been together for 5 years. Turns out that when the wedding announcement came out in the paper his other girlfriend found out and he had to chose.

As For me I called off a wedding mid plans after I saw my fiance with another girl in his car. Yes there were other clues and I got smart enough to call it off. Four months after the date we were to get married he married someone else who was already pregnant. But not until after he called me the night before that wedding to see if I'd come back. AUHM NO !

In both cases the only money we were not able to get back was for the dress, and her invitations, mine had not been printed yet.

It was a blessing for both of us and we both have had long happy marriages to the right person. I know this poor girl dosen't feel that way now and may not for a long time, but I'lll bet the day will come that she will be happy she didn't marry him.

 

[Desnik]

If "the Call" was only a couple days ago-how did they already get out of the Townhouse Deal already? wouldnt they BOTH have to go and sign papers?

I am not sure of the details with that. I know the wedding was suppose to be on the 21st and my mom got the call about it on the 5th and I believe he broke it off a few days before that.

Nope Sorry . . .

That's ok! But I do have to ask why post about the price when that wasn't the question or what the thread is about? I really would love to hear your opinion on what the thread is about. It's fine if you think it was too much for a wedding you have a right to that opinion.

 

[NeverlandClub23]

That is crazy. Most of the time in situations like these there were red flags all along that are usually ignored. Even so, he should have explained himself to her privately and maybe in a letter to her parents. I think it hurts the same no matter how it is done, a lot of people just want the face-to-face time so they can say whatever they want in return.

I actually would rather have it done in a text/over the phone so he wouldn't see me become a blubbering mess and I can seem stronger to myself and get some kind of satisfaction that he didn't see me breakdown when it was all over.

How sad for your friend's DD. No matter the cost of the wedding, even if it was $50, it's extremely sad when people are blindsided by things like these and are full of anger, embarrassment, and hurt. I hope she's able to pick herself up after this and isn't scarred by this whole thing.

 

[ChattaAlley]

That's ok! But I do have to ask why post about the price when that wasn't the question or what the thread is about? I really would love to hear your opinion on what the thread is about. It's fine if you think it was too much for a wedding you have a right to that opinion

Not sure really...why post about how much a wedding is if that was not part of the story. That was the first thing I saw. If you don't want people to be fixated on a particular variable then don't include it. IMO.

 

[Desnik]

Not sure really...why post about how much a wedding is if that was not part of the story. That was the first thing I saw. If you don't want people to be fixated on a particular variable then don't include it. IMO.

Honesty, I really didn't think anyone would get fixated on the price. I put it in my original post because I was trying to show how he not only screwed over his fiancee, but he also screwed over her family for a nice chunk of money. whether they can afford it or not I am sure they wouldn't want it thrown away like this. I do think they will recoup some of it, well I hope they will.

 

[TheIncredibles!]

Sorry-but I cant sympathize on idiots who spend that kind of money on a wedding-ridiculous

Just because you would not spend that kind of money or cannot spend that kind of money does not mean that your budget is the correct one and anybody that spends over that is an idiot.

They're only idiots if they cannot afford to spend that kind of money.

 

[Andtototoo]

Sorry-but I cant sympathize on idiots who spend that kind of money on a wedding-ridiculous

So if they were only spending $100, you'd have sympathy for her being treated like crap?

What's ridiculous is that your sympathy for emotional pain is limited only to those who are frugal or poor.

 

[Swan4Me]

whether they can afford it or not I am sure they wouldn't want it thrown away like this. I do think they will recoup some of it, well I hope they will.

Dress, tuxes,Florist, Hall, caterer etc all are prepaid-i guess they could collect food and freeze it?

He screwed the Family as much as he did her-and yes it was insensitive-but we all dont know the full story.

 

[englishteacha]

Being dumped is awful, but being dumped over the phone, by text, or by email are all the wimpy way out.

This wasn't a high school couple breaking up before the prom; this was a couple who, for at least one of them, was planning on being married and hoping for the happily-ever-after. Having been the dumpee in a similar situation, it's heartbreaking and it is not easily-gotten-over. There's going to be grieving. Please give her a hug from me.