Vent About My Dad

[luvthatduke]

...But I did get one of those ice cream lid locks for pints of ice cream, since that was a favorite of my dad's to get into

Like others have said, I didn't know these existed either!

But, if you (& your mother??) have to put initials on your food,
and locks on your food,
then MHO is that you've got more trouble
going on in that house then pudding piggies .

Maybe you should all sit down and watch
the movie "Pay it Forward,"
or that commercial that plays on YouTube
that's basically the same idea...
Seriously.

 

[mickeyfan2]

Trashing the OP doesn't change the fact that her father is a rude, ignorant, pig.

The OP has a history of complaining about the eating of her food in the home her parents own. Many of us have told her before and told her again that a place of her own is now in line.

She has a college degree, but the job was not to her liking, so she is now working the job she did in high school. It is time for her to put get rid of her pullups and get big girl panties.

 

[Mugg Mann]

Sounds like your dad is merely living by the rules set forth by Pink Floyd;

"If you don't eat yer meat, you can't have any pudding. How can you
have any pudding if you don't eat yer meat?"

 

[Tiziminchac]

May I ask why it's always open season on this particular poster???

This reminds me a great deal of the mob mentality posting that used to go on with another famous poster (who no longer posts here).

Every single time this poster vents about something her rude, ignorant, dysfunctional family does the same old cast of characters show up and start the bashing. There was absolutely NO NEED to post a link to the old thread. You all know what that thread was about because most of you posted on it, several times in fact. Bringing it up was not constructive for the OP, it was to belittle and embarass her, and not the least, to entertain yourselves. The responses on this thread say a lot more about those posting them, than they do about the OP.

She knows what she needs to do, but for whatever reason chooses not to. I don't understand it but I don't have to, it's not my family dynamic. Yes, she makes a lot of excuses about why she can't or won't help herself, however, she is still entitled to be pissed off about something and come here to vent! At this point, it really wouldn't matter what she posts about because some of you get your kicks out of calling her down and trying to make her feel bad.

I guarantee that if a more popular poster said her husband or child ate an entire bowl of something you people would be tripping all over yourselves to tell her that they were pigs and she was right to be upset.

Here is a news flash: I don't care who's house it is, there is never any justification for gluttony. Eating the entire bowl was rude and selfish. However, it can't have been unexpected as your parents pull that crap all the time.

You know what you need to do. Until you do it, I would suggest that you don't post about your crazy family anymore, and at the very least, remove your trip countdown. Frankly, it is hard to read excuses about not having enough money to move out when you are planning a deluxe trip. It upsets people to try to give you constructive advice when you are obviously more concerned about having an expensive holiday than saving money to move out. Complaining about your circumstance while doing nothing to change it gets on some nerves.

Excellent post.

 

[Nancyg56]

So OP, I'll concede that it probably wasn't good manners on his part. The part of your situation that would trouble me the most is the writing of initials on food, the ice cream lid locks, and the constant squabbling over personal food. I just can't imagine living that way. Not even with roommates, much less with members of my own family.

This is something that I have never understood. In our home we don't set anything aside for anyone in particular. This goes for my DGD who has food allergies. As a family we make sure that no one takes so much that there is none left for anyone else. It is just common courtesy and respect for those around us.

I am the mother in the house and if something appeared in my fridge OR I made something and one person ate the entire thing I would see that as very rude and inconsiderate regardless of whether it is my house or not. Clearly someone prepared that and expected to eat it-the pudding fairy didn't deliver it.

This has always been the arrangement in our home. My DH nephew moved in with us and he thought that it was okay to bring in food (Beef-a-roni, spaghettios, etc) that I did not buy and then eat it himself. I simply set the table, called in my kids, thanked him for bringing in a treat and shared it with all of them. He learned fast that in our home we shared, no one was so special that they got to hoard food.

I think that this initially of food or not sharing is sad. For some reason there is a clear issue and food is just how it is playing out.

 

[lilyv]

Is it possible Dad has trouble "using his words" and can't think of a good way to say, "Sweetie, you've got your degree, it's time for you to move out and live on your own."

Instead, he's choosing to be just annoying...maybe hoping to encourage his DD to get motivated to move.

OP deserves to have some privacy, and the privilege of putting whatever she wants in the frig, and not have the actual homeowners eat/enjoy her treats.
The only way that is going to happen is for her to be in the drivers seat-time to sign on the dotted line for a studio appt.

 

[BuzznBelle'smom]

Dad was piggy with the pudding. He didn't just take some, he took it all.

OTOH, it was 2 cups of pudding--not worth going to war over, IMHO.

The rule in our house is, unless I specifically say that something is "earmarked"--say, these brownies are for the scout meeting later--then it's open season.

OP, if this situation is really bugging you, then people are right to suggest you look for another place to stay. What bothers me is not the pudding per se--it's not costly or difficult to make--but the lack of boundaries in someone seeing it on the counter and thinking they could swill down the entire bowl without consideration for the person who made (since that person probably had some plans for the pudding!)

 

[chobie]

May I ask why it's always open season on this particular poster???

This reminds me a great deal of the mob mentality posting that used to go on with another famous poster (who no longer posts here).

Every single time this poster vents about something her rude, ignorant, dysfunctional family does the same old cast of characters show up and start the bashing. There was absolutely NO NEED to post a link to the old thread. You all know what that thread was about because most of you posted on it, several times in fact. Bringing it up was not constructive for the OP, it was to belittle and embarass her, and not the least, to entertain yourselves. The responses on this thread say a lot more about those posting them, than they do about the OP.

She knows what she needs to do, but for whatever reason chooses not to. I don't understand it but I don't have to, it's not my family dynamic. Yes, she makes a lot of excuses about why she can't or won't help herself, however, she is still entitled to be pissed off about something and come here to vent! At this point, it really wouldn't matter what she posts about because some of you get your kicks out of calling her down and trying to make her feel bad.

I guarantee that if a more popular poster said her husband or child ate an entire bowl of something you people would be tripping all over yourselves to tell her that they were pigs and she was right to be upset.

Here is a news flash: I don't care who's house it is, there is never any justification for gluttony. Eating the entire bowl was rude and selfish. However, it can't have been unexpected as your parents pull that crap all the time.

You know what you need to do. Until you do it, I would suggest that you don't post about your crazy family anymore, and at the very least, remove your trip countdown. Frankly, it is hard to read excuses about not having enough money to move out when you are planning a deluxe trip. It upsets people to try to give you constructive advice when you are obviously more concerned about having an expensive holiday than saving money to move out. Complaining about your circumstance while doing nothing to change it gets on some nerves.

Another . It is downright predatory they way people have gone after her on this thread and others. It's nasty and just because she lives with her parents does not give others the right to bash her. I haven't seen any threads where she has personally attacked people that she deserves to be attacked.

 

[Jennasis]

To quote Alec Baldwin, your dad is a RUDE THOUGHTLESS LITTLE PIG.

The mob mentality on this thread is disgusting. Obviously this family is different from yours or mine. If the mom and daughter both have to label food to keep dad out then it stands to reason that the problem is the DAD. What kind of a selfish jerk eats an entire freshly made bowl of pudding they did not make themselves? If there are just 3 people living there, then one of the other two made it, likely with the intention of EATING some of it.

I do agree, that since the dad is not going to change his rude, thougtless piggish behavior EVER, the best bet would be to move out. That may or may not be an opion right now OP and I understand that you were just coming here to VENT.

The rest of you jackals need to grow the hellup.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

Obviously, the family is a little different, and they buy their own food. I would have been upset too if he ate ALL of the pudding and did not save any for anyone else. Even if they shared, I would not expect someone to eat four servings of pudding at one time. Also, a parents responsibility when the child is young to pay for them. She is paying rent, which means she should be entitled to her stuff. Be a little nicer.

OP, I would ask your dad about it. Also, I would buy a little fridge, and even put in the garage or basement or something if your parents do not want it in your room. Good luck with it all since it seems to be an on-going issue.

I don't understand what you think I should ask him? If he ate the pudding? I know he did, but he won't even admit to it, his exact words were "the cat ate it," which I know means he ate it, since he was the only one home.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

Just curious, did you ask your dad when he ate the pudding why he ate it and what was his response? Just curious now.

He told me "the cat ate it." He won't even admit to eating it!

 

[disneyfav4ever]

was it vanilla or chocolate?
If it was chocolate I'd probably let it slide. But if he ate all my warm cooked vanilla pudding there'd be hell to pay!

It was vanilla actually.

 

[vickyBaby]

Quick, run to the store, buy another box of chocolate pudding and don't forget the secret ingredient

 

[lilyv]

I don't understand what you think I should ask him? If he ate the pudding? I know he did, but he won't even admit to it, his exact words were "the cat ate it," which I know means he ate it, since he was the only one home.

It really doesn't matter, it's not about the pudding. It's about passive aggressive behavior. Family units have lots of ways of sending messages to each other.

 

[boomhauer]

I wish I had problems like this.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

The rule in our house is, unless I specifically say that something is "earmarked"--say, these brownies are for the scout meeting later--then it's open season.

Oh, he'll eat stuff then too! I made cookies for Christmas, told him I was going to use a pan of bars I had made for giving away, and he ate most of the pan, (a 13x9 pan,) by himself that day.

 

[autumnbaby9]

Yes the dad eating the pudding was rude.

However this is not the first time the OP has come on here to complain about food (and many other issues). Obviously the dad is not going to stop. The only way the OP is going to be able to stop him is by moving out. She will not do that and comes up with many excuses why she wont.

Sorry if you are going to live in your parents house, then you need to deal with their issues or get your own place.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

Quick, run to the store, buy another box of chocolate pudding and don't forget the secret ingredient

 

[boomhauer]

Yes the dad eating the pudding was rude.

However this is not the first time the OP has come on here to complain about food (and many other issues). Obviously the dad is not going to stop. The only way the OP is going to be able to stop him is by moving out. She will not do that and comes up with many excuses why she wont.

Sorry if you are going to live in your parents house, then you need to deal with their issues or get your own place.

I have to agree with this.

Instead of taking a "deluxe" trip to Disney this year, why don't you save the money and get a place of your own?

 

[disneyfav4ever]

You know, most of my parent's "rules" I have no problem following, but they should have respect for my stuff, and not feel they are entitled to anything they want just because I live there. I pay for rent, my phone, the internet, (which my parent's use too,) my student loan, and health insurance. I also pay for all my own food, clothes, etc.