Vent About My Dad

[disneyfav4ever]

Well if you are a "normal" family then you have no leg to stand on. He (and mom) supported you for years and years.

Mikeeee

We are definatly not "normal" in that sense. I've said it, both of my parent's have said it, and my sister has said it. I don't think there's anything that can fairly be considered normal anyway, since everyone is different, but I know we're out there.

I also don't think that's a fair argument, since it was their responsibility as a parent to care for me when I was younger. It's not my responsibility to take care of my dad, and cook his meals for him, etc. He's not sick or anything that he can't cook for himself, he's just being lazy.

 

[december]

Do you really all buy your own food? I've just never know anyone to do this? Seems odd to me, but to each their own.....

As a young 20 something I might have thought like this, but as a 35 yr old parent, I'm more of the opinion that Dad is entitled-it's his house! Sorry, but I can definitely see his side of this.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

Well my point was kind of that unless you get your own fridge and keep it locked then expect anything in a shared fridge to be fair game and not there when you go back. Thats how it is here.

Except for the fact that my parents have told me they don't want me having a fridge in my room, which I believe is because they don't want me eating in my room, I'm not sure. But I did get one of those ice cream lid locks for pints of ice cream, since that was a favorite of my dad's to get into.

 

[MAKmom]

I did have my initials on the box, which is a trend my mom started, (apparently she gets annoyed at my dad for eating her food too.)

NO Way!

 

[#1hockeymom]

We are definatly not "normal" in that sense. I've said it, both of my parent's have said it, and my sister has said it. I don't think there's anything that can fairly be considered normal anyway, since everyone is different, but I know we're out there.

I also don't think that's a fair argument, since it was their responsibility as a parent to care for me when I was younger. It's not my responsibility to take care of my dad, and cook his meals for him, etc. He's not sick or anything that he can't cook for himself, he's just being lazy.

Sorry kiddo, it isn't him being lazy, it is him being tired after working many years to pay the bills.

Families help each other. If you're not happy in this situation I suggest you move out and take on all the bills on your own.

 

[december]

We are definatly not "normal" in that sense. I've said it, both of my parent's have said it, and my sister has said it. I don't think there's anything that can fairly be considered normal anyway, since everyone is different, but I know we're out there.

I also don't think that's a fair argument, since it was their responsibility as a parent to care for me when I was younger. It's not my responsibility to take care of my dad, and cook his meals for him, etc. He's not sick or anything that he can't cook for himself, he's just being lazy.[/QUOTE]

Are you serious? Or is this a joke to try to stir up an argument? It just seems like a very immature attitude to me.

 

[Mellie2162]

It's not my responsibility to take care of my dad.

Not trying to argue with you as this is just my opinion. As an adult I feel like it is my responsibility completely to take care of my parents in every way I can, not that they need me, but if there is anything I can do for them I will just because they did for me until I was an adult. I feel like this is the way its intended to be, first the parents take care of the children then the children return the love and take care of the parents. Again, this is just my opinion.

I can see how you would be irritated over him eating your pudding and really he could have asked first, but in the grand scheme of things is it all that much to get angry over?

 

[#1hockeymom]

Stop eating steak, don't buy expensive ice cream lid locks, cancel your vacation and find a place of your own. Problem solved!

 

[Mellie2162]

Stop eating steak, don't buy expensive ice cream lid locks, cancel your vacation and find a place of your own. Problem solved!

Snort....

 

[Linxzy]

My dad (& the rest of the family) has also done the same thing, eat what I have cooked. I get mad at them, but hey, I get over it and do some more of what I was cooking. It's called sharing. And I know you are mad because he ate ALL the pudding, who wouldn't.

I also live at home with my parents (I'm 24).

 

[BeautyNBeast]

Obviously, the family is a little different, and they buy their own food. I would have been upset too if he ate ALL of the pudding and did not save any for anyone else. Even if they shared, I would not expect someone to eat four servings of pudding at one time. Also, a parents responsibility when the child is young to pay for them. She is paying rent, which means she should be entitled to her stuff. Be a little nicer.

OP, I would ask your dad about it. Also, I would buy a little fridge, and even put in the garage or basement or something if your parents do not want it in your room. Good luck with it all since it seems to be an on-going issue.

 

[robertsmom]

I wanted to say this on the other thread, but I held my tongue. I'll say it now though. You are a SPOILED CHILD. Seriously, I can't believe that you consider this an issue. I would do anything for one more day with my parents, and you are complaining about pudding. Unbelievable. Do yourself a favor. Find your own place, move out, and BE A GROWN UP. One day, you will wish your dad was there to eat your pudding again. Trust me on this.

 

[kejoda]

I wanted to say this on the other thread, but I held my tongue. I'll say it now though. You are a SPOILED CHILD. Seriously, I can't believe that you consider this an issue. I would do anything for one more day with my parents, and you are complaining about pudding. Unbelievable. Do yourself a favor. Find your own place, move out, and BE A GROWN UP. One day, you will wish your dad was there to eat your pudding again. Trust me on this.

Couldn't of said it better myself.

 

[december]

Obviously, the family is a little different, and they buy their own food. I would have been upset too if he ate ALL of the pudding and did not save any for anyone else. Even if they shared, I would not expect someone to eat four servings of pudding at one time. Also, a parents responsibility when the child is young to pay for them. She is paying rent, which means she should be entitled to her stuff. Be a little nicer.

OP, I would ask your dad about it. Also, I would buy a little fridge, and even put in the garage or basement or something if your parents do not want it in your room. Good luck with it all since it seems to be an on-going issue.

I read through some of the other thread. Obviously the op knew she was going to be ripped here.

If I'm not mistaken your df also has a child? I think I've read some of your parenting advice on other threads I know you got this advice before, but you need to move out (if you want to you'll find a way) and learn to live on your own before getting married. You have so much growing up to do!

 

[Mellie2162]

Just curious, did you ask your dad when he ate the pudding why he ate it and what was his response? Just curious now.

 

[Poohnatic]

I've seen the boxes on the shelves, I just never knew anyone that bought them

I never buy the other kind, only the cook and serve.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

I wanted to say this on the other thread, but I held my tongue. I'll say it now though. You are a SPOILED CHILD. Seriously, I can't believe that you consider this an issue. I would do anything for one more day with my parents, and you are complaining about pudding. Unbelievable. Do yourself a favor. Find your own place, move out, and BE A GROWN UP. One day, you will wish your dad was there to eat your pudding again. Trust me on this.

 

[4greatboys]

No matter who bought it if someone cooks something and then another family eats every last bite of it thats just rude.

 

[minniecarousel]

To the OP: honey, I can't figure out why you haven't moved out yet. My sons are 25 & 28 and they haven't lived at home since they left for college (except a few months for one right out of college). We live in the suburbs in the Bay Area and rent is very high ($1200 - $1500 for one bedroom apts)They've had roommates (some reallly strange ones - some they didn't even know - not recommended!) They knew they were (and still are) welcome to live here, but it's just not in our family dynamics to have them under our roof.

I'm being sincere here - you need to move out of your parents house. I'm not being nasty or mean - it's just time and you need to realize it and stop making excuses.

My wishes for the best of luck to you.

 

[mickeyfan2]

OP, PM me your address and I promise to got to the store and then mail you two boxes of pudding. Include the brand name or generic, if you prefer, and the flavor(s). I will mail the out tomorrow.