This is all so very reassuring, thank you!
J.J. makes up stories like that too. he just goes on and on. Sometimes he just seems a little crazy! 
I'm glad it seems normal for a 3 year old to get fixated on something like that!And this:
is the sweetest thing I've ever read. I cried when I read it. Nothing has ever summed up how I feel about my dad not being here as clearly as your lovely sentiment!
It's getting closer!
I think we're living similar lives...
I was just having similar thoughts the other day about "alone" time with my boys. When DS5 was in preK last year and I worked part time, he spent his mornings with me and got back home about 5:15 after having been picked up by Daddy. I picked DS8 up from his after school program at about 4:15, so we had an hour together then. This year, with both boys in the same school all day, I put them on the bus together and pick them up together -- neither one of them spends any alone time with me, and I think it's contributing to their problems getting along. I wish I had realized this was going to happen, and I would have made more of an effort to do special things alone with each boy this summer. Oh well! You've got Disney to make some great memories for him!
My younger son was 4 when my FIL died this past spring. He would randomly blurt out things like "Grandad's dead" (not especially easy to deal with while we were with my MIL, who didn't get that it was a developmentally appropriate thing to do). It's unnerving, but I chatted with the school psychologist who reassured me that it was ok. Their little brains just process things differently. Hopefully he'll start to settle down soon. A month isn't very long. I'd like to tell you that we're doing better, but his birthday was earlier this week and that was a small setback for the grownups, which of course gets translated right to the children!
Firstly, I am sorry your life is paralleling mine!
Hopefully they can start to mirror each other in wonderful things soon!It's hard feeling like there's just not enough of you to go around, and not enough time in the day! It's very frustrating! I have been trying to spend some time alone with J.J., but generally that means that Sydney is somewhere with DH screaming in the house which I also feel bad about, or it's cutting into any alone/sleeping time that I have! I feel very stretched thin these days! Such is life as a mom, I guess!
I am glad to hear that it's appropriate for him to be saying strange things about death. I had assumed as much, but it's always good to hear! I feel like death is so hard for adults even, and it's just such a shock for children. My friend and her family were in a car accident when I was 10. My friend, her brother, and her parents died, and the two littlest kids survived. I still remember that day felt like it was a year, it was just so long. Plus, on top of that, another boy from my grade died of leukemia that same day. I didn't know him, but it was just so much at once. It was my first experience with death, and it was a very harsh one. It's just terrifying to realize that people you love can just be gone in an instant like that. And I was ten, so I was old enough to be able to talk about things and understand more. I can't imagine being three and having someone who lived in your house die. Even though we were able to prepare him more because we knew it was coming, it still must be hard. He has experienced far too much death in his little life...and up close and personal since we were at my parents house pretty much 24/7 for the 6 weeks my dad was dying, and then obviously we were here with my grandmother. Things should hopefully be looking up for him! And I'm sorry about your FIL. Birthdays are always hard. Anything that is an extra reminder of them just brings the loss to the forefront. I hope you're doing okay, and that your little ones are starting to come around. It sounds like you are having a rough month!
I'm thinking of you!
Now, it depends how long naptime is. At home, J.J. naps for about 3 hours (I know that seems extremely long for someone who is almost four, but you have to keep in mind that it's difficult to get him to sleep before 10:30 or 11 and he's up before 6 am most days. So he needs to get that extra sleep somewhere! That's how his schedule has always run. We've tried putting him to bed earlier in hopes that he would sleep later, we've tried taking his nap out, and it's either been a disaster or just shifts his schedule for a few days and then he starts getting up early again and then he's really tired and cranky. So, it is what it is, and it doesn't matter yet since he won't be going to school for almost 2 years yet.) But anyway, the point of that ramble was if he takes a long nap we might just hang out at the resort, go swimming, and eat dinner while we wait for DH, since DH should get in at around 8 or so. But, we also might want to go back to a park...in which case I suspect we should go back to Epcot for dinner and do a few things there. I know we'll want to be back at the resort when DH is checking in, because J.J. is going to be missing him something fierce at this point. He misses him when he's at work during the day, and it will have been almost 2 days since he's seen him!
Not relaxing, just a change of pace! 
It doesn't compare to being there though. Not even a little tiny bit. But, J.J. is the kind of kid who likes to know what's happening, so he liked it. Sydney does not watch any kind of TV, so she was not interested. It was a good way to kill some time while we were waiting for DH to get home from work though! And what youtube disney session would be complete without 
So, no driving? No carseats? 
Thank you, disney!
All that worrying for nothing!
