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TIPS ON POSITIVE THINKING:

7 Effective Ways to Implement Positive Thinking
By Todd | October 30, 2007




Somehow it has become ingrained in us that negative thoughts are more realistic than positive thoughts. This is pure madness, especially since over 90% of what we worry about never happens!

We have to get our heads around the fact that being positive is actually far more realistic than being negative. This is such a difficult concept for most of us to grasp, and we have to purposefully work hard to re-train the brain to think more positively.

Think of it this way: if your body became out of shape you would probably view physical exercise as an effective way to improve its condition—and we must begin looking at the health of our mind in the same way.

Here are 7 valuable exercises that you can start implementing right now to re-train your thinking:

Use Verbal Affirmations EVERY Day

An affirmation is a positive statement that something is already happening, and is a very powerful tool you can use to shift your internal dialogue from negative to positive. Come up with a few statements like “I am creating a beautiful day” or “money and success flow to me” and spend 10 minutes every morning (and every night for extra credit) saying them aloud.

Come up with statements that make the most sense for you, and be sure to state them in the present tense, and in a positive form. This is self-talk in its highest sense, and can be very effective.

Use Positive Language


When it comes to the language we use, world-renowned author and lecturer Dr. Susan Jeffers says: “It doesn’t matter if we believe the words or not, the mere uttering of them makes the subconscious mind believe them to be true. It is as though the subconscious mind doesn’t know what is true or false, it doesn’t judge, it only reacts to the language that is being fed”.

Many researchers have shown this sentiment to be quite valid, and we must intentionally start using more positive language to shape the worldview of our subconscious mind.

Create a Vision Board

A vision board is the physical manifestation of the life you want to be leading. Find images of the house you desire, the places you want to travel, and the job you crave to work and tack them to a corkboard! Be creative and place words and images that are accurate expressions of your inner-most desires.

Constantly add to your vision board put it somewhere you can see it several times a day– even spend a few moments visualizing what it would be like to be living in this life you created. Isn’t this a better way to spend time than in your usual stress mode?

Surround Yourself with Positive Images

They could be famous quotes, inspiring pictures, or even your affirmations that you write out on note cards. The point is to always have physical reminders of things you deem positive close by. Print these items out and place them by your desk, near your bed, and in the car! When you get stressed out, give a glance to them and you will begin to get perspective on things and your mind will re-focus!

Say “Thank You” 50 Times a Day


Every night before you go to bed, spend 5 minutes saying thank you out loud for the experiences you had that day: the people you interacted with, the work you accomplished, the food you ate, etc…As you do this, really try and feel the gratitude emanate from within.

You can also say thank you 50 times in the morning and get yourself in an extremely grateful mindset for the coming day. These are wonderful practices for becoming more positive!

Listen to Inspirational Talks and Music in the Car


The car is the perfect place to flex your muscle of positive thought! Because many of us spend a lot of time driving, make an effort to listen to music that inspires you and makes you feel good. Purchase motivational personal development CD’s and play them while driving.

I mentioned Dr. Susan Jeffers above, and I recently listened to her CD “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway” in my car three times in a row! Have your car become an oasis of learning and start using the time constructively.

Use Positive Thinking While Exercising

If you consistently exercise, this is an excellent time to practice your positive thinking. Say to yourself over and over again: “I am strong and durable” or “I am fast and powerful” and notice the immediate affect these utterances have on your workout. It is absolutely incredible how just saying these words increases your stamina and strength.

Cathryn Rose, thank you so much for this, and for the tips! I will try, I'll make an effort to be more consistent with these ideas and excercises. I don't know about anyone here, but as for me, the first time I saw the video and then whent to other readings which were deeper about the LOA, I was in what I can only describe as a "high" I felt better than I have in years, and things happened. But then a very important relationship I've had for most of my life (since I was little) changed. This had change been coming for years, but I choose to ignore it until early this year. So, in dealing with that I let those negatve emotions rule. I've decided to move on, and this thread came just at the right time.

In the passage you mentioned above (Matthew 21:22 & Mark 11:24), Jesus was speaking about praying to receive the Lord's power to do the Lord's work, not to receive materials or other blessings as an individual. As I said earlier, I just can't reconcile the content of The Secret as a whole with Scripture. But I respect that others may

And I'll respect your POV and your interprtation of Matthew 11:24. To me the words are clear, with no need of interpretation, but we'll agree to disagree.

The LOA is much, much more than "the Secret" Many people with superficial knowdlege about the LOA think it's just The Secret, and all about asking for material things and being greedy. The LOA is so much, so much more. It is about positive thinking, being thankful, not focusing on lack, not letting anger, jealousy, and all kind of negative feelings rule your life. How can that be bad?

But I don't expect or mean to convince you. Just stating what the LOA means to me and many others who have look deeper into it. I think we can agree to disagree :)
 
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So, for me - instead of 'thinking positive' - I visualized good stuff. I thought about going into work and having an easy-breezy day. I visualized going home and relaxing with my husband. I visualized Disney trips, and makeup & perfume I wanted to be wearing.... silly stuff, but small steps to the big picture.

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Not silly at all! You're implementing a "positive life plan" and not being content to just sit back and wander aimlessly through life. :thumbsup2
 
This is how I make the Secret and my Lord walk hand in hand.

"This is the day the Lord has made, we will rejoice and be glad in it" (Psalm 118:24)

The Secret reminds us to be grateful in everything and to write it down and think on it daily.


Every new day is an opportunity to praise and thank Him; to magnify your God instead of magnifying your problems. This is the day that the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it! Be glad that God has promised to never leave us or forsake us. Be glad that God has given you a sound, healthy mind. Rejoice that He is making a way where there seems to be no way! As you focus on the gift of every day and rejoice in what God has done in your life, you will begin to experience His increase and blessings. You'll rise up higher and set the course to live in victory all the days of your life!

I NEVER leave God or Jesus out of anything. Even my vision board has Jesus' picture in the center. I don't expect anything that is out of His will... but I must believe and bring our prayers and petitions to Him.

This is why I say apply the precepts... but apply them to your own beliefs. Knowing and loving the Lord means nothing without faith, and faith and believing that His will be done takes a true commitment from the believer.

I don't read lots of books about the precepts, but I DO read a lot about scripture. I apply them and then live them.
 

I am glad this turned out to be a positive thread, not for just me, but it sounds like for many others too. I have been taking a grad course from 8-5 this week that is 1 1/2 hours away so I have been quite busy. I started to read The Secret, unfortunately only got a few pages in before I am out like a light. I have been focusing on the way I am thinking in the car and throughout the day. Let me tell you, it is hard to stay positive....BUT maybe that is a good thing that I am becoming aware of my thinking.

Karen
 
Since posting here and asking questions, I've downloaded *and watched* THE SECRET! Powerful stuff.

Soon as the movie ended, I deleted everything negative I'd bookmarked on my computer. It was terrible how much negative dribble I'd invited into my life. :eek: I also declined tonight's favorite t.v. program. You guessed it...negative. ::yes::

I'm anxious to read all the books mentioned here and I've copied and pasted CR's tips on positive thinking. This is a wonderful start and I'm excited.

Many thanks to you all for the great info here! :flower3:
 
Warning: :goodvibes This is a loooong (scientific) post. Grab a cup of coffee first. :surfweb: :)


Wow Carly, that was a fantastic response to Walt.


Science? I have no faith in "science". I have faith in Faith.
It's like comparing Darwin to Adam and Eve.

Robinrs, there are people who question the science of it all, they have a right to. I, too don't go blindly on Faith. I needed to see observable evidence that these principles really work. Walt has non-current data that forms his current beliefs. The problem comes if a person's beliefs do not allow them to do any research, get accurate data to test the principles. They also have to examine their assumptions of what known science really is, what the boundaries of scientific testing are, and how current is their scientific information.

If people here are open to finding out if "The Secret" and the other principles work, people need to do their OWN proper research and gather their own personal empirical data. Walt's post is a WONDERFUL teaching tool for understanding belief patterns and where the lack of research can fuel one's beliefs and creates their reality. Perhaps his post can help others examine their own beliefs and whether they service them. Remember: our beliefs form our reality. As Carly said, "Everyone's right. No one is wrong. You get what you think about." And that is different for everybody.

Walt addressed the science of it, and there are others reading who may think this thread has become too "spiritual" with talks of God, so I'll stay with the scientific aspects. :) Science IS about measurable, observable results.
An idea is a collection of neural connections. It is not energy.
Walt, like many have a limited definition of what "energy" is, how it works, how far reaching it may be and how to measure it. Current science theorizes that time, space and matter are all one and the same thing = ENERGY. Energy doesn't just appear in one form. Energy has the capability to transform.

Let's look at what kind of energy and which expanded definition of "energy" we are talking about.

If you've ever seen a dead body, you know living things have energy. One form of energy that living things (people in particular) have is thoughts & ideas. The most extreme example of how negatively powerful a thought/idea is: One only has to say the "N" word to a black person to know ideas do have energy & transmit energy between people. Positive thoughts, too, can be just as powerful, but are often dismissed (especially by the nay-sayers) as wishy-washy, just feels good to the person feeling it, with no actual benefit or power beyond. The key is: Ideas with INTENTION behind them have a charge & illicit a response, both from other people and/or the universe. The more powerful the intention, the more powerful the energy created & transmitted. (Let's not derail this discussion to talk about the "N" word or the (in)appropriate usage as an example.) (More about Newton's scientific laws of motion in another post.)

Another example, have you ever walked into a room of two people who are silent and not moving, yet you are suddenly jolted back, or get a tingling sensation, and you suddenly know you have walked into a heated argument? :furious: You know they were thinking daggers at each other. :eek: You can actually feel the emotional charge in the room. You can cut the energy with a knife. You even want to walk back out of the room to escape the energy there. :tiptoe: Was it all only in your mind & body? Or could there actually have been something discernible happening?

Have you ever been sitting in a room full of people, totally neutral, and for no reason, suddenly feel a chill go down your spine, and you turn to look behind you and see some creep staring at you. :eek: Or for men: You turned & saw some guy sizing you up? How did you know? Did you suddenly grow eyes in the back of your head? Or, perhaps, did you feel their energy directed at you? :scratchin Coincidence?

Have you ever called someone on the phone & have them say, "OMG, I was just thinking about you! :scratchin Coincidence? (I'll come back to Coincidence in a little bit. I'll stick to science for now.)

Your brain does use energy in the form of electricity to think, but the level is so low that any effects would be primarily magnetic and probably not detectable outside your body by even the most sensitive instruments.

This is inaccurate, uninformed data in this area that is over 20 years old, as some of these instruments I'm going to name have been around for that long. This example can be used to for the opposite. First of all, being magnetic is EXACTLY what we want our brains to be, in terms of the Laws of Attraction. Coincidence? There are scientific instruments available sensitive enough that do detect electro -magnetic energy waves emanating from the body up to 20-30 feet. There are even cameras that can take a picture of this energy. Non-living objects do not emit this energy and the camera does not show anything in those pictures. Extra of the same cameras taking a picture at the same time will have the same images, so it's not just random patterns projected & printed on the pictures. (I forget the scientific/technical name of the specific camera.) There are also biofeedback machines that can electrically monitor energy going through the body & being sent out. Also, there is machinery that can detect when an arm, leg is amputated, or even part of a leaf from a plant is cut off, the body and plant still emanates energy into that cut off area in the exact shape, as though that part is still there and take a picture of that. It looks like an x-ray.

Who decided the energy is too low level to really do anything, the lack of proper machinery to detect it? The key point Walt did make is that the current level of machinery is not sensitive or capable enough to measure thoughts doing any more. That doesn't mean thoughts don't do anything. OR, that they can't be measured. Anyone who relies only on the limitations of current technology as the end all answer is limiting him/herself.

The orbits of the planets are just as likely to influence something happening on earth as the energy in your thoughts is to affect someone sitting right next to you.
Refer back to my example above about turning around & finding someone staring at you. Also, police make note of full moons, as they have stacks of police reports to prove there are more incidences that happen during full moons.

There are plenty of independent scientific research facilities doing blind case studies, consistently documenting evidence that someone can sit across a stranger, get images of the picture cards he is looking at, know personal details like past pets - down to the color & breed of the pet, teachers' names, details a stranger just couldn't guess so accurately. You only have to sit and be IN one of these group studies to see what's possible. Coincidence? With multiple people at the same time? I was in four large group studies in NY, CT & MA. Different groups, similar results. Coincidence? Two decades ago, I met psychic & author Laura Day, who was being paid to be flown all around the world, various times a year, for several years, to try to prove to BY scientists, with batteries of scientific & psychological testing at these facilities, that she is NOT a psychic. The scientists were h*ll bent on proving she is not one. Yet, all the scientific results came out that they could NOT prove that she isn't one.

Sadly, there is no scientific basis for "The Secret," horoscopes, remote prayer, transcendental meditation, etc.
Do some actual research. There IS scientific basis & data collected. It falls under Quantum Physics. Physics: a branch of science. Quantum Physics: Time, space and matter are all one and the same thing = ENERGY. One of the mega-scientific, brilliant minds of all time, Stephen Hawking, estimated to have a genius level above Einstein, is at the forefront of Quantum Physics, lest anyone conjecture this is a non-science.

Interesting coincidence: Einstein had dyslexia, It caused him to see things in a different way than other people, and to see things not as they appear. He came up with the Theory of Relativity. Einstein also wrote down the famous equation E=mc2. It says that mass is a very concentrated form of energy. Brains are 8 lbs of mass. we only use about 10% of our brain. (Well, some people use less. :rolleyes: ) What's the other 7 lbs. of mass/matter for? With evolution, the unused parts of our brain should have shrunken already, but it has not. Perhaps there is another reason & use for it? That some are using those other parts at undetectable levels? That if people were taught how to use their brains more efficiently and effectively, brains would emit an energy powerful enough that even our limited technology can finally detect? Just because people don't use their brains in a certain way, doesn't mean they aren't capable. They just haven't been taught to utilize that matter/energy properly.

Stephen Hawking is paralysed, can't even speak without a synthesized voice machine & keyboard. Here is a man who does use his brain efficiently, trapped inside the inner space and dimension of his own body and if it weren't for technology, couldn't even communicate with the outer world. Yet, he has come up with more dynamic theories of inner and outer space, black holes, and the space between molecules, and not surprisingly, other dimensions.

Interesting coincidence that these two most brilliant men of modern science had physical ailments that shaped their experiences in life & perhaps went into helping them create their unique perspectives & theories on time, space & matter that "normal" men hadn't come up with? Perhaps they've experienced things differently than other scientists because they came from a different perspective & circumstances to begin with that formed their "realities" and helped them reinvent science in many ways in quantum levels.

For those who firmly rely on "science" as an end all authority and be all of facts, you'd better be extremely careful as science is limited. Science changes all the time as it depends on the advancement of current technology. As advanced as current technology is, technology is limited. Even scientists concede that known science is still in a very young state. And that state changes all the time as new "facts" supersede old ones. It is arrogance and/or ignorance to firmly state that what we currently can detect with currently available technology is ALL there is. :sad2: More accurately, it can ONLY detect and prove things according to what is observable and recordable with the current level of our understanding and available technology today or by our current methods of collecting empirical data. Just because something can't be proven by machines yet doesn't mean it doesn't exist. It just can proven by available methods. It's ironic that as soon as machinery is develop to change known science that becomes the new end all benchmark, proclaimed with authority and certainty. :p Perhaps for those that need the security of known science as their ultimate source, science should add the disclaimer: "To be amended..."

Here's a few scientific "amendments":

The atom was thought to not be able to be split until 70 years ago it was split.

Then electrons & protons were thought to be the smallest particles, until scientific machinery was developed to detect that there are quarks & leptons and SPACE between. They were always there. Measurable or not. Scientists are now wondering what is in that space? Why are protons so much bigger than electrons? Is there something smaller yet making up protons?

The creation of radio waves & microwaves weren't thought possible to transmit though the air (unseen & unfelt.) Now they can - but thought waves can't? :confused3 Is this really true, or do we just not have the machinery capable of detecting them? Why do some people think machines can do something but humans can't? Aren't radios only electrical machines? Aren't humans electrical machines, with neural connections that use electricity? :scratchin If radios & cellphones can send signals from one phone to another, why can't minds? Why can't minds transmit that energy elsewhere with the 7lbs. of leftover brain? Well, instruments currently can't record anything, so there can't be any other form of energy that comes out of thoughts or that they go anywhere? :scratchin

About 13 years ago, in Geneva, Switzerland, the European Organization for Nuclear Research known as CERN actually created the first known particles of antimatter. ANTI-ENERGY was created that couldn't be created in our universe. It is not supposed to exist in our universe. But it's here, now. Until this, it was only theory & science fiction that antimatter and an alternate universe exist. We have truly stepped into the era of Star Trek, it's no longer fiction. :cool1: (As you can tell from my signature, we're in my genre & specialty here! :cool1: )

Lastly, I like a quote by Phoebe, from the TV show Friends, "How do we know that gravity is really pulling us down? What if it's really pushing us down?" :happytv: I'm being facetious here, but how much can we accurately depend on known science, really? :upsidedow


(You may take a bathroom break here to pee out the coffee. :yay: )

But. . . some of you DO want some scientific data to go with these principles. So how does one scientifically test these principles to find if they are true for you? The old fashion scientific way that still works, before machines did the testing, by testing them yourself. By being willing to do some experimenting with the principles, observing what results you get and gathering empirical data of your own with a new set of personal experiences to back them.

I think most of us who have posted on this already, have said we have very real, personal evidence that it works for us. Notice our posts do not contradict each other, in fact we build on what each other has said, in talking about the various principles.

Diva of Dragons already mentioned there is an organization called the Science of Mind. This organization is all over & holds Sunday morning services and classes for people who would like to have an alternative place to go to than "regular" churches. It is definitely scientifically based.

The Secret and The Laws of Attraction probably have exercises to use and test some of the principles. You need to notice and mark down the results as with any scientific experiment. The first couple of results may be coincidences. Only after a while, there are too many coincidences, to be a "coincidence." You talk to others who follow the principles, and they, too, site many examples of "coincidences" that happen to them to be coincidence. Or they tell you how to tweak your experiment, suddenly you are getting similar results. More coincidence? How many coincidences does it take to be more than a coincidence? How many coincidences does it take to be scientific fact? You'll know for yourself instead of relying on others for that answer. You'll be different. Your experience of life will be different. In some ways, you can generate your own coincidences. But then, they can't be coincidences if you can generate them. ;) For those who aren't open to testing and believing, there will never be enough data or coincidences. They won't even notice the coincidences or they will all be explained & rationalized away. Or they won't even have tried any experiments and with any accuracy of proper procedures. That will be their reality. Again, as Carly said, "Everyone's right. No one is wrong. You get what you think about."

The psychologist, Carl Jung, wrote a treatise on the phenomenon of Coincidence, or Synchronicity, called aptly On Synchronicity. (It's a very dry paper. ) I highly recommend reading instead, The Celestine Prophecy. It's also a basic principle of The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron. It's really interesting when you do your own study on the amount of "coincidences" that happen for people who decide to be open to just trying the various principles, like little Natalie Woods in Miracle on 34th Street, "I believe, I believe. It's silly, but I believe."

The Celestine Prophecy is written in novel form, rather than like a textbook. The whole book is based as "Coincidence" as the starting point for the adventure that happens in the novel. It's a very interesting beach read :beach: - and "coincidental" that this thread comes up at this time for me to recommend it. I actually wouldn't have thought of it. :goodvibes
 
Since posting here and asking questions, I've downloaded *and watched* THE SECRET! Powerful stuff.

Soon as the movie ended, I deleted everything negative I'd bookmarked on my computer. It was terrible how much negative dribble I'd invited into my life. :eek: I also declined tonight's favorite t.v. program. You guessed it...negative. ::yes::

I'm anxious to read all the books mentioned here and I've copied and pasted CR's tips on positive thinking. This is a wonderful start and I'm excited.

Many thanks to you all for the great info here! :flower3:


YAY!!! :yay: Good for you! Youre gonna see and feel a change, I promise. And what do you have to lose, really?

Visualize your day tomorrow. Wake up 5 minutes early, or while youre in the shower...think about your whole day and how you want it to pan out....and it will. :thumbsup2

*You* create your world!!

Check out these phrases. Its a website for stickers and such, but I love all the sayings.

http://www.goodvibesforyou.com/

Warning: :goodvibes This is a loooong (scientific) post. Grab a cup of coffee first. :surfweb: :)


:worship: :worship: :worship: Wonderful!!!

And as I said to Epcot - what do you have to lose, really??
 
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Remember: our beliefs form our reality. As Carly said, "Everyone's right. No one is wrong. You get what you think about." And that is different for everybody.

This is the biggest problem I have with the Secret. As described by Robinrs, it sounds great, but I believe in absolute reality. We may all have different ideas about reality, but there is an ultimate truth, whether we believe or accept it. I prefer to say our beliefs form our perception of reality. It may just be semantics.
 
Warning: :goodvibes This is a loooong (scientific) post. Grab a cup of coffee first. :surfweb: :)






Robinrs, there are people who question the science of it all, they have a right to. I, too don't go blindly on Faith. I needed to see observable evidence that these principles really work.


I understand that totally. I was an OVERintelligent child, resisted ANYTHING that was not proven and spent most of my young life an atheist and then an agnostic.

Believe me, I was a Walt.

I am now 52 years old and I have seen so much proof there is no book or human who can tell me anything. Statistics and science is fine when it comes to meteorogy, forensics and biology... not when it comes to what I KNOW.

I am now my Dad, who sat smiling while I over explained my scientific theologies while he lived off of faith. I never understood him then. NOW I do.

I don't want anyone to walk the path I did to get to where I am. It's way too painful. But everyone has their own "proof" and testimony. We all have our own ways of making it through life.

In the end I found something amazing. It's called PEACE.

and I cannot tell you how happy I was to find it.:thumbsup2 Thank you Daddy~
 
The three of you finished reading already? :rotfl:

:worship: :worship: :worship: Wonderful!!!
And as I said to Epcot - what do you have to lose, really??
Right for people who are skeptical, just do it as an experiment or game. No one is asking you to believe anything first. So you've got nothing to lose. :thumbsup2 you can even get most of the books from the library.
This is the biggest problem I have with the Secret. As described by Robinrs, it sounds great, but I believe in absolute reality. We may all have different ideas about reality, but there is an ultimate truth, whether we believe or accept it. I prefer to say our beliefs form our perception of reality. It may just be semantics.
I think it may be semantics. I say it your way & I still agree. ::yes::
I am now 52 years old and I have seen so much proof there is no book or human who can tell me anything. Statistics and science is fine when it comes to meteorology, forensics and biology... not when it comes to what I KNOW.

...and I cannot tell you how happy I was to find it.:thumbsup2 Thank you Daddy~

Yep, I hear you! There is nothing that beats age & experience. That alone is a PhD on life.

Have you read Marianne Williamson's The Age of Miracles? It's a wonderfully expansive & affirming read. She talks about how for many of us, it took so long to figure things out & get our individual act together. But in our current society, "middle age" is being treated like we'd better get ready to be put out to pasture. :eek:

"Far from it!" she says. We're living longer now, but those added 15 years to our lives are in the middle of our lives - not at the end. Woohoo! :woohoo: We need to name & claim this period in our lives. This period was not acknowledged before as it wasn't there before. We can finally create the kind of life and in more powerful ways that we couldn't when we were in our own way. :dance3:
 
This thread is, BY FAR, the best I've ever read on the DIS! It's sending me a clear message at a time I need it most. I'm very ill and have been seeing doctors (specialists) for the past 2 years. Have you ever known doctors to admit they aren't able to help you further? Mine did! :eek: Not a good place to be!

DH has "preached" at me for years about being NEGATIVE. He insists that what you put out is exactly what you get back. He's POSITIVE in all things and keeps telling me to observe how he gets good and positive things in his life. He says it's "no accident". I've agreed he seems to have a point but until now I haven't known *how* to step out of all this negativity. His response has always been to "think positive". For some, this is not an easy thing. I can clearly see, after reading here especially, that DH must be right and I'm "reaping" what I sow. THAT MUST STOP NOW!!!!!!!! I'm literally going down the tube!

So....I must begin reading the above mentioned books. Which one should be first? Is there a good order in which I should proceed?



I can highly recommend Wayne Dyer, I started with "You'll see it when you believe it". It is still my favorite and Ive read quite a few.

Check it out, you wont be disappointed! And dont feel badly or just put it away if it doesnt quite make sense at first. It is definitely the type of book you will find yourself re-reading certain chapters.
It has truly changed the way I think!
 
This thread is, BY FAR, the best I've ever read on the DIS! It's sending me a clear message at a time I need it most. I'm very ill and have been seeing doctors (specialists) for the past 2 years. Have you ever known doctors to admit they aren't able to help you further? Mine did! :eek: Not a good place to be!

So....I must begin reading the above mentioned books. Which one should be first? Is there a good order in which I should proceed?

For most people I would say, go to Amazon, read the synopses and one will speak to them first. Also, this sounds like a strange phenomenon, but go to the bookstore, walk around the section where these books would be, and amazingly & "coincidentally", one will fall off the shelf near you or in a way "throw itself at you". Go back & pick up the book off the floor, read the back and you realize THIS is the book you are meant to read. ::yes:: I have literally had books fall on my head. :duck:

However, since you specifically mentioned you are ill, I'd suggest Louise Hay's, You Can Heal Your Life. It's big on healing your body.

"This New York Times Bestseller has sold over 30 million copies worldwide. Louise’s key message in this powerful work is: “If we are willing to do the mental work, almost anything can be healed.” Louise explains how limiting beliefs and ideas are often the cause of illness, and how you can change your thinking…and improve the quality of your life! Packed with powerful information—you'll love this gem of a book!"


I can highly recommend Wayne Dyer, I started with "You'll see it when you believe it". It is still my favorite and I've read quite a few.

Ooh, Wayne's Your Erroneous Zones, is a good one, too. :thumbsup2 It's a lighter read from his younger days. It's not as heavily "spiritual" as his later books, for those who want less of that, and more on becoming self-aware & changing how we think. Notice the title is erroneous zones, not erogenous zones. That alone tells you it's about the erroneous ideas we have that keep us stuck, down, depressed, less. :sick:
 
To quote the little boy from the Disney commercial, "I'm too excited to sleep"! :goodvibes

Thank you all! :hug:
 
I like many ideas that are brought forth in The Secret. Many.

However, at one point they talk about not having "bad/negative", I'm not really sure of the words used, emotions. A la with The Secret there no need to have them. I strongly disagree. Wonderful things can come out of facing pain and issues from one's past.

I just wanted to add that pain and what other's see as negative emotions in my life have brought me many beautiful insights in life. Very beautiful insights. They have expanded my knowledge and most importantly expanded my empathy and compassion for others.

And in that I disagree with The Secret. There is a power of allowing oneself to fully experience pain and "negativity".

Your connotation of bad feelings are different from what The Secret means as bad/negative. And they have over simplified it in their explanation.

When I, too, first started studying "positive thinking" I also thought that meant I wasn't supposed to feel pain or grief or anger or sadness. Yes, some places do mean that, if you simply replace all your "negative feeling" with happy positive feelings, your problems will instantly go away. That really doesn't work. :sad2:

Now I know the better teachers mean something else. First of all, they really mean negative states, not negative emotions. A negative state is different. Emotions are neither positive or negative.

Debbie Ford, author & fabulous workshop leader goes in depth in The Shadow Process, in stating that emotions are not necessarily positive or negative. It's the meaning you attach to them, and how you use them that makes them one way or another. Debbie has many podcasts on hayhouseradio.com.

Debbie will agree, like you said, pain is very good sometimes. It's a signal. If you put your hand on a hot stove and don't feel pain, that's when you have trouble. You get burnt. Same for the rest of our lives. Pain is a signal that something is off in our lives, our relationships, or our soul. :wave:

How many times have people gotten out of a bad relationship, bad job, that they felt a lot of pain in and as soon as they did, their lives got so much better? :dance3: They say, "Why didn't I change things sooner than tolerating all that pain?"

Grief too, is not a "negative emotion". Grief is a very natural process. You lost someone or something. You had a dream and it's gone. You have to grieve and mourn it. In fact, one of the healthiest things to do is to grieve. It's part of the healing process. There are even books on the five stages of healing, it's such a natural process. It's not a time to be jumping up & down & saying, "I'm so positive!" As long as one doesn't stay stuck in grief, it's healing.

Anger also is not necessarily a negative emotion. Anger alerts you to when your boundaries have been violated. When an injustice has been done, when you've been hurt. Used appropriately, it can be used to stand up for yourself & others, to set boundaries, for protection. The mother who created MAAD, Mothers Against Drunk Drivers used her anger to create a powerful organization to help others. It's when you stay in an angry state that it becomes detrimental.

I actually think venting is good - once in a while - and with people who know you are only letting off steam. :furious: They know you aren't coming for advice, at the moment, or that you do it so often enough that you're actually a negative drain to be around. (Besides, you're there for them too, when they need to vent.:hug: ) It gets it out of your system and then the energy is clear so you can make some positive actions. :yay: The point is not to stay in a state of anger that's not productive, where you don't move your situation forward.

The Secret actually listed some bad feelings or negative emotions the states of: blame, resentment, hate, revenge, being critical, mean, guilt, fear, depression, worrying. I'm adding: cynicism, self-pitying, whiny and a victim.

All of these are powerless Victim states. They leave a person disempowered, instead of at cause over the circumstance, able to change them. They are started by negative thoughts. Your thought always dictate your feelings. When a person is blaming or resentful of someone, he is saying that other person has more power than him. Blame is saying, "I can't change my circumstances because..."

Most of us have emotional habits. Emotions we unconsciously fall into at the drop of a hat. Thought habits we fall into also, where we have thoughts that don't help us. The Secret is saying to be more self aware to catch yourself when you are in one of these non-productive habits and to consciously move yourself into a better, more productive state, where you're causing things to happen, instead of being a passenger or a victim.

Tony Robbins says, "Chances are, you really don't make the best decisions when you are in a negative state." He is excellent at teaching people how to change their states immediately and get into be more positive, effective states. But it's not about meaningless Rah-Rah :cheer2: states.

You (general you,) can be in pain and not a victim. You can be in pain and decide to do things to change your life and follow through with effective actions instead of blaming others for the way things are. You can be in pain and look for the lessons instead of having the same kind of relationship again, how to grow from it. You can be in pain and say, "Why am I living my life this way? This not me, (this not who God wants me to be)" and change your life around. Those are all positive attitudes and actions.

The mother who created MADD was in immense pain, grief and outrage. She channelled that into a more effective way. She wasn't trying to be all happy, happy, happy, for no reason. She probably was envisioning the first mother saying, "Because of you, my child is alive." When that happened, she was happy.

A person can get cancer and be a victim or learn ways to help fight it. Or like professor Randy Pausch, whose cancer is terminal, who's been on Oprah, Good Morning America & the Internet with his Last Lecture, he's living his remaining days focused on joy, love, and a touching the hearts of others.

People can't always control what happens to them. They can control how they choose to handle it, thoughts, emotions & attitude are the start. (They are mostly emotional habits anyway.) If you can't control your emotional state, your attitude will automatically be in the toilet. :(
 
"Stand Guard at the Doorway of your Thoughts" It's one of my favorite quotes.

One of the tricks I use is positive affirmations. But not just in the morning or at night. Whenever I catch myself thinking some negative thought like, "I'll never be able to pay this bill" I immediately cancel that thought. And say an affirmation 21 times. SOmething like, "I am easily and effortlessly paying all my bills!"

I say affirmations all day long, when I'm cleaning house, when I'm driving, or when I'm exercising. Negative thoughts create a groove in your brain, sort of like the grooves in a record. The only way to break that pattern is to replace it with another pattern.

Another great book to try, The Self-Talk Solution by Shad Helmstetter. It's less spiritual and more practical. But it's a really great book,

I've found that if you create a ritual that starts your day on a more positive outlook it really helps. I have a couple of daily meditations I love: The Daily Word and Daily Inspiration from PositiveChristianity.org. I get them every morning via email. Plus I read a couple of prayers from Marianne Williamsons book Illuminata, then I write in my gratitude journal. It takes all of 20 minutes but it sets me up for the day.

A Gratitude Journal is a really great tool incidently. Because it trains you to look for the good in your life. Every morning I write down at least 5 good things that happened to me the day before. SOmetimes they are big things sometimes they are little things like the guy that opened the door for me. It will help create an awareness of the good you're experiencing.

Another thing I haven't noticed anyone mention is clearing. It's so important. You can think positive all you want but if you don't make an effort to clear out negativity first, those old patterns/ hurts will keep coming back. You can't put new wine into old wineskins! Spend some time each night clearing, releasing negative thoughts or grudges. Mentally go over the day, see each person that upset you, tell them you forgive and release them. Work on the big things you're holding onto. Somethings are so big we can't see forgiving someone. But all the universe asks is that you be willing to forgive. The how will work itself out. Just be willing to to forgive. Nature abhors a vacuum, once you release those negative attitudes, your find more good coming to you!
 
YAY!!! I was able to find it online!!! :yay: :cool1: :woohoo: :cheer2: :cool1:

Louise Hay's 12 Commandments: How to Love Yourself

1. STOP ALL CRITICISM.
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

2. FORGIVE YOURSELF.
Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that you had. Now you are growing and changing, and you will live life differently.

3. DON'T SCARE YOURSELF.
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

4. BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT.
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.

5. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND.
Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.

6. PRAISE YOURSELF.
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

7. SUPPORT YOURSELF.
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

8. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES.
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns.

9. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY.
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need in order to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise do you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.

10. MIRROR WORK.
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents while looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say "I love you, I really love you!" :love:

11. LOVE YOURSELF... DO IT NOW.
Don't wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin now---and do the best you can.

12. HAVE FUN.
Remember the things that gave you joy as a child. Incorporate them into your life now. Find a way to have fun with everything you do. Let yourself express the joy of living. Smile. Laugh. Rejoice, and the Universe rejoices with you! :dance3:

All is WELL!
Louise
:goodvibes



OMG!!! :dance3: I just found out Louise is giving away a FREE download of one of my all time favorite tapes by her: Receiving Prosperity - 6.2 MB in MP3 format.

Sign up for the e-news letter, then download it. (It's not the full version if you listen online.)
http://www.louisehay.com/enews/index.php
 
One of the tricks I use is positive affirmations. But not just in the morning or at night. Whenever I catch myself thinking some negative thought like, "I'll never be able to pay this bill" I immediately cancel that thought. And say an affirmation 21 times. Something like, "I am easily and effortlessly paying all my bills!"

What a coincidence! I didn't know you had posted as I was looking for the Louise Hay affirmations above. Then I busy having fun, adding colors. Louise uses that same bill paying affirmation. :)

Negative thoughts create a groove in your brain, sort of like the grooves in a record. The only way to break that pattern is to replace it with another pattern.

I've found that if you create a ritual that starts your day on a more positive outlook it really helps.

::yes:: I totally agree! A long time ago, I bought a clock radio with a cassette player in it. I could set it to play a tape rather than listening to the radio news in the morning, announcing 5 murders happened the night before. What a thing to wake up to! :headache: I put in Louise's tapes Receiving Prosperity, (that I just found out is a free download in the above post,) or The Totality of Prosperity every morning.

I wasn't sure if I was actually hearing anything in my sleepy state :faint:, but I was waking up in a better mood. About a couple months later, I was catching myself saying some positive affirmations & wondering, "Where did that come from?":confused3 When I finally listened to Louise's tape while fully awake, I realized, "Oh, that's where I heard it." :idea: Listening every morning had been making a new groove in my brain. :thumbsup2

I have a couple of daily meditations I love: ... Plus I read a couple of prayers from Marianne Williamson's book Illuminata
I used to go to Marianne's lectures before she became "Marianne Williamson," when she was just a woman who lectures by donation (or free if you had no money,) and was simply "Oh...some woman who gives great lectures every month on A Course IN Miracles. Let's go hear her!" It was a very dark time in my life. :sad: Marianne would sit at the edge of the stage at the end of her 2 hour lecture, and pray individually with people who came up & asked for her prayers & guidance. :grouphug:

I went up and asked her to pray with me once. I tell you, she's got the hotline to God!!!:eek: It's like the Bat-phone to call Batman. She had asked that I be helped to become a deeper, wiser person, because isn't that what all this pain & heartbreak is here to help me to become? I palpably felt different afterwards. And I saw the effects on my life. :goodvibes And yes, true to our prayer, :hug: that is I've been becoming & still I pray to be, a deeper, better person. :angel:

then I write in my gratitude journal. It takes all of 20 minutes but it sets me up for the day.

A Gratitude Journal is a really great tool incidentally. Because it trains you to look for the good in your life. Every morning I write down at least 5 good things that happened to me the day before. Sometimes they are big things sometimes they are little things like the guy that opened the door for me. It will help create an awareness of the good you're experiencing.
::yes:: Yes, when you are thinking about what you are grateful for, it's hard to be in a state of scarcity & lack. :goodvibes

Another thing I haven't noticed anyone mention is clearing. It's so important. You can think positive all you want but if you don't make an effort to clear out negativity first, those old patterns/ hurts will keep coming back. You can't put new wine into old wineskins! Spend some time each night clearing, releasing negative thoughts or grudges.

:thumbsup2 :thumbsup2 Excellent point!!! Clearing one's space of negativity is necessary too. :cool1:
 
Wonderful things can come out of facing pain and issues from one's past.

I just wanted to add that pain and what others see as negative emotions in my life have brought me many beautiful insights in life. Very beautiful insights. They have expanded my knowledge and most importantly expanded my empathy and compassion for others.

And in that I disagree with The Secret. There is a power of allowing oneself to fully experience pain and "negative" emotions. And the lovliness that can come out of that. I believe both have a purpose in this world.
I've read somewhere that we choose to learn by pain until we learn that it's not necessary to learn that way anymore. They likened it to being a child and being spanked to learn wrong from right. As we grow older, we no longer need to be spanked to learn to stay out of the road, don't climb on top of the house, or don't play in the gravel pit.

It's an interesting concept to think about. While pain has it's purposes like the hot stove Imzadi mentioned, as we evolve and seek out things that make us feel better, we being to naturally intuit what might bring pain. When that happens, we make minute course corrections to avoid what we know may be painful.

I'm not saying pain never happens again, but it happens far less than it happened before.
 















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