Smart family isnt right

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I am probably repeating myself but.... of course things look strange! Wouldn't your family look strange if you lost a child for 9 months?! :(

You & I hopefully will never have any idea what it is to be the Smarts.
 
I saw last night where they were taking Elizabeth to some kind of big welcome home party put on by family and friends.
Elizabeth did not attend the party. Her parents did.


The pictures (most) were all taken by her uncle. These are not candid pictures. These were taken so that everyone could see her back at home. These pictures are to paint a picture of her in the best times since she has returned. I feel quite sure that she is having an adjustment period. And that there is a long road ahead. I pray for her recovery and also for the other 4 Smart children as this must be an ordeal on them as well.
 
What is bothering me is that I sense a family in denial about what has happened to their daughter. They want everything back to "normal", which is understandable.

What I see is a family that for the time being is not going to push there daughter into the dark spot (not denial just space)....I think that is wise...IMHO....Let it evolve over some time..it has only been a few days...let her be normal and forget about the past 9 months...I'm sure it will come and they will be there for her....and listening to the Bishop of there church there is quite a number of professionals who have been counseling the family and will continue to do so.
 
In case anyone missed disfanatiks post I will repeat it.

Elizabeth Smart did NOT attend the party at Liberty Park.

The party was a kind of thank you to the community for the support for the family all these past 9 months. Thousands and thousands of people VOLUNTEERED their time to look for Elizabeth. Friends and neighbors in their neighborhood never took down the blue ribbons that showed their support for the family. The Smart family wanted to say thank you and I also suspect move the celebration away from their home. THey had the media camped out in their neighborhood. I thought the idea of some kind of celebration ACROSS town seemed like a wise idea. That way Elizabeth could chill at home without cameras zooming in on the house.

I'm guessing this was a way for the community to celebrate in a non-invasive way. Unless now the entire community is going to be accused of acting inappropriately.:rolleyes:
 

Zurgswife--I haven't posted on this thread in a while. Just too upsetting to look at it, but I wanted to say that I appreciate so much what you are trying to do.

Sometimes, some things are just hopeless.

Like I have said all along, thank God they found her, thank God she is safe and back in her loving home and I pray that she has the beautiful life she so deserves.
 
And for the third time, in case anyone missed disfanatiks & Tiiiigergirl's posts, ELIZABETH SMART DID NOT ATTEND THE PARTY! And her parents were there for just a short time to speak and then leave.

As for bringing a ton of people home, I know on 48 Hours last night her 3 best friends have not even been over to see her yet. One of the aunts stopped by the house and wasn't even going in to see Elizabeth but the parents said Elizabeth wanted to see her. I think these parents have a lot more sense than what we give them credit for.
 
Wow, I am amazed at the number of people who feel that this family should act in a certain way. I realize we do not have the WHOLE story...in fact, we shouldn't. Facts need to be kept back, after all a trial will happen and already a change of venue will probably be needed.

I can not and will not judge the actions of the family nor of Elizabeth. I sympathize with all they have gone through. I do not feel that they need to put the entire story before the public. It is Elizabeth's story and those that need to know it..will know it. Some of it will come out since it will be needed at the trial.

As for the pregnancy rumour...I have never heard any so repugnant in my life. Talk about a blame the victim mentality. And besides, she was examined in the hospital and I would be that included a rape kit...it would have shown if she had given birth, 'specially if it had happened in the last month or two. And given our media today, there is no way that would have been kept quiet.

As for the father being on TV and chastising the senator about the Amber Alert bill, no I do not find that weird. This is a man that has been working with the Center for Missing and Exploited Children for the last 9 months. They have helped him when needed and he has met, talked with, and assisted other families going through the same thing...having a child missing. I can see why he would want to use this oportunity to remind everyone that while his family has had a happy ending, the majority do not and that a National Amber Alert is missing. After all, he is not the only one who feels that the bill should not be held up, even if the amendments being attached are suppose to be benefitial in the end...it still holds it up now.

I do not think that Elizabeth is "normal"...and I don't think the family does either. Yes, they might say she is "happy", "normal" etc, but that is just for the mass media. I think they know that she is going to need counseling and assistance through this...to me, that is another reason that it is the father in front of the camera. If they family doesn't talk, the media would feel it was a slap in the face with all the exposure, but sure as heck, Elizabeth shouldn't have to face it. So the father does it.

I am also sure their is some denial going on...I don't think many mothers and fathers want to think about their children being sexually abused...and it does seem that might have happened here. We might not know, but I am sure the parents do.

I for one am willing to believe the story of her being kidnapped, being too afraid to say anything (after all, as someone already pointed out, plenty of kids are sexually abused each day and say nothing...even to parents who love them).

I sincerely hope that you all never have to be in the situation where you are a victim and are not believed! This happens everyday across this country with sexual abuse, sexual assault, and sexual harrasment...to me, this is the same type of thing. Poor Elizabeth...I hope she never comes across all these people who think she "should have done something!" Nothing like trying to make her blame herself even more, cause I would bet money, she already does!

Sorry but I really hate the "blame the victim" mentality.
 
I just love this, really I do, the DIS is so heartwarming and open to all people.

What do you all care what I think, or what the other people who are not going with the masses think? Why do you all feel the need to defend yourselves and tell us how wrong we are. Are we not entitled to what we believe? It really kills me that when you post a dissenting opinion you get jumped all over and told that people can't sleep (?????). Hello it's my opinion, not yours. You don't like it, don't read it. The title of this thread is clear.
 
Amen to that Miss Jasmine. I don't believe anyone was "blaming the victim". I stated my opinion. If you don't like what I said, then really don't read it. This isn't the debatte board though it sure feels like it.

The whole thing sounds strange. It is SO uncommon for a child to be kidnapped and returned alive. Thank God she was. I stated her dad gives me the creeps. He does. That doesn't mean I think he had a hand in anything that happened. He does remind me of Jim Bakker back when he was saying that all was right with PTL, etc. He closes his eyes when he speaks and his body image gives off a liar vibe. If you don't agree, then don't. If this thread is causing people to lose sleep, then don't read it. It's still a free country right?
 
If this thread is causing people to lose sleep, then don't read it. It's still a free country right?

And they are allowed to post a different view, and if you don't like it, you don't have to read it either. That goes both ways.
 
Yep, that's right. And I'm not losing any sleep over anything posted on the net.
 
Originally posted by Miss Jasmine
Why do you all feel the need to defend yourselves and tell us how wrong we are. Are we not entitled to what we believe? It really kills me that when you post a dissenting opinion you get jumped all over and told that people can't sleep (?????). Hello it's my opinion, not yours. You don't like it, don't read it. The title of this thread is clear.

"Excellent post Miss Jasmine".
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I find it pathetic that so many people have nothing better to do than to further try to destroy this child. I suggest many of you Pixie Dusters and {{{ Hugs}}} people take a long hard look in the mirror. It is definitely time for a break from DIS for me.
 
I think the reason people keep bringing up the pictures is because the people want to see the gutwrenching reality of seeing a child finally reunited with her parents, family, etc...

Notice we have not seen any of those? That's just too personal in my opinion - though it would melt me to tears instantly....but because people can't feel that from the pictures, other things are generally assumed.

I for one feel that Mr. Smart's behavior is odd - but that's just impression - not a judgment - but that's ok - he's got his daughter back in his arms.

What DOES he do for a living? I just wonder what he does that affords him that gorgeous $1.2 million dollar home.
 
Lori, I believe Ed Smart owns his own business, something to do with real estate but I'm not 100% positive.
 
What DOES he do for a living? I just wonder what he does that affords him that gorgeous $1.2 million dollar home.


Why would this matter????
 
I find it pathetic that so many people have nothing better to do than to further try to destroy this child.

I don't think anyone on this board is trying to destroy a child...just because they think something is odd.

I have a few things...

1. I heard that police were searching something in Montana, but there were no details....I also read that the Smarts extended family had vacation homes in Montana they would go to each summer....coincedence?
2. I understand they want things to get back to normal. It was stated that Elizabeth was sort of 'plain'...no makeup, kindof conservative...why would the first day back, she go to get her hair done? I know this kindof a dumb thing to notice, but I don't think I want to go sit in a salon - where people tend to make small talk, etc - after such an ordeal.
3. Ed Smart said on that first night home they begged her to play the harp.....Why? The poor girl just went thru hell and you're worried about making her play a harp?
4. Regarding the pictures....has anyone had a picture taken of them before where you really weren't happy, or didn't want to have a picture taken, but faked that smile....the picture with her dad hugging her - thats what the expression seemed like to me.
5. They said on 48 hrs or one of those last night that she was crying because she was worried what would happen to her kidnappers...so obviously she is not right all of a sudden.
 
Minnie, I only have comments about two of your points.

1) The local police have stated the Montana investigation does have to do with the kidnappers but DOES NOT have anything to do with Elizabeth Smart.

2) The person who cut her hair is a family friend who came to the house.
 

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