Sister Wives, anyone???

[dodukes]

Will this be aired again. I missed it and wud like to watch an episode. I love big love but its fictitional so this sounds intriguin.g.

 

[tlbwriter]

I wonder if that is a big part of why this works for them: their self-confidence. I see so many women, both here and on other news sites, stating that the women must have poor self-esteem to 'put up' with this kind of a marriage. But I'm betting it's just the opposite: these women know themselves so well, and have a rock-solid self-confidence in themselves and their husband, that they can carry this faith-based marriage off with aplomb. They are confident in their mate's love for them that they are willing and able to share it with others.

I don't watch the show so I don't know if this is true for these particular women. But in general, women raised in the fundamentalist Mormon culture feel exactly the opposite. They are basically chattel - for example, they can be taken away from their "husband" and given to another man. No woman full of self-respect and confidence in her husband's love is going to say "Oh, the leader is mad at Bob and so now me and my kids belong to Bill? That's cool."

 

[DWGal210]

So I finished watching...

My personal feelings on the subject didn't change (as in, this is for sure not for me). But I think that Kody is just an annoying person, which is just his personality & has nothing to do with polygamy. We all know those people who are hanging on to the "glory days" of their youth, they want to br hip, cool, with it, etc. He just tries too hard to be the "cool guy" & that's annoying.

 

[Carly_Roach]

I don't think so- but that's sure to stir up this thread.

They seemed like nice people- the Dad needs to just embrace the fact that he's losing his hair and let it happen. He looks silly, and creepy.

I wouldn't want to live that way- BUT at least he lives under the same roof with all of his children and their Moms and doesn't have women and babies/kids scattered all over the place like some men do. I really don't see it much different than some situations I see here in the "real" world.

I have never said that. I said you never disappoint and I only recall saying it once and recently...... but you must admit by saying women who disagree with polygamy only feel that way because they are insecure is volatile to say the least.

Did you read the rest of my post?

Yeah. I think we are basically in agreement that these are their lives and they should live them as they choose. I also agree with the honesty in that this dad takes care of his kids, no matter how many there are, and he's not out tom-catting around and lying about it to his wife.

But there are other issues (like the basic motivators between men and women) that weigh into this discussion that I know for a fact I'd be in vehement disagreement with many, many women on this thread, so I keep my mouth closed about those issues. I am able to self-censor when necessary.

 

[momrek06]

Will this be aired again. I missed it and wud like to watch an episode. I love big love but its fictitional so this sounds intriguin.g.

TLC repeats their shows all throughout the week. Just check your TLC listing ... I am sure you will find it.

I will continue to watch as like others have posted, I find it interesting. No way would I live that way at all, ever but I do find the whole lifestyle interesting. I love BIG LOVE. I cancelled HBO/SHO because COX now wants $12.00 PER channel and I won't pay that so SISTER WIVES will have to be my replacement.

 

[daughter_of_amid_chaos]

So, is that why he wanted another wife?' Because his 1st wife couldn't have more kids?!

Yuck.....

No I was talking about 2 different things.

Children from 2nd and 3rd wife are actually older than the first wife's one child.

 

[scrapquitler]

Will this be aired again. I missed it and wud like to watch an episode. I love big love but its fictitional so this sounds intriguin.g.

It is on again Wed night at 10pm and Thursday am at 1am on the east coast


oops sorry for the double post (I got an error message and thought it wouldn't show up)

 

[scrapquitler]

Will this be aired again. I missed it and wud like to watch an episode. I love big love but its fictitional so this sounds intriguin.g.

My cable guide says Wednesday 10PM and Thursday 1am on the East Coast.

 

[dodukes]

awesome thanks, will definetly have to watch so I can keep up on the thread.

 

[MrsPete]

I think it's kind of sad that there are women in the world who think so little of themselves that they are willing to put up with all that.

Yeah, it seems that way to me, but I'm thinking of a situation I know of:

A good friend of mine from college married the wrong woman. He married her thinking they both had the same ideas about traditional marriage, forever, and so forth. The truth was that she wanted a child. JUST a child. She didn't really want a husband. Now, in her defense, I'm not sure she'd thought that through all that well ahead of time . . . but she left him while the child was still an infant.

Now she has exactly what she wanted: A child, a good chunk of his income, and her freedom.

PERHAPS these women want something similar: Perhaps they see this as a way to get what they see as the "good" parts of marriage -- children, a family, some support around the house . . . but also they get more independence because they aren't the ONLY wife?

I don't know. It's absolutely nothing I'd ever want, but it makes me think of my friend's wife. I wonder if she'd have been satisfied with that arrangement. Kind of a part-time wife.

 

[wdwmom0f3]

Yeah. I think we are basically in agreement that these are their lives and they should live them as they choose. I also agree with the honesty in that this dad takes care of his kids, no matter how many there are, and he's not out tom-catting around and lying about it to his wife.
But there are other issues (like the basic motivators between men and women) that weigh into this discussion that I know for a fact I'd be in vehement disagreement with many, many women on this thread, so I keep my mouth closed about those issues. I am able to self-censor when necessary.

No, because he can do this and just add her into the family, so he can date whoever he wants. From the looks on their faces last night, they are not happy about this new woman coming in. One said that she sensed that he was dating someone. After years of it just being the three of them, he is now adding one more. Maybe he was just wanting a change.

 

[Robinrs]

If you haven't watched the program, why even open this thread? Just to try to show how superior you are to the people who do watch it? You had nothing to add to the conversation but a scolding.

You, of course, have every right to do it but I just want to let you know it is obnoxious.

Because I can and I did. Now I'm being scolded???

I opened the thread because it was brought up before and I couldn't believe people watch it and then are disgusted by it. Why watch it? The only way it's on is because people are curious and want to see how others live and the producers know this. I don't think lives like this deserve an audience.

 

[flamingglobessigmund]

No, because he can do this and just add her into the family, so he can date whoever he wants. From the looks on their faces last night, they are not happy about this new woman coming in. One said that she sensed that he was dating someone. After years of it just being the three of them, he is now adding one more. Maybe he was just wanting a change.

One of the wives said in voice over that it was getting boring around there (for them) and they needed to bring in some excitement. But there also seems to be some concern that Kody kissed the woman he was "courting" to be the 4th wife.

It just seems so unfair that Kody can fall in love and marry as much as he wants, yet the women have just him.

 

[Shock13]

I actually watched some of it last night even though I had no intention. I am LDS which many refer to as mainstream Mormon. The Fundamenatlist LDS are not part of our church since we've done away with polygamy over a hundred years ago.
But here's my issue (among other things about polygamy) about last night's episode. In one scene I could clearly see a framed copy of the Family Proclamation. This is a statement released from our prophet years ago about our general beliefs when it comes to families. In the proclamation it states that we believe marriage is between "a man and a woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife".
The husband is not lawfully wedded to at least 2 of the wives and for them to display that proclamation is very wrong to me.

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

I haven't read all the posts -- but my question is about insurance? Does he have medical insurance and then it covers all three wives? and their kids?

what about life insurance? if he dies, do they split the money?

 

[Janet Hill]

No, because he can do this and just add her into the family, so he can date whoever he wants. From the looks on their faces last night, they are not happy about this new woman coming in. One said that she sensed that he was dating someone. After years of it just being the three of them, he is now adding one more. Maybe he was just wanting a change.

I think that # 1 essentially helped pick the other 2, so of the first three, everyone was part of the decision. Number 4 though seems to be just his decision, so I can see where the jealousy is coming from.

I think the whole idea of sister wives is disgusting, but brother husbands ....maybe a possibility

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

so can the wives just march out a pick another man to add to the mix? or are they only allowed to add wives?

 

[ilovepete]

I watched. I can't believe people would CHOOSE that, but I guess it works for them. I did kind of feel bad for them with him adding this new wife. I don't get the point either. They already have the house all divided up nicely and everything is working now. It seems like this is just going to cause a huge mess.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

I found it quite interesting. I wouldn't automatically condemn it just because it's not something I could personally do--I could never live like the Duggars, either, but they seem happy enough with their choices. (The families on both shows.) If anyone was being forced into the lifestyle, then I'd have a real problem with it.

I agree. Consenting adults and all, I don't see the problem. Definitely not for me tho. And for some reason, DH doesn't think it would be swell to have more than one wife to deal with.

DH's comment about the whole show (watched under duress, as a favor to me, since I watch EVERY.SINGLE.EPISODE of "Swords" with him!) - does Cody ever wipe that s**t-eating grin off his face?

Jane

That struck me too about Cody. He kind of creeped me out. Maybe it was just nerves. He seemed to get a little annoyed with the one little girl for not understanding the announcement of a potential 4th wife/mom.

I wouldn't want to live that way- BUT at least he lives under the same roof with all of his children and their Moms and doesn't have women and babies/kids scattered all over the place like some men do. I really don't see it much different than some situations I see here in the "real" world.

I enjoyed the show. I find their lifestyle interesting. I would never ever ever live that way but they are all consenting adults who enjoy their life.

Ditto.

I opened the thread because it was brought up before and I couldn't believe people watch it and then are disgusted by it. Why watch it? The only way it's on is because people are curious and want to see how others live and the producers know this. I don't think lives like this deserve an audience.

So what if people watch and then are disgusted by it? People should only watch shows that make them laugh, or shows in line with their own beliefs, or what?? Maybe they thought it would be interesting to watch. And of course it's on because people are curious...I doubt the powers that be making these decisions are out to put on shows that people aren't curious about. What shows do "deserve" an audience? And how judgmental is that? I don't think there's much on TV that "deserves" anything.

 

[Carly_Roach]

I think that # 1 essentially helped pick the other 2, so of the first three, everyone was part of the decision. Number 4 though seems to be just his decision, so I can see where the jealousy is coming from.

I think the whole idea of sister wives is disgusting, but brother husbands ....maybe a possibility

I already have my hands full with one husband. The last thing I need is two or more. Just like the idea of having multiple wives, it might SOUND like a good idea until you actually put it into practice. Everyone seems to think it's some kind of weird sexual thing, but any married couple will tell you that the sex becomes pretty routine after awhile. So then what are you stuck with? Three women in various stages of PMS, childbirth and menopause. Yeah, right. Does THAT sound like a dream marriage to you?

So let's flip it and say multiple husbands. Great. Now I got three guys leaving their socks and shoes all over the house instead of one, not to mention all of them probably fighting over who's got who's Craftsman tool in the garage.

And forget getting enough hot water for my shower in the morning.

And don't get me started on how they act when they're sick. I don't need that in triplicate.

Not to mention the intimate relations because guess what, ladies? You now have to perform three times more than you did before.

I like to think I'm pretty normal when it comes to that, but let's face it - there simply are times when I just. don't. feel. like it. And having to assuage at least two men's feelings that it's not them, it's me, when I don't feel like it? Ugh. Easier to just go through with it.

When you think about it, having multiple husbands OR wives isn't a picnic, nor is it something anyone should enter into lightly. Anyone who thinks it's just about the sex doesn't have the imagination it takes to picture what life is like AFTER the sex.