Timmie, from the little bit of time we spent together I could see what kind of gal you are. You go over and beyond for everyone. It is your nature and a wonderful one at that. I have found that my friends and even complete strangers treat me better than my own family, that I have spoiled to death. I am much older than you and have come to the conclusion that folks do not notice the things they take for granted and since you have always been there for them they do not notice you so much and in doing all that you do for them because that is what you would want for yourself you are going to be disappointed because few folks are that thoughtful.
Oh yes, the old, you did it of your own accord so we do not owe you any thanks thing. Heard it many a time myself. (sigh) I have noticed that when I go to Florida, especially for extended times, and am not here to do all the picking up, dropping off, babysitting, etc. etc. I get more phone calls from family than I do when I am right up the street and available.
Maybe a change of attitude is needed. Do for folks what you have the time, energy and willingess to do AFTER you have taken cre of YOURSELF first. Respect yourself and you might find that your family will follow suit.
Might I suggest that you do not cut off contact with your family but simply limit it? I refuse to lower myself down the level of others as it just reinforces their bad behavior but I do limit how much time and effort I expend on some. I love all my siblings dearly but am not so sure I would have any contact with them if it were not for the fact that we came from the same womb. Love is a gift and thankfully folks do not need to do anything to deserve it. Otherwise this would be a very sad world.
I am glad that you had friends and neighbors to support you. Women are expected to deal with everything and do not get as much TLC as we give to the weaker male gender.
Kelliblue, Pooh and Bonz. I was so disappointed not to have gotten to meet up with any of you. I had even brought goodie bags for you this trip. I was so embarrassed last time. Some day??? I did meet several other DISers but not nearly as many as in September. The roads were great going down and back. I am grateful but also totally worn out. I was too tired to talk to a grandchild the other night and he is still in shock. He is used to being able to call at midnight or later and having someone to talk to. I love those calls too but my brain was not cooperating.
Baking pumpkin pies today and quiches tomorrow. Not one person likes the same food so I have to make several different dishes. The leftovers will go to bil's on Christmas Day so that I can continue my downward spiral. I gained 10 pounds in a bit over two days after leaving home but have gotten it all back off but one pound now. Steriods and the darned things did not even work this time.
Merry Christmas your rambling friend, SG/Linda