I am currently a SAHM. My husband works super hard and makes the money in our household. I used to work part time until I had to take a leave of absence for my current pregnancy. We are due at the end of March with our second child.
2011 is a new year and with that comes changes. I no longer have my PT income and I no longer have my unemployment that I was on after leaving my FT job back in 2009, so changes have to be made.
I do all the bills and try to come up with the budget. DH is just to busy to do it so I do, but every month I feel a sense of guilt because each month we are pay check to paycheck or short and when going over teh list of things that we could cut, one of the 3 things is his bowling each month and just dont feel like he should have to give that up. He works so hard ya know? Plus I feel guilty because I tend to be the spender as a SAHM. In the winters are are alwasy trying to get out of the house, so lunch, the mall, a jumpy place etc and it all adds up, so then I feel guilty like I am not pulling my weight with bringing in income.
So for all you SAHM out there... do you deal with guilt, who does the finances and how do you budget?
DH did get a bonus this year and after years of not getting one, we decided to go to WDW. We have paid the trip in full except now are needing airfare and whatever spending money we take. Life is too short and we feel that since we never go on vacation, that we just needed to do it. It will be paid in cash before we go so we wont go in debt.
We do have debt- from stupid choices back when we got married. I am not proud, but you cant change the past, only the future. We are working toward paying them down, but they are large and seem like a never ending battle![Frown :( :(](http://www.disboards.com/data/smilies/frown.gif)
So I dont even really know what I am asking, I guess just venting and to see if there are any otehr SAHM out there who feel guilty financially and also to see how you manage money. How do you cut costs and budget for kids sports and activities if you do live pay check to paycheck?
Thanks in advance!!!
2011 is a new year and with that comes changes. I no longer have my PT income and I no longer have my unemployment that I was on after leaving my FT job back in 2009, so changes have to be made.
I do all the bills and try to come up with the budget. DH is just to busy to do it so I do, but every month I feel a sense of guilt because each month we are pay check to paycheck or short and when going over teh list of things that we could cut, one of the 3 things is his bowling each month and just dont feel like he should have to give that up. He works so hard ya know? Plus I feel guilty because I tend to be the spender as a SAHM. In the winters are are alwasy trying to get out of the house, so lunch, the mall, a jumpy place etc and it all adds up, so then I feel guilty like I am not pulling my weight with bringing in income.
So for all you SAHM out there... do you deal with guilt, who does the finances and how do you budget?
DH did get a bonus this year and after years of not getting one, we decided to go to WDW. We have paid the trip in full except now are needing airfare and whatever spending money we take. Life is too short and we feel that since we never go on vacation, that we just needed to do it. It will be paid in cash before we go so we wont go in debt.
We do have debt- from stupid choices back when we got married. I am not proud, but you cant change the past, only the future. We are working toward paying them down, but they are large and seem like a never ending battle
![Frown :( :(](http://www.disboards.com/data/smilies/frown.gif)
So I dont even really know what I am asking, I guess just venting and to see if there are any otehr SAHM out there who feel guilty financially and also to see how you manage money. How do you cut costs and budget for kids sports and activities if you do live pay check to paycheck?
Thanks in advance!!!