S/O..have you ever had a thread go south on you?

[robinb]

My problem is when different people use the same/similar avatars - totally throws me.

Okay, *one* of my problems.

Says the person with NO avatar .

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

I had this explained to me in minute detail by a Mod once when I enquires about my points. Apparently you can basically just let 'er rip with profanity and as long as it gets caught in the system's filter, you're fine. It's trying to "circumvent" the filter that's the violation, which seems totally crazy to me, but whatever. I now use the odd cuss-word (when it really expresses my thoughts) - the stars show up in the post and I've never been given points again.

Ahhh well that's something interesting...cuss..and the filter will fix it for you..try to fix it before you post and.....

This is so me - due to my faulty memory I'm lousy at holding a grudge. I'm a little in awe of the PP who mentioned something about noticing that somebody he'd disagreed with had "liked" other posts disagreeing with him; ostensibly to "send him a message". I'd never in a million years be able to connect those dots. You need to be pretty blunt upfront if you want to offend me

That was me..trust me it was pretty blunt. It didn't offend me though. I'm really not easily offended. Do I get irritated? sure but it's rare to get me offended.

So here's what the person did:
I don't know their gender but the poster and I were disagreeing with each other..it's whatev on that really. We basically ended the disagreement in the "move on type" way.

I was already in another discussion with another poster on a completely different unrelated random thread. So the poster who was having the disagreement with me I'm assuming went to my profile page to see what threads I had posted on and found one that's the only way I can figure out that they found one of my other current posts so fast. Seriously within minutes of ending the disagreement that poster shows up on that other thread and 'likes' the poster's post who I was discussing with. That poster and I weren't arguing we just didn't have the same opinion and we were being friendly about it.

So after that person 'likes' the poster's post they never comment nor 'like' another comment on that thread even comments the person who they 'liked'. It's not hard to figure out that they wanted to show agreement (for whatever reason) with someone I was currently in a friendly disagreement with. Like I said I viewed that as petty.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

My problem is when different people use the same/similar avatars - totally throws me.

Okay, *one* of my problems.

There used to be a poster who shall not fully be named but started with 'figment' who liked to stir up all sorts of trouble. I'm thinking he got banned or decided to go to something else with his time. Anywho anytime I see an avatar that was his or a person's name that starts with what his did I have to do a double take to make sure he isn't back.

 

[cabanafrau]

My problem is when different people use the same/similar avatars - totally throws me.

Okay, *one* of my problems.

I agree, completely messes with my tiny pea brain. As does all the similar sounding Disney-referencing names or often the ones with mom in them. I do try, but I think I lack the brain power -- along with being inundated with names, and serious backstories to go along with those many, many names at work every day.

Says the person with NO avatar .

 

[cabanafrau]

Sometimes I don't understand the logic when someone posts a thread, gets viewpoints opposing what they specifically asked for opinions about and then gets upset and leaves the thread. Pretty recently, maybe a week or two ago, maybe more recent, I was involved in a thread where a bride posed a question and got very upset when there was quite a bit of opinions that didn't fit with her preference. I know if I was in her shoes and asking that question I might have had an idea in my mind how I hoped things could be done, but I would have liked knowing what a broad group of people thought about the situation so I could use it as food for thought in making my decisions, hoping that I could come up with a way to do things that suited most of my guests.

 

[sam_gordon]

No, but about a year ago I made a somewhat snarky reply to someone's post, and an hour later there was the highlighted red "1" on the Inbox tab on the upper right. I didn't dare open it, thinking I got points and/or a nastygram. I was afraid to open it for a few days, but when I finally did it was a message from another poster giving me a on my comment.

Of course, it doesn't matter if you never opened the inbox, if you had received points, you still had them. It's not like you have to acknowledge them.

 

[MIGrandma]

I've found that here on the DIS there are many that don't like discussion. Of course, that has me wondering why they're on a discussion board.....

Discussion is one thing, beating someone up over their opinion is another. I'm all for polite, respectful discussions. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, whether it matches mine or not and I have absolutely no problem with someone disagreeing with me if they are respectful about it. But when certain posters here call people ignorant, or an idiot, or worse, for the simple fact that their opinion is different from their own then I just feel that is totally unnecessary.

I remember starting 2-3 threads that went bad, and I have made comments in a few other threads that people picked apart too. It doesn't bother me like it used to. I just consider the source. I used to try and defend myself but then found that to those certain posters it really didn't matter what I said, they were still going to pick everything apart. So then when a thread I started or commented on went south I just quit responding. Haven't had it happen in awhile now, but I don't post as much as I used to as I don't get on the computer all that much anymore (new interests take up more of my free time).

 

[ronandannette]

...So after that person 'likes' the poster's post they never comment nor 'like' another comment on that thread even comments the person who they 'liked'. It's not hard to figure out that they wanted to show agreement (for whatever reason) with someone I was currently in a friendly disagreement with. Like I said I viewed that as petty.

I don't doubt your assessment of the situation but it occurs to me that I often read a thread and "like" a post (yes, sometimes only one) without posting to the thread. If you ever notice me doing it - it's totally nothing personal.

 

[jevs]

I don't doubt your assessment of the situation but it occurs to me that I often read a thread and "like" a post (yes, sometimes only one) without posting to the thread. If you ever notice me doing it - it's totally nothing personal.

I like posts because:
I like the post
I like the poster
People like getting likes
Other people are stingy with giving out likes
Sometimes I like to confuse posters by liking someone I disagree with
I like all replies on my threads as an acknowledgement that I read their post

It's nothing personal

 

[awalker1015]

Not on a thread I started, but I replied to a poll thread about where your kids go to school. I replied a charter school, and this poster verbally attacked, making all these accusations then called me a coward. It upset me at the time as had lost sleep for month about what to do and this individual had no idea the factors that went into our decision or what needs our child had. Just blind rage at my answer. I reported the poster and I haven't seen them on here since, but would not be surprised if they were under a different user name now. I was upset about it at the time. Just answered a question and got a verbal assault. Now it seems silly to even waste a moment of anxiety on.

 

[ronandannette]

I like posts because:
I like the post
I like the poster
People like getting likes
Other people are stingy with giving out likes
Sometimes I like to confuse posters by liking someone I disagree with
I like all replies on my threads as an acknowledgement that I read their post

It's nothing personal

I knew it!! I knew you were doing that! Why don't you go buy all the kids on the soccer team a participation trophy and stop patronizing us for a while...

 

[ronandannette]

Grrrr - quit it!!! You're just toying with me now.

 

[mom2rtk]

I don't doubt your assessment of the situation but it occurs to me that I often read a thread and "like" a post (yes, sometimes only one) without posting to the thread. If you ever notice me doing it - it's totally nothing personal.

Me too! And sometimes I like one post, then get interrupted reading it, and never make it back to finish reading, so never post or like anyone else's post. And it's nothing personal at all. Just life getting in the way of DIS time.

 

[Kaytie]

Most of the time my threads go south.

Don't all of your posts start south?

I got piled on for wanting a flower arrangement and not a bouquet of flowers I have to arrange myself. I know, I know - I should be grateful, its the thought that counts, yadda yadda. I'm just really bad at arranging flowers.

A grid of cellophane tape over the mouth of the vase, with smallish open squares. Nobody will ever know you think you can't arrange flowers

I agree, and always find it intriguing when many people here say they are very introverted in real life.

I used to consider myself introverted. Passionate forum discussions have made me more outgoing IRL. Plus, my tv idol was Sophia Petrillo.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

I don't doubt your assessment of the situation but it occurs to me that I often read a thread and "like" a post (yes, sometimes only one) without posting to the thread. If you ever notice me doing it - it's totally nothing personal.

Nah I don't get that vibe from you at all meaning doing something with the intent to make it personal

 

[mummabear]

Shoot, I got points just last week!

Shoot I have been blocked for 30 days!

 

[mummabear]

Yes. When I was first here about 7 years ago, I dared to suggest that Disney consider having varying ticket prices for varying times of year. I practically had my head bitten off for that.

I also made this suggestion over on the Disneyland board in response to my frustration of paying them same year round but DLR having a clear off peak season with hours/entertainment schedule.

 

[mummabear]

I think it's ridiculous that people will claim their pets are "therapy" animals so they can take them anywhere

Therapy animals annoy me tbh. (Not so much the ones that visit hospitals to cheer people up but the people who have to take them into WDW with them becuase they feel anxious.
My aunt is deathly allergic to many types of animals, so whose "needs" win, then needs of someone who claims they need a support animal or the needs of someone to breath?

It baffles me that the brave servicemen of WW1&2 with all they experienced got through life without therapy animals but apparently we are having such a hard time in 2017 we need our cuddly all the time.

The only points I've ever received were for starring out a word and "circumventing the filter." It wasn't even a bad word, just one as a new poster to the CB I thought some might be offended by and I couldn't think of different one. I see it ALL the time though and find myself wondering if all those people are actually getting points for it. I kind of felt at the time they were just putting a newbie "in check."

I have had that a few times (because I forgot the rule years apart) I see lots of posts with starred out words so I thought that was allowed, seems you are allowed to write it and they star it out but you can't star it out yourself?

I also got points once for posting a meme photo that was relevant to the subject, found it and shared the meme as I had seen it ages ago without rereading it and it had one swear word in it (people clutched their pearls)

 

[mummabear]

I agree, completely messes with my tiny pea brain. As does all the similar sounding Disney-referencing names or often the ones with mom in them. I do try, but I think I lack the brain power -- along with being inundated with names, and serious backstories to go along with those many, many names at work every day.

I'm with you, with the exception of a handful of posters who have been around a long time that I generally agree with/am entertained by their posts I don't know anyone from a bar of soap, tbh I rarely read the posters name just read what people have to say

 

[mummabear]

Me too! And sometimes I like one post, then get interrupted reading it, and never make it back to finish reading, so never post or like anyone else's post. And it's nothing personal at all. Just life getting in the way of DIS time.

Or I feel that another poster has said basically what I was going to say (often in a more eloquent way) so my like is like a "yeah what they said"