Replacing Wedding Rings

[Twinkling]

I love my rings and can't imagine wanting to replace them. That being said, I guess I already sort of did. When we were first married, my wedding band was gold plated. I LOVED it, but after a few months, I suppose the plating must have started to wear off or something since I started getting a really weird rash on my finger. I tried medication for it, but ultimately the best solution was just to stop wearing it. So we bought a second ring, this one of solid gold (and in a design 99% similar), and I haven't had problems since.

And I admit, a part of me wants to replace my husbands ring, but he won't let me. I chose it as a surprise for him, solid white gold with subtle, hidden Mickey's etched onto it. It wasn't very expensive, but definitely a lot for me at the time, and I was so pleased with how classy and elegant it looked. Of course, I was a dolt and completely forgot how soft gold is, and as my husband has a very hands on job and wears his ring every day, in no time the etchings completely disappeared and now it looks like some run-of-the-mill beat up ring. The hidden Mickey's were so special and so unique and I was SO happy to find a ring that included them that still looked classy and understated, but now they're gone. I'd like to get him a steel ring, or at least something that will stand up better to his daily work, but he's sentimental about it, which I do understand since I'm sentimental about mine too, but there's still that bit of sting there that the elements that made his ring so personal and specifically chosen for him and are no longer there.

 

[Momager]

I want nothing more than to sell my wedding ring! It was 10k almost 20 years ago. I don't wear it. I bought A $50 ring from Kohls and barely wear that! It means nothing to me at this point.
I'd give anything to sell it and do something great with the money. But DH isn't on board with that....

 

[DLgal]

I want nothing more than to sell my wedding ring! It was 10k almost 20 years ago. I don't wear it. I bought A $50 ring from Kohls and barely wear that! It means nothing to me at this point.
I'd give anything to sell it and do something great with the money. But DH isn't on board with that....

If it helps, your ring is probably not worth very much at all resale. People have unrealistic expectations for expensive jewelry and are usually in for quite a shock when they try to sell it. Unless you have a D color, flawless diamond weighing 2 carats or more, I'm willing to bet you would be lucky to get $2500 for your ring. My grandma died a couple years ago and had an antique, 3 carat round solitaire set into 18k. Her kids all fought over it, thinking it was worth BIG bucks. A jeweler who wrote up the retail value of all her stuff valued it at $3500. The diamond, as it turned out, wasn't very high quality.

 

[Disney_Alli]

I have a very unique ring that I love. It's a black princess cut diamond - just over 2 carats - with small shoulders stones set in white gold that's been treated to look black. It came with the matching molded band also black gold with channel set black diamonds. We had it retreated to be black before the wedding (free just pay shipping) and can do it again and again for the life of the ring. At some point I'll ship it to them and have the black removed instead of retreated and then I'll have a white gold ring with black diamonds just like my husband's ring. I'd probably never change mine because it's unique and suits me but I completely understand anyone who does. Eventually I'll change mine slightly as I said and it won't be any more or less meaningful than my gleaming black ring was on our wedding day. (But then I might have to stop saying it's cold and black like my heart which has always annoyed him to no end... then again maybe not as the diamond will still be black )

 

[cedricandsophie]

I got a very cheap rather ugly band when we got married 35 years ago. For my 45th birthday my husband bought me a small diamond and ruby band. Then for my 60th birthday he bought me a Tiffany diamond and a platinum band. And just a couple years ago he decided I needed the diamond solitaire engagement ring I never had and got that for a Christmas present. All of them are meaningful to me especially the newer ones because he did it just because he wanted to show me how much he cared, not because it was required for a ceremony.

 

[PigletsPal2]

I'm on my third wedding ring (still first marriage!) The first one was stolen, the second one was lost, and I've had this one for 33 years. It's 22k gold with 5 channel-set diamonds. Spouse designed it, and it's engraved on the inside with the Scripture reference Ruth 1:16-17, where Ruth begs her late husband's mother not to ask her to leave, that she would go where Naomi went, that Naomi's people would be her people. I said this to spouse at our wedding ceremony, and 53 years and 10 countries later, we're still together.

Queen Colleen

 

[fhtpdw20]

I had my DH and my wedding bands made into an heirloom pendant after he passed away. It is the only jewelry I wear now. I designed heart shaped filigree angel wings (my heart, his wings and the holes left in life) surrounding a claddaugh. The hands of the claddaugh hold my husband's wedding band. My wedding band is nestled inside of his. The heart of the claddaugh holds a pearl, our son's birthstone, is inside of my band. The pearl is an Epcot pick a pearl my son and I purchased on our first trip after DH passed. The crown sit on top of the heart. Love, loyalty and friendship pretty much summed up our 28 years together. We did not bother with an engagement ring as we were married within 55 days after we met.

 

[ronandannette]

I'm on my third wedding ring (still first marriage!) The first one was stolen, the second one was lost, and I've had this one for 33 years. It's 22k gold with 5 channel-set diamonds. Spouse designed it, and it's engraved on the inside with the Scripture reference Ruth 1:16-17, where Ruth begs her late husband's mother not to ask her to leave, that she would go where Naomi went, that Naomi's people would be her people. I said this to spouse at our wedding ceremony, and 53 years and 10 countries later, we're still together.

Queen Colleen

I’ve just got to say that I’d imagine a lot of people who have heard that beautiful reading at weddings are pretty surprised to find out that, in context, she is actually talking to her mother-in-law...

 

[aprilchem]

To me rings are just an object, and I don't get attached to objects. I really like my DH though.

I will have to get my wedding rings replaced soon... I have TINY fingers and have lost a good deal of weight, and my rings are pretty loose but are already sized as small as this particular set can go (size 4.75). My jeweler said that to size them smaller would compromised the integrity of them, so we'll pick something new once I've lost all the weight and know what my ring size will be. No biggie to me - I've had these rings for 18 years, but I'm sure I'll like the new ones as well.

DH is on ring #3 or 4, I think. He loses his. His current ring is really pretty but he doesn't always wear it because he works with electricity and it can be a safety hazard in certain situations.

 

[lorimay]

For our 25th anniversary, 7 years ago I had my original stone put in a white gold set, more modern
Got my husband a new band, its was his 3rd lost his first one in the Police Academy 30 years ago.
We just got back from Ireland and while there we purchased new Cladaughh bands because I love the meaning of these simple bands. Love, Loyalty & Friendship.....

 

[AP1209]

I hate wearing rings so I took mine off all the time and eventually I lost it 6 or 7 years ago and never replaced it. I think it cost $25. My wife's ring was less than $100. She lost some weight so the ring didn't fit anymore so she bought another ring to wear for like $60. I never understood spending thousands of dollars on a ring you can't afford. If you can afford it, go for it but it's crazy to go into debt for a wedding ring. My wife agrees. I guess that's why we are a match.