Lol.
@easyas123 I totally get what you’re saying. Don’t forget what I do for work, so I see examples of this every day! A few weeks ago I was caring for a lovely hairdresser and we had some laughs about my hair during a time when she was confused. (I’ve been letting it grow a bit and thought it was getting longer, but she gave me a side eye and announced, “It is short!
) She was so cute, though. I had an actual hair appt the next day and told my hairdresser about our conversation. She laughed, too, because we always joke the same type thing about my hair. So the next shift I went in I expected to care for her again, but her room had a different name on it. Where’d my friend go, I asked around. Well, her heart stopped one night. They tried for a long time to get her back, but couldn’t. I often get close to my patients, and let me tell you, it’s like being gobsmacked when that happens, and it happens a lot. I spent my shift with a bit of sadness hanging over me walking back and forth past that room for 12 hrs. I know how short life is and I’m actually the one usually telling people not to wait. (I’m doing that with a family member right now, ironically.)
I could write a page on this, but our family really enjoys traveling together. DH would like to do Alaska, too, at some point. DS prefers tropical. Alaska on Disney is on Wonder, and that’s “our” ship (cancer years and part of what kept me going, how I wound up here, etc). I would like to do Europe but I don’t like to fly over the ocean. DS talks me down from it but it hasn’t changed how I feel. So working my way up to that. (May have to do a repositioning cruise or something like that, idk.) DH and DS are cruise ship sort of obsessed. They follow their comings and goings and watch a lot of cruise reviews. I yell at DH all the time because these constant notifications clog up our email.
We enjoy traveling but it’s not our highest priority - right now, that’s our house. And we’re making a lot of progress.
That makes me happy. More than travel would. Because - to me - it means we literally have our house in order and can actually think about retirement, for real. So I’m in no rush to go places right now. We have a trip in the works and that will be fun. But not essential, either. The way we book cruises is a couple of years out, when prices are lowest, and that falls within the time frame we have pegged for probable retirement, so it is on the agenda. But again, it’s not our highest priority. DS will be in school for a while, too, and probably won’t be able to travel then. We’re still doing our own thing, but for cruising, it would be fun to go with him, and his family now, as well as DD, etc.
The other thing that has always plagued us is getting time off from work. It’s good that you have your own company and can make your own schedule. Same for those retired. That’s not us. We both have jobs where it’s hard to get time off and time is limited. When we go to Europe, I want to go for a while. Not five days or be back within a week, etc. (So it may be that our kids can only join us for part of it, or maybe unable at all, but that’s fine.) I also want to enjoy planning it. And I can’t right now with so many other things on the table. But really, I don’t mind, I feel like I’m in a pretty good place with life right now and when we get to it, we get to it, and if we don’t, that’s ok too. I do still get to enjoy my house every day though!
Everyone’s so different on this.
So good to hear from both of you lovely ladies. Prayers always to you (and all of our Quacker family) for health along with safe and happy trips ahead! Have a good night everyone.
). My folks, mid-70's - are living the high life going here and there and everywhere around the world, thank goodness - it's so nice to see them go off and enjoy themselves at this point in life. They were a great example though, they were off galivanting the World with us in tow when we were younger, and with us at home when we were older ever since I can remember.
