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[Pea-n-Me]

I have one of these:
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for rainy days, and I do believe it helps when I can't get some outdoor sunshine.

to you, and so many to @dazedx3, and @Pea-n-Me as well. - I'm sorry about your co-workers back then, and I really hope you can find your friend soon.

Thanks. I don’t know any of her extended family, who live out of town. Hopefully I can get some answers from her neighbors, maybe.

Yes, weird of my fellow nursing students at the time. But I will say that, despite having that odd experience early on, I’ve had the pleasure over a lifetime to work with some of the most compassionate nurses imaginable, so that’s sort of made up for it.

But I do think that people are people, and sometimes they can deal with things, and sometimes they can’t. That’s just how it is. I’ve had other experiences in life with coworkers, friends and family (as I know you all have too) that prove that there really are no hard, set rules that people follow. They all have their own stuff going on at various times in their lives, too, so maybe they’re available, and maybe they’re not, at the time we’re in need. I’ve been that person myself, too, sad to say (if we’re being honest).

I think it boils down to: When you find compassionate people in your life, it’s a blessing.

 

[lynxstch]

Good morning. Dumping down rain, but going to upper 60's.
@Pea-n-Me Your post about your friend and your grief touched me deeply. God bless you for what you do for your patients
@Kirby - I can understand your daughter's pain. She must be so tired of this, and just wants her kids back. Prayers
@flyingdumbo127 --Good luck with Best Buy. I bought something there once, it was defective and they told me they couldn't take it back without a restocking fee. I looked at them and said 'why would you charge a restocking fee for something that doesn't work? So you can sell it to another unsuspecting customer. I argued until I got the full amount back. That was the one and only time I went in that store. Never again

I have no get up and go to do anything today. The holidays have that effect on me after they are over. Trying to get in a better frame of mind. All of you and your posts are a great help

Have a nice day

 

[footballmouse]

Good morning everyone!

Rainy night and morning, coming down hard. Looks like the severe weather is just about past us so it should just be normal rain today.

A friend of mine texted me earlier this morning to let me know that another friend's dad passed away this morning. He had brain cancer. I felt bad for her because his Facebook posts were always so positive that the chemo was working, took a bad turn last week. I was expecting this to happen, my dad had brain cancer and it just goes so quick.

Was watching the Bengals game last night against the Buffalo Bills when one of the Bills players went down from cardiac arrest. He's at our medical center now in critical condition and they postponed the game.

Planning to make a couple of pork chops in the air fryer tonight. I haven't used the air fryer yet. If they turn out, I'll run dinner up to my aunt. I feel bad because I haven't been cooking so I haven't been taking dinner to her. I know she likes her visits she gets and I know my cousin stops once a week. Plus she has kids and grandkids who are always over there, it's not like she relies on me for dinners.

Got the spare bedroom cleaned up, 3 big yard garbage bags. Insulation got all over the bed so I just threw the sheets and pillows in the garbage. Gave it a good cleaning while I was in there.

That's it, working from home today so I should get back to work. Have a great day!

 

[lynxstch]

@footballmouse --
Sorry about your friends Dad, adding that to my prayer list. My ex FIL passed from it a long time ago. Cancer is a b****

How is Princess Mia doing?

We have been praying for Damar and hope he survives this.

 

[Judique]

@dazedx3 ,

Mona, you mentioned butter sandwiches. I remember when I was a child the kids across the street ate butter sandwiches. They sprinkled sugar on top of the butter and then folded it over as a half sandwich. I never ate one.

We were supposed to have severe storms today but it all moved east and we've had just a little drizzle.

The GK's are supposed to come home tomorrow. We shall see. DD is wound up tighter than a drum. She actually tried to start an argument with me over something like a tomato/tomahto type of word usage. She went to her room and will probably stay there the rest of the evening. Oh, this is wearing on the soul.

DH cooked dinner tonight. We had hamburgers, crispy crowns and pork n beans.

Butter sandwiches - sort of a variation. I grew up in a home where my mother and I baked all the breads, biscuits and rolls. The only time we had 'bakery' bread was on special occasions where they wanted to create fancy, more uniform sandwiches.

That said, I guess I ate a lot of butter sandwiches because my mother would let us butter our breads warm from the oven. I didn't realize what a treat that was until I didn't have it anymore.

Yes, I can bake bread but it's just not the same. I had 4 brothers making us a family of 7 and also tons of aunts and uncles, cousins, neighbors and others that might happen by, so bread making went on all the time, so it was almost always fresh and delicious.

 

[Kirby]

I am also really worried about my elderly friend and I can’t get in touch with her. Unfortunate timing of her accident where we were going away. We each left messages on the other’s phone but didn’t connect. And now she’s out of the hospital and gone to rehab and I can’t find her! The hospital can’t tell me where she went, and apparently she doesn’t have her cell phone with her. I called several rehabs in our area and she’s not there, so I don’t know where she is and can’t get back to her. She left me two messages (that just about broke my heart) and I left her two, but she has no way of hearing mine. I might try to go by her apartment complex today to see if I can find anyone who knows where she is. Apparently she broke both of her legs in the fall she took, and one side was especially bad, requiring complex surgery. It pains me to think of that happening to her, and what it means for her future. She will not be able to go back to her living situation alone if it’s deemed unsafe and I know that will be devastating to her. I’d broached the subject of assisted living with her recently and she’d said she couldn‘t afford it. I’m hoping if I can find her that I can help support her in some decision making and advocate for her however I can. I would still love to be able to try to get her into some sort of assisted living situation as opposed to a skilled care facility. Please keep her in your prayers, she needs them.

I hope that you find her and that she is in good care. While I knew where my mom was when she went into rehab after a stroke, I wasn't able to visit her until her two weeks quarantine was up due to their Covid protocol. The last time I saw her in the hospital, she was fully functioning, could walk by herself, feed herself, get out of bed, etc. and by the time I was finally able to visit her, she had had at least one more stroke and they hadn't paid attention because she went in as a stroke patient. She was past rehab at that point and was phased into the nursing home part of the facility. They took good care of her but she was never the same after that.

A friend of mine texted me earlier this morning to let me know that another friend's dad passed away this morning. He had brain cancer. I felt bad for her because his Facebook posts were always so positive that the chemo was working, took a bad turn last week. I was expecting this to happen, my dad had brain cancer and it just goes so quick.

So sad, praying for that family.

Was watching the Bengals game last night against the Buffalo Bills when one of the Bills players went down from cardiac arrest. He's at our medical center now in critical condition and they postponed the game.

DH was watching the game and saw it happen. He tried to tell me but I misunderstood and didn't find out until this morning what actually went down. Prayers for him and his family. Life is so short.

Today is the day or it may not be. DD's ex sent a threatening email to her that if she wasn't at the airport to pick up the kids at noon, then he would keep them and assume she was abandoning them. Her attorney has sent his attorney an email about it and we'll see what happens. Update: As I'm typing this I received a phone call from DD. Her attorney is in court today but had one of his associates contact DD and said that she should go pick up the kids at the airport because he now considers her ex a flight risk. Either DH or I will accompany her so she won't be alone.

 

[lynxstch]

@Kirby --Extra prayers said..that guy is total scum..karma will get him sooner or later.

 

[tazdev3225]

Good Morning.

Rainy day here and I am back to my normal routine with the kids.

@Kirby - I am so sorry your daughter is going through this. Is it possible for the local police to be there when your daughter gets the kids? I know that can happen here. My husband said she should have had custodial interference filed against him with the police if your daughter has primary custody. I feel for you all because we went through some of that with my son's ex years ago. She actually had the police come to my swim club to get my grandson on my son's custody day because he wasn't with me and accused me of kidnapping. Thankfully I wasn't arrested but it was a nightmare. Prayers that you get the grandkids back without any problems and I hope her lawyer goes after him in court.

Still working on trying to straighten out my pictures since I am missing a few memory cards and some pics are on CD's. The data recovery place is now saying at least another month to get any recovery. I am to a point of canceling it all together and hoping for the best. I will lose some pictures that were from my phones but I can live with that. Compared to what some of you are going through it seems rather trivial.

New Year's was nice although I didn't get to see LJ. I did miss him as I don't see him as often as I would like.

I finally got some pictures loaded on to the computer so here is my daughter and her boys in New York


This is Ben, Beth, Wyatt and Anthony. We didn't get the Yankees hat there, Wyatt wanted all Yankees for Christmas. We are not sure where he came from as the entire family are Phillies fans. I told him I can tolerate the Yankees as I get him old time Yankees, but I will NOT get anything for the NY Giants. We are Eagles fans. He laughed and is happy with the Yankee stuff.

I don't like the new version of Windows so I need to go on an older computer to post Lancaster. I can't save a copy just change the picture which I don't want to do at the moment. I did get Wyatt his birthday present there because he saw a Yankees Greats plaque that he HAD to have. I let him choose which one but he doesn't get it til his birthday in a couple of weeks.

Have a nice day all.

 

[easyas123]

Much the latter.

Thanks for the explanation. I figured it was as such, but I like to hear about it and how it's handled from different prospectives.
Yeah - you've got to avoid the bike week(s) and the annoying coffee can car week, but that is easy enough. You guys should plan a trip, something to look forward to!

I know in time those memories will bring joy instead of hard they are now.

I can't imagine how difficult this time must be, I'm so sorry.

DD is wound up tighter than a drum.

I bet, she must be working hard to hold herself together. Good luck to her today. What a *** this guy is being, not just to her but to his own kids!

Yes, I can bake bread but it's just not the same.

I WISH I could get a handle on bread baking, I just can't seem to master it. I recall my grandmother making bread, seemed second nature to her. But not me. I've tried & tried, best I can do is buy frozen dough, thaw it and bake it.


Good morning. Back on the road in a bit for the afternoon. Gloomy outside, but I think it's supposed to be very mild again, in the mid-60's. I think we are due rain overnight and/or tomorrow.

I made my travel arrangements today for my work trips in March- one of which my husband will accompany me to, of course it's the nice location so we built in a extra day or two to enjoy the area. So that gives me one trip in Feb, and 2 in March. I would be traveling for 3 weeks in March, but I decided to skip the Las Vegas convention.

Made a meatloaf last night, wasn't bad. I used 1 lb. of ground turkey and 1 lb. of ground venison plus the usual seasoning and whatnot. Served it with butter noodles & a salad. Not sure about this evening's meal - might be leftovers or something simple.

Have a good day everyone.

 

[Snowysmom]

@Kirby Your DD's ex is the lowest of the low. It just seems like he must have been planning this for a while. It just seems so planned out. Since she filed a police report will they follow up at all? Glad you or your DH will be going with her to pick up the kids.

@Pea-n-Me I hope you can find where you friend is. It sounds like she needs some support and assistance. I know you will help her however you can. Assisted living is better than a nursing home for sure so I hope that ends up being viable for her. Let us know how it goes. Grief is something this society does not do well. Some people get very nervous and even angry around grief and grieving people. I am sorry you encountered some of this when you lost your Dad. I found that out when I lost my Mom. And of course now with losing Chris I find some people just want me to over it and move along and be fine. That is just not going to happen so just get out of my way and leave me alone. I am sure you appreciated the people who did support you through your grief as do I. They are so kind.

Kenny took his kids snow tubing yesterday. The videos are fun. They had such a good time. Kenny and Jeff are both great Dads. They do lots of things with the kids and help them in so many ways. They learned from the best Dad they could have had, Chris. I keep telling them that they are channeling Chris and being the same loving, caring Dad.

 

[PollyannaMom]

Today is the day or it may not be. DD's ex sent a threatening email to her that if she wasn't at the airport to pick up the kids at noon, then he would keep them and assume she was abandoning them. Her attorney has sent his attorney an email about it and we'll see what happens. Update: As I'm typing this I received a phone call from DD. Her attorney is in court today but had one of his associates contact DD and said that she should go pick up the kids at the airport because he now considers her ex a flight risk. Either DH or I will accompany her so she won't be alone.

I generally don't comment much on this situation because it's just so incomprehensible to me how a parent can do that. But my thoughts are with you and I hope the kids are back safely today!

With any luck, your DD's lawyer can use this latest awful mess to remove any last shred of their dad's claim to whatever custody agreement he's continually violating, and the kids (and your whole family) can finally have some peace.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Good Tuesday afternoon dear friends from chilly LA,

Thankful so very much extra to God that the mostly held off while dad did laundry and went to Ralph's earlier. He's safely home for the rest of the day. Tomorrow morning, he will go to Best Buy to hopefully return the . Then once that is taken care, we'll order from Target the Asus--thank you Snowysmom again for your Asus assurance. I am so glad yours is working well for you!

Snowysmom, please stay bundled up and warm! I truly do pray you are able to meet the real estate for while discussing options. That sounds like a friendly way to meet her without the upfront stress of jumping right into looking at new condos. and reminder of how much all of us care!

Pea, extra hug to you as well and prayers indeed for your friend! It is so heartbreaking when someone we care for may no longer be safe living at home. I well remember being in that place with my grandma. Thank you always for being such a loving and kind friend, advocate and healthcare provider to all blessed to meet you. Thank you for trusting in us to share about your own grief experiences. Like all of our Quacker family, you are such a courageous lady!

I was almost 17 when my grandpa died completely out of the blue. Grandpa was someone who other than issues at times with his feet and one hernia surgery that I remember, never (or rarely to my memory) got sick. His heart was pure kind and as I have shared previously as an adult, I have realized he was my first witness to Christ in how he chose to live. Anyway, I remember being so thankful one April Wednesday afternoon because at last I was on Spring break for a long weekend. Within a couple hours of my being at home, grandma received a call from a local hospital about my grandpa. Without any warning he had suffered a fatal heart attack at a Thrifty’s (now Rite Aid) while in the pain reliever aisle. Apparently, he was looking for chest pain medication. I was stunned and didn’t at that time grieve too deeply. I was also trying my best to be of support to my grandma and dad, of course, too. It wasn’t until my second semester of college when the grief hit. At that time, I was also finding my way through moving on from parts of my childhood. God absolutely placed many different caring people in my path during those years. I ended up taking that second semester off from classes and started fresher that Fall. I was so blessed indeed.

Dementia is a cruel disease and was a slower moving decline for grandma. By the Grace of God again and forever, all Glory and thanks to Him no matter what, during her last few days, dad and I did get to have some closure. I will never forget showing grandma some pictures of my two year old preschool class and that she absolutely looked at them. Later during that visit she also enjoyed some applesauce. It was a couple days afterwards when in my heart I felt greater peace and was able to encourage my beloved grandma to go be with God and Grandpa, Champ, if He was calling her to do so. It was okay. That evening grandma went Home to God’s everlasting care. Dad and I absolutely missed her tremendously! Grandma was and always will be the mom to me. That grief experience was very different than with grandpa or even with our dog Champ who also passed away with not much warning.

There is indeed no one way to grieve, dear friends. When you are extra blessed to have angels placed upon your path or to be an angel for someone else, both truly are miracles from God above, Who of course, loves and is with you forever. He will never, ever let you go!

PollyannaMom. ITA that extra light makes such a difference on rainy or darker days. I’m truly grateful what you use helps you.

What an awful Best Buy experience, dear Lynn, I’m so sorry that happened to you, my friend. I will let all of you know how dad does when he brings back the laptop tomorrow. Take a day off and just get in some extra R&R! Extra to you on your Ex FIL.

Big Footballmouse on your dad and indeed prayers for your friend. Cancer is just horrible anyway you look at it. I absolutely pray for its end one day to come, God-willing. Prayers for the Bills player for sure, dad mentioned to me he had seen that on the news last night, so sad Thank you for the care you also give to all you meet including your aunt!

What a wonderful memory, Judique. God Bless your mom. Baked goods fresh out for the oven are just the best and offer such comfort, too. I pray you and your family do have happy memories of those times.

Easyas, how wonderful your husband will be able to join you on a work trip to somewhere nice. That is an extra blessing indeed. How is your car shopping going? I do truly hope you find a new vehicle that works well for you, my friend

Wishing all of you a warm and good afternoon. I'll check back later.

 

[footballmouse]

How is Princess Mia doing?

She's doing good, her premie sized clothes are getting a little snug .

 

[lynxstch]

She's doing good, her premie sized clothes are getting a little snug .

She is beautiful!!

 

[dazedx3]

I’m glad that today is almost over, it was very hard. I had an appointment at the cancers center, one of the nurses called me in for my appt. And she sat and cried with me. She was very fond of Kris and said the news hit her hard. It was time to fill out the mental health questionnaire, I think I failed.

I then went to return his wheelchair, talked to the man there and told him what happened. I thanked him and explained how the wheelchair helped Kris to attend our daughter’s wedding.

Then I went to the funeral home and picked of my husband’s ashes. I came home and ugly cried most of the afternoon. This is not something I would wish on my worst enemy.

 

[PollyannaMom]

I’m glad that today is almost over, it was very hard. I had an appointment at the cancers center, one of the nurses called me in for my appt. And she sat and cried with me. She was very fond of Kris and said the news hit her hard. It was time to fill out the mental health questionnaire, I think I failed.

I then went to return his wheelchair, talked to the man there and told him what happened. I thanked him and explained how the wheelchair helped Kris to attend our daughter’s wedding.

Then I went to the funeral home and picked of my husband’s ashes. I came home and ugly cried most of the afternoon. This is not something I would wish on my worst enemy.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Mia is so precious!

Dazed

 

[easyas123]

I’m glad that today is almost over, it was very hard.

My God, what a incredibly difficult day for you. So much in such a short period of time.

 

[bobbiwoz]

She is beautiful!!

She certainly is!

 

[Breezy_Carol]

Good evening.

I, surprisingly, slept until 8:15 this morning. I had to be at church at 10, with Jack, to help take down Christmas decorations. I worked on that until 12 when I had to sit at the Welcome Center. Jack and the other 3 worked until 1. I came home and regrouped before going to yoga.

Was watching the Bengals game last night against the Buffalo Bills when one of the Bills players went down from cardiac arrest.

That was scary. And the player is so young. I hope he recovers.

Today is the day or it may not be. DD's ex sent a threatening email

Kirby, I have nothing the add. The ex is a total jerk. I hope the kids are home soon.

Wyatt wanted all Yankees for Christmas. We are not sure where he came from as the entire family are Phillies fans.

Sounds like my brother. We grew up in Baltimore and my Dad was an Orioles fan. Somehow my brother wanted to be a Yankees fan. Now he lives in CT and is a Red Sox fan.

I recall my grandmother making bread

Me too. When my grandmother, who died when I was 8, would come to stay with us she would make potato bread. I remember coming home from school and she would have bread rising in every pan my mother had. At least that is what I remember. The bread was a more yellow color and smelled and tasted so good.

@Pea-n-Me I hope you can find where you friend is.

Agreed. How hard not to know where she is.

She's doing good.

Mia looks good. What a nice picture.

I’m glad that today is almost over,

dazed. A rough day for sure