Poll: Japanese First Date

[dsneprincess]

I like the red dress and the last cardigan, but not sure what I would put with the cardigan beyond jeans.

TBH, I am probably the very LAST person you want fashion advice, though, as I am not really known for great style.

I hope you have fun! (ps- i also don't eat exotic, but I do like hibachi chicken!)

 

[goofyintoronto]

No, Belle.....now ya got me thinking. I am wondering if a dress is being too dressy....I COULD do a nice jeans outfit. Sadly, the only nice jeans I have are capris. But...maybe I could put together a little something different.

Thats what i was going to say. The dresses might be too dressy. I would go with jeans, but since you dont have jeans, you'll have to get creative with something else, or just wear a dress. For the record, I like the green one. The red dress for example is too dressy i think.

Honestly, I think the red dress might be a little dressy, but the green one is great. If he ends up wearing jeans or cargo pants or something, the green dress would still look fine, but the red might make him feel like he didn't dress up enough?

Keep in mind, I tend to way over-think things. Just wear what you feel the prettiest in and that will be the best bet.

Yes, i totally agree.

 

[Straitlover]

The red dress is cute, but I think it would come across as Valentine-y on a date right at Valentine's Day. I know you mentioned something about Valentine's and awkwardness in your OP, so I figured I'd mention it.

 

[iheartnmr's]

Oh for goodness sake. It's a first date. You're making way too much out of this. If he likes you, he'll like you regardless of what you are wearing. As long as you are groomed, the clothes won't matter much. He's a guy.

For those making jokes about sex, this girl is so emotionally not ready for sex, even at 31. If he even kisses her, she'll automatically assume they are in an exclusive relationship.

Just enjoy the dinner for what it is. A guy and a girl out for dinner. Don't read too much into anything. Let it happen in it's own time. He may call you again, he may not, even if everything goes well. It's the nature of dating.

 

[krcit]

I know it's too late for tonight's dress but for future dates, I'd like to make a suggestion that you get a pair or 2 of nice dark wash jeans. Find some pretty tops, Lane Bryant usually has some cute ones. Also Kohls does too. Pair the jeans with cute top and some cute flats and you have a great date look. For the spring and summer, some cute casual dresses would work too. Good luck tonight. Have fun!

 

[cabanafrau]

I agree with the recommendation upthread that you work on building a basic wardrobe of staples. You can then work with those basics and mix in pieces more on trend with what's happening at the moment so your wardrobe doesn't look dated. If you work on building the basics you can get quite a few years out of them so you're not spending piles of $ only to ditch it next year because it's out of fashion already.

Some stores have staff that can help you pull looks together if that idea doesn't come naturally to you. A lot of them are good at directing you to shapes and colors that flatter your figure and skin/hair color.

I'd also ask you to consider whether your sister and friends are merely responding to you in the way they always have and continue to do so because you haven't changed how you behave with them. They may begin responding to you differently if you interact with them as you wish to be now. That kind of thing is really difficult in family relationships especially. It seems in families everyone has their role to play and it's very difficult to break out of the part of naive ingenue if they still treat you that way. If you present yourself as a mature woman, eventually they'll adjust.

p.s. The plaid "flats"? Those are kind of tennis shoe like to me, not appropriate for a first date dinner date to be paired with a dress, particularly in that condition. It looks to me you are in need of a wardrobe makeover from what you've posted, even just for social events with friends and family. It may be kind of shallow sounding, but if you get out there and start picking up compliments on the cute skirt, the pretty top, etc. you'll feel more confident and that will show.

 

[skatalite]

The OP:

 

[mmackeymouse]

Thanks....I actually have a ton of clothes, a whole closet full of work clothes that are very nice.

But...I was just trying to stay comfortable. Most of my work/church clothes are tight and/or itchy and/or would require me wearing undergarments that I would be pulling and tugging at or poking me (dang you, underwires!)

T-Minus 5 hours. Just trying to stay chill.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I'm sure you'll look great.

Did you tell us where you met this guy?

 

[wishesuponastar]

Have a great time!! It's so exciting to go on a date.

 

[cabanafrau]

Thanks....I actually have a ton of clothes, a whole closet full of work clothes that are very nice.

But...I was just trying to stay comfortable. Most of my work/church clothes are tight and/or itchy and/or would require me wearing undergarments that I would be pulling and tugging at or poking me (dang you, underwires!)

T-Minus 5 hours. Just trying to stay chill.

So do you mean your job requires you to be dressed X and on your downtime you really prefer to just let your hair down and be relaxed? I get that.

I don't like to be super fussy dressed all the time either, but generally most adult social situations tend to require at least business casual dress. Not to say you couldn't wind up in a relationship where you're breaking out the shorts and tennis shoes because you both love bike riding or decide to train for a 5k together or something. But even if you've been married since dinosaurs roamed the earth, most couples primp a bit for dinner out.

 

[anniemae]

Sooooooo, what outfit did you decide on? Can you post a pic for us?

 

[NHdisneylover]

So do you mean your job requires you to be dressed X and on your downtime you really prefer to just let your hair down and be relaxed? I get that.

I don't like to be super fussy dressed all the time either, but generally most adult social situations tend to require at least business casual dress. Not to say you couldn't wind up in a relationship where you're breaking out the shorts and tennis shoes because you both love bike riding or decide to train for a 5k together or something. But even if you've been married since dinosaurs roamed the earth, most couples primp a bit for dinner out.

Yep. I think I mentioned upthread that I curled my hair, wore a dress and did my make up for dinner out with my husband of nearly 18 years last night

 

[Cupcakey78]

Not that you need my advice. but my go to 'first date' outfit is a LBD (little black dress) with a denim jacket, and a cute scarf. I wear either heels, wedges, or flats depending on where we are going, time of year, etc.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Thanks....I actually have a ton of clothes, a whole closet full of work clothes that are very nice.

But...I was just trying to stay comfortable. Most of my work/church clothes are tight and/or itchy and/or would require me wearing undergarments that I would be pulling and tugging at or poking me (dang you, underwires!)

T-Minus 5 hours. Just trying to stay chill.

I hope you have an awesome time!

For the future:

I think the point was that you are missing some of the basics that would be comfortable, like jeans that fit well nad basic solid colored shirts and flats. You ought to have things you can wear out and out of work that are comfy and also nice looking and weather appropriate, and you seem pretty limited in that.

and honestly, I know buying a whole new wardrobe is probably not in teh budget (who has that kind of cash?!) but properly fitted decent quality work clothes shouldn't be uncomfortable or itchy or poking you, etc. It really sounds to me like you could benefit from working with a sale person and a quality store who can help fit you properly (and ignore the number in the tag, jsut go for proper fit, which does not mean it will go on, but that it lays properly when it does) and quality materials.

 

[nym4588]

The OP:

I can relate to that last one.

 

[skatalite]

I can relate to that last one.

Me, too.

I remember trying to look good for some girls one time, while at the lake, and I walked right off the pier. Straight out of a comedy, I swear.

 

[nym4588]

Me, too.

I remember trying to look good for some girls one time, while at the lake, and I walked right off the pier. Straight out of a comedy, I swear.

LOL! The other day I was reading an article about a tourist who fell off a pier in Sydney because she was checking FB on her phone. It took awhile for her to be fished out, and she managed to keep her phone dry the entire time.

 

[skatalite]

LOL! The other day I was reading an article about a tourist who fell off a pier in Sydney because she was checking FB on her phone. It took awhile for her to be fished out, and she managed to keep her phone dry the entire time.

That takes some skill.

 

[nym4588]

Thanks....I actually have a ton of clothes, a whole closet full of work clothes that are very nice.

But...I was just trying to stay comfortable. Most of my work/church clothes are tight and/or itchy and/or would require me wearing undergarments that I would be pulling and tugging at or poking me (dang you, underwires!)

T-Minus 5 hours. Just trying to stay chill.

I don't understand. Does your job require formal wear? If not, then your closet full of clothes shouldn't be itchy, uncomfortable, and tight. It's a sign that they're the wrong size and/or cheaply made. Hence the need for a wardrobe makeover.

It would really make you feel better, and imagine the stress of not having to panic each time you're required to come up with an outfit.

I've shopped at Lane Bryant, and I'll echo what others have said. The clothes are well made, and they're modern without being too trendy. I've never had a bad sales experience there because the employees have always been incredibly helpful, especially when it comes to putting together outfits. If you're anything like me, sometimes a little help is necessary in that department.