Pics of Expecting TEEN DD and me!

[PhotobearSam]

Just wanted to say that March 30th is a great day to be born...and I should know

Intelligent, gorgeous, funny and strong women are born on that day. I hope all goes well till she gives birth...I know you will be a great grandfather...it seems you are already a pretty good DAD

 

[delswife]

Kirk,

I thought I'd share a photo of the baby I had when I was the SAME AGE as your daughter.

Congrats to you and your very blessed family.

Your daughter is beautiful and very, very lucky to have you as a father.

 

[Tiggeroo]

What you guys have to remember is there is a public and private discussion. If I am disappointed in something my kids do we will discuss it. There may even be consequences for the behavior. But when the repent, I love them and help them get thru the tough consequences. And in public I'll always support my kids. Same with my other family members.

 

[DocRafiki]

Originally posted by JenBlaze
You seriously need to think about your responses in a situation like this. Is she too young? Yeah. So was I, at 19. But your attitude is going to do NOTHING constructive.

... except to point out to young people who might be reading that it's NOT ok to get knocked up when you're a teenager, contrary to the message of this entire thread, which just tells teens that there really are no bad consequences to teen pregnancy since no one has regrets and everyone turned out so well in the end.

 

[Tiggeroo]

which just tells teens that there really are no bad consequences to teen pregnancy since no one has regrets and everyone turned out so well in the end.

Well, let's see.You have to leave your baby with a sitter while you go to school. You don't really get to hang out with your friends at nights or in the summer very much, because you have a baby. I would think that for most guys in a suburban, middle class neighborhood, a young mom might not make the best girlfriend material.
College? if you can do it it will be community college at night, and maybe the local state school while you live at home and work part time.
No matter how great your parents are, there will be tension about who is really raising the baby. Not being able to make your own decisions on what to buy the child, because you're just a kid and alot of the money really comes from your parents. There are plenty of negative consequences that come from having a baby while you're young, even with the most supportive parents. The teens who will see this and know it the most are the friends of the young mom.

 

[Kimickey]

Kirk,

First Congratulations on your new family addition!!!

I just wanted to say babies are blessings sent to us from God no matter what age. A baby concieved is not a mistake. Quick thought I just want to share. I got pregnant at the age of 19 had DD when I was 20. I also got married one week before she was born. I'm now 26 STILL married and just had our second baby, a baby boy December 4, 2003 No I was not happy at all with my first child, but guess what, I had a little chat with God and was assured everything was going to be alright. Sometimes things are just out of our control and are going to happen no matter what, but we learn to adapt and overcome. DD and DS are two of the most happiest children in the world. They want for nothing! If I had to do it all over again yes I would. I love being a mother and would not trade this job in for the world. The support you give your daughter is the best gift you can ever give her. Yes, it's still a shock now but once you look into that baby boy or girls eyes, that shock will quickly turn into overwhelming love and joy and the tears will flow. Congratulations, I wish, you your DD, the baby and the baby's father the best of luck!

 

[Disneyland_emily]

First off fun pics and congrats to your family--


Now my 2 cents towards this conversation- I also got a young start to the whole parenthood thing when I was 14 and had triplets (however mine was not by choice- but thats a whole other story- If you want to know the whole story feel free to PM me) For some people having kids young is a wonderful thing and they do an absolutly wonderful job, yes its a huge change but I wouldnt have changed it for the world- I dont regret missing out on alot of jr high and high school things. I had the blessing of a wonderful support system and a few wonderful teachers- but it is a huge responsiability that I dont wish on most. I had a trial by fire version of raising kids where not much was "picture perfect" from losing two of my triplets soon after birth and having the other diagnosed with leukemia, fighting a couragious battle and becoming an angel all before her 5th birthday, to losing my youngest in a car accident. And that I dont wish that on anyone especially those that are still kids themselves..

Do I recommend having kids young? no- but everything happens for a reason- and you have to make the best of what you have. I have been incredibly blessed and I dont regret a moment of it (but I wish my kids were still around) Do I think all young parents should keep their kids and not put them up for adoption? No- I think and hope that the parents make the best decision for the child instead of what they want. But thats another soapbox for another day. A child deserves the best they can get. The world is a rough enough place to not have a stable and loving home. If the young parents can provide that the more power to them.

I know none of that made any bit of sense but alas take it for what you wish.

-em

 

[4greatboys]

Originally posted by DocRafiki
... except to point out to young people who might be reading that it's NOT ok to get knocked up when you're a teenager, contrary to the message of this entire thread, which just tells teens that there really are no bad consequences to teen pregnancy since no one has regrets and everyone turned out so well in the end.

I didnt see anywhere it said its okay for teens to go get knocked up However--when and if--you ever have kids I think you will discover they do NOT always do what their parents would like them to do. People do, and will continue to, make mistakes. The message that most are sending is in a case like this whats done is done and the best thing he can do is be there to support his dd. If this happened with one of my ds no I'm pretty sure I wouldnt be thrilled but one part of making mistakes is learning by them and not making them again. Im also very confident that if one of my sons read this thread he would not leave thinking the message here is teen pregnancy is okay and go right out and do it since it will all turn out well.

 

[MICKEY88]

Originally posted by DocRafiki
... except to point out to young people who might be reading that it's NOT ok to get knocked up when you're a teenager, contrary to the message of this entire thread, which just tells teens that there really are no bad consequences to teen pregnancy since no one has regrets and everyone turned out so well in the end.

rather harsh...why is it if a 30 yr old married woman is in the same way....she's pregnant, and it's a beautiful thing and she is special,,,but because it's a teenage girl, she's knocked up and it's terrible...that's very judgemental and wrong...

I for one thank God that Kirk is this young ladies father and not any of the people who are casting out negative comments....

he is handling things in a very mature and loving way

 

[MICKEY88]

Originally posted by DocRafiki
... except to point out to young people who might be reading that it's NOT ok to get knocked up when you're a teenager, contrary to the message of this entire thread, which just tells teens that there really are no bad consequences to teen pregnancy since no one has regrets and everyone turned out so well in the end.

if any teenager is reading this thread and forming their opinion on teen pregnancy based on what is said here....it's time for their parents to disconnect the internet and spend some quality time with their children, and start parenting...because they obviously are not doing their job..

 

[hawke]

Originally posted by DocRafiki
... except to point out to young people who might be reading that it's NOT ok to get knocked up when you're a teenager, contrary to the message of this entire thread, which just tells teens that there really are no bad consequences to teen pregnancy since no one has regrets and everyone turned out so well in the end.

OK, Doc, since you're so smart, could you take a moment to answer my question? I'm a little confused .. so it's NOT ok to have a baby, but it IS ok to be a nasty, negative person?

 

[Planogirl]

-em, you have an incredibly positive outlook. Thanks for sharing your perspective.

Kirk, congratulations on your upcoming grandbaby. However, whenever... This is very special and I hope that you'll post pictures.

 

[goofy4tink]

Kirk...I have to say that you are a most special dad. Not every dad would handle this 'less than desirable' situation with the grace and love you seem to have. Was it a 'smart move' on the part of his dd? No, probably not. But, most of us make some not so great choices. I've made my fair share, that's for sure. Life will not be easy for these kids, bringing up a baby. But, with a good support system they'll do fine. It won't be easy giving up a lot of those fun teen-age things but that's life. We make choices. So, when you say that we may be giving the wrong idea about 'gettting knocked up', no I don't think so. Is it desirable? No, of course not. You make some huge sacrifices. As does your family if you're lucky. So, Kirk, on behalf of this precious unborn baby, thank-you for being there for your dd and her child. I stand in awe of you. Hope that I could have made the same choice if faced with it.

 

[poohandwendy]

except to point out to young people who might be reading that it's NOT ok to get knocked up when you're a teenager, contrary to the message of this entire thread, which just tells teens that there really are no bad consequences to teen pregnancy since no one has regrets and everyone turned out so well in the end.

LOL, yeah teens are always looking to message boards to decide whether or not pregnancy is a viable option or not....paahhlleease....

To the OP,

Good luck to you and your family. Your daughter is fortunate to have a compassionate and supportive father. Those things alone increases her likelyhood to succeed, in all that she does, a thousand fold.

 

[Lorix2]

Kirk, I know you have alot of special moments coming your way and your DD does too, of course. Your support means everything right now. I wish they were more dads like you out there.

Can I just add though to the poster who used the phrase "knocked up", I think this choice of words was uncalled for, cheap and ugly. The word is "pregnant".

 

[believe]

Kirk....you are being wonderful supporting your daughter. I am sure this wasn't the future you had planned for her but things happen and you are making the best of it.

As I read the responses my thoughts went to...does age really determine the outcome of the child. My brother became a father while in high school and is a wonderful father. His teen sons are typical teens, but good kids. My sister became a mother in her 20's and is having many difficulties with her children, not the best mother. Actually her daughter is getting ready to go to juvenile detention. Try not to focus on the age, but the reality of the situation and the future of this child.

Enjoy your grandchild...every moment!

 

[bumcat]

I use to do volunteer work with pregnant teens. The ones that had the family support had a better chance of having their baby grow up without lots of self esteem problems. The teens that did not have the family support were at risk for raising kids that would have a very low self esteem. Why? because the pregnant teen had such a low self esteem. Kids that grow up with low self esteem end up with alcohol/drug issues and many other problems. It then effects all of us when that child gets older.
I do not think anyone here is trying to say it's great and wonderful to get pregnant so young. What they are doing is being SUPPORTIVE of a situation that can not be changed.

Here's a line I use when a parent gets very angry that their teen is pregnant. I tell them if you did not have sex as a teen then I understand you being angry but if you had sex as a teen and were one of the lucky ones that did not get pregnant or get anyone pregnant then you have no right to get so angry somewhat angry yes but not crazy angry. It shuts them up every time.

 

[always quiet]

Congratulations to both the Mom-to-Be and the GRANDPA-to-Be!! Your DD is so lucky to have such a great support system!

Now, let's get onto the question that I know ALL of us want to ask - Are you going to help with diaper duty??!!

Not to cause you any panic, but my first born was due on April 16th - next Monday (March 1st), he will be blowing out 14 candles!! Be ready at a moments notice from here on out!!

 

[damo]

Can we have a baby shower on the DISboards?

 

[browneyes]

Congrats to you and your dd. My dd's birthday is March 29th, maybe your dd will have Katrina that day.

Good luck to all of you.