I've never used the N word. Even when trying to convey a story about when somebody else said the N word. I just can't get it to come out of my mouth. It feels so dirty, hateful, ignorant and wrong.
There isn't a defense for the use of the word.
I am totally with you. I am not saying I've never used it, as I may have repeated it before I realized what it was. But, now, even if I am reading something out loud or repeating a story, I say "the n word." I can't bring myself to say it.
That said, my problem with it, is this is a very dangerous precedent. I mean, if everyone can be judged over saying a word or something 20, 30, 40 years ago, who among us would be exempt?
The person who runs the local exterminator's business used to call me "Cat licker" every day on the bus. Should he be judged as "anti Catholic" now, all these years later? I don't think so, no.
If you don't listen to hip hop or Jamie Foxx JayZ types you can avoid it, though. I don't even know a song by them.
Plus, so much music is dubbed and edited...music is very explicit nowadays. Just because you may not hear it, doesn't mean anything...they are playing an edited version on the radio.
Sadly, it is to the point where I automatically add "clean version" to any song I am looking for. I could be looking for "The Wheels on the Bus" and I would probably instinctively add "clean version."
I'm guessing you're one of those people who also asks "Why isn't there a WHITE history month?"
We should celebrate without regard to race.
Black history month and other months are more than imperfect solutions, I believe they keep racism alive. I don't think a persons race should even be mentioned unless its somehow pertinent to the lesson being taught, this is the same as hyphenated Americans, your american or your not. The sooner people stop recognizing separated months and groups the sooner it'll be a lesson in history.
Couldn't have said it any better myself. I yearn for a post-racial society, but I doubt I will see it in my lifetime. People like Jesse Owens, George Washington Carver, and Daniel Hale Williams, weren't just great black Americans. They were great Americans, period. It is sad to me that they only seem to be honored during "Black History Month" and quite frankly, when people mention their race, it makes me cringe, because it makes me feel like they are being reduced to their race, which in my mind is no better than negative racism.
A couple of examples: the other day I was talking about Star Trek...now, when I grew up watching ST, I never saw Lt Uhura as some transcendent figure in history. Likewise, I never saw here as "just the black lady that answered the space phone" as some people did/do. I never saw her as anything other than just another crew member on the Enterprise. I loved her and she kicked butt, but her race
never figured into what I thought about her. For some people, it does.
Another thing: President Obama. To me, I don't look at him as a black President. To me, he is just the President. Now, many other people view him as a black President, for better for worse. Some people don't like him because he is black. Other people
only like him because he is black. To me, both are equally wrong, as both reduce the man to the color of his skin, like I said, for better or for worse.
A friend of mine wouldn't watch The West Wing, because there were no people of color on the Senior Staff (despite arguably the most powerful person in the military, the chairman of the Joint Chiefs being a black man). The exact words were that they would not watch a show about "a bunch of white guys." To me, that is every bit as racist as the racism they were claiming about the show.
Like I said, some people just aren't there yet. I hoped that the election of President Obama would accelerate the path toward a post-racial society, but so far, that has not been the case.
Technically, that hasn't happened to anyone's daddy, unless they are a hundred and fifty years old.
To someone's ancestors, yes it did happen. And not just to blacks, Read about the Mormon Execution Order which wasn't officially rescinded until 1976. Japanese Internment camps- and there you will find peoplebwho are still alive today who's "daddy's" were dragged out of bed. History is alive with unjustice. The difference is if you continue to let it define you.
Just chiming in....The n word is not only used in the hip hop world, it is used every single day by black youths in conversation with each other. It is okay for black youths to call whites numerous names & each other the n word. I hear it every single day in the public school setting.
Yes, I can attest to that. I have seen and heard it repeatedly. I have actually heard a white person use it to call another white person.
No offense, but one example in a 300 year history? Are you kidding?
It is not a competition, nor should we be comparing.
I would never ever belittle the horror that other people's ancestors went through, whether they be black, Jewish, Japanese, Native Americans...
Torture is torture. Racism is racism. Death is death. It is absolutely wrong when it happens to anyone. And don't fool yourself: it has happened to every ethnicity, every religion, every nationality.