OT I need to vent

[glenpreece]

Ok so my bff (my hag lol) has broken up with her bf for the umteenth time and I hope it really is the last time.

He treats her terribly, puts her down, only calls her for sex etc. She has such low self esteem cause of the family situatuion she comes from. I love her to death, we are just like wil and grace!!! I swear if I could go str8 it would be for her.

Anyways I just don't know what to do this time. Last year he didn't call her for 2 weeks over christmas and then new year's eve he calls her and makes all these excuses etc and there he is spending new year's with us at this party she was throwing. I was not happy to say the least but she then turned around and got mad at me because I was mad at him.

Like I said I love her to death and she deserves so much better. we live in such a small town it's hard to meet new people. Anybody gone through this with you "Grace"? Well she's built like Karen actually. LOL

Well atleast she is going to WDW in April so she has that to look forward to.

 

[TuckandStuiesMom]

No advice here; but she is one lucky lady to have such a good friend as you.

 

[LauraAnn630]

There is nothing you can do. I have the same problem with my best friend.
They have to realize they deserve better. Maybe they never will.

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

Tough stuff.
Be there. Be the rock. Drop a profound line every now and then, but don't lecture, don't recommend...
She's going to need you, and need you, and need you...

 

[ChrizJen]

Tough stuff.
Be there. Be the rock. Drop a profound line every now and then, but don't lecture, don't recommend...
She's going to need you, and need you, and need you...

Unfortunately, you're exactly right with this. I have a sister who's the same way. She's been in and out of so many bad, bad relationships with men, and she never seems to learn that she deserves better than that. Evey time she starts a new relationship, I just smile and hope that it's different this time around. But in my heart I always know that I'm going to end up on the phone with her at 2 am, listening to why it went wrong and how miserable she is. The sad part with my sister is that she has 3 beautiful young daughters who are dragged through the same mess with her every time. It scares me to think that they may grow up the same way because it's all they've ever known. I've always done my best to impart to each and every one of them that they are beautiful, smart, and worthy of love.

OP, the only advice we can give is to just be there. Unfortunately, this is just one of the things we deal with when we have needy friends (or relatives).
to you, and just hang in there.

 

[kingLouiethe1]

I used to have a friend that was very similar, and I just had no patience for it. I got to the point where I told her I just didn't want to hear her relationship troubles anymore if she was going to keep doing the same things over and over, and we were still friends after that. I'm very much a fix your life or stop complaining about it kind of person.

 

[glenpreece]

thanks everyone. so far so good she has actually said she thinks it's over this time , that it's been a long time coming and she knows it needs to end

 

[wallyb]

Anastasia Beaverhausen

 

[starann]

Anastasia Beaverhausen

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

I wish I had a Will.....sigh. Instead I have a Leo....well an overweight, not a doctor, would never cheat on me Leo.

 

[TuckandStuiesMom]

Anastasia Beaverhausen

I had to look that reference up... where the beaver lives... (salacious giggle)