Opinions on this school lunch matter

[va32h]

Except for the lunch ladies and the children in line behind you waiting to eat.

No way would I eat the school lunch. Since this thread is talking about parents who bring lunch to their children, why the heck would they be in the lunch line?

When I have lunch with my kids, I wait for my daughter or son outside the cafeteria, and walk in with their class. We go straight to the table and sit down - kids who bring lunch don't have to go through the line at all.

 

[java]

No way would I eat the school lunch. Since this thread is talking about parents who bring lunch to their children, why the heck would they be in the lunch line?

When I have lunch with my kids, I wait for my daughter or son outside the cafeteria, and walk in with their class. We go straight to the table and sit down - kids who bring lunch don't have to go through the line at all.

If you read the post above mine they specified standing in line.

 

[tw1nsmom]

I think people worry too much about what other people do.

We're allowed to eat with our children at their school. If we want to buy the lunch we need to call by 9am that morning to order it. I don't go in regularly, but I know people that do. DH and I did bring in McDonalds for the kids' birthday. We even brought a happy meal for another boy in DS's class whose birthday was the same day (we cleared it with his mom). They were tickled by it.

 

[corie161]

I'm the poster who said I wait in line with my kid, and really it doesn't take up but maybe 2 seconds of extra time for one person. The kids are brought to lunch by class, so it's not overflowing with kids the way it is.

I also stated that I'll go to lunch only if invited by them, and then only if I don't have other errands to run, or things to do. Generally I eat what the school offers, but if I don't care for it there is always the salad bar, which is in a completely seperate room. I think I've maybe been there a total of 3 times this school year. I do know some that come every week on a day that they have a different work schedule. Honestly I think that's maybe going overboard.

Our school encourages parents to come whenever they can, if it was discouraged it would be a completely different story.

My parents were those parents who couldn't get away from work very often to attend school functions and I missed having them there at times. I realize it wasn't their fault, but if I have the opportunity and it works into the schedule I will be there for my kids. They also know that I work and may not be able to get away to be at every function and they are ok with that. There is a happy medium.

 

[mickeyfan2]

The big question is if the kids wear uniforms is it ok to bring them in pizza?

 

[autumnbaby9]

The big question is if the kids wear uniforms is it ok to bring them in pizza?

Only if you buy the uniform at the dollar store and bring enough for the whole school.

 

[Southern4sure]

The big question is if the kids wear uniforms is it ok to bring them in pizza?

Not unless your wearing the same uniform...you dont want to offend anyone for any reason.

 

[MushyMushy]

I guess I put this into the what about people that can't make it to lunch? What if parents work far away and can't pop over for lunch(I don't but I am just saying) Now I do go in for special events- like the YEARLY lunch. I just think it is a little much. I am generally more like a helicopter parent than not but this seems like a little too much for me. I'll give my children some time to explore the social joys of the lunchroom alone.
Oh I am editing...
I just saw your kids ages and that changes my answer- Middle school and high school- go on in the more adult eyes the better!!!

What about parents who work and can't volunteer in the classroom? Or can't come to special events like concerts and plays during the day? Or orientations?

 

[java]

I'll say that you do whatever you want and really not my business. I will also say that when you talk about the special time with your child and friend when you bring something special- yes that's nice for them. It is not about offending anyone or being politically correct- it is about children's feelings. I guess I don't see the need to do this. I think it sets up opportunities for more children to be disappointed. The one and only time I did it ( before it got banned at our school) it really broke my heart to see a child crying because their mommy wasn't there. I don't worry about what other people are doing but I do have empathy for a childs feelings- not just my own child any child. I will agree to disagree on this one. I personally think it is a bad idea and excessive.

 

[java]

What about parents who work and can't volunteer in the classroom? Or can't come to special events like concerts and plays during the day? Or orientations?

Parents that work can take time off to attend "SPECIAL" events. It is turning every lunch into a special event that I have an issue with. And as for volunteering that is very different thing to give your time to an entire class vs. singling out a few for a special treat. I still don't see the need to do this IN SCHOOL. Why not pick them up after school and go to the park?

 

[MushyMushy]

Parents that work can take time off to attend "SPECIAL" events. It is turning every lunch into a special event that I have an issue with. And as for volunteering that is very different thing to give your time to an entire class vs. singling out a few for a special treat. I still don't see the need to do this IN SCHOOL. Why not pick them up after school and go to the park?

I don't think anyone here has said they go every single lunch or even every single week. I probably do it once every nine weeks.

And if I can make my daughter feel special in any way, shape or form in school, you can bet I'm going to. I only wish I could do it every single day for her. She has had the absolute worst year by being put in a class with no friends whatsoever. She's been extremely lonely, and any time one kid shows any interest in her at all, they get teased for it by the classroom clique.

I'm ready to kiss her substitute teacher. I'll probably hear about how unfair this is, but I really don't give a rat's you-know-what. The teacher started letting DD go sit at another table with her friend, who also has zero friends in her class. She's going to allow this for the rest of the school year.

Sometimes kids deserve a little special treatment.

 

[va32h]

Parents that work can take time off to attend "SPECIAL" events. It is turning every lunch into a special event that I have an issue with. And as for volunteering that is very different thing to give your time to an entire class vs. singling out a few for a special treat. I still don't see the need to do this IN SCHOOL. Why not pick them up after school and go to the park?

But wouldn't that break the hearts of children whose parents can't take them to the park or can't drive or have allergies that prohibit them from ever going to a park?

Where does it end? I don't have lunch with my kids to thumb my nose at all the kids whose parents do not have lunch with them. I do it because my children ask me to and whether I do it once, never, or every day shouldn't be anyone else's business if it is within school rules.

My daughter's two best friends come from homes where the parents are divorced. There are times when they have expressed envy and sadness that my daughter has parents who are still married. It broke my heart to see those children crying. Should I get a divorce to make those girls feel better?

 

[mickeyfan2]

The last year, near the end of school when she was in 5th grade, we visited our CI daughter at her school and we found out that we were only the third visitor that year. Two thirds of the kids in the school are in the CI program. So should we not visit because all of the other CI kids don't get a visitor? The school was very happy that we visited with her.

Now I feel even worse.

 

[meandtheguys2]

The last year, near the end of school when she was in 5th grade, we visited our CI daughter at her school and we found out that we were only the third visitor that year. Two thirds of the kids in the school are in the CI program. So should we not visit because all of the other CI kids don't get a visitor? The school was very happy that we visited with her.

Now I feel even worse.

Well, I'm going to admit my ignorance and ask what CI stands for.

 

[mickeyfan2]

Well, I'm going to admit my ignorance and ask what CI stands for.

It is a charity. Children, Inc.


Next time I will pay for every CI sponsor to fly in and buy the entire school pizza. There goes my retirement, but atleast no feelings were hurt.

 

[meandtheguys2]

Awww. Neat. thanks!

 

[Talking Hands]

When my girls were in school I ate with them frequently if I was working at their school. This happened even in high school. We enjoyed it. Now I get to eat with my husband as we sub in the same high school. Did I bring in food. No. Did we go out to eat. In high school yes as the school had no cafeteria. So we all went to the Latin cafeteria across the street. Otherwise I ate the same cafeteria as everyone else.

 

[dhcoffey]

I have two daughters, one now 8 and one now 14. The 14-year-old is in 8th grade. I haven't eaten with her since she started middle school in 6th grade and she hasn't mentioned me coming to eat with her anymore. My 8-year-old is in 3rd grade. My husband and myself have been going to eat with her since she started K and will continue to do so until she, too, stops asking. We don't go often, maybe once every couple of months. We don't bring in food. My husband eats lunch there but I just sit with my DD.

She also gets to ask 3 of her friends to eat with us. It's never the same 3, just whoever she feels like asking that day. We usually do buy ice cream for them after lunch, though, because she asks us for money and we wouldn't not buy it for the other 3 also. We sit at a table away from her class so it feels special to her and her friends.

I don't feel like it's hovering. She asks, we go, simple as that. Like I said, once every couple of months. She gets a little extra attention from us without her big sister around and that's fine with us, too.

Heather

 

[diznygirl]

I had lunch with my DH. But now I feel bad that all that other workers whose spouses weren't able to have lunch with them will have hurt feelings. Especially the ones who have no spouses.

Let the flogging commence.

 

[RLccweems]

I had lunch with my DH. But now I feel bad that all that other workers whose spouses weren't able to have lunch with them will have hurt feelings. Especially the ones who have no spouses.

Let the flogging commence.

Your so bad!!!


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