Okay...I've Called the Late Night DISers, Now I'm Calling the Single DISers (Part 2)

[Pin Wizard]

Legs...I'm sorry you're feeling that way.

Thanks! The job is great!

 

[bizybea]

Hi, can I join this thread? My name is Beatriz and I'm newly single again.
I was wondering if anyone has met anyone through the online dating sites and if so, how things worked or are working out? I just joined 3 sites and only 1 is giving me any results. Is there hope for me out there?

 

[Pin Wizard]

Hi, Beatriz! Just jump in here any time!

Online dating? I know TigerBear has had luck with match.com. I met a couple guys in real life, but nothing exciting. Legs met someone through eHarmony I think. Don't know if FLMinnie has. I know she talked with someone on the phone a while. Anyone want to relate your experiences?

We have fun here, and it's a great place to vent. Hopefully, others will be around some time this weekend.

 

[Charade]

Um.. what's this place all about? I hope you didn't expect me to read all 162 pages and over 2400 messages!!

 

[Pin Wizard]

LOL! I guess that would be a little much to ask. Guess we shouldn't push our luck and mention the previous thread that's way back somewhere in Archives.

Life is NOT fun right now. Wishing there were a male here to give DS "the talk." It has to be me?????????????????

 

[floridaminnie]

I haven't been on lately, b/c I haven't been getting e-mail...grrrr. The talk! Let me hide

Welcome Beatriz!

 

[bizybea]

Thanks for the welcomes! Well, like I said, I got some response from match and now a guy and I are emailing, so I guess we'll see how that goes, except he's in the military and is really busy with that right now. I've never known anyone in the military, so this is new to me. What's everyone doing for Valentine's Day tomorrow? It's just going to be another day to me, I've got classes all day.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Ignoring the day!

 

[floridaminnie]

Bought myself a LARGE box of Godiva chocolate. I HATE days like these!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Would you please pass that box over here, Suzanne?

I'll be doing something for DS, but ignoring the day for me.

 

[floridaminnie]

Do you like nuts Sandy? I'll give you the ones with the nuts if you want them.

 

[TigerBear]

Hi, can I join this thread? My name is Beatriz and I'm newly single again.
I was wondering if anyone has met anyone through the online dating sites and if so, how things worked or are working out?

Beatriz! I'm so happy to have our thread revived!!

I do believe online dating can work. With the help of match.com I fell in love...and unfortunately also got my heart broken. The ending to our story has yet to be written though. We have been apart two months now. He asked me to dinner last Thursday and told me he still loves me. He is coming over tomorrow night for the "big talk". I think it is possible we can still have a happy ending or I wouldn't be seeing him tomorrow night.

I have met two guys from eHarmony since the break-up. Both of them were extremely nice, attractive men. EHarmony is very different from match. You take a fairly indepth personality assesssment and then they match you based on your compatibility. Although I liked the process of match.com more - there may be something to this compatibility matching thing. I will say that in general I think that the men who do eHarmony are definitely looking for a serious relationship. Many men use match to find a "date" for the weekend.

What are the other sites you are using? Just be sure you are careful. Meet in a public place, etc.

 

[tmli]

Also newly single again after almost 10 years of marriage. It's not bad enough tomorrow is valentines day...my 10 year anniversary is on Friday...what was I thinking? Oh well.

I am not ready to date right now, but I did get to thinking. Where does a 32 year old single mom even meet men? I mean the grown up kind? I really don't think I could do the dating sites, couldn't imagine doing the bar scene again...that's where I met my ex dh and we know how that worked out.

I feel like a fish out of water, first I will get to know myself again. But I want to have a plan for when I am ready...so what are some of your best guy meeting secrets?

 

[legs22]

Hi and welcome to the new ones

Valentines Day is not bothering me at all. I am focused on getting dd and the rest of my family cards and a small gift. Didn't even think of missing out on romance.

I am taking a break from meeting anyone. I was using eHarmony and will go back to using it in the future. I need to get my head and my life back on track after moving. That's all I need right now is to throw a man into this mess.

 

[bizybea]

Hi, TigerBear. I'm also on dreammates (which I don't think I like) and just added my profile to yahoo personals, too. I wish eharmony would get results for me, I've heard people say that sometimes it takes awhile...right now I don't have anything from them. I almost wonder if I should take the assessment again?

 

[bizybea]

Hey, everybody. Did everyone survive after yesterday?

How are things going with you, TigerBear?

I need your guys' help...I need advice on how to tell a guy that you aren't interested without being mean. Yesterday I was bombarded with winks, emails, etc. Geez, I guess the guys were looking cuz it was Valentines Day, and the fact that my pics just were approved on all the sites made it even worse. Before that, I'm sure my profile was overlooked (most guys look at the pics before opening the profile).

So, anyways, this one guy emailed me, and he seems really nice, but he's older than I would have wanted, and a smoker, which is definitely something I don't want in a match, and there are other reasons, too. So, I sent him a nice email saying, I just don't think I'm the one for you, good luck in your search. So, today, he emailed me back, saying, how do you know until you try? Then proceded to basically ask me out to lunch, telling me that he works in my town everyday and wants to go out with me! Argh! So, now what do I do? I don't want to be mean, but I want to get the message across to him that I'm simply not interested. Help!

 

[SideshowBob]

I need your guys' help...I need advice on how to tell a guy that you aren't interested without being mean.


I don't want to be mean, but I'm simply not interested.

Hello bizbea,

Would recommend using your very own words from above. Best to be kind, but short and to the point. If he still continues, would probably avoid writing back again, or even block.

Hope that everyone had nice/bearable/fun Valentine's days.... Mine was spent busy at work, then had beer and sushi after work with friends. Figured best to just let it come and go... this year.

 

[legs22]

Sushi and beer

 

[legs22]

So, anyways, this one guy emailed me, and he seems really nice, but he's older than I would have wanted, and a smoker, which is definitely something I don't want in a match, and there are other reasons, too. So, I sent him a nice email saying, I just don't think I'm the one for you, good luck in your search. So, today, he emailed me back, saying, how do you know until you try? Then proceded to basically ask me out to lunch, telling me that he works in my town everyday and wants to go out with me! Argh! So, now what do I do? I don't want to be mean, but I want to get the message across to him that I'm simply not interested. Help!

Ditto SSB's advice. Should be easy this early on to tell him to take a hike.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Stopping by to wish Sandy a Happy Birthday!!!!!